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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 11/30/2006 5:58:27 PM |
What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Apparently he is hip, trendy, and intellectual, and enjoys the ideas and thoughts of those in the world around him. In addition, he is obviously in a very secure relationship, where petty jealousies about who he talks with or where, is a non issue, as the relationship is built on trust. Bottom line is, if there is nothing to hide, there is nothing to worry about. Nuff said.
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 12/1/2006 2:12:11 PM |
Apparently he is hip, trendy, and intellectual, and enjoys the ideas and thoughts of those in the world around him. In addition, he is obviously in a very secure relationship, where petty jealousies about who he talks with or where, is a non issue, as the relationship is built on trust
Or......Hes a rat fink liar...
I didnt have a problem with my husband having friends. My problem was that he was sleeping with the ones he met. So, when a relationship built on trust becomes one in which that trust has been taken advantage of, what would be the suggestion then? Ahhh yes.. back to the.. its all in your head analogy.
And the bottom line is this...... Everyone has a right to be treated with love, dignity and respect, when you arent getting that, its time to move on. Don't beat your brains out trying to make a cheater into what hes not, and don't keep trying to correct someone elses inappropriate behaviour.
Take care of you....cuz no one loves you like you do.. | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 12/1/2006 5:59:50 PM | thats why i have 1 rule i keep to myself.............. rule #1 when i do find that special someone, i will delete this personal ad.... i will put all my attention to that special person i am with..............
i had at 1 time someone i was with that was still on a personal ad setting up dates behind my back, but she didnt know i knew so much about computers and found out.......
told her to take a hike, heres a quarter call someone who cares.......
TRUST !! you dont get trust, you have to earn it.....
back to what i was saying is that yes , i will take off this profile from my computer and my life WHEN i find that special someone, true love is hard to find these days....... | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 12/3/2006 8:22:07 AM | | I too WILL delete my profile when/IF I meet that special person. How else are you supposed to get to know that "one" person instead of trying to meet others. I would also hope that the person I meet and want to get to know on a one-on-one basis will also delete theirs as well. Trust is an issue, and IF you are both on a dating site still trying to meet others, how can you possibly give your full attention to that person? IF you want to get to know that "one" person, you should be focusing on that instead of wasting your time on a dating sight. You never know; You may have just found the ONE you have been looking for....... | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 12/3/2006 2:38:58 PM | | Oh my god girl!!! This just happened to me. Although, we met through work. We started having a relationship and things started to get serious. Then a friend of mine was on this singles site and I was checking out her stuff. My guy was on there, with 19 women on his faves list. It also said he had been on that day. I just let it go for awhile, thinking maybe it was a mistake. I waited a few days and checked again. He even updated his profile!! Let's just say I confronted him about it and he said he was still unsure of our relationship. We are no longer together...as a matter of fact... he's sleeping with my friend that drew me to the singles site to begin with. I would ask him about it and see where it goes from there!!! -Diamonds | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 12/5/2006 1:48:20 PM | Wow! Talk about a gender dividing issue...lol
Seems that the men generally say ask him, could be X, Y, or Z and even possibly the chance he's a jerk. Women are generally saying...could be X, Y, or Z or he could be a Rat Fink Liar!
Funny.
Wait one, I'm in a relationship on and on this site posting in the FORUMS.
Wait one, My S/O is in a relationship and on this site posting in the FORUMS.
Oh Mi God !!! I'm being cheated on!!
Am I the only person here that reads the underlying subtext and realizes that the key issue here isn't trust, but what partner decides who the other interacts with and how? | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 12/6/2006 12:56:32 AM | DentedKnight.... i am with you on this one...
Im married.. I met my husband on lava life and I love him with all my heart. After we were in a relationship for a few weeks we both still had our profiles up and I know it was because neither of us were 100% sure about our new relationship. (i can now admit that..lmao) After a bit longer we both knew we were in love and deleted our lave profiles... then one night my best friend...(who was a women my husband had met on lava and was chatting with...introduced to me and we became great friends) told me about forums on POF and I made a profile and have been addicted ever since! I do have people who will contact me still and im honest about my husband but am always willing to meet new people. When i had my batchlerette party a few of the guys I have chatted with online for the last year met me at the bar! We had a blast!! My husband knows about it all and is cool with it! | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 12/6/2006 1:32:15 AM | timeandspace... as long as that man was kissing me each day and spending his time in my bed ... then hell ya!
