| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 5/21/2006 6:42:58 PM | | oh i know this story well.....went through it myself a bit ago....took mine off.his was still on.did not take it off.asked him to.he was not ready..finally decided to end it with him.took my stuff, gave keys back etc....he wanted 'opportunity" to meet with other people but i could not do same.wanted to live his 20's as he had not done so before."sow his oats"....LOL.now he ia 38 year Peter Pasn.great guy but for a guy who says "i would do anything for you and i come from a good place".he lies.do anything fro me would not mean to look on a singles line everyday fro opportunity...beware of pilots girls.........no offence because i am sure there are some great ones out there but make sure they do not have a list of singles women from every city they stay in kept for reserve........doh! | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 5/21/2006 6:48:50 PM | keepingstep:
I'd put my profile back on and make sure he saw it. OR...put a phoney profile and send him a message then go meet him.........BUSTED!!! 
LOSE him! and fast! He's a player and seeing other women off the site no doubt. He's not that into you.....plain and simple. That's the thing with internet...they just keep looking.....and looking.....
Never ever take men on the internet too seriously.....how many hours you got for me to tell you all of my friends sad cheater stories from the internet....one even married the guy! | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 5/21/2006 7:07:05 PM | | I started talking to someone off Mate1...he kinda chased me at first cuz he was 24...overseas serving in the war..and american....I am almost 33 and living near ottawa...I was not really interested then I started talking to him...I fully understand military life...I am an ex spouce...so when he started telling me he loved me...I took it with a grain of salt..Loads of guys overseas do this out of need to feel normal...a part of something that has nothing to do with war....anyways I am straying off topic here....He told me of all the plans he had for us for when he got back to america...he was gonna come here...take me on a cruise...blah blah blah....and he was getting out to start a normal life...wanted a family and he would even move to canada to do it....then I went on that site again to see if he was still going on....he wasn't....we talked almost everyday on msn....then we went a while without talking....I understood he was on missions and at war...it happens....out of morbid curriosity I went on mate1 again and he had been on...I told him I went on there and told him that I only went on to see if he went in there and he said to me that from his past experience "only people who feel they need to explain themselves are guilty of something" Maybe he thinks I did something ...but personally I think he was sitting around biding his time till he gets to go home and looking for something better, or who knows...maybe he is still with his ex and his daughter....he says he is not...but who knows...All I can say is that sometimes the net is a nice way to meet ppl....and sometimes it's a playground for players.... | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 5/25/2006 3:33:23 AM | | Im going through the same senario at the moment , but heres the twists. He lives in Washington, and I live In Southern California. We have be on line with each other literally for almost 8 months. We usually talk all night long and sometimes deep in to the morning to the point he's late to get to the job. And sometimes Im running late to my 2nd shift job. Ive flown to him on several occassions and we got along perfectly. Eccept for the inital shyness that we had to have a few drinks to get past..... He's professed his love and I in turn . He has also sujested that My visits become more frequent and lengthy to the point that eventually I just wont come home one day. I started to notice his activity on a few sites that I would go in to answer some true friends mail and apoligise to the others and let them know I was off the market. Well I will admit over the years Ive traveled many sites in search of my man. So from time to time I go in and clean out the mail. My guy uses the same name every were so for some reason I decided to look up his name and there he was and on another site and another and another. Im not sure how many he is on but he is active on every one of them, but one or two and those are the ones that when we first talked about this he went ahead and removed his self. That was several months ago . He says the same as others there just friends. So I asked the bright question does he tell his just friends that he is in a working relationship. I had to press the question several times before he admitted he doesnt. So I then told him he was then stringing thesee women along allowing them to think he's free and looking he said he wasnt so I told him if that were the case then he wouldnt mind if I go back active and not tell men of him of course that would work because he would be jealous.Im reading all your forums and thinking one way then feeling guilty the next. what if zim making rash accusations what if he is just friends with them he has professed that he loves me but he has also said he's unsure were we are heading after he says I will end up staying and never going home I know Ie dragged this out and theres tons more but from any of you men especially How should I react if Im not to rejoin the action on line yet Im to eccept his continuing waht should I think do believe or ignore if any at all | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 5/25/2006 4:17:48 AM | LOSE him! and fast! He's a player and seeing other women off the site no doubt. He's not that into you.....plain and simple. That's the thing with internet...they just keep looking.....and looking.....
year right yourself
Thats ONE and only one reason he's still looking.
Do you have the brains to actually think of any others? Can you think for yourself or a you a sheep. Girls who use the word "player" are all a bunch of sheep.
The man you are talking about is MY BROTHER. He's been married for 12 years and his wife has refused to sleep with him for the last 10. He hasn't divorced her because he would lose access to the kids who he absoloutely adores.
But he does kill spare time surfing dating sites, social sites, and any number of other sites. | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 5/25/2006 4:29:15 AM | Been here done this......
