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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 6/27/2006 8:03:23 PM | OMG... this is such a great topic!!! So many different variables to this question.
My story....I met a man on Lava... we hit it off and feel hard and fast for each other. We kept our profiles up for a while once we started dating. He did still send out a few smiles but the second the women responded he would tell them about me... Now..I was feeling insecure and didnt know what to think about this. One day he asked if a women he met could come over for our poker night..I was hurt.. she came over and confermed that he was truthfull about him and me. It did cause a small problem for us but she is now my BEST friend!! She is amazing!! .... so...finally we both deleted our lava profiles.. me first then a day or so later him.
SO..... I still had (have) and insecurity about the online women...not the ones he will meet...cause he is no longer on a site...but the ones he DID meet... the ones he still chats with.... He says they all know about me and I have been so dumb and selfish that I didnt believe this. I have read to much into many situations and there for have pry ruined our relationship. This last two weeks I really did a number on it. Some of my friends and family say I was justified for being upset...others say I need to stop being so down on myself and trust him. ohh....this online love is a mess!!!! so... i am hoping my stupid mistakes or both our mistakes havent cost us everything but hey..... we live and learn!!! | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 6/27/2006 8:27:25 PM | | set up a false dummy site, and see how far he will take it. If hes serious about not meeting anyone while you two are dating, see if you can arrange a date with him from the dummy site or see if he will talk to you and mention that he has a girlfriend. If he blows you off or doenst mention you at all to the dummy site. I would arrange to meet him. Then I would tell him to go to hell and walk away. Because you dont need a loser like that. Thats just another word for being a player. | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 6/27/2006 8:38:50 PM | | Hmmmm........Women do this all the time, in fact I would bet that probably over half the women on here do that.........I know on other sites they do. I guess it is ok for women to do it, just not men.........I have lost count of all the ads I have read that women have on sites saying "I have found my boyfriend/whatever he is........but I am still on here looking for "friends"............(yeah, right WINK, WINK).......... Personally I don't find it proper for EITHER SEX to do it, but once again I guess the old double-standard applies.....meaning that women think it is ok to have their cake and eat it too, and it seems to be universally accepted. I have always believed that whenever you meet someone, they are going to stick around until they find someone better. There are some people who don't do that, but they are few and far-between! | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 6/27/2006 9:29:59 PM | Hi Keeping,
If he is still active he is probably still looking. I was in a similar situation last year with a guy I met on another dating site. We started seeing each other several times per week and after a month he told me he wanted to be exclusive. He also told me he had deleted his profile, and as the weeks passed we became quite serious. Almost three months into the relationship I too got curious (my gut was nagging me for some reason) and went back and did a search. Sure enough the profile was still there (it had never been cancelled according to the last update) and he was online at that very moment. I checked back randomly for a few more days afterwards and without fail, the profile was either active within 24hrs or he was online at the same time. Then one day while I was out shopping I saw him getting cozy with another woman. When I confronted him a few days later he tried to deny it was him, not knowing I was standing only a few feet away when I saw them together. Needless to say I got rid of him real fast. 
I have since heard from a very good source he has been (and still is now apparently) in a steady relationship for the past nine months. Interestingly enough when I joined this site two months ago his profile showed up in one of my searches and was recently active.  | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 6/27/2006 11:24:57 PM | | I feel for all of you who have had this problem, my point of view is that if he is on a site without communicating with you, than you need to move on. I met someone from a site and we dated and then moved in together for 2 years. About six months after, I caught him on a site by fluke, I tried working with him for a year and it did not improve so I had to kick him out. I'm hurt by this, but most important of all my daughter misses him. But I am worth more than that. It's like everyone is saying he is a player and he was waiting for something better, like a rich chick or something. Freaken Mama's Boys. ENOUGH ALREADY, CUT THE CORD. | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 6/28/2006 6:05:37 AM | well, im sure everyone has their reasons for being on a dating site after they have found someone, i have found my guy, we are very happy together, but i still visit the forums, mostly the poetry section.........he is aware of this, i changed my profile to no longer looking, he changed his to inactive.
