| Should i just give up?
Posted: 8/11/2005 4:52:40 PM | Dont give up hope Its tough I know.Just get up dust yourself off and try again.If it doesnt work our don't take it personal. Theres more fish in the sea.
With each date you will become more confident and decide what you reallly want in a woman.Never compromise your values for anyone.Just be yourself
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| Should i just give up?
Posted: 8/11/2005 5:19:51 PM | | LOL, I've only just started looking....I'll let you all know if I decide to give up! :D | |
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| Should i just give up?
Posted: 8/13/2005 7:21:02 AM | | Besides online dating,,,,,,where do you hang out in your spare time? are you from a small town? dont give up tho,,,,but dont try too hard either! Your woman is out there somewhere and she's wondering where you're at so dont give up. | |
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| Should i just give up?
Posted: 8/13/2005 10:32:48 AM | | dont give up, but maybe online isnt the way to meet someone Something I have been thinking about, would really prefer to meet a person in real life..so you get immeaditate results chemistry, attraction etc....although online if the person is honest you get to know them from the inside out... | |
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| Should i just give up?
Posted: 8/13/2005 11:21:09 AM | Keep trying-never give up-they will come to you or one will eventually..
I don't think any one is searching for sympathy here-we all like to converse-it helps meeting someone to know a few things about them. | |
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| Should i just give up?
Posted: 8/13/2005 12:12:33 PM | I'm thinking of just not fooling myself. Let's face it folks, 2 dates in 7 years qualifies me for some kind not wanted award. I make a great friend, but no interest past friendship. I always get filed under,"you're too nice", or "you're my best friend". I don't even want friends anymore, I guess you could say I'm very bitter. I don't go particularly anywhere, I can't afford to "remake" myself even if I wanted to do so. I'm beginning to think I'm suppose to be alone(who am I kidding I've been thinking it for a while). I don't want to have to become something I'm not to get a woman to like me, that just seems dishonest. I'm a what you see is what you get kind of guy. Life is hard being a romantic when you have no one to lavish affection on, it makes for a very cranky, and wholly depressing person. I better go before I get the urge to stand in traffic, later.
Deo Vindice,
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| Should i just give up?
Posted: 8/14/2005 10:03:57 AM | psssssssst....c'mere a sec will ya? Nope,,a lil closer. Rightttttttt  there! | |
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| Should i just give up?
Posted: 8/14/2005 11:05:59 AM | I don't consider it giving up so much as changing my mind. The last relationship ended badly. Since then I have realized that what I had wanted is an illusion anyway. My idea of love is not based in reality. Women do not exists as I imagine. This lets me know it is pointless to keep meeting them looking for what can never happen. And what is available instead is exactly what I had before, which ends badly.
Online is the best source for examples of women who would make your life a living hell while the relationship lasted. It draws the most antagonistic, troubled and bitter ones, whose attitudes and methods doom their actual relationships. Here online is a sort of emotional playground with a ready supply of targets as men come looking for their dream of love. Maybe it counterbalances the bar scene where men come looking for sex with women who hope for something more. Or is that too simplistic?
I didn't give up. I just changed my mind. Had it, didn't work out well, don't want any more of it. Friendship is all I want now. | |
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| Should i just give up?
Posted: 8/14/2005 11:23:04 AM | NEVER GIVE UP NEVER SURRENDER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
When things are right and ment to be they will happen.
I enjoy my life everyday. Even though I am by myself. I dont need anyone to complete me.
It would be nice to find someone who would complement me. Till then I am haveing fun. | |
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| Should i just give up?
Posted: 8/14/2005 11:25:34 AM | | That's like saying I bought some land but I am not going to build a house on it, but if one magically sprouts from the ground I will move in. | |
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| Should i just give up?
Posted: 8/14/2005 11:42:44 AM | | ^^ he's not saying 'any house',,,,,he's saying a house that completes him. ( haha you know what i mean) | |
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| Should i just give up?
Posted: 8/14/2005 12:48:57 PM | You are not alone. I have the same problem.
I don't think it could be me....could it?
Yeah...yeah...I know...nice guys are boring. I've heard it a 1000 times. Just no jokes okay | |
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| Should i just give up?
Posted: 8/15/2005 1:20:45 AM | If you are not getting the results you want: Lower Your Standards!!!
If that doesn't work: Lower them again
If that doesn't work: Lower them again
Tons of women would want to go out with you, Just lower your standards and
be a little more proactive. Send out at least 30 messages a day. Every day for
the rest of the month. | |
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| Should i just give up?
Posted: 8/15/2005 1:34:48 AM | | Learn to like yourself first. You have many great qualities that will be very attractive to someone. If you haven't found her yet it just means the right one still awaits you. She will walk into your life one day on the wings of an angel. Enjoy life. Try new things. Above all, never give up. Dreams do come true... | |
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| MAKE MORE CHANGES IN YOUR PROFILE
Posted: 8/15/2005 4:38:46 AM | I've noticed you have changed your profile but it needs more improvement. Instead of looking for dating, whats wrong with looking for friends? Don't you have a profession or trade to list as employment, even though you might move from job to job or work more than 1? And the drug answer? No decent woman is going to want anything to do with you if she thinks you are a pothead or worse. And if you are, might as well admit it so someone with like interests will respond. You can always put "I smoke pot on a regular basis and looking for activity partner to share it with" in your profile if that is your thing. Someone suggested you lower your standards. There are some areas where you need to raise them.