My husband is a very very social guy! We went out for our batchlerette/batchlor party a few weeks ago. The last hour and a half his group met up with us girls at the bar we were at. We had this game going on where you had to get initials on a tshirt and have people of the opposit sex do things like body shots, give you their undies, give you a phone number, buy you a drink, dance with you...ect... they were fun...i got bored and gave mine to my best friend to finish for me cause i wanted to dance... anyways my man was trying to get his done so he had other women around him all night and plenty of them were very good looking... they even were offering to take him out back for his "last wild night" and he would smile.. point me out to them and say.."no way... I got that and dont need anything else!" | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 12/6/2006 8:35:23 AM | Communication is the key, but you also have to be aware that the 5% of married lieing males/females, on here, can pathologically lie..and are VERY GOOD AT IT..hmm am I speaking from experience..YES..YES I AM! I am very cautious, am open with my previous experiences and have learned from my mistake..If the man is into you then he'll delete his profile..If not..then I'd seriously start wondering more...this is common sense..but sometimes emotions run over rationality.
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 12/6/2006 5:58:37 PM | i think they are just simply PLAYING THE FIELD.... I once dated a guy from here.... he was separated that time & going through a lot in his marriage. he moved here from calgary & his estranged wife told him to move back to vancouver to sow his wild oaths of what he wants to do with their marriage to work things out or not.
then when i met him in person, we had an instant connection. something happen between us & his upcoming wedding anniversary was coming up.... and he made this commitment that if his estranged wife calls on their anniversary date to work things out with their marriage then he would get back to me about what he has decided then he got the call & told me that she was coming back in vancouver to work things out with him.
but yet he is still active & has a profile in here which still says his single rather than married seeing his wife is back with him & living in the same place as he is & he is still looking to hang out --he has met other women after me & 2 happens to be friends of mine.... they end up sleeping with him also like what i did with him so they got the same line that he is working things out with his wife & that he wont see them again.... basically he was doing one night stands with a couple of women from here while his wife is unaware of what is going on.
to be honest here, with all 3 of us- got scammed over believing him he should be honest with his wife that he is cheating on her while they are trying to get back together... although this happened sometime in august or so I wish men be honest that if their intentions are to just sleep with women & dump them after its more easier than to lie about what they really want it would be less painful & humiliating, dont u think so! | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 12/7/2006 1:19:38 PM | | I know exactly how you feel, i would like some email's here dbrphilli4@yahoo.com. The boyfriend that i have just moved in with is on many dating sites and porno sites. We have been living together for less than a month now and i have talked to him about it he only say's i am being silly and basically that it is for only fun and no lady's really expect to meet him but he invites them here to our house and says all kinds of things to them, is it like he says only fun? or is it me? he gets mad when i check up on him and i havent recently because i just dont care anumore, actually i dont care, now because him and i went over all this many times before and he still acts this way. We have other problems that bother me more now, i jumped in to this relationship without thinking much and getting to know him first, he comes home from work and he checks the house to make sure everything is in its place he is such a perfectionist that it is patitic and drives me crazy. If i load the dishwasher he lookes inside to make sure i put the dishes where he thinks they should go. and goes behind me on every freaking thing and re-does everything i do. he comes in screaming at his daughters and goes to bed screaming at them, this is really bothering me cause i feel like i dont belong here with them. I luv xmas and it has always been my favorite time of the yr. i have been cheated out of it this yr. because he has his own way of putting the decor up for xmas that he takes all the fun out of everything and i was raking the yard a few days ago n he even stood there watching me making sure i was doing it right to where i just got dis-scusted with him and give him the rake and quit doing anything after that at all. I feel like i have no place here at all and would like some input at my email which is ... dbrphilli4@yahoo.com | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 12/7/2006 2:47:29 PM | | Yea i know what you mean. My friends all tell me what he is up too also, he says these sites that he is on is just for fun, but then again i had another guy tell me that he wanted me and only me but then also said he wanted me and someone else at the same time and that the other woman in our bed was just a toy, i told him she is a human being not a toy, am i wrong? he wouldnot sleep with just me he had to have someone else a 3some also and i feel like there is more to this guy i live with now, Mark than what i know now, i mean if i cant make him happy enought to give up his sites than i need to move on, right? | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 12/7/2006 8:40:11 PM | I have experienced that before. But it took me a long time to realize i deserve a better man.
