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| When females 20 yrs your junior chase you: what to do?
Posted: 8/10/2005 3:46:26 PM | | There's no need to condescend to people younger than yourself, to imply that younger adults are always foolish or immature by comparison. Sure, it's easier to use a number to evaluate someone, but it's hardly fair. It's akin to ethnic stereotyping, in my book. | |
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| When females 20 yrs your junior chase you: what to do?
Posted: 8/10/2005 4:03:33 PM | I would say it mostly depends on how you feel with her, and whether she has any problems with it. If you or her are uncomfortable with the age difference..then decline gracefully
Personally, I ran into this in my early forties, when a lass of 22 'hit' on me, and we had a ball for over a year..and frankly I learnt more about keeping a lady happy from her in that year than I had in the ones preceeding it!
After that..and into my late 50's..being blessed with a 'boyish' appearance then, I was still enjoying the company of lasses in their early to middle twenties...I didn't lie about my age..just looked 40-ish ..they knew my real age and had no problem with it.
Certainly all of them were either in University, or recently graduated, which gave them an intelligent edge over most people's concepts of women of that age..ie 'immature'..heck some of them could knock spots off women twice their age in conversation...as for other things well...
Gentlemen just don't tell about that. | |
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| When females 20 yrs your junior chase you: what to do?
Posted: 8/10/2005 4:06:30 PM | What to do what do, someone 17 years younger wants you. If you like her, I would be a gentleman and give the lady what she wants mate. Furthermore I'm going to go out on a limb and say that it can work (getting out my flame resistant keyboard here, one second)
I have had a few relationships with considerably younger and older women, I am not of the opinion that age matters much, at least for me its more of a soul connection thing, or a good sex thing maybee if that's what your looking for. My advice though is if you want things to work, never treat her as a child, make allowances for the differences that time creates just as if it were some kind of other difference that was in the relationship. If that makes any sense.
I personally don't think love is bound by the context of age, My parents are 11 years apart and have been happily married for over 30 years. | |
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| When females 20 yrs your junior chase you: what to do?
Posted: 8/10/2005 4:07:57 PM | .
Well . . . ahem . . . if she was 20 years younger than me, she would still be older than my adult daughter. So, certainly I would be very polite and talk with her. If she was nice, and we had a few things in common, I might also consider dating her.
Stalking me, though?? LOL Really, I don't see how that could possibly happen. It would, however, be rather interesting to watch someone try. . . . .
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| When females 20 yrs your junior chase you: what to do?
Posted: 8/10/2005 4:48:35 PM | And when you're 57 and she's 40 and she dumps you for another good looking guy, what are you going to be left with...nothing...zero. Unless its based upon something other than looks, I'd shy away.
I had a young one chasing me recently and I just told her that she didn't have the life experiences that I needed in a mate. | |
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| When females 20 yrs your junior chase you: what to do?
Posted: 8/10/2005 4:56:18 PM | Stool:
You wrote that she's pretty much into the looks department. You claim you respect her. I'm predicting that as soon as your looks go down the drain, which will happen sooner for her than you, she'll be gone. Since you respect her, you'll end up hurt.
Best case scenario: a short term thing, where you both fufill your immediate needs. Once that's done, it's best to part ways well before the s**t hits the fan. | |
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jimi77
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Joined: 7/13/2004
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| When females 20 yrs your junior chase you: what to do?
Posted: 8/10/2005 4:57:34 PM | had this situation today... women at work trying to hook me up with her sister.. 15 years younger..
also if i got to a club i get a lot of the young in hitting on me. not that that is a bad thing.. i also get the women my age to..
I tell them all.. oh no you can't handle all this! snap!.LOL>...joking. | |
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| When females 20 yrs your junior chase you: what to do?
Posted: 8/10/2005 5:01:51 PM | Every situation is different only you and her will know if its right, and only then if you give it a try. Sure 17 years is a stretch, I have hope it will work for you dude.
Just be totally straight up and honest about everything; And don't patronize her if she makes you feel old, love her for making you feel young. | |
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| When females 20 yrs your junior chase you: what to do?
Posted: 8/10/2005 5:35:37 PM |
And when you're 57 and she's 40 and she dumps you for another good looking guy, what are you going to be left with...nothing...zero. Unless its based upon something other than looks, I'd shy away.
