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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 8/12/2006 6:53:00 PM | This is in response to the person who started this thread. Ive been on sites for abit and have meet lots of girls in person, most for dating and some ended up being good friends that i still have now. And its not just guys who keep their profile on the site many women do this too, and if you ask why after you've been dating for abit and its seriuos, they get all defensive and say nasty things. I've even caught a few stupidly email friends on the sites that they didn't know i was friends with and asking them out on a date. So personally
i think in my experience women do this more than men and that is even though they are in a commited relationship they'll still stay on these sites because they think its ok too be on there. To the guys if you meet a girl on the net odds are she'll still be looking for someone even if she says she wants a committed relationship. So even though i think its wrong what the guy did to you, now you can see why i think he did it, the same reason alot of women do it, you never know who's there.
p.s. in case everyone has not figured it out yet im here just to meet friends, im no longer on the market. Internet is not my choice to meet the woman of my dreams. But good luck
to all, and guys remember what i said. You can disagree all you want too, but i've found
many girls cheating on guys in these sites, in fact thats one of my online jobs. | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 8/14/2006 4:49:58 PM | In my own experience...
I really got hurt, because some guys are not that honest about themselves.
My boyfriend who I tough was into me...Forgot to think ...or didn't knew I have girlfriends on the same site...He ended up asking my friend for a date...He cancelled on me 1/2 hour before we were going dancing to go out with my friend.
Of course We set him up, following that he was furious...called my friends evil and all that.
He ask forgiveness...I gave him a second chance...next we agree on deleding our profiles fom that site. I did, then... my other girlfriend calls me the following weekend to let me knowthat she saw him in a different site 1 hour active...yes it was truth.
I was extremely discourage...Following that...I wrote him a letter and dump him. No bad language of course...just some lecture by an intelligent women..
I know he loves me so do I...but theres point of no return on that one...I decided to dump the boy and keep the friend. Now I am in different sites trying to find mr,Rigth...Since he seems not to want to be THE ONE for me.
I got 2200 hits in that site and gave the chanche to mr, wrong...At least we are still friends...Now we chat at the same time while talk by phone...It is much more fun.
The point is, I don't know how can I trust ever in some...internet love...???
I am letting go...still being there...It hurts but...
I got stronger on the other side.
Love is there...somewhere for me.
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 8/14/2006 4:57:14 PM | Uh...both me and the guy I am seeing still have our profiles up. I'm just looking for friend's though and he just wants attention from girls he isn't interested in. Don't ask...he's strange. Other then that both of us don't feel like meeting anyone else on this site and could care less who contacts us. Plus, I am an awesome person so if he ever did decide to be an idiot and go for some other girl his butt would be kicked to the curb, and I'm sure he feels the same way.
Haha.
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 8/17/2006 12:56:57 PM | | well its not reall like we go back for a new meet or to meet other people. its that a woman prospective is different from a mans, when a woman would delete theirs, we still have friends to chat own the tempo with to see whats been going on in their relationship. so ladies dont feel like we've been slippin you aside to hook up with another milkshake. we love what we got but at the same tie we cant just wallk out and left our bridges to burn behind us. you never know what could happen. | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 8/19/2006 6:18:56 AM | arkham resident,
I am the original poster on this thread. (Still can't believe it is going)
Anyway. I agree with you completely.... from what I have since heard (in threads and from guys in person) women do this sort of thing as much or more than the men. I would change the title on this thread if I could.
For everyone...please understand this: This wasn't casual dating...this was a relationship. We were going out nearly everyday..talking everyday...this was looking like it was going to be very serious. Next..it wasn't on this site. The pay-for site I used didn't have any forums...there wasn't a single reason to remain on that site except to keep a profile 'single and dating' up and running.
