| Does anyone date single moms anymore?
Posted: 3/27/2006 8:14:05 AM | | the wrong part is where you say, i just want to find a guy who will take care of........WRONG....i am a single parent of 3 by choice, 2 exes and not once have i regretted it nor do i want someone else to take care of us....beleive me its not easy, but having the ability to raise your family without relying on others is the most rewarding and gratifying feeling of accomplishment ever, you need to stand on your own feet alone, than you will have an understanding of true happiness and belief in yourself, knowing that you dont NEED a man but instead choose to have one ,will make your relationships much more fulfilling... | |
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| Does anyone date single moms anymore?
Posted: 3/27/2006 10:15:58 AM | you will have an understanding of true happiness and belief in yourself, knowing that you dont NEED a man but instead choose to have one ,will make your relationships much more fulfilling...
I would agree. Well put bubblegum. The woman and the man should feel blessed by that knowledge in a relationship. Making it stronger, truer and more loving.Rather then those who have not learned, it all starts with self. No matter which road you choose to tread.
Like you, I chose the single parent road. The one where your the sole parent.
The mother and the father. | |
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| Does anyone date single moms anymore?
Posted: 8/20/2006 1:49:29 AM | | I have been a single mom for 13 yrs now, i have dated but for me not my kids, i have male friends that are good influences and are able to give sound valuable advice should my kids need it, beeing a single parent is not easy and its nice to be spoiled and feel atractive, but getting involved with a man for monatarie needs is not good, it been lonely at times, but your kids needs always come first and that has to come from you!! not a guy that they get to care about and then leaves, the area i live in is a hard area drugs, drinking on the streets and crime, all from under age children, my kids are older now and thank fully they have never been involved with anything like that, my son is now a self emplyed electrician at 20 with a new beautiful baby girl, my daughter has just finished 6th form and passed her A levels and is now awaiting acceptance into the royal logistics corps, my youngets daughter is 13, she is a good girls also with big hopes for her future, i am overwhelmed with pride fo r my kids at ther strenght and independance for life, and it feels good to know that i did that!! not a part time man in my life that could have changed everything, being a single parent take strength and plenty of tears, but it can be done, if you want a man in your life it has tobe for you not your kids, and the person ahs to be a postitive influence for you, it aint easy girl, but i wish you all the luck in the world with your future, and hope to look here someday and see you writing of your pride and respect for your children and yourself, stay blessed. xxx | |
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| Does anyone date single moms anymore?
Posted: 8/20/2006 3:05:23 AM | Does anyone date single mom anymore? Hum...Well....i do beleive people still do.But was that really what was meant?
I might be wrong..but. sometimes it's not just a question of being a parent.Some people tend to need people to take care of them, which isn't bad, not a fault. Like i say, "takes more than one vegetable to make a salad".
Me, i'm the kind of guy who likes to do stuff for women, am used to doing those little things. i won;t get into details,,lol, not to bore the people in here :)
The thing is,,i think i have a hard time finding my match because i haven't found anyone to appreciate that i.e:"someone that wants to be taken care of"
So.,,, am i wrong in my assumption that the topic might not only mean being a parent? | |
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| Does anyone date single moms anymore?
Posted: 8/20/2006 4:13:55 AM | Sure they do but when you say that you just want somebody who will take care of you and your children from a man's point of view it sounds like your looking for a sugar daddy instead of a companion. I am a single father and the last thing in this world I would want is another man taking care of my child, as well as playing daddy to another mans children. That's unfair to everybody involved in that situation. There is nothing wrong in wanting to be taken care of just do not expect it and you will not be dissapointed. It can be a very complex relationship when children are a part of it and there are many fine lines that should not be crossed. Anyway good luck wish I could be more informative for you.
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| Does anyone date single moms anymore?
