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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 11/29/2007 12:12:22 PM | selenanj....as a matter of fact...POF is the only site I'm on....and no I will not smoother the man I'm with...but I have a life other than POF....let me see.....I have a family.....I have a job......I ballroom dance...and will start training for competition after the first of the year......I also have my friends that I hang out with and go shopping with.....so when I do find the man of my dreams....let me see...He will be right up at the top of the list...sooooooooo....I will not have time for these sites....also...the ones I do want to keep for friends and email buds....well I have their personal email addresses...so this lil fisherlady...will not have time for this........ ladybug | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 11/29/2007 1:41:33 PM | | In a straight forward reply to your forum, I don't think He is really into you if he still needs to check out dating sites. It is so easy now a days to get on many dating sites, look around for someone better, then dump you. Honestly if this guy was serious, he would have deleted his profile in a flash! Beware of this profile and same man under TIME 2. | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 12/26/2007 12:52:46 PM | If you were dating on a regular basis of at least a couple times a week, it would be very gentlemanly of him to state that plainly and clearly on his profile. Say in CAPS at the TOP of his BIO. So that every woman that visited the site would know that he is currently dating someone.
This is what I always do and I've seen many others do it as well. Though they were all woman, since I don't browse mens profiles. lol
My question would be for the women. If you were seeing someone a couple times a week. How would you feel if the guy put a disclaimer on his profile saying that he was seeing someone.
Would you feel that he was being to forward (albeit indirectly) ?
Would you think that he might have a possesive nature?
Or basically how would you feel if a guy you were seeing did that for you?
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 12/27/2007 7:27:38 AM | Haven't read what others have posted, so this may be redundant...but to me, it just depends. I have friends that are like me and don't give other addresses out, so the only way we can stay in touch is ON a given site. Doesn't necessarily mean one is 'looking', just wants to remain close to FRIENDS made there. There are some, however, who want to stay on a site just to keep their options open. Maybe they are liking being with you, but still dream of someone who just knocks their socks off, so to speak. In that case, I'd be wanting to know, and thus move on.
I think the only way you can know for sure WHY he's still on, is ask. I understand you being hurt, and you may or may not be justified in your suspicions...but the only way to know, is to talk to him about it. I would advise you to try and not put him on the defensive, but to calmly ask him what gives...you'll be more likely to get an honest answer than if you tick him off by being indignant.
Sandrick....I think that is the most considerate thing I've heard done on a date site...kudos to ya! | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 4/26/2008 4:54:50 PM | ok...this does go both ways....men or women...
if supposedly I was seeing someone more than just the casual weekend date,
first of all, I would figure out if it was just a matter of convienence for my friend and or myself
or something that he was willing to work at. I would lay the cards out.... That said,.......
Would you feel that he was being to forward?
Would you think that he might have a possesive nature?
......not really...cuz I would have already gotten or at the very least known, the answer to both those questions.
As for him or her going ahead and doing as you suggested without asking the questions, then the answer to your last question would be.....I would be thrilled should I actually have feelings for the guy and not been secure enuff to find out if it were mutual.....but....and there is always a but....if (and I use the word if loosely)I was just `dating` him to keep myself occupied then I would be flabergasted! How dare he!!!
LOL....good job I don`t date more than 2 times if there is a no ``feelings or chemistry` I`m sure I`d get a few negative responces to my opinions
Take everything with a grain of salt....or a Corona..I say | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 5/7/2008 5:37:27 AM | | I think the true basis of a relationship should be TRUST, and Communication.... When meeting people off a dating site, one might expect some form of continued contact with others UNTILL a Relationship ensues *When the word "Commitment" or Love are expressed, then I feel that both are obligated to be fair and honest with the other (and their own heart).. To meet others met on a dating site after the "commitment line" has been drawn is a sure fire display to both you and your partner, that you are not ready for "commitment"... Old habits do die hard, and there can be many pleasent people spoken with on these sites BUT Meeting alone is a form of shared Intimacy and that time, In my view, should be invested in the one you started . SO, Is your aim to be the social butterfly? potentially leading on others seeking a true connection?? Or do you wish to find a life's mate?? Be clear to yourself and others . I speak from having a special relationship and still allowed them 3 times to be honest and correct their ways... however the truth of their forrays (with my alias) was denied... my response was simply I cannot tell you how to act / do BUT I can account for what I will accept...Overt lies, or sharing, or being shopped I will not accept. we broke up. I am true to the word commitment. | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 5/7/2008 5:59:10 AM | hi and i feel for you. i understand what you are going through.
last year i was seeing some one that i was falling in love with and she was a player.
well after falling in love with her it hurt to know she was seeing other guys but she wouldnt commit. well we stopped seeing each other by her choice. but kinda kept in touch. she got jealous when i started seeing someone else. well the person i was seeing moved out of state. now we have rekindled our friendship and i still have feelings for her in a deep way. so after going back for more she is still dating other guys but is either afraid of or wont commit to just one person. im at wits end. i have just started to look for some one else on dating sites as here. i want her so badly but cannot not go through another painfull hurt like the first time. so now im trying to distance myself some. | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 5/7/2008 7:54:56 AM | | Since I am officially out of business I can comment on this. I am in a relationship right now but I only post on the forums. Maybe that is what dude is doing, but to be honest, yeah I still talk to girls on plenty because chicks still contact me for some reason. So your dude is probably doing that also. It makes sense to keep fishing. | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 5/12/2008 4:06:29 PM | This happened to a good friend of mine who had been in a "committed" relationship for 10 months. I discovered his profile up on another dating site. He had been "active within 24 hours." I checked it again a week later and it said "active within 24 hours."
