| How many friends a person has.....does it matter?
Posted: 8/9/2005 11:16:05 PM | | Cosmic my response was with respect to the second part of her question...ie. "friends" in the context of POF...and not in the "real" world. He has friends, but in POF he just doesn't care to have 5 million favourites if he's not interested in any of the women...which makes him very unique. | |
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| How many friends a person has.....does it matter?
Posted: 8/10/2005 6:53:11 AM | I think the term "friend" is used a little too loosely these days, like the word "love". People say these words so often without true meaning.
I agree we probably have a ton of acquaintences but true friends. To me a friend is someone that I trust with my life. A true friend is someone I can count on regardless of how much it inconvienences their lives. A true friend is someone that I would lay my life down for without question, provided that would be the only alternative to the situation. I give to my friends everything that I expect them to give to me.
I only have 4 people in my life that I would call my true friends. The rest are just people I hang out with now and then, have fun with and get along with.
Getting to know someone and totally trusting them is a long process. Trust as we all know is earned not granted. So for all those that have 20 - 30 friends, how the hell did you get to know that many people so well so quickly.
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| How many friends a person has.....does it matter?
Posted: 8/10/2005 7:31:57 AM | | It does matter, in some cases it may indicate a tendency to form shallow emotional bonds, and by extension the difficulty to form long-lasting attachments to people. Making friends is easy. Keeping them requires compromise. Do you really want to be the next victim? | |
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| How many friends a person has.....does it matter?
Posted: 8/10/2005 8:02:12 AM | Very well put 5-fingerF
Friendships have been known to fail on account of ridiculous events.
A true friend will be down to earth as in honest- a lot of acquaintances and no real friends is showing a lack of trust in humanity and a strong guarded sense of self-protection due to some fear or past traumatic thing. Compromises and sacrifices are an art of communication-some have it-some don't. | |
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| How many friends a person has.....does it matter?
Posted: 8/10/2005 8:46:35 AM | friends, aquaintances.. I agree that neither should really matter if the person is really interested in you. Depending on what their profession is or what they do in their spare time, they could have many aquaintances just because of the high traffic that might pass by his/her door, figuratively speaking that is.. but how many of this person's friends are truely friends?
just watch out for the 'she's/he's just a friend' comment that has deeper conotations... | |
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| How many friends a person has.....does it matter?
Posted: 8/10/2005 9:18:48 AM | What if you live somewhere on the earth where the native people would not like to
establish friendship with forigners? Or, if and when they do, it would not get anywhere
because of the negative mentality which stands on the way not to letting the friendships
to happen. Then, you can only KNOW A WHOLE LOTS OF PEOPLE EVERYWHERE WHO DO
GREET YOU AND SPEND FIVE MINUTES TALKING TO YOU WHEN THEY DO COME ACROSS
YOU. I DO MAKE A VERY NICE, HAPPY AND UNDERSTANDING FRIEND!  | |
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| How many friends a person has.....does it matter?
Posted: 8/10/2005 9:42:53 AM | People with a lot of friends make me nervous. I don't like hanging out with a lot of people. I guess I've sort of been a loner my whole life.
I don't really enjoy "get togethers" either, where there are just a lot of people chit chatting and milling about. I always just want to go home and watch a movie or go for a walk. Either that or I just start drinking. I guess there is not a part for me on "Friends". | |
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| How many friends a person has.....does it matter?
Posted: 8/10/2005 10:07:36 AM | I think it boils down to whether you are an introvert or an extrovert; and there are plusses and minuses to sticking to your same kind or mixing and matching.
Being an introvert, I don't need a whole lot of socializing, in fact it tends to stress me out; if my partner likes and needs to socialize (as was the case in one relationship) he may feel guilty for leaving me home alone, or dragging me along when I'd rather be doing something else. Its all about understanding and accepting this difference when you come across it.
If you're both the same kind, it shouldn't be an issue for either of you, as you understand already. | |
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| How many friends a person has.....does it matter?
Posted: 8/10/2005 10:51:17 AM | Well, when you talk about "FRIENDS" you are talking about trust. And I can't say that I have one person outside of my family that I trust with serious issues and documentation. I've tried it and every time I've been stabbed in the back. You know what they've said in a funny movie: A TRUE FRIEND STABS YOU IN THE FRONT. Yes I get it now. I am liked and I like a lot of people. But they are not that close to me, its hey or hi or hey guess what movie I saw the other night but I'm always home alone. No friends and I like it like that. I guess. (?) | |
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| How many friends a person has.....does it matter?
Posted: 8/11/2005 5:22:29 PM | | I can count the amount of friends i have on one hand and i would still have fingers left. A friend is a brother or a sister, someone you would lay down your life for and they would do the same. They are someone you can talk to every day or spend years away from and then finish the last conversation you had with them. An acuaintance is someone you say hello to or goodbye and your polite too, someone you can go eat with or watch a movie with. They are not someone you share your feelings or life with. If you become my friend consider yourself lucky, and if someone shoots at you i will be infront of you. And if i ever come to love you ...then you have shattered the universe and freed my soul. "My love is vengence, never to be freed" | |
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| How many friends a person has.....does it matter?
Posted: 8/12/2005 5:32:42 AM | I would choose the latter.
We label far too many people as friends, when they are just people that know us.
I have a few close friends, and many acquaintances. I feel that the friend label requires much more than knowing me - or knowing you.
The roots of the word friend refer to lover, and I don't sleep around.  | |
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| How many friends a person has.....does it matter?
Posted: 8/12/2005 6:43:13 AM | | I've got a mix of both. Tons of people I casually know, but also a ton of people I'm really close to. I've dated girls who have both, personally i prefer someone who has at least a few really close friends because that shows that they are able to make long term connections. The other speaks of someone who is very transitory. | |
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| How many friends a person has.....does it matter?
Posted: 8/12/2005 9:28:44 AM | | I think I like people with a select group more. I agree with Mauii when she said that it makes the person seem more select about who to share with and makes you feel kind of special that they choose you. | |
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| How many friends a person has.....does it matter?
Posted: 8/12/2005 2:30:06 PM | no i don't they are losers...
just from reading and hearing about criminals day in and day out most seem to be anti people..
losers would make a good second thread but it doesn't fit in this thread
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| How many friends a person has.....does it matter?
Posted: 8/12/2005 4:38:43 PM | Do guys have friends? Females seem to have all kinds of friends . Females don't seem to be shy about talking to people of higher social status while guys know their exact place in social hierarchy. I think this is why females do so well in uni and job market. They just are not nearly as shy.
Some females have tons of acquaintances but no real friends. personally, i have never met a person that was worthy of being my friend. cats are where it is at. | |
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| How many friends a person has.....does it matter?
Posted: 8/12/2005 7:24:44 PM | strange question ?
the only thing that matters is the person not how many friends or aquaintances they may or may not have
try and be a feeling human , look inside yourself , do you live your lifeon what you think of you or what you think others may think of you | |
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