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| Would you do this for your man???
Posted: 8/11/2005 10:06:23 AM | | Yes I remember being a kid... however I also remeber growing up and learning to be an adult... with that came learning to take repsonsibility for ALL my choices, good and bad. As crayola said.. sounds like you have made your choice. I highly doubt anyone here is going to agree with your decision... so be the adult he isn't, make your choice and deal with the consequences. I am sure mom wont be the bit upset to know that the two of you are lying to her.... | |
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| Would you do this for your man???
Posted: 8/11/2005 10:08:53 AM |
am sure mom wont be the bit upset to know that the two of you are lying to her....
Honesty is a sweet policy. How can you keep developing a relationship when you throw honesty out of the window. | |
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| Would you do this for your man???
Posted: 8/11/2005 10:09:09 AM | this situation has many more ramifications than a broken vase.
if he is such a great man like you say, then he would not even allow you to cover
this for him. and i like what someone said about the child, what would you advise your
child to do, take the blame for someone else's actions or always be true to yourself. | |
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| Would you do this for your man???
Posted: 8/11/2005 10:10:13 AM | if you're slamming crayola you should stop. it's against the rules.
seeing as you're posting under your friends name, she'll take the heat. but that's how you like to operate isn't it? | |
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| Would you do this for your man???
Posted: 8/11/2005 10:10:43 AM | I smell "thread delete" for rippin on another poster,,off topic,,,
OT: Let us all united for the sainthood of the misunderstood,,,Ya had to know you were gonna get sh** for this Ladylil | |
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| Would you do this for your man???
Posted: 8/11/2005 10:11:09 AM |
this situation has many more ramifications than a broken vase.
if he is such a great man like you say, then he would not even allow you to cover
this for him. and i like what someone said about the child, what would you advise your
child to do, take the blame for someone else's actions or always be true to yourself.
You're a wonderful mother. Teaching value, honesty, and self-respect.
I admire that in people. It's a tough job being a parent! Kudos to you! | |
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| Would you do this for your man???
Posted: 8/11/2005 10:13:45 AM | Well I beleive that what makes a man , Is accepting responsibility,and consequences.
But yes I would have done it for my girl!
However I would accept responsibility for my own actions. | |
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| Would you do this for your lover?? Men and women please respond
Posted: 8/11/2005 10:20:17 AM |
It was a down pour, her breaks are horrible and lock up all the time
How was this NOT his fault? He drove a car that was not his own in bad weather conditions knowing the vehicle had a mechanical problem.
The problem is that he has a reputation for driving crazy or drinking and driving or just being irresponsible.
He hit two out of the three. Instead of protecting him, let him take what he deserves for being so stupid and hope that maybe he learns something about respecting other peoples property. | |
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| Would you do this for your lover?? Men and women please respond
Posted: 8/11/2005 10:34:44 AM | You should let him be responsible for his own actions. The brakes were bad, the weather was bad. He should not have been on the road. Whether he has a reputation or not, he should not have driven a vehicle knowing the brakes were bad. He may have done more than hit a fire hydrant...
And as far as taking the wrap, it will afffect your license, and who knows, you may need them for something important in the future... | |
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| Would you do this for your lover?? Men and women please respond
Posted: 8/11/2005 10:39:37 AM | I remember being a kid...so many years ago. I was 16 and drivings my dad's vehicle, without his permission. Short hours later, front end wrecked, me all shaken and stirred, I never once thought of misleading my father. Before he saw the vehicle, I prepared for the worst and I told him what I had done. And wow, he was really really really ... dissappointed. Not mad, not hateful. None of my fears came to pass. There were consequences of course. But our relationship didn't suffer.
