| How do you know you're in love with someone?
Posted: 10/10/2005 4:52:35 PM | | It's all about mutuality really... I've found that to be true for me anyway; I define love as when I make a joke and she laughs, when she makes a joke and I laugh, when she says she likes something and I like it too, then I mention something I like and she loves it as well, when you both brainstorm for where to go and come up with the same place, when both of you are totally comfortable with any sort of physical contact right off the bat (no shyness from either side = perfect "chemistry"), and well, that just about sums it up for traits I'd say exist with love when I'm WITH someone... however this one can apply to anyone nomatter how you feel about the time you're with someone... what truly defines love is: when you're APART, do you feel an incredible and overwhelming desire to see them/talk to them again, even when you've only been apart for 5 minutes? If so, you're in love. | |
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| How do you know you're in love with someone?
Posted: 10/11/2005 5:45:37 PM | | Well, I have to admit that this is the second time I started writing because I deleted the first one. I started the last response with: It isn't as hard to know as most people perceive, however after deleting my first thoughts maybe it is. I think on the net, when we meet people through their words prior to actually meeting them in person it is kind of like a major blind date. In my experiance, if people say the right things, you start "feeling" something, however, I don't think it is love. We, (most men and women using these sights) are in love with the idea of being in love. We want it so bad, sometimes we fall for their words before we get the whole picture. In the ideal setting, I think we need the physical attraction first, then we need to know what is in their head, (if anything LOL). So many times in the past I have talked (or chatted) with a lady and many times not even known what they looked like, and soon, I feel that familiar warmth in my heart that tells me that I have met someone really special, however; more times than not, their physical apperance isn't up to my image of what I desire. We all need a physical attraction first, then in the perfect world, we will fall in love with how they think, what they think and their desires for the future. By re-reading what I just wrote and then putting myself in the "readers" mind and pretending that I was not the author I might say "this guy is so shallow", but I don't think I am at all. I am not looking for "Miss America", I am just looking for someone that I will be happy to introduce to my friends and co-workers, nothing spectacular or anything like it. I guess I need to get back to the original question "How do you know your're in love with someone"? Here is my quick answer to that really complex question: When they leave the room.........you miss them. When she forgets and leaves a mess in the bathroom or kitchen, it doesn't bother me to clean it up. When I am at work, I try and think of things that I could do that would make her smile. When I would rather spend my money on her than me. When I enjoy just talking to her about simple things and I really listen to what she says and I really want to know how she feels about anything. When I care about how what I do might effect her. When just touching her face makes me feel good. When I want to spend time taking care of her when she is sick. When I don't care if she spills her drink or her food in my brand new Jeep. When I really am interested about the things that happened to her at work. When I actually stay by the phone because she said she would or might call me. When I wonder if she will be ok, if I died. When I am watching TV and she calls and I don't mind turning it off and just listening to what she has to say and not even caring what I might have missed by talking to her. When I write down her Birthday (and all of her family members birthdays on my calender)so I won't let the days pass me by without a card or present. When I really do enjoy playing outside or playing a board game with her and her children or relatives. When I ask and listen to what made her who she is as a child. When I really care about how her Daddy used to do this or that and looking back, it makes her have a sense of love towards her Daddy (or mother). When I want to know everything about her in detail. When I care about "I don't have anything to wear."..............in other words, when I really care about the small things related to her and naturally the big things as well...........I believe that I am in love. Oh one more thing: When I want more than anything to say "I do" and I really mean it when I hear those words till death do us part and "Do you take this woman to be your wife, to have and to hold through sickness and in health"? When just being close is sometimes enough.....Dang, I could go on and on and on and on............Could there really be a woman that is as romantic as me? Now, that is a real question. Tracy (buccaneer38) | |
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| How do you know you're in love with someone?
Posted: 10/11/2005 8:31:29 PM | LOL.....Thinking here
Guess I have never been in love then......it hits me like a ton of bricks but I always have to ask myself if I am or not....lol
Sorry Talitha....just the way it is.....for me at least     | |
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| How do you know you're in love with someone?
Posted: 10/12/2005 8:36:41 AM | | Have to say I agree with just... Its how I am with Naida and her two boys Dawson & Dillan love is what you make it. but the two of you need to feel the same way. its not love if its only from one side. AND I ONLY KNOW THIS BECAUSE OF NADIA . | |
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| How do you know you're in love with someone?
Posted: 10/14/2005 6:00:03 PM | | ask the Magic Eight Ball or Ouija Board....or go in the dark bathroom. light a candle, hop on one foot while saying the suspects name, turn around three times and see if he appears in the mirror. If he does. You are in love. Or a LOONEY....hope no one sees you doing all that stuff. | |
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| How do you know you're in love with someone?
Posted: 10/14/2005 6:11:41 PM | | No matter what the definition of love is, the truth still remains that love isn't something you can buy or beg. It is real and existing. You can't touch it but you can feel it in your heart. You can't find it, but it will knock before you when you least expect it to come. It can make you the happiest person, but don't forget that it can also make you the most miserable person.... | |
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| How do you know you're in love with someone?
Posted: 10/16/2005 10:39:53 AM | I think real love is this:
Real love is how you feel for each other after the puppy love, infactuation phase wears off. After the crazy kissing and lustful sex night after night...after all the puppy love...
Because it is after that happens that the love goggles comes off and you see the person in a different light. Like.."Oh my god can we ever have one interesting conversation" or "Damn, this girl is a nut"
After all that wears off if you still can love them despite their faults and even now love them more...and not try and change them...then that is true love.
Tip(for all women): If you're looking for true love, if you are even thinking of trying to change your man whether consiously or sub-consiously, it's never going to work. I'm not talking about changing someone like making them see how good a person they are or how smart and brave they are, I mean changing someone like trying to get them to only do the kind of activities that you like to do or to hang out with your friends only and etc...