There were other problems going on with them also, not just this. I finally decided that if it were my "significant other" doing this that I would want to know so I told her about it.
She asked him about it. His excuse was this: "I put my profile up last year and have just been too lazy to take it off. I get emails with my matches and I click on some just out of curiosity." Okay, he's too lazy to click "delete profile", but not too lazy to keep checking matches each week? ??
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 6/3/2008 3:42:53 PM | Had this happen to me at this site.
Began dating this woman. A few weeks later she wants to be exclusive. And I agree.
She says she is going to take down her profile. In the mean time I remove my pics and delete all the text in mine basically leaving it blank. A few days pass and her profile is still up. Basically I am waiting for her to remove hers and I would follow suit.
Finally a week later and her profile is "gone".
A couple of weeks pass and decide to login and to delete my other wise blank profile only to find hers in my list of people that had "favorited" me.
But why couldnt I find her profile with a criteria search or user name search?
Because she had set her profile to "private". Thus hiding her profile from search.
The only way I found was because she had saved me as a "favorite" thus linking our profiles.
And I also could see she had been active recently.
Later that night I asked her if she had deleted her profile . She denied still having an active profile. When I told her otherwise, she claimed she thought she deleted it. Yeah right.
Then her story changed to she kept her profile to make sure that i deleted mine.
BS.
She is still on this site under the same user name. Just beware out there people. | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 6/4/2008 7:45:43 AM | i guess it all depends on what he is doing on the site. Most people doesnt use this site for just dating they some time use it to look for friends, hang outs, talk email, intimate encounter, activity partner and forums etc etc.
i would suggest that you be open to him, after all honesty is the best policy. If you are a straigth forward person then ask him the reason why he is still on the site (maybe he got a reason). It's one way to to learn more about him and how he feels about you (if you talk to him).
You shouldnt get hurt about it. If you are unsure about him, dont give your 100 percent love or even dont start falling for him, it hurts more if you get hit rock bottom. Give it more time. | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 6/4/2008 8:57:42 AM | Hello Keepingstep, The same question goes to the ladies, i started a new thread, asking, why is it that the ladies profiles say's that they are single, and when a guy shows interest, the lady would say she's already engaged OR seeing someone. I asked that question, and all the ladies ignored the post, now this topic is here, and all the ladies, just want to rush in and write until they almost need more papers to write on this page. I think the ladies have to know what they really want from guys, and the ladies should also check their own personal profiles properly, before they come out and ask some certain question.
(CHECK YOURSELF, BEFORE YOU WRECK YOURSELF)
Now back to your question, i think you should't blame us guys, because it is what you ladies do, that discourage us from some certain things.
So i tell you somehthing OP,
"If you do me, i do you,
Man no go vex".
Your boy friend need more evidence to be sure you are not also doing the same thing. And are you really sure after you deleted your profile, and you came to this site just to see if he was still visiting, are you really sure that was what you really came to see? Because am thining something else..........
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 6/4/2008 9:07:03 AM | | It all depends, did you talk about this, you deideced to take yours down, which to me is a smart thing to do, but something you both should discuss. Seeing someone on line on a dating site is going to get anyone annoyed. The way this should work, is if things go well and you both feel its going somewhere, you should both talk about it and mutually agree to remove your pages, if either hesitates, well that says a mouthfull. | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 6/4/2008 9:51:47 PM | I met a fella I thought I had a relationship with on here.I took my profile off.Lo and behold my sis spied his still on here every day still logging in and sure enough one day I found a nice lil poem he'd wrote to a gal on here,same as he done me.The guy I thought was my fella never was,he was just a player.Watch out ladies,he is still on here,playing his same ole tune.I hope he don't break your heart too.Well,I've moved on,I'm back for more | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 6/5/2008 10:05:10 AM | i wish there was a separate section also, seems many on here are not looking etc
also locally at many of the POF events,. a lot of couples seem to come to them
just to socialize, which I think is wrong, whats the point of a singles pool playing
night if, 5 couples show up, all from plentyoffish etc, they as a couple can go play
pool whenever they wish, why do they need to leech onto a POF event, so now I
don't even bother attending them, as it seems it's always the same people , either taken
or not seriously looking, I know, I've been to 10 events, and some of these people have
been to 30 , and are still single lol so in my mind Plentyoffish events are just that, social outings with no real motive for mating, or picking someone up, although some do meet, I think there are the exception not the rule, | |
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