Meanwhile, I have grown up. I learned a lesson that I have kept to my heart ever since. No longer the prey of the players. I no longer look to the internet for dating. | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 8/20/2006 7:28:32 PM | | I met a guy on this site...he started using the dreaded "L" word on day 5! We ended up dating for about 4 months - the whole time he still had his profile up, and still under "dating". He's one of those who used the excuse that he still had "friends" here that he wanted to talk to. I still had my profile up also, until I decided if the commitment was there, but did add to it, saying that I was in a committed relationship at the time, etc...he did not add any such comment to his. I turned out that he was more in love with the idea of being in love than with me, and we ran the gamut of an entire meet, court, marry and divorce in four short months. Be careful of these guys...too many of them are in it for the conquest! | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 8/20/2006 9:35:40 PM | | Wow! This thread has been going on and on forever...lol.. Interesting, both the original by keepingStep and some of the responses. Quite a range of opinion here. I'm agreeing completely with those who feel that it's a 'slap in the face'. People. just a word here from someone who doesn't claim to know it all, but has experienced this...If you are in a relationship, and you give a rats derriere at all about that person and how they feel, make sure you aren't hurting them with 'single and looking' profiles that are active on a daily basis. It really does hurt, and if you aren't honestly on here keeping the options open, or looking for greener pastures, then say so. Don't let on you are single and looking for a good time. It gives the wrong impression to both 'single' folks out there that ARE looking, and to the one who's heart you are hurting. You got someone out there that you are dating and you sincerely care about them? Status has changed from single to taken? 2 seconds to hit the update button, and less than thirty to change that part of the profile. Bingo , problem solved...your loved one feels some security and you've shown them respect, and you don't have to make excuses to talk to 'friends' or message back and forth with them. After all, if it's just friends...they won't mind you being 'off the market'. Right?... It's all black and white really. I'm absolutely taken with the man I'm dating, and I certainly wouldn't want him thinking that I was on here with a 'looking for fun' profile. I want him to know that while I enjoy chatting at times, that my 'fishing ' days are over. Why keep tossing the hook back in, after you've already got a great catch! I mean...if you are sincerely content with what you have already , then posting that you are still looking...well that's kind of like... hell I don't know..the equivelant of purchasing a Harley, and then going back to stand in the parking lot gazing at the mopeds and wondering if one of them would be more fun to ride....(ok, sorry, perhaps that's bad humor)..But if he cared and respected you and was proud of you, hopefully he did something about that profile of his to let you know how much you meant to him, and to give you that security. Hope all went well.! | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 8/21/2006 10:19:26 AM | Dont try to change him - the interent is the same as a bar - but you can learn about your potential date before talking to him in a bar....it will never change - even if you are in a relationship you will always have that - not until you get married then I would expect you to ask him to take his profile off the dating sites! So if he can you can - put your add up - there are plenty of single sites on the net! THIS One is the BEST OF COURSE! ;)  | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 8/22/2006 6:44:27 PM | Have to agree with you on this snowbird. I met a guy on a different site and we hit it off immediately. We both took our profiles off that site....or so I thought. Imagine my surprise when I saw his face looking back at me in my 'weekly matches' email. (For some reason I never unsubscribed from those).
He wanted me to move in with him, I wanted to establish a somewhat stable relationship first. Guess he wasn't willing to wait. Part of me hopes he regrets letting me get away. | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 8/22/2006 8:09:44 PM | Hi,
I am completely blown away when ever I read these stories. I joined this site because of an acquintance is on it and she suggested that I give it a try. I really do not expect any good will come out of it, because after reading all these bad experiences that women had not only here but elsewhere as well. I am really do not think that we can meet someone descent or honest on this sites. Human beings has become like goods that you can bargain for or bit on. I am so happy that I love and respect myself enough to feel complete in my own company. I know that I am worth better than that, therefore, I do not get involve with these losers.
Have you ever wonder how in the world someone can be on these sites for so long, or any other sites for more than six months. I can understand that sometimes, we have difficulty to meet a nice person, but after six months, we should not continue looking in the same site, obviously, there is not any man or woman worthwhile on it. if I was these people, I would remove my profile. There are people who have been on this site more than two or three years. Please people find something better to do with your time, your love etc. Do some volunteer work, give a helping hand to someone in need, adopt a surrogate family member, a pet, anything that will give you joy, and make you happy.