Posted: 8/20/2006 1:28:11 PM | | I am a single mother as well of a 4 yr old. I don't think any rational human being can call a child a mistake. To all the negative postings out there....this is not a matter of me screwing up my life....or making a mistake. I have made my choices and I stand by them. What if the reason I am a single mother is because my husband passed away, or if my husband walked out on us or what if I was raped. Does that make me a horrible person that no one would date because of the choice I made. The answer is no. I understand everyone has there opinion and that is what is great about this world. I feel that this is a matter of discrimination against single parents. Has no one learned "don't judge a book by it's cover". By all means if you don't like childern then stay away. But in my case, my daughter has no father. He lives in another country and has another family now and doesn't have anything to do with us. Nor does any of his family. He is far away in Jamaica. There is no worries about the dreaded "EX". I have never seen so much negativity so an adult making an adult decision on what is best for all parties involved. There is a reason I had my daughter and I will never let any man tell me that I screwed up my life. Only real men out there will date a woman with children. For all the others out there. GROW UP AND GET SOME BALLS!!! | |
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| Does anyone date single moms anymore?
Posted: 8/20/2006 2:04:29 PM | Oh, yes. We are fools who can't understand how wonderful is a woman who dares us to grow up and get some balls.
Somehow, I find her challenge less than attractive. | |
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| Does anyone date single moms anymore?
Posted: 8/20/2006 3:27:29 PM | | I hate to say this but I'm glad to know I'm not the only girl who feels the same way as you do so I wish you good luck and I know how you feel I have gone throw all of that too and I'm only 20 | |
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| Does anyone date single moms anymore?
Posted: 8/20/2006 8:19:10 PM | i myself would not turn around and run as fast as i could just because a woman is a single mother, however if that same woman just wants her children to be taken care of then im sure i could be an olympic gold medalist for running. as a single father of two i find woman are put off by my children as well. however i feel people are more mature and responsible when they become parents and have no problem , loving and enjoying another single parents company as well as it is for the right reasons just hang in there im sure mr right will bump into you | |
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| Does anyone date single moms anymore?
Posted: 8/21/2006 8:09:28 AM | | I have asked the same question myself! I am sure they are out there! What i hate is when men just assume that if a woman has kids she is looking for someone to be their dad and take care of them. Can't a woman just want some companionship and love. But as far as your ex i would say move on it will be better cause once a cheater always a cheater! | |
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| Does anyone date single moms anymore?
Posted: 3/15/2007 6:21:54 PM | Hi all... Twinky2 here i have just crossed the bridge to make a post in ur forums,
Does anyone date single moms anymore?
Well of course they do lady`s....you just havent stumbled across the right man,
I dont think men , look at single mom`s out here and see them as looking for someone to take care of them and there baby`s. or childeren, and if they do... and if that is what the ladys are looking for then that could make issues for sure,
I have been a single mom of two childeren here one of which is very young, for over 2 year`s i have no lack of offers as for may i take u on a date, would you like to do dinner,,, coffee or what ever it maybe,
Im not out here looking for a provider im here looking for a partner, My childeren have a father,,, and it would take a pretty big man to over ride these boots and fill like there dad can,,,,, You just need to keep looking and not give up... you`ll find what ur looking for when u least expect it....... Good thing`s always come to those who wait ... Good luck to all in ur search | |
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| Does anyone date single moms anymore?
Posted: 4/17/2007 11:22:02 PM | Lots of interesting comments in this thread.
I, personally, seem to relate more to guys that are single parents also. However, I have seen examples of a single guy marrying a woman with a child and it working. So, I am not against the possibility of dating a single guy. I just think I will have to wait and see what happens as I meet more people.
I agree it doesn't sound good to want a man to take care of a woman and her children. I don't want anyone to take care of me and my kids. And so far I am doing fine on my own with my kids. Though, on the other hand, there are times when it would be nice to have someone to ask for help when I need some help with something. Most of the time, the help I need doesn't even have to do with my kids or money just something where it would be nice to have an extra hand/person to get something done I need to do.
As far as women talking about exes. I don't even think of myself as having an ex. He is my kids father. I tend to refer to him that way. And I try not to talk about him. However, at times he is brought up when talking about my kids. Since my kids are young, he will likely be quite intermingled with my kids and their activities for a while still. | |
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| Does anyone date single moms anymore?
