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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 7/28/2006 6:55:23 AM | Ouch-- this one is tough. I know, that when I'm seeing someone, UNTIL he and I agree verbally that its exclusive I am not going to delete my profile. Of course sometimes I get scared- well maybe he'll think I'm not serious or something-- but if thats the case let him broach the subject and then you can tell hin whats in your heart.
I date, and still "look around" but it doesnt mean I'm actively looking-- its fun, sometimes to just keep active, meet new people, feel sexually attractive to others-- but again, it doesnt mean, once I'm being intimate with a man, that I'm doing anything more than just flirting and looking...
Its tough though-- its one of the new issues that have arisen from dating sites-- but in some ways I look at it like a blessing-- because we CAN track a man's activity.
Here's another tiip for tracking-- FYI: Do a yahoo or google search just for their handlle-- and you will find any OTHER sites they may be on as well. Trust me-- it works.
All in all though-- communication is key-- both parties need to know whats wanted and expected-- unfortunately alot of men like their independence, and once you show you want the key to their heart, they run scared... but the right one WONT-- Good luck! MJS | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 7/28/2006 7:47:05 AM | I know a few guys on here who are in relationships...I feel sorry for thier gf's...this is why its hard to find a decent man.. so many people men and women lie about thier "status". I know for sure many of us are single still because we have to weed out the liars.
Holds true in person tooo
I meet many many guys in my line of work...many test the waters...lol and they re taken. Mind you i'd never date anyone who is a client even if he was single. | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 8/1/2006 2:18:42 AM | | i think you should run fo the hills i was seeing a guy on a regular basis for 10 monthes thought we really had something good going but he was still checking datting sites he promised me there was nothing in it just checking to see if anyone had viewed him .but alas i had a gut feeling this wasnt so. so i decided to see if he was being honest with me. so i joined up with one off these datting sites under a different name to see if he would send a wink or message . guess what not even half an hour after i had done so he winked me. then messaged me asking for msn address so i gave it to him .it didnt take long about 15 minutes in to conversation he was asking to meet me then because i said not yet the conversation turned to sex he really started getting in to it web cam and all .so next evening i sent him on a wild goose chase to meet this sexy lady and so the story goes i rang him the next day a told him exactly what i thought of him .but like a few males out there he tried to turn it all around it was my fault for not trusting him so girls if you think your guys doing the same check it out not all of them are but some certainly are players and players eventually get played and i played him for the fool he is his loss my gain i deserve better than someone who is a player | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 8/1/2006 10:49:42 PM | | I had this happen. I dated a guy for a while, deleted my profile, and continued to check his to find out he was still talking to other woman, even though he told me we were exclusive. Turns out, it was in front of me all along. A guy who is going to stay on a dating site after classying you two as together, it means he doesn't see it going anywhere in the long run and he's keeping you around until something better catches his eye.... it's harsh I know, but it happens to the best of us I guess. | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 8/4/2006 1:42:58 AM | I've been hurt by this one twice.
First was a guy that I had dated that was planning his retirement with me...lol...meanwhile planning another one with someone else. I drove to his house for father's day and dropped a present through his mail slot. Turned out he was on the sofa making out to girl number two, telling her it was from his son.
She figured it out one day by getting on his computer. I was getting ready to go see him and got this note. "I"m Don's girlfriend, who are you?"
I thought he was just chatting on the forums. LOL
Other one, by then I was a bit paranoid. Kept showing up, and that site didn't have forums. He said it was just friends on the site.
It was a wicked thing to do, but I made up another profile. I'm usually very up front, but up front hadn't been working here. Well, one morning I get a text msg. on my cell phone, how he's crazier than crazy about me. I come downstairs and he had asked this other "person" out on a date.
I felt guilty doing that, but asking wasn't working. | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 8/4/2006 1:49:37 AM | If he is just taking part in the forums and have told you so then that is fine.
If he is in a relationship and is hiding the fact and is here looking for a long term relationship that is just pitiful.
I would just run and be happy that I had a lucky escape. Also I would learn from that mistake and hopefully never to have similar experince again.
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 8/5/2006 6:20:20 PM | to answer the question:It means the girl he is dating is way to nosey and he probly likes the forums.
the op im sure is no longer with this guy, or hould i say the guy is probly no longer with her as it was created in 2004!
but my question is why do so many women get in a relation ship and sabatoge the crap out of it and fail to realize what went wrong? | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 8/5/2006 8:11:57 PM |
but my question is why do so many women get in a relation ship and sabatoge the crap out of it and fail to realize what went wrong? -fackker
Oh, this is such a classic over generalization! While it's true that women can sabatoge a relationship - men can do it just as easily!