Tell the truth, when a parent and child have a good relationship, and it sounds like they do, then it will bear any strain that might arise. But you, she has no strong bond with. You may end up creating a chasm which you won't ever close. | |
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| Would you do this for your lover?? Men and women please respond
Posted: 8/11/2005 10:52:13 AM | | I apologize for offending anyone. I appreciate your opinions and will take them into consideration. However, in his defense about the weather, it was not bad when he left. It was a sudden summer storm. About the bad breaks, I drive my car with bad breaks. Sometimes if that is the only vehicle you have then you have to do what you have to do especially if you don't have the money to afford new breaks or car repairs. That is why he had borrowed his mother's truck was because his truck needs a new tire because on of his is about to blow out and that seemed more risky than some worn breaks. In any case, maybe he shouldn't have been driving and maybe we shouldn't be lying, but we are both going to take responsiblity and pay for the truck. I think that if any of you were actually in this situation and had seen the way he was when he came home last night it was horrible. I would do this for him today and any other day because I know he would do it for me. It may not make sense or be the responsible thing to do, but I guess sometimes we do things for the people we love without giving logic a second thought. | |
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| Would you do this for your lover?? Men and women please respond
Posted: 8/11/2005 10:56:08 AM | [In any case, maybe he shouldn't have been driving and maybe we shouldn't be lying, but we are both going to take responsiblity and pay for the truck]
BINGO!!!!! ok,,so BOTH take resposibility!! But don't lie to MOM!!! Again,,,how would you feel if your child lied to you? I use to say to my children, the truth will never hurt as much as losing my trust. Thats the hardest thing to get back,,,And trust me,,I will ALWAYS find out. | |
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Posted: 8/11/2005 11:54:01 AM | Absolutely not! He was driving. He had the accident. he ws driving the vehicle without permission. He was the one that built the rep as a shittie driver.
And you are the one that is going to take the heat.
Take it to the extreme. what if he killed someone will driving a truck I doubt he was insured for.
You will do what you want, by mho is you would earn a rating of the stupidest person on the planet | |
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| Would you do this for your man???
Posted: 8/11/2005 12:04:23 PM | ***LadyLiL speaking here***
I do want to apologize for my friend, and I noticed that she posted an apology too.
I showed her my post regarding my "friend" and told her how helpful everyone was here. Because she didn't want to create a new profile just for a one time post, she asked me if it was okay to post something under my name. She told me about her situation and wanted to see how others felt and also to see how far they would go for their loved ones. Joy and I work together. Although I told her it was something I didn't think I could, I told her I'm not in her shoes either and that's something that she has to think long and hard about. There are many ramifications for her to consider (legal, insurace, trust, etc.)
Knowing her and meeting him once, they have both been through a LOT in their lives. I can understand how she feels and why she's doing it (I have the benefit of hearing other details not listed in her post), but don't necessarily agree with it...then again, it's her and him that have to deal with the consequences. She really is a good person and took some of the slams personal, it hurt her to hear someone talk like that about her b/f.
Okay, once again, I want to apologize...SORRY | |
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| Would you do this for your lover?? Men and women please respond
Posted: 8/11/2005 12:19:20 PM | [/I think that if any of you were actually in this situation and had seen the way he was when he came home last night it was horrible. I would do this for him today and any other day because I know he would do it for me.]
You obviously choose to disregurad all that was said here. Because no one seems to think that you taking responsibility for his actions is realy in his best interest. You can't learn from your mistakes unless you take responsibility for them. Don't cheat him out of the oppertunity to learn from this. We all hear how much you care about him so do the right thing. It is a natural response to sheild the one's we love from a bad situation so I understand how you feel.
If this is your first time here I'm sorry you had to have to hear some tactless personal attacks from some people. | |
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| Would you do this for your man???
Posted: 8/11/2005 12:20:24 PM | if you're man really loves you they would do anything to protect you, having lived a little an seen alot, i think it would be a very stupid move to take the concequences of this offence for anyone other than yourself...
So put simple NOPE NO FRIGGIN WAY!!!
what else would such a man have you take the rap for in the future if you agree to this?? | |
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| Would you do this for your man???
Posted: 8/11/2005 12:21:21 PM | Pen, not sure what you're talking about. If you think I (LadyLiL) posted the question and replied to everyone, I can assure you it wasn't me. I would have created another profile to post this.
Again, I am sorry if you don't believe me on this (and if you go back through the posts, I'm sure you will see she states what's on her mind).
I know this is going to come out like I'm trying to cover my back, but I HONESTLY did not post it. | |
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| Would you do this for your man???
Posted: 8/11/2005 12:29:20 PM | | Eventually it will come out that he was driving. Flower it up all you want but you are simply lying to his mother. Nothing more, nothing less. I'm sure this is not what you want to teach your child. What would your child think when the truth eventually comes out? | |
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