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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 4/21/2006 7:32:56 PM | ummmm...WOW!!!!.. so much to say but dont know where to start so lets just say .. your intuitions are usually strongiest when you need them most.. pay close attention to what your inner thoughts ..feelings and instincts are all saying to you hun!!!.. And this may sound like old school but i have learned if it seems to good to be true ...IT IS!!!... and .. actions DO speak louder than words sometimes.. GL  | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 4/21/2006 10:54:37 PM | | well for myself i feel it's not fair to the person that is trying to get to know you.so as i did on my profile i put up a little letter stating that i am chatting and getting ti know a lady right so i am not going to try to meet anybody new rite now. i feel it is only fair to her that i put my time only into getting to know her for now | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 4/23/2006 11:27:51 PM | | ummmm...WOW!!!!.. so much to say but dont know where to start so lets just say .. your intuitions are usually strongiest when you need them most.. pay close attention to what your inner thoughts ..feelings and instincts are all saying to you hun!!!.. And this may sound like old school but i have learned if it seems to good to be true ...IT IS!!!... and .. actions DO speak louder than words sometimes.. GL | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 4/23/2006 11:49:27 PM | Feel saddened that you have been hurt in this way.....
Feel if a man or woman is actively persuing others when they are dating someone is definitely in the game....yes a "player indeed"
Think we should have a column on this site....Titled, "Player of the Week"
Could never lower myself to hurting a person like that........wow.
Wishing you all love at first sight! 0:)
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Shawn5
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 4/30/2006 9:53:12 PM | Depends...Is he on there just to see how many girls send him messages? Or is he responding to the mail that these girls are sending him? That wouldnt be my boyfriend because I would sit there and watch him delete it because its disrespect... And if he wouldnt then I wouldnt be with him anymore because he doesnt respect you... | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 5/5/2006 9:41:08 AM | And I personally agree with what Sundog is saying. I currently met a great guy off of this site, and we are in a relationship, but we both still have our profiles on here. I honestly do not mind because the main reason I still have my profile up is because I am still looking for friends. And he is too. Also, if someone shows interest in me, I make it a point to tell them that I am in a relationship.
So a good question to ask yourself is how does he communicate with other women? If he's just looking for friends, than you should ask him who he talks to and what they talk about. If he hesitates to tell you, than you know something is going on and you should get to the bottom of it.
Both of you just have to be honest with each other. And communication is key. So far, my boyfriend and I have a very honest relationship. We are telling each other everything! So just keep an open relationship and there should be no problem with him or even you, keeping your profile on a dating site. | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 5/5/2006 10:29:53 AM | you have to look at this experience as a positive one, you found a great guy right? if you have enough of an impact on him as he had on you he will eventually delete his account. He probably likes the attention he's getting from the others on the site, I had the same experience but I was the one still on the site.........for me I was bored of it, bored of the times when i didn't see him and really just wanted to keep my options open as much as possible, but that's just me and if someone doesn't stimulate me for long I move on.......but I would question him about it but I would also do it in a very subtle way, maybe by saying " you know how we met on a site? what did you think about that? and would you be mad if i was still on there looking around?" to be honest if he's still looking than keep ur options open as well...
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 5/5/2006 10:51:51 AM | for last 8years I've been in a relationship
been on here since oct 05
at first there was an agenda of other motives
the forums have opened my eyes a bit more
SO now its the parties and the forums
OH AND BY THE WAY MY S/O KNOW'S I AM HERE
DONT HIDE THE FACT
if you do not trust the person you are with get out of the relationship
for all those doubters
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Posted: 5/6/2006 1:27:04 AM | To: many respondents of this thread...
To think that b/c a guy you had a relationship was on here and was "keeping his options open" doesn't mean all men are alike.
Fact: I remain on this site and have been in a relationship with someone off of it for several months. Hell, this coming fall it will be a year. I'm really satisfied and happy with my relationship.
Guess what?? I still glance at profiles on here from time to time during work (on the computer), because I come across people with similar interests. If it's a woman that contacts me, I tell her within the first response that I'm seeing someone and it's serious.
Don't try to explain away bad experience with a blanket statement and lay another load of poo on the "state of the male species". Seriously, give us a break. We're not all steaming piles of hot and hairy crap.
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 5/6/2006 7:29:03 PM | I just had that happen to me, if this guy really cared about you, and I was told this by someone else, he would not be on this site, he would delete his profile. If he is still on it then he is still looking.
Sorry, but it is the truth. It's really sad when you just see someone and findout when you get home from seeing them that they checked this website and removed you from their favorites list...
I know how you feel and it does hurt and is rude. But there is someone out there for you, no one deserves to be treated this way, nor as I have or was, dump the guy, it will hurt give yourself a timeframe to grieve depending on how close you were and move on. It may be a blessing in disguise. | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 5/6/2006 11:03:24 PM | | I'm living with one right now. Maybe you've met him. He's still in another site looking. He became extremely upset when I confronted him and handed him proof after he strongly denied he was there. He had been talking to someone for 2 1/2 months that knows me about meeting, gave her his real name and to page him when she got there, etc. On top of that he cybered with her on many occasions. But, he's not doing anything wrong. Right. He's a truck driver and is looking for someone in his driving area, possible LTR, and yes, sex is in the mix. That's his profile there. He's only home on weekends and our living arrangement now is one of convenience only. No contact. I'm afraid to permit anything else with him after this so of course it's my fault. So, I've decided to move on and find someone else. When/if I do he'll have to go. I don't know what he's thinking, whether I'll just hang around and wait for him to grow up or what. But, at our age I think that's pretty unlikely. I deserve better and he deserves whatever he gets. Indifference has moved in now. At this point in time I'm more disappointed in him than anything. We've known each other since 3rd grade! Do some men need a following of women to maintain their desired level of ego? He keeps saying he wants me and no one else. So why is he still in the adult sites with more than one profile? I'll never understand this behavior but nice to know I'm not the only one going through it. | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 5/7/2006 3:39:20 PM | Okay...heres the deal. I met this guy online, we've been talking for more than 3 mths. now. Everything appears to be great, and he says hes fallen in love with me and I the same. But he keeps mentioning these other women in our conversations..he says their just friends..but everyone keeps telling me that I should be worried. I know he loves me, but what should I do?