To answer the question from two years ago... I have had a similar experience. I met a guy online - super nice, really handsome, smart and financially independent. We went on a handful of dates, and spent a fair amount of time together. Soon, our relationship became intimate. Now many people (women OR men) can come to the conclusion that once you become sexually intimate with someone, this automatically means you are "exclusive." I was not naive enough to think along these lines. I was however, naive to believe him when he told me that he wanted to be exclusive with only me... he didn't want to date anyone else. Like the OP, I noticed that he was still on the dating site, but not "active"... at least very often.
A month passes. He calls me one day to tell me that he's going to be spending a few weeks in Kansas, training on a new computer system. He could potentially be gone 3-4 weeks, and possibly over a month. He said that he'd understand if I want to date other people while he's gone, but that he'd prefer we remained exclusive. Of course, I told him I'd want to wait.
We talked nearly every night the first couple weeks, and he was even flown home once on the "company lear jet" so he could sign papers on the house he was selling. Soon after he left to go back to Kansas, I noticed that he was "active" on the site a lot more frequently. (I had actually made my profile "inactive" when he asked if we could be exclusive.) He quit calling as often. His emails were few and far between. Something told me he wasn't being completely honest with me. So I dug a little deeper.
I created a phoney account and made contact with him. He responded rather quickly the adorable new little blonde thing that was writing to him. I (She) asked him if he would like to meet for drinks somewhere, sometime. (He was supposed to be in Kansas, remember?) He jumped at the opportunity. Needless to say, I was there waiting for him when he arrived.
He was shocked to see me there, and very embarrassed. I think the first thing I said to him was: "Well Toto, it doesn't look like we're in Kansas anymore, does it?"
Now, I do not believe that all guys (or women) who keep their profiles up even after meeting someone are waiting for something better. I've also had first hand experience of this. And as for simply "asking" them - do you REALLY think if they are scammers, that they're going to be HONEST with you? Probably not. I think it all comes with time and patience. People are either going to prove themselves to be real winners, or losers. | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 8/5/2006 10:38:10 PM | | I found out my ex husband was on adult friendfinder advertising for one on one, vouyerism, exhibitionism, or more and had himself listed as single. We had been married for 2 1/2 years at the time. So, I went on through his email and changed his account so he was looking for men. I guess it all depends on what they are looking for, and the type of site they are on. I have to admit that it would give me some doubts to find someone who was supposed to be involved with me on a site. I'd say keep a close eye on them, note any other suspicious behavior, and last of all, if you feel up to it, confront them! Better to find out now than later! | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 8/6/2006 5:31:57 PM | hey keeping step what r u hurt about cause yo boyfriend is still on the site. I mean did he cheat on u r u jus have low self esteem. I be on the site but jus be erasing my emails its nothing wrong with that r giving my opinion in the forum colums i like the threads and like to answer them. If u r dating r him and he love u he wont go to the extremes of cheating on u i know i wouldnt jeoparadize the man of my life for a site. Trust me well i only can speak for myself and not others but if u feel alittle insecure why dont u talk to him and let him know maybe he will cut down for u and eventually be off depending on how well u r occupying your man free time.. Trust me if thats the man of my life we would be gone r together all the time and if not be right there next to me while im on the site if i have nothing to hide right. You need to stop stressing your self out and get straight forward and bold with your man who u claim to love r who u hold in marriage who knows. If u are serious why r u so afraid to ask him questions. | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 8/6/2006 6:15:55 PM | The same exact thing happened to me. Met a guy on-line, we met, started dating. We both deleted our profiles from the site where we met, but I found out later he had profiles on several other sites. I did a browser search, and made a list. I asked him about 1. He said he had forgotten about it and would delete himself. I asked if there were more. He said no. I showed him the list. He shit his pants. I made him give me his passwords. I found he was chatting and emailing several other women on a regular basis. It wasn't the forums, it wasn't friends. Of course it was cheating! Why else did he go to such effort to hide it and lie about it?!
