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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 1/23/2006 9:10:51 AM | Hi
I know this is quite common on dating sites.I know a young lady who met someone on here and is engaged and he cancelled his profile.Meanwhile she signs in everyday.But her purpose could be to keep in touch with friends she met on here.I'm not sure.But I think it's time she moves on.I don't know if her spouse to be is aware of it.
Yes people love to be on the forums,but if you met someone,that time can be spent on them and not on forums.
Relationships is about communicating,if you want them to work out.So you should sit down with the guy and tell him that you would prefer that he no longer should have a profile on the site..If he's against it then you have a decision to make.Why sit there quietly and let it get to you.
Pretty straightforward,he is either interested in focusing his attention on you or he can go and focus his attention on his dating site friends.
I really don't understand why people can't communicate.How can people be in relationships when they can't be upfront with their partners.You can avoid wasting your time and also from having your feelings hurt. | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 1/23/2006 9:20:33 AM | why should you stop talking to people on forums because you have a mate??
Whats the difference if you talk about things like sports, weather, world news on here or if your talking with coworkers or people on the bus?
Yeah its a dating site, but as long as your clear your not looking to date and he can show he's just talking and not flirting, then why should she care?
People do spend time together, but its ok to do stuff by yourself or with your friends as well. They don't need to be joined at the hip. | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 1/23/2006 9:32:11 AM | no, its a whoever wants to come onto the free site and chat site. This subject has been overdone.
The forums are free to anyone. If marrieds weren't allowed then there wouldn't be an option on the registration for putting married. As long as he makes it clear on his profile as well that he's only to chat, as well.
Talking on a public forum is not cheating. And it is possible to find someone you end up getting along with on here and make friends with.
people that have never experienced things in life (like marriage) are real quick to judge others based on their limited experiences in life. When your in their same situation then speak based on that experience.
Some of the moderators are even married. There's nothing against coming here if your in a relationship. She can easily look at his forum postings to see what he's saying. Its between the couple, not strangers.
Talking about the recent football match shan't make her worry much I suspect. And again, yes you can find good mates on here that share common interests (maybe they don't have many in real life) and it shouldn't bother total strangers what other total strangers do online. Thats really between them and their mate to worry on.
Innocent until proven guilty I thought. Don't jump to conclusions about people's intentions about being on the forums. | |
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tjcj
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 1/23/2006 8:55:45 PM | I really wish I had read these posts a long time ago as I got caught up in a similar situation. I pretty much called him on it, and we agreed to mutually move on. He told me he found someone he is serious about-however he is still active on this sight and a couple of others. I got played, and learned a very hurtful lesson, but the key word here is learned. Lotsa players out there, keep this whole on-line thing in perspective, you'll do much better. I've found that meeting people in real-life vs. cyber-life is the best way to go. Although the forums are great for insight!!! Good luck to you.  | |
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Mr1?
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Ehukai
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 1/24/2006 8:58:50 AM |
Talking on a public forum is not cheating. And it is possible to find someone you end up getting along with on here and make friends with. Innocent until proven guilty I thought.
I didnt take the time to read all the posts on this subject but personally I think that its wrong to keep any profile up if you are in a relationship. Not because everyone who has one is "cheating or guilty" but because it IS POSSIBLE to find someone you end up getting along with....and why risk that. We are all human....it is in our nature to be attracted to people other than our significant other....and it is our duty NOT TO PUT OURSELVES in tempting situations. We may come here with the intent to find friends but temptations there will surely be!! Not to mention mistrust for the other party, whether they say they are fine with it or not.
In my personal experience...I've known and dated a lot of guys who "keep their profile up" on a dating site (which...stop fooling yourselves..this IS) and they were ALWAYS cheating and lying. I've also known and met some really great people online...they always took down all profiles when dating someone. | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 1/24/2006 11:09:36 AM | Well.. I checked back and found this thread still active. So, I will add information to it here.
When I started this thread..I was refering to Yahoo.com not POF.
They do not have a forum.
I agree that coming here for the forums is not a cheating thing.
I have reach an understand about on-line dating.
If you are in a committed relationship (and BOTH parties need to agree out loud to each other that this is the case), then the profiles on those non-forum sites need to be deleted...and here, the profile needs to indicate that you are not looking to date.
If you are in such a relationship and you haven't been verbally out in front about your expectations then you are probably not justified in being hurt over it.
If you both have agreed, and you find that the other person hasn't changed their profile (or deleted it)...then you are being played. | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 1/24/2006 5:26:38 PM | | i would say you have reasons to feel hurt if both of yas had a real commited serious relationship going.me personally once it gets serious and i know we both agree were dating exclusively i would take myself out of any dating site.but i wouldnt jump the gun and take myself out of a site just after knowing a girl for like a week.cause from my experience stuff can change very fast in a week.i met a girl on this site the past summer.the first week it we were chatting online like 2 lovebirds 2 weeks after we met and we both found out we werent what we were looking for.you see.better to wait a bit before taking yourself out of theses sites.but like i said once it gets serious and its understood between the both of yas its serious than take all your profiles out.otherwise its dishonest and it means your looking for something better.and if your looking for something better than why date the person your with.that means your just using them. | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 1/24/2006 6:11:07 PM | I am surprised that this forum is still so active.
The man I was talking about I met on another site (he's still on that one to) and there are no chat rooms or forums on it. Yes I confronted him about both sites and he said he was chatting with friends. Well that was the last time we spoke. He hasn't called me or contacted me in anyway since.
His loss as far as I am concerned. | |
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