Unrepentant? Thats a big negative. I'm sure the ladies can make suggestions on what they would like to read about in your profile or look in some of the other forums for suggestions. Only women in the United States can respond to you? You have some of the most discriminating women in the world set as the only country that can respond to you? If you only had 2 dates in 7 years, it sounds like a major attitude adjustment is in order if you are serious about finding someone.
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| MAKE MORE CHANGES IN YOUR PROFILE
Posted: 8/15/2005 3:07:22 PM | Allow me to get this guy answered............
I've noticed you have changed your profile but it needs more improvement.
Yeah, so you say, but then again YOU don't understand me either.
Instead of looking for dating, whats wrong with looking for friends?
Well, let me see I've had many wonderful friend for years, but I'm sick and tired of not being good enough for anything else. I can save the day, but I can't hold your hand, or even be good enough to see a movie with, not good enough, not good enough by a damn sight.
Don't you have a profession or trade to list as employment, even though you might move from job to job or work more than 1?
What I do they don't have a listing for, and it's kinda gross, so i'd rather leave it a mystery.
And the drug answer? No decent woman is going to want anything to do with you if she thinks you are a pothead or worse.
I feel that the entire question is out of line, crimneys i don't even drink, but does it matter, no?
And if you are, might as well admit it so someone with like interests will respond.
If I do, you'll have to get to know me to find out
You can always put "I smoke pot on a regular basis and looking for activity partner to share it with" in your profile if that is your thing.
One thats just not me, and exactly what the f*ck is an activity partner?
Someone suggested you lower your standards. There are some areas where you need to raise them.
Believe me I will not lower my standards for any reason whatsoever, got that EVER.
Unrepentant? Thats a big negative.
Stop right there, you don't even know what I'm talking about just stop
I'm sure the ladies can make suggestions on what they would like to read about in your profile or look in some of the other forums for suggestions.
I welcome suggestion from anyone that do not require me having to turn myself into something I'm not. I accept people the way they are, flaws and all, and I expect it from them as well, got it.
Only women in the United States can respond to you?
Let me see, I figure if they want to get to know me they'd better live here. I'm not looking for friends I have plenty, thank you very much.
You have some of the most discriminating women in the world set as the only country that can respond to you?
Yeah, well it seems to me you only want others to discriminate, but I'm not allowed to do the same. I have reasons for what I do and I shouldn't have to explain it to you, but what the Hell I doubt you would have let me be until I said something. At least this way you don't feel ignored.
If you only had 2 dates in 7 years, it sounds like a major attitude adjustment is in order if you are serious about finding someone.
Why must you again asume I'm in the wrong. I'm a very particular person especially when it comes to a paramour. I feel that my unique wonderfulness deserves nothing less that absolutely a perfect match. I've learned that the right one can make you, and the wrong one can break you, I can't take getting broken again, I just can't. I'm down to one chance left, my heart can't take anymore disappointment. I'm afraid that if I get burned one more time I will f*cking lose it and do some really awful things. So don't act as though my attitude isn't righteous guy, I have put up with losy lover, after bloodsucking whore, after faithless b*tch. Don't tell me my attitude needs adjusting, because it will only piss me off.
Anymore "friendly advice" Urinal?.....yeah I thought not. Good day to you sir, and may the Lord bless you.
Deo Vindice,
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| Should i just give up?
Posted: 8/15/2005 3:14:26 PM | A word of warning to the lovely ladies......
I am not looking to "just be friends", I think that is just a big cop out for women. I won't be some emotional tampon that you use whenever your man acts like a prick. If I'm good enought o be your friend I'm good enough to be more, thank you.
Deo Vindice,
-Smitty | |
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| Should i just give up?
Posted: 8/15/2005 6:27:30 PM | I think you have responded very well and in a way most enlightening.
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| Should i just give up?
Posted: 8/15/2005 11:19:00 PM | Smitty....Ya gotta grow tough skin to survive in the dating world nowadays!!! Hey, you`re not alone, so that counts for something!!!! Keep smilin`...it looks real good on you!!! | |
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| Should i just give up?
Posted: 8/16/2005 11:53:41 AM | First post here :) Hi all.
Smitty, not sure what difference my response will make to you, but here's my opinion: take a break, but don't give up altogether. You seem a little depressed, by the way you kinda dig on yourself as being undesirable. That kind of self-image is a downward spiral; one that can only get worse. The more you dwell on it, the more it's going to bum you out, and the more you're going to believe it. Think "battered wife syndrome" - except you're doing it to yourself. Not a good thing. Would you want to date someone with a low self-image? Didn't think so. So it's a little unfair to expect someone to want to date you, right? So work on that first.
Take a break from finding someone... and concentrate on yourself. I took a break from dating (almost 4 years!) to concentrate on having fun WITHOUT a gf. That time off and relief from the stress alone worked wonders for me.
Then, I started taking an interest in myself through better diet and exercise. And let me tell you - NIGHT and DAY difference. Not in physical appearance (I wasn't overweight beforehand) but more like mental attitude. I don't go to the gym, I'm not a musclebound meat-head. I just jog a few miles a day, cut out the fast food, quit drinking soda, eating chips, etc. I proved to myself that I'm worth something. It's only a matter of time before you start to feel that you could be worth something to someone else.
Any change in your situation has to begin inside you and go from there. Good luck. | |
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| Should i just give up?
Posted: 8/16/2005 2:51:42 PM | CanadianHottie,Should I just give up?Well by dealing with and accepting my lonely situation in stride and expecting no change it appears as if I have given up,but I'm not upset.Randy | |
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