No, it's not "illegal". Yes, unless you get a "blingbling ring" nothing is promised. But is that really how we want to be treated? I applaud all the couples who have discussed this issue, ironed it out, and are comfortable with it. If you're dating a guy and you can't even ask about it, much less discuss it? NO LOSS. He's only with you until he finds something better. Who wants to settle for that? | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 8/9/2006 8:08:25 AM | well i've been reading some of these things that all you pof people have written...i would like to say that my boyfriend and i are both on this site, we actually have alot of friends that are on here, but both of our profiles have things about eachother, so if people continue to message us thats there deal, sometimes we reply and sometimes we dont, alot of times we do it because some of the messages are really funny. Also, i am confident enough in my boyfriend to know that he would never cheat, we both know our passwords and can check our mail when ever we want, i never do, and i know he dose when im with him, and then we have a good laugh see whos on then go out and do something, i really dont think its a big deal and there is nothing that would turn my mind other wise. Know the person before you make rash decisions. good luck to who ever finds this interesting.... | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 8/9/2006 1:09:56 PM | | Funny. Same thing happened to me, like, last week. My boyfriend, whom I met here at POF, is still active on this site and others. I told him in the past that it bothered me, but that didn't bother him enough to stop. Then he got mad at ME for getting mad at him about it. I sent him a nice fare-thee-well, with a capital F - email this afternoon. You cannot expect other people to respect you if you don't respect yourself. Afterall, this is the FishNetwork, largest free dating site on the web.. look at how many fish are on this mother? The theory of "plenty of fish" has been proven. Just say... NEXT! | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 8/9/2006 8:53:47 PM | | I agree - if the relationship is going anywhere, you've gotta be able to talk about stuff like this. For me, once a relationship becomes intimate, I would like it to be exclusive - and to me exclusive means not being available on a dating website - not only would I want the profile to be inactive, I would want it off the site - but not everyone has the same view on this. So even though it may be awkward, it's better to bring it up...if the other person doesn't have the same way of looking at the relationship and the differences can't be resolved, maybe it's time to move on...Internet dating has a lot of good qualities/opportunities, but one of the drawbacks is that it can present the illusion of unlimited opportunity, making it hard to give a promising relationship a chance to develop. | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 8/12/2006 10:59:55 AM | | If you just stop communicating with him, he will obviously be wondering why. Is that what you want to accomplish? Then he will call and call and call and send messages and you will ignore him and basically do what TOO MANY women do. He will give up eventually, because all you did was make him angry, disgusted etc. He will lump you into the same catagory as all the other women who think they should just stop communication. Talk to him about it. If you feel you are far enough along in this relationship where you want it to be exclusive then tell him this. He he agrees, then tell him to get off the sites. He may not think you are committed enough to this relationship for him to stop looking....Hope this helps. I don't know how many times I have had the cold shoulder routine placed upon me and all it did was think negative things about women. | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 8/12/2006 1:59:11 PM | | oh so funny i was just having this conversation today........is his name Peter by chance?..........is he a pilot?.........lol.......let me tell u its frustration to the end with internet dating and to all u people who will reply back "why are you on here then"...again i had that conversation today as well and i have no answer other than to say hey you never know until you try but i just keep thinking there has to be a better way.good luck everyone! | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 8/12/2006 2:10:45 PM | Gee wiz!!! Well it's like finding the perfect dress for that special occasion, or
the perfect car that suits you just fine. Once we find it there is no need to look!
Be nice, I wouldn't say a thing. Your single and dating if you both enjoy the
same things why not continue to date and still look around. If you can't do
this and your going to get hurt I can tell you one thing. It only hurts for
a wee bit. You will survive. Date him have a good time. If another fish
rolls out the red carpet and treats you like a queen don't pass him on. Your
not married yet! Your allowed to do as you please.
Good look. | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 8/12/2006 2:39:49 PM | | I still think this is the funniest thread. So many people are so worried about what other people are doing here. Such silliness. I'm here. My boyfriend is here. And guess what ~ neither of us are looking. We are here for the forums and I have a lot of friends here (not to mention my ex-husband, his girlfriend, my son and two of my Aunts.) He (my b/f) is well aware what I do here (since he's sitting right here...LOL) but even if he weren't, he knows there is nothing happening, in this little box, in the middle of cyber-somewhere that he needs to be worried about. If he is worried about me being here ~ we have way more problems than me being a forum junkie. To each their own, but I see nothing wrong with anyone being here for their own reasons, no matter what those reasons are. | |
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