I have been on this site for three weeks, I come to a conclusion, that I would never meet a genuine, descent, normal, and honest person here, but I do not sit on my behind waiting for someone to show up, I have a life. I am working, I tried to do the right thing, give a helping hand to someone in need, and do some volunteer work it's good karma, so therefore, I am not feeling desesperate to take any garbage that appear.
Please ladies you worth more than you think, and you deserve better than what you have been getting, if you want things to change, you need to start within yourself. Love yourself.
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 8/25/2006 8:08:44 PM | Ert..........Rewind............ >>>>...This was or is your choice I'm assuming you made all by yourself.
Moving forward that my assumption is correct. I'm curious to know if you discussed what type of daters you both are? Did you have a conversation where you both agreed to *date* exclusively? ( for some reason I think not)
So he's getting to know you that's all that's it. Did you think maybe he might have been dating someone else when you went on your first *date*? He might be a multi-dater and there is nothing wrong with that, however all your questions involve having a discussion with him and I don't think you have had any of these discussions( again I'm assuming)
My point is .........You assumed your own situation and gave yourself barriers and now are assuming he's a lier and a cheater? How can he cheat when your not exclusive or committed? That is impossible.
I think you jumped in too soon and needed to still date others until you felt comfortable with yourself, your intentions and the man you really want to have around........you can't be that comfortable with him or yourself or you would've asked already about these situations upfront and personal , email has no emotions and can be misinterpreted easily.
"I deleted my profile from the site, but was curious so I went looking and I have seen that your profile is still active and every time I have looked at it, it shows that your have been active in the last 24 hours". "I feel like this means that you are only keeping me around while you keep looking for something better". "Is this right?"
curious+"I deleted my profile from the site, but was curious so I went looking and I have seen that your profile is still active and every time I have looked at it, it shows that your have been active in the last 24 hours". "I feel like this means that you are only keeping me around while you keep looking for something better". "Is this right?"
curious=I didn't trust your intentions with me and was too immature to ask.
I went looking=stalker,sluthhound,uncertain how to communicate with you,controlling
I feel blah blah blah= scream low self esteem, insecurities,and you don't believe you are good enough.
Whole statement ( and I'm a chic) Jesus chic wtf, I called you all the time and communicated with you and showed you I had interest.....where the hell is this coming from and why would she stalk me when I have given no reason or rhyme or even had a "where were at" conversation, meh too many problems........Next.
JMHO
I know nothing anyways when it comes to this crap
HK
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 8/25/2006 9:08:19 PM | Bishop,
I absolutely agree with you...LOL. I have been talking to him...and guess what guys??
After all this I miss you...and finally : I really Love you and blah, blah, blah from him...I fell again into his trap. But last week, he send a lets correspond "AGAIN" to a friend of mine who is metrosexual...of course he totally looks like a women in his pics...He started his chats normally and led to an intimate non the less sexual chat...with my dear called "boyfriend"
requesting a naked pic of my friend who he supposed was born female...Their chat ended up with my friend telling him the truth...of course my poor friend got insulted in such a bad way...My friend and I had never laughed so bad about anything in our lives...I still think about it and cannot stop laughing...
Got the point??? He is never goin to change...I was making a fool of my self again...of course he doesn't know abot this yet, and as for me I will do as you guys told me...Keep my profile up until I find my potential date...
I am comfortable with being single until I find what I am looking for and I am not setting for less...I know who I am, and what I am lookin for.  | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 8/28/2006 6:09:54 AM | | hi reeze just curious as to how soon in the relationship you feel you should be having a conversation about taking down profiles, as i have met someone on here for the first time and am not sure as to how long to leave my profile, also to talkto him about his. althogh i have been up front with people that has messaged me as not to be rude and ignore them | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 8/28/2006 10:25:13 PM | | well all i can say is that i have met someone off this site and talk to her and am interested definitly in her but i still come on here to read forums get advice and opinions on things cause well i figure if i am this old and still single there is definitly something that i need to learn still...lol and if she reads this which i think she may how ya doin? lol | |
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