If you love someone then you love them for them, not for who you can change them to be. | |
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| How do you know you're in love with someone?
Posted: 10/17/2005 3:51:33 AM | Im in love, love is when you can fall asleep with that person, and not try to have sex,
you just enjoy your time with that person, Love is when you wake and the 1st thing on your mind is her. love is knowing that when you apart there thinking about you as much as your think of them,and oh ya have to say I do put the seat down and wipe it.
but most of all love is what you make. its the best feeling in the world.
Nadia you got me and I got you. | |
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| How do you know you're in love with someone?
Posted: 10/17/2005 12:08:13 PM | @missy,
I know the answer to this one.... When you delete all your booty calls phone numbers from your cell phone.....
Before that happens, ya want to add my number? | |
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| How do you know you're in love with someone?
Posted: 10/17/2005 9:03:19 PM | 1. Ask yourself: 'Would I be willing to let her/him go if I believed it was the best thing?'
2. Ask yourself: 'Am I willing to wait for this person if s/he is not ready to have sex?'
3. Ask yourself: 'Would I feel the same way if s/he gained weight?'
4. Ask yourself: 'Am I willing to sacrifice my dreams to allow her/his dreams to come true?'
5. Ask yourself: 'Do I respect and admire her/him?'
6. Ask yourself: 'Would I feel the same way if s/he got sick?'
7. Ask yourself: 'If you two were in an argument, would you feel the same way?'
If you answered 'Yes' to all of these questions, wow, you feel very strongly about this person. It sounds like you're in love!
I found this on the net... | |
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| How do you know you're in love with someone?
Posted: 10/18/2005 12:37:20 PM | When i am, i will know! There are differnet types of love seeing that every relationship is unique. to sum up my take on lust and love:
Lust is more sexual and a yearning for the physical soley. Love encomapasses respect, trust, consideration, honesty and a desire to make your partner happy.
I will take love any day... | |
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| How do you know you're in love with someone?
Posted: 10/18/2005 2:09:05 PM | | I think if you have the ability to define what love feels like in words then you probably have never felt it in your heart. I know what it feels like to be in love, and will know it when it strikes again, but I wouldn't have the slightest idea how to describe it in words. | |
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| How do you know you're in love with someone?
Posted: 10/18/2005 6:07:24 PM | love for me cannot be defined.unlove can. happiness cannot be defined.unhappiness and misery can.you dont do anything to find love,you dont do anything to find happiness.YOU'VE GOT TO DROP SOMETHING!! DROP UNLOVE, DROP UNHAPPINESS, =YOU WILL KNOW!!!! .think about it. | |
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| How do you know you're in love with someone?
Posted: 12/21/2005 5:09:43 AM | | there's so many forms of love you don't know how true it is untill the person is gone. If you cry so hard your face is swollen and you feel like your having a heart attack and the world is crashing down all around you because the person who used to hold it up for you isn't there anymore, than you were in love and you need to get off this ****ing site and go fix whatever mistake either of you made. Now that's good advice! | |
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| How do you know you're in love with someone?
Posted: 12/21/2005 7:22:35 PM | So true clay....
To try and express a few of the feelings I have when in love...
1. The way your thoughts just seem to drift around them, no matter where you are or what you are doing.
2. You think of something silly you wish you had told them five minutes after you are apart.
3. No matter how many times they leave the toilet seat up, you shake your head and know you won't mention it...They are worth the minute to put it down 1st.
4.You wish to make their day the best by waking up and giving them a massage and long deep kiss, who cares if your 5 minutes late for work.
5.When you are apart you can't wait to see them again.
6. No matter how lousy your day is just knowing they will give you the best hug when you see them and it will be all right then...
7.No matter how lousy their day is you know you can kiss it and make it all better...
Just some of the ways I feel when I am in love, Damn, I sure miss being in love,
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| How do you know you're in love with someone?
Posted: 12/21/2005 7:48:01 PM | | Very interesting thoughts and insights on this topic. We can see that everyone has there own definition of being in love with someone, though there are definitely some common themes here. For me, love's got a very broad meaning: when I honestly want the other person to be happy and will say and DO anything in my power to help them be as happy as possible. Bottom line for most folks here? Seems to be a strong focus on the other person...less on themselves. Love to me is the gift of giving...nice holiday thought. Peace out from South Florida, Ben. | |
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| How do you know you're in love with someone?
Posted: 12/21/2005 8:34:54 PM | this is a good thread. i think many people tend to misuse the word 'love'. i have learned that there are many levels of love! to me, lust is just that initial chemistry you experience with someone new....that strong attraction/pull (if you will)......
I also used to think i new what love was.....that is, until i experienced such horrible things in my marriage.......it turned my world upside-down. it allowed me to wake up to reality, in a way.
now, to me, love is not when you put that other person first all the time......but when you want them by your side......so that you can learn from each other, grow with each other, experience the good and bad together without the possibility of just walking away.....when you make promises to each other, and possibly take vows, and then you truly believe in what you promise and what you say and stand behind it all no matter what!! when you love someone (truly love someone), you respect, trust and accept him/her unconditionally (never wanting or trying to change that person)!! | |
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| How do you know you're in love with someone?
Posted: 12/28/2005 3:14:05 PM | HOW CAN U LOVE SOMEONE..WITHOUT EVEN MEETING THEM IN PERSON. I WOULD LIKE TO SAY ITS LUST IF THATS THE CASE.
SURE U CAN REALLY LIKE SOMEONE...HAVE SAME COMPATIBLITY AS HIM...BUT TIL U ACTUALLY MET...FEELINGS THEN WILL SURFACE IN PERSON. | |
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