| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 1/24/2006 6:55:06 PM | bucsgirl said:
My "guy" is still active on here as well. We met each other here, so we decided to stay here. Our profiles are clear that we're not here to find someone to "date" but for our friends and the forums. He reads my posts I read his. We're on at different times because of our work schedules. It's not an issue with us, if it does become one I'm sure we'll discuss it and decide what to do.
You say that you and your guy have made it clear in your profiles that you aren't looking for someone. The OP said that she deleted her profile, but he didn't delete his, that he was active on the site (Yahoo I think she said later) but she never did say whether his profile indicated that he was no longer "available" or not. If I understand correctly she confronted him about it and then never heard from him again so we may never even know what he thought about the whole thing.
If the OP is around, maybe she will enlighten us... | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 1/24/2006 7:00:09 PM | | cinnamon Hey sweetie, yeah I realize the situation may be a bit different. Actually, we didn't really even talk about it, just both changed our profiles at the same time. That's how alike we think. We just have so many mutual friends here, it'd be like moving away or something. So we didn't consider it a problem or even an issue. | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 2/6/2006 7:09:37 PM | | when someone on a site doesnt mean there looking for someone better there just looking for friends.if u dont trust them then it aint going to work out its a simple as that.u can boss them around saying get off that site or make them change the status.its a free country so trust them and if they break that trust then u will know he or she is looking for someone else. | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 2/7/2006 8:26:42 PM | | Obviously he hasn't found what he's looking for if he's still shopping. Let's be honest here, you didn't trust this guy if you got "curious" and went online yourself. You could confront him but I have a feeling he'll turn it around to say that he was checking to see if you we're on there. The problem is that these dating sites are like a large smorgasbord, people like to try everything that is offered. There are very few honest people on these sites which makes it hard the ones here hoping to meet "the one". | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 2/8/2006 3:55:02 AM | Exactly. This isn't just a dating site. Its a public forum. How is it cheating to post to a forum?!
If he wanted to hide from you...believe me, he would.
The fact that you found his profile so easily when he could have cloaked it under any picture and profile info shows he wasn't too concerned about being seen.
Just being here posting to a forum is in itself harmless. I don't get how your "shopping for options" by responding to someone's thread. Maybe he's bored or doesn't have a lot of social time and this is it for him. Maybe he didn't tell ya about it, because it didn't really occur to him that he had to report his every little doing to Colenol Girlfriend.
If your that insecure you need to communicate with him and maybe move on to another guy. I don't see the harm in chatting on here in a forum. Big deal. Some people DO come here to simply talk on forums. And its possible he will come into contact with other female humans in the real world too. How is that different? So if he goes to the grocery store or to work and speaks to a female he's "shopping for options" there too? Gimme a break. Way to insecure...
Besides as has been pointed out. I see your here too. | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 2/8/2006 5:34:21 AM | | I agree with young55. While maybe on the surface it may appear to be suspicious, there ARE forums here. And people who ARE just looking for friends. It's MUCH easier to assume and jump to conclusions than to consider all aspects and actually ASK someone. There ARE people of the opposite sex all over and people who are determined to cheat are going to find a way. Some of us are just friendly people and enjoy meeting people and having interesting conversations. It's ridiculous to think that those who are involved would NEVER talk to a member of the opposite sex again. On the other extreme, sure there are those who are gonna say they're only here for the forums and may be sending out emails trying to hit on women, there are married people who are blatantly looking for someone to cheat with. But that behavior is going to happen, whether it's HERE, a bar, the workplace or even at church. | |
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| What do you think of a guy who is in a relationship and is still active on a dating site?
Posted: 2/8/2006 7:33:28 AM | My experience>> me and my boyfriend met on the site..we are both still on the site, as we are organizing a POF party together, we love to read the forums and we trust each other, we changed a few things on our profile and had to change them back to receive mail about the party issues, but it is all about trust..! in a relaionship if you don't have trust, what do you have? Nothing!!!
After all you came back onto the site..found him on it, now your asking opinions about it, the trust is gone, if you want to know why he is on it, then ask him! then it is completly up to you if you believe him or not...!
relationships work based on trust, if you have no trust, you have not found your soul mate! | |
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