p.s, we have both hid our profiles from searches. | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 6/28/2006 10:05:48 AM | | hello,how are you ?i am doing just fine . wel i got alot ? s for you i have some 1 that me and him are b/f and g/f but he intends to write gurls off here , whats should i do he has other profiles else where to , i live with him and we happen to love 1 another to , what else should i do , he even called the gurls up that he wites on here and wants to meet them what else do i do now . write me back on here ozzys gurl 38 he goes by ozzy 5 /. | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 6/28/2006 11:38:40 PM | I think they (guy or girl) are not ready for a relationship at all. They are trying to portray themselves as such, but they always just end up hurting someone. These type don't get hurt, they jump before it happens to them. They are insecure and if you don't talk about it early on, then it is your own fault. Learn what you can, speak your mind, and voice your opinions. What good is a relationship if it isn't built on trust and respect for each other. If they can't take the heat, they weren't worth your time. (AND YOU KNOW WHO I AM TALKING ABOUT)
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 6/29/2006 11:02:31 AM | im sorry you think that way but im seeing a guy to on here and i don't mine him looking at other people because i know how he feels for me and i know he don't cheat on me so he can look and talk to who he cares to i do we have trust.
and if you care for each other you trust them. 
that is the problem today the woman meets a guy go out and bang they think they own them it don't work that way first you need trust but you don't go trying to boss them around they are men make them feel love and if there are no rings even if there are you don't boss them you talk things out be a woman love your man for who he is and if he good to you and don't lie or cheat let him be and you can not tell me you don't flirt with other men on here injoy your man let him be a man not a wimp and just because you have sex don't think you own him like a lot of people do think that.
the woman today think if i have sex with him i own him well it don't work that way you have to trust him not try and put him down love him for him and stop bossing him around
life is love not just sex so grow up you woman stop being a kid relationships are two ways
and not a joke and if you think he is lieing to you talk to him than see why he lie wish you bossie woman luck i'll tell you if i had some one that trys to boss be around i would dump him and that goes for the woman to .
soon as you see your guy with a woman talking you are ready to make a ass out of your self well try walking up to him and see who it is first men has friends to and im sure you talk a lot with other men ok enought this is pissing me off . | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 6/29/2006 9:07:30 PM | Listen, just hope his girlfriend does not call you and tell you he is married. Believe me this is about the worst experience of my life. I would rather him kept his profile on line than have had it in the closet. In my experience we were seeing each other, became what I thought was exclusive and we both dropped our profiles. After several months; I get a phone call....that is right from his girlfriend who told me about his wife. So either way, it is hard to find a really honest man I think sometimes; but perhaps they think it is hard to find an honest woman.
I have never been so hurt or fooled. So just be careful! | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 6/29/2006 9:21:06 PM | There are many reasons like he rather be friends with women. I have more in common with women than most men. I am starting to learn a new thing ;being a webmaster. I learn more from young women who are not afraid to give their time and expertise and do not see me as a rival. As far as coupling goes everyone is looking for that bigger,better, deal. Serial dating is not an effecient use of time. Being friends with lots of people reveals what you can get along with and who you want in your circle of friends.
Many somehow feel that they have ownership of other people. That just does not work.
When in the market for food do you buy the first that you see? The same with people.
the first may be the best, but it is the test of time that is even better.
Date others yourself. Not to "get even" but to give yourself the same odds of finding people you want to associate with. | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 6/29/2006 9:31:47 PM | | The problem is people feel that they have to lie. We are afraid that if we enjoy a woman's company and not want to sleep with her then she thinks we are gay; if we say we are married she is supposed to get mad to impress her friends. I have told some very attractive women that I was not sexually attracted to them. Most took it well and we became friends and did things together. My girlfriend was ok as she knew what turned me on. And I wasn't into sex with qanyone but her. | |
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