| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 6/5/2008 10:19:25 AM | Well, I met a guy from a dating site a while ago. We have been seeing each other a couple times a week ever since. This is getting serious.
I deleted my profile from that site. I don't want to appear to be available when I am not.
I'd like to know how long is "a while" and what does "seeing each other a couple times a week mean"? Have you been having casual sex for the last month and you have been getting attached or you have been actually dating (going out) for like 6 months or so. Have both of you made it clear to each other you are in a relationship or are you just assuming that? He definitly is not acting like a boyfriend if he is yours and you need to communicate that to him. Sounds to me he is still on the market and looking for something better to come along. I know this hurts but sometimes it isnt you it's just not the right time for a man to settle down. Good luck.
You can play his little game and date others or dump him. | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 6/5/2008 10:35:43 AM | A lot of the guys are not sure what they want or what they are looking for. Some write
things in their profiles that are not anything they really want. have run into that many
times already. Not ready for anything, or still hung up on the last girlfriend, want to
play the field, confused or whatever. They will go with one person, and leave the
profile up to see if it works out or not. They have more options open that way.
One man I just met recently has long term on his profile. When we did start talking, he
continued to talk constantly about his exgirlfriend. Mad at her and couldn't stop
thinking about her. I was wondering if anyone knew why so many men talk about
their exes and past experiences to the women. It is a turn off and not fun to listen
to. u get really tired of it. So many of them live in the past and can't let it go. It
will hurt a relationship that they might start,when they continue to do that.
I think that some guys just are not sure, so even if they are dating someone, they
leave the profile up. Many very unsure of themselves and scared to have one person,
and maybe fall in love and commit to them. Also, the older ones, in 40s and 50s
have gotten too comfortable with their single lives and don't want to have someone
there all the time. Just want you when they want you. Write all that stuff in the profiles
that sounds good, but not always true.
Would love to have someone genuine that does what they say.
bonnie | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 6/6/2008 5:33:24 AM | well, they should remove the just friends catagory then! we met on this site and we both go here for the forums and friends, we have met alot of people on this site. I have complete trust in my man and he trusts me. I guess thats a big plus when in a relationship. I am not wasting my time on my man. You are entitled to your opinion just like others are entitled to theirs | |
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kgrl08
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Joined: 2/13/2008
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 6/6/2008 9:58:47 AM | I think the friends category is for those who are not in a relationship,those who are single and just want friends,no strings,no commitments,not for people who are active in relationship,surely,unless your both anti-social,there are other ways to meet and make new friends and not on a "singles dating site" maybe one or the other is checkin to see if grass greener at times,and or feeding there ego! I know when I meet the man of my heart,I will be so gone from here! My opinion thats all,to each his own!  | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 6/6/2008 12:51:30 PM | Personally I think they are either just dogs or scared of where they have found themselves.
Most likely just damn dogs.
I just had this happen after 11 months of it walking, talking and sounding like a relationship. 11 months of meet the parents, hang with the kids, attend soccer/hockey/lacross (his kids) sleep together, cook together, connect on every possible level and then ~poof~ he's back on PoF with an updated profile. Nooooooooooooooo, not updated to say Not Looking...updated with new photos.
Yet in real life, nothing seems to have changed. Guess what...it's about to change now.
And before you even go there...my profile has been hidden from search for months and months. It reads Not single/not looking. It also show that i am active on the forums; which is the only reason I am even here.
Damn I'm pissed.
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 6/6/2008 1:06:15 PM | I personally think that if he knew you were checking up on him it might not be the best thing for your relationship as I have not yet (I am sure this one out there though) met a man who finds their mate distrusting them sexy. I might suggest you put your profile back up there because I don't think it hurts anything. After all, a little "mystery" is never a bad thing in a relationship! The bottom line is I wouldn't worry about it and just enjoy your time together with him.  | |
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| You cannot search a site unless YOU have a profile... so yours is still up?
Posted: 6/6/2008 3:44:26 PM | Hmmmm to search a site you have to have an active profile... So if you are searching your profile is active also. This is true on any site i have seen. Just an observation.
I found someone. We both agreeded we are good together. I do have friends and did immediatly write that I was off the market and wanted to see if we had a chance. I will delete mine in a few days. I did not want to be rude to those i have been emailing plus, i truly wanted to let searchers know that it can happen. You can find someone. He waited only one day and completely deleted his profile. Mine will be gone on Monday.
One can change a profile to hang out or friends only. What did he do?
Good Luck to both of you.
FYI, we are deleting both of our profiles and we have little time to see each other due to unexpected circumstances...... we are still committed enough to stop and not play games with each other. I am going with trust until provine otherwise... but i do talk and ask questions. Communication is the key to any relationship.....new or old.
Remember, none of us really know each other and the only way to do that is to talk.....REALLY TALK TO EACH OTHER...... Better to know the answer.   | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 6/6/2008 3:44:42 PM | I think if you never discussed that both of you would quit using net dating sites then he isnt truly doing anything wrong. Sure there is a possibility that he is keeping his options open but me, well Ive been here years. Had relationships and never closed my account but popped on genuinly to see if anyone I knew and am friends with have left me a message and I can quite honestly say Ive never cheated on anyone in my life in any shape or form.
I think you have trust issues anyway and that is a concern. I think you need to be honest and tell him you were checking up on him so then he can see you are bothered and then see if you can come to an agreement on where to go from here. Also just because he may agree not to go on sites like this one do bear in mind that sites like facebook and myspace are also 'social networking' sites and you can chat up opposite sexs if you desire and thats without the everyday temptations! | |
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kgrl08
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Joined: 2/13/2008
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 6/6/2008 5:18:56 PM | I agree with 'just me,'if you are truly in love and with the one u wanna be with,then get off site!You are either here for ego boost or tryin 2 get back at someone who wronged you,hahaha!!or you r a freak,and have no other way of meetin people,lest this site,heaven help ya! it just amazes me,but then again leopard dont change his spots,and I see where and what people do!!   | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 6/7/2008 12:16:20 AM | | When you say this is getting serious was that only on your point of vew? because if you are not sure YOU DEFENATELY should ask him. Just because you see a guy regularly does not mean you are in a relationship...... ONLY if it has been discused If you saw his profile active wy didnt you ask him?....... wy were you checking on him in the first place.....Wy did you feel the need to delete your profile? did he ask you too? or did you assume? I think You need to clarefy were you stand in this so called relationship.. otherwise you may continue to get hurt... without him even knowing he is doing something wrong.... beings he may not consider what you have as relationship! | |
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