Posted: 4/18/2007 4:30:46 AM | | Hi all... well Ive been a single mom for about 9 yrs now... with 3 kids , and I find that most men my age... im bout to be 47, have had thier family's... raised thier children.. and now want to be FREE .. actually thats a wonderful concept.. and to all those men.. congrats and I totally understand you wanting to enjoy life for Yourself.. so, now I need to find a man that dosent look at my kids as *baggage* and is not afraid to commit to helping raise another family... the kids dad..( I also dont refer to him as EX) is a good dad, do Im not trying to replace him.. and for 9 yrs I have done this alone.. work 2 jobs and have absolutely NO life of my own.. but when you have kids, wonderful lil gifts from God.. thats the challenge you take on.. and so far Im not doing too bad... but I'm soooooooooo tired of doing this alone.. Im tired of working 2 jobs .. tired of being sole provider... tired of NO hugs when I get home ... just tired.. sigh... yanno ??? Im sure there a lot of wimmins out there nodding.. uh huh.. I totally know.. NEway... its nice to vent .. I wish all the single moms AND dads out there the best ... remember God will never put upon you more than you can bear... Heidi | |
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| Does anyone date single moms anymore?
Posted: 4/18/2007 4:51:49 PM | I have to agree with alot of the replys on here. I am also a single mom of 2 toddler girls and we all know how difficult it is to find a relationship that can and will last. BUT, I think it is best to put yourself in the situation where u know you dont NEED a man in your life and then their is the time to decide to WANT a man in your life. Ive put myself in the opposite shoes as far as dating a man with kids and if i felt like he was looking for a women to take care of him and his kids then i dont want to enter that, i dont want to be a nanny and the same goes for the guys im sure. I think it is differant though if i met a guy with kids and that was not his intention and it came to the point where we were in love and i loved his kids then thats differant.
Good Luck, hope it all works out for you. | |
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| Does anyone date single moms anymore?
Posted: 8/12/2007 9:09:22 PM | | Some men do but you have to want them for them..not just looking for someone to take care of you and your child. Plus I have been used by a few single mom's and a few have attempted to use me but I would not let them...after a while it tends to turn people off. So try to treat any man you might want to date with respect. | |
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| Does anyone date single moms anymore?
Posted: 8/13/2007 4:13:01 PM | I think happy endings where children are involved are few and far between. Bout the only time it works is when the kids are too little to remember anyone else before the new "mom" or "dad" substitute.
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| Does anyone date single moms anymore?
Posted: 8/13/2007 4:30:15 PM | | It's never easy to find good people at the best of times. But I must admit men tend to get a little nervous if there happens to be children in the picture. Stop looking and enjoy life...you and your girls are it and you should make the best of it. When you're happy everyone around you will be happy and I find happy people tend to attract the same! Get busy with your life and move on ...you can't depend on someone else to make you happy. You have two wonderful girls. You're a wonderful person who supports these girls, is a mom, an individual and most important a "woman". Good luck. | |
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| Does anyone date single moms anymore?
Posted: 8/13/2007 4:41:18 PM | | op you are still young maybe try dating an older man when i was your age i wouldn't date someone with kids reason being i wanted to date someone that is if i wanted to go out with her somewhere we could with out worrying about getting a baby sitter now that I'm older i seem to only date woman with kids iv had my fun already i want to settle down now | |
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| Does anyone date single moms anymore?
Posted: 8/13/2007 5:16:30 PM | OP It doesn't have much to do with you being a single mom. Guys do not like pity parties and you are throwing yourself a major one.
Grow up, and move on. You will find the right guy when it is the right time. No sense in rushing things. | |
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| Does anyone date single moms anymore?
Posted: 8/13/2007 6:38:57 PM | | To be honest i am a single dad and i would prefer to find a single mom to be with. They seem to have thier act together and i dont have to worrie about how they would treat my son.Well as much anyway.lol. | |
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| Does anyone date single moms anymore?
Posted: 8/13/2007 7:01:03 PM | | Well, I have been single for 7 years now. I have 3 daughters, 12, 13 and 17. As a single guy I would have to pose the question "Does anyone date single dads?" I must admit that I am really selective about who I let my girls meet. As far as single moms go, why should that be a problem? In the beginning you aren't dating the kids. If someone gets scared off by you having children, then get on down the road. Life is too short to put up with small minded people. Don't look so hard, the right person will come along. As the saying goes " Plenty of fish. " | |
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