2yrs ago, i met a guy on lava, we fell hard for eachother and decided to make it official, we both deleted our profiles. During the two years we were together, he broke up with me several times, after sorting out our differences, we would get back again. During one of our break ups, i decided to search for him on dating sites(i was lucky he never changed his username), and to my surprise i found him on a couple of sites. I found out that all the time we broke up, he would jump back on dating sites 3days after. After we got back again, i confronted him about this and he deleted his profile or maybe hid it(am not sure). We finally broke up in Sept. 06, as usual 3days after our break up, he went back on dating sites, i was really hurt by this and decided to go on dating sites as well. After the break up, we still kept in contact.
In Nov., he came back to ask for forgiveness, this time he seemed as though he was genuinely sorry. He told me he had had a couple of bad dates and realized that we were meant to be together(total bullshit). I felt sorry for him and decided to see if we could work things out( i knew our relationship was doomed, but i didn't want to give up because i was afraid of hurting). After a couple of weeks of seeing eachother, i decided to test him. So i told him lets both delete our profiles, he said he would. So i gave him 4days to do this, but he never did. I asked him if he was keeping his options open, but he said he was only on dating sites to make friends. Ofcourse i didn't believe him, cause the name "dating site" is not for people that want to make friends but for people who want to date someone. So i made my final decision, to cut him off completely, though it was extremely hard.
We no longer contact eachother, which is for the best. Sometimes the hardest thing to do in life turns out to be for the best...
Keepingstep i hope you find what your looking for.
Good luck to all..
Happy fishing.
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 12/7/2006 8:56:07 PM | Dbrphilli4, no one can tell you what to do. People can only give you advice but in the end, you are left to make your decision. Follow your gut feeling. From what i have read, he doesn't seem like he treats you right. He sounds like my ex, except for the porno sites. My ex never allowed me to use his computer whenever i was at his place, but he was more than welcome to use mine (which got me thinking). Little things like that just kept raising red flags. I mean, we all have our limits. You have to think outside the box.. I understand how you feel, and please never think your the fault of whats happening in your re/ship, never blame yourself.He is an adult and he makes his own decisions and your not to be blamed for them. I know you deserve better... I feel very happy being single, less stressed and free. Being in a re/ship like that weighs you down and you don't need that. We all deserve to be happy .
so best of luck. | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 12/8/2006 7:34:09 PM | DentedKnight...
IF you were married/living with/serious with the person..and the situation wasnt just posting in the forums. What then?
If you are NOT single, and in a relationship, would your profile not mirror this fact?
See, its not a case of having a self made problem, some of these people.. NOTICE I didnt say men..are infact dishonest.
It was my husband that was trolling around..
Incidentally..... I have seen the "other women" with my own eyes.. and it sure wasnt an innocent post in the forums.. it was sucking face in the parking lot..
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 12/10/2006 7:28:58 AM | | Yes don't you just hate it when they say, "It is all in your head? That is crap, and i hate it when you catch them on porn sites and emailing the lady's and getting phone numbers and he say's "Oh it is just for fun, it don't mean anything.What a crock, then you turn the tables on him and do the exact same thing, and he don't like it all of a sudden it is for him not just fun that you done it to him. He He. | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 12/10/2006 7:43:46 AM | ""Wow! Talk about a gender dividing issue...lol
Seems that the men generally say ask him, could be X, Y, or Z and even possibly the chance he's a jerk. Women are generally saying...could be X, Y, or Z or he could be a Rat Fink Liar!
Funny.
Wait one, I'm in a relationship on and on this site posting in the FORUMS.
Wait one, My S/O is in a relationship and on this site posting in the FORUMS.
Oh Mi God !!! I'm being cheated on!!
Am I the only person here that reads the underlying subtext and realizes that the key issue here isn't trust, but what partner decides who the other interacts with and how? ""
your out to lunch dentedknight........its what the profile states thats important...if it says 'just here for the forums' then I guess a woman is safe............ | |
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What a sweet man you are. Yes it is hard to find these day's, but i think you are one in thousands that would take your profile off and i hope you find someone to spend the rest of your life with because it sounds like you really deserve it and who ever she is will be so lucky.