That's a good point. I would just look for something short term ... sex-based even ... and just have fun for a while. Not every relationship has to be serious. | |
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stool
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Joined: 8/10/2005
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| When females 20 yrs your junior chase you: what to do?
Posted: 8/10/2005 6:33:57 PM | "I,ve always felt like I,m taking advantage when she,s a year or 2 younger than me.
let alone 17 years"
we are talking about females who are adults. Ageism in many countries is against the law. I consider it one of worst forms of bigotry. | |
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stool
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Joined: 8/10/2005
Msg: 39 | |
| When females 20 yrs your junior chase you: what to do?
Posted: 8/10/2005 6:36:23 PM | "And when you're 57 and she's 40 and she dumps you for another good looking guy, what are you going to be left with...nothing...zero."
the probability is much higher that a 57 year old male would dump a 40 yr old female. 40-yr-old females have finished their reproductive cycle, while a 57-yr-old guy is just peaking. | |
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| When females 20 yrs your junior chase you: what to do?
Posted: 8/10/2005 9:44:38 PM | Ah. the baloney!
I'm 64 and I wouldn't "dump" a 44 year old woman for any reason (don't want kids). That's silly. Fact is, I'll probably stay the way I am till at least 85 and she will change some. No problem there, cause I already understand the normal and expected changes.
But, can I find someone "my own age" who has also aged well and wants to improve with doing stuff? Hell yeah! I just started looking, thought, but already received two e-mails from very impressive women. | |
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| When females 20 yrs your junior chase you: what to do?
Posted: 8/11/2005 8:56:25 AM | Wow, that brings back memories, when I was 21 I "dated" a 37 year old. I have to truly say it was one of the best experiences of my life and I learned a great deal. I had a lot of fun and so did she, was shortlived, but the memories are grand. When I was 27, I dated an 18 year old, now that was a good time.
I pretty much say enjoy it while it lasts, and it probably won't. Try to be civil and respectful and try not to hurt or get hurt.
Good Luck,
Mark | |
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| When females 20 yrs your junior chase you: what to do?
Posted: 8/11/2005 9:01:20 AM | Okay here's my two cents....I figure everyone else is putting in theirs sooo....might as well LOL..... in the words of Larry the Cable Guy "GET ER DONE" but always no that the fun may end as quick as it started I mean hell show her what the mature older guys are capable of teach her a few things...my preference is for older men as well I am 21 and guys around my age are idiots when it comes to pleasing a women in bed!!!!! (*sorry dudes it's true*)
Good luck and be flattered!!
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| When females 20 yrs your junior chase you: what to do?
Posted: 8/11/2005 9:21:23 AM | Here's my deal...hope it offers some insight.
I have dated a few girls in their early 20's. Not that i was looking for that specifically but i went back to college and was surrounded by them so i thought, why not? Its great for the ego when a girl that age likes you and wants to be with you, however the truth is, you or her have nothing to relate to. Your a different generation, different life experiences. She can't possibly understand you despite how mature she thinks she may be. And the age thing will always be in the back of her mind and possibly yours. One of the girls i dated bought a James Taylor CD thinking it might bridge the gap. LOL. If you can spend some time together and enjoy each others company for awhile, then go for it. But don't expect anything lasting. The odds are not in your favour. | |
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| When females 20 yrs your junior chase you: what to do?
Posted: 8/11/2005 9:38:32 AM | Go for it! I was 'seeing' a guy about a year ago that sometimes worked with my father and was i believe 21 years older than me. He treated me really well at first, we related really well, talked about everything and did things together, oh...he was a great in bed!! lol Then he turned into a complete ass and didn't want anybody to know we were seeing each other and whatever so he always just called me late at night when he wanted me to come over...hmmm..... that didn't take long to figure out. ANYWAY.....The only thing with you should be...if you're not going to treat her nice and with respect, don't even bother. and don't even bother if you're going to be really self-concious about what everyone else may be thinking about your relationship. BUT.... HAVE FUN and good luck!!!  | |
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jaxx4u
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Joined: 7/28/2005
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| When females 20 yrs your junior chase you: what to do?
Posted: 8/11/2005 9:42:13 AM | | it depends on what you want from it....If you are looking for something long term and permanant....then this might not be it....but if you are willing to accept something short term and more casual..then age should be no barrier. just make sure both parties are in agreement as to what it is before starting it.........good luck to you........Jaxx | |
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