Am I just being paranoid?
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 5/7/2006 5:57:37 PM | | Same thing happened to me. I dated the guy for 4mo and spent a LOT of time together. It seemed like we were having a great time together & everything was fine. When I saw he was still checking his profiles I met with him and asked to talk about it. He said he just wanted to "chat" with people for company but had no desire to meet anyone. Said he loved me & wanted only me and agreed we were in an exlusive relationship. I offered to start both seeing other people & he said NO that wasn't what he wanted. I decided to believe him. Then, a month later his profiles were still there and I discovered he had profiles on every site I could find, so I set up a fake profile with pics from a friend. I contacted him as the fake girl, he emails her RIGHT away to chat! One MSN chat for 2 minutes with her and he tries to setup a date with her! On MSN he even used a display photo of himself at MY house from the weekend before! He told her he'd only met one girl online & met her once for a coffee! I set up a date with him and this girl. When he was waiting for the invisible girl to arrive for their date, I went to his house & dropped off his stuff from my place! His loss. Sad to see what he did isn't that rare. Even sadder is to hear that women out there are doing the same thing. When did so many people decide integrity and respect for yourself and others no longer matters? | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 5/9/2006 12:35:17 AM | i just got out of a relationship and it was hard...your question is something i should be asking too...
my answer to that is if i guy is in a relationship that is agreed upon by both parties, neither he or she should be on dating sites...we all know what dating sites are used for...to meet other people (if we are taken or not).
it's ok to look at porn together, both should be comfortable with that...unless he is off watching and comparing...same goes to the ladies...it's also ok to be on site that allow people to express their opinion about politics, sports, thier profession or other "typical" subjects....it's not respectful to have the other partner coment on how others look because it shouldn't matter...
now if the other partner is doing any of the above then i don't think they are in to stay, i thinks it's just a way to get by with someone there...
now don't get me wrong, there are people out there who think all that is normal and that their partner shouldn't worry about things like this because they are with them and blah, blah, blah...but that's just BS!!! with a relationship, comes maturity, with maturity comes respect and with respect comes a solid foundation where relationships can grow. | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 5/9/2006 4:22:05 AM | OK--here is my 2 cents worth. To me the key point here should be "who is in a relationship" because this depends on what you are talking about. Now I agree that if you have actually met someone multiple times and have indeed established a relationship with the person then the need of a dating site should have vanished. However, if all you are doing is contacting others and feeling your way around then that is an entirely different matter. I will keep my options open until you show me that it is wise to do otherwise. To start with, I have found that many ladies on a dating site know how to play games too. Either they know how to play games or they don't deserve to have anybody. Such as if you contact one and don't receive any kind of reply even though, at least by their profile, you match what they say they are looking for. It is also possible that they are in a good relationship now but somehow this feeds their ego to see how many men will contact them. I will choose to wait until I see by her actions that she is serious about a relationship before I get into the relationship thing. A relationship is a great thing but that takes 2 people not 1 1/2. You may write to someone and get absolutely no reply which translates to me that she was not serious about meeting anyone(and if you are getting so many emails that you can't answer your mail, then take your profile off as you are way too busy). You shoud be courteous enough to at least answer or you shouldn't be here on this site. I may get someone who likes to talk but regardless of how many times you attempt to go a little farther than IM---say to go to dinner, play pool, etc.---then there is always an excuse or a reason not too. Well, begging I do not do---it doesn't matter how stunning you are to look at! And I only give 100% if she does! You can even get to talking with someone who constantly talks about another person---Now what is up with that?---am I supposed to be jealous when I have not even met her in person---not likely!
So no, if you are truly in a relationship then I see no need for a dating site---but you had better show by your daily actions that a continual relationship exists..........you may be drop dead gorgeous but it is better than money in the bank that I will watch your actions 100 times more than your figure.  | |
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Joined: 4/10/2006
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 5/9/2006 9:03:43 AM | Well ok I am engaged to well His name is Matt but on here his name is Bradleyj05 he doesnt put pictures on but I found him through the history on our computer thats how I found this site. We have a beautiful 7 month old little girl named Madeline and will be married if he doesnt stop this crap in august of this year. I have busted him from different sites many of times and even found out his password on some of them. What do I do?? How do I get him to want to be with just me. I found out yesterday that he was on this site. He came home for lunch I was an hour away and found this on the computer. I confronted him and he said he was only trying to delete it. But it says on there he started it yesterday. So why would he do such a thing if he says he loves me so much and cant wait to marry me?? Well I just dont know what to do because I love him so much. I came on here so I can check and see if he keeps going on it. What would you guys do?
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