You say you got curious, I think it was your "instints" telling you something was up. You listened to them and now you know why. Did you and him talk about deleting your profiles off the site? If not then do now. Does he post in the forums alot? If you confront him about it and he should say that then ask him why
He hasn't changed his profile to "just here for the forums, currently seeing someone?,
You could always go back and make your active again, not tell him let him see you pop up then you will know if hes checking out new members. Last but not least if you really feel he maybe still fishing, make a new handle and profile, pretend to be someone else, send him a message introducing yourself and asking if hes in any kind of relationship....
Yeah I know someones gonna say this is wrong and shouldn't be done, but when someones not who how they come off and you suspect this, and you just sit there and wait to be made a fool of then that feeling like a fool and that feeling of being decieved is worse then ending it with that person. Don't accuse until you have facts. Good luck | |
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pixxy
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Joined: 3/9/2006
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 5/26/2006 3:16:18 AM | Hi how ar u?very interesting..the same thing happened to me just yesterday.I thought id check to see if this i guy i have been seeing since january,was really still active on pof..wen i went to look i found a picture add from ar trip to the falls!and not to long ago i asked him if hes been on and he says no!not for a long time.A big lie!so anyways i left him one nasty reply on his message board (its not nice)i just wonder how much of everything he told me was shits.I dont get it really..to think he said he loved me hah!gess a tru player!So what i would do if i were u is tell him to fly his kite!lies will hurt no matter what...dont waste ur time!
O for all u ladys on pof!..beware of diggerduke...hes and ***hole!player not just a joe!
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 5/27/2006 2:27:41 PM | Well Im at the moment removing him from my life . He is a player from hell I did my alias screen person and in no time did it take him to totally blow it. So beware all you ladies he runs by the name of "luvitwenithurts" on every site you can almost imagine . If you want a good head heart ache game this guys got the cards but he's lousy in bed FYI. so it's really not that much fun.
Im going to be just fine I came out of this a bit wiser and with a lot more pride than when I came in. I feel sorry for jerks like him I truely believe His head got shoved up his butt and he just doesnt know how to get it out.... (sorry for crude talk. Its called cleansing) Oh and let your friends know about his dealings as well . He really isnt a healthy person to get in volved with. Thanks for the support. Its always good to get advice from your fellow travelers on this crazy stream we put our selves in......... | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 5/27/2006 2:31:08 PM | | Oh and one last thing I did try and talk to him we talked for about 4 hours about the whole thing and he kept saying stay with me I love you we can make it..... while on the other hand I had my other me in position and was starting our conversation so at the same time he was professing his love and all he was moving in on Trinity. Sweet wouldnt you say? Idiot man ...... | |
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Dru
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Joined: 12/17/2005
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 5/29/2006 1:06:04 PM | | Well Thats fine but why not keep it open for both parties. He has made it plain that Im exclusive to him . And He wouldnt want me on the fence doing what he's doing. How Is that right or fair? I told him plain that we could remain friends but if he wanted his options left open then I did to. He said no to that and hid and lied about his dealings . Thats my problem. Most guys want that harem effect but you know. I dont know of one man that can handle very well one woman. Were do they get off thinking they can handle more? And then making us believe that their going to be exclusive. and all. That I just cant register in my head period. If you can play I can too Its much more fun that way any way. but the cards have to be laid out in all fairness. otherwise you get shot for cheating and thats not a nice lable to carry on you chest now is it? Im just trying to understand so I know what to offer from the beginning. thats really the basis of all this drama not to repeat it again. | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 5/29/2006 1:09:45 PM | What does the profile say? If he changed it to "friends" and put a comment in that he's "taken", and (well, doesn't sound like it) *told* you his profile name and that he likes the people here (for chatting and insight), I dunno as it would be an issue.
On the flip side, it obviously seems important to you, and he should respect that.
And on the gripping hand, mistrust isn't a good thing in any relationship, and that one is on you. | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 5/29/2006 1:32:58 PM | some guys just may like the site because of the forums, some women when you are talking to them that topic of discussion may turn into a debate and they only want you to agree with them and get mad and try to make you feel guilty when you don't,
for example:
if you love me you will agree with me, I only want someone to listen to me and understand me, I don't care if I'm wrong you are suppose to say I'm right
that woman may be a very good debater with other people but may view your debate with them as a personal attack against them and wish to end the debate, on the forums you can get viewpoints from women that give less than a crap about you ...unbias viewpoints....well sometimes
but to keep the peace you should just delete yourself from all dating sites, never do anything that may hurt her | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 5/29/2006 2:19:48 PM | I personally don't see a problem with this. It's called trust and if you don't trust someone then you don't need to be together. I have been dating a guy from here and he gets on every chance he gets. He likes the forums LOL he got me started on them. I trust him cause even though we haven't been seeing each other long he is with me when he is not working therefore I trust him and a computer is good when you are by yourself. So many places to explore and learn new things. Like these forums.   | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 5/29/2006 7:40:00 PM | | Okay, I might be completely off my rocker here, but I've seen plenty of women on this site who, in the forums, mention their "boyfriend" or "soulmate"; yet they're still active on this site. Am I wrong, or is that a double-standard? If he's got friends on here, then leave him be. If he's actually persuing these women, well obviously get rid of him. | |
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