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| Why don't asian males dig mixed asian women?
Posted: 11/29/2007 2:01:50 PM | non-white/asian mixed people a "crapshoot" when it comes to looks?
Surely you are on crack, or something....Ever check out Rae Dawn Chong???? Over 40 and drop dead gorgeous! | |
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| Why don't asian males dig mixed asian women?
Posted: 11/29/2007 11:20:37 PM | "Why Caucasian Women don't dig Asian Males
BECAUSE MOST OF THEM CANT STAND THE MACHO STUPIDITY AND IGNORANCE...MUCH LESS THE REDUCTION IN STATUS...
WHY DO ASIAN MEN WANT WHITE WOMEN... ITS A STATUS THING.... IT HAS TO DO WITH CLASS AND CASTE AND DISRESEPCTING OF THE FAMILY.... THERE IS ALOT OF RESEARCH ON IT ON THE WEB... GO READ IT.... | |
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| Why don't asian males dig mixed asian women?
Posted: 11/30/2007 8:17:49 PM | Gabby & Lost - want to send a shout out ... Vietnamese, yeah - me too! 
I'm an equal opportunity dater -- and yes, my family had some issues INITIALLY with my choices. But as I continued forward with my relationships, my family got to know the person and saw the character, class, compassion, loyalty, etc. --- the attributes that I loved about each person, and my family grew to love the man as much as I did.
Gabby - I can't answer your question of why, but suggest that you not think about that issue at all. It's about finding that man (what ever race, creed, etc) who will appreciate you for all your glory!
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| Why don't asian males dig mixed asian women?
Posted: 11/30/2007 10:29:08 PM | Good God, a woman who understands marriage! A business arrangement or social contract that is very involved and rquires substantial negotiations--not sick at all, very intelligent. It is the only way to get a solid basis for the union.
You should do very well, my dear. Very well indeed, as long as you don't lose your mind when you fall in love and cave in to every ridiculous suggestion your mate makes. I should know how the mighty can fall. | |
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| Why don't asian males dig mixed asian women?
Posted: 3/21/2008 7:46:31 AM | How come I am just seeing this? EXCELLENT question. I think that, by and large, the ones raised in North America are okay with women of Asian and Caucasian heritage. Anything else, forget it......it just doesn't seem to count. I guess it's a good thing Tiger Wood's parents didn't have a daughter eh? She would be out of luck.
I can't believe I'm the first to say this, but this thread is offensive, mainly because it's foolish to carry on a discussion about why "this entire racial group" doesn't like "this entire racial group."
Listen, if there is a pattern what is wrong with asking the question? That is the only way one can get to the bottom of why some of these guys are so stuck up. It's interesting that only 3 Asian guys have come in here to answer this and this thread has been up for a while. I guess it's a lot easier to hide behind the computer, ignore e-mails :rolleyes: or lie and say you're "involved" (when your profile says nothing about it) and then practically LIVE on here. The guys I am talking about aren't here for the forums. They rarely post except to complain that White women don't want them and ignore THEIR e-mails.
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| Why don't asian males dig mixed asian women?
Posted: 3/21/2008 9:27:40 AM | Huh? Are you sure that CBC/ABC guys don't want a mixed girls. I mean, you certainly don't see many chinese-mixed couples around, but part of that might be a paucity of mixed girls to begin with. I would actually prefer a mixed girl. Haha, they're sort of like limited edition cars. Rare is good!
Almondcookie asked why East Asian men don't go for non-white/non-east asian women. I really can't speak for all CBCs, so I'll just talk about my own experiences (ya, I know that's 1 is a pretty limited sample size... but what can you do?).
From the time I left high school I've basically been surrounded by 3 kinds of girls - white, indian (mostly east), and east asian (and a few jewish girls too). I, like a lot of CBCs, work in a professional line of work (for me it's medicine), so I think that a lot of my experiences may be extrapolated to cover a good chunk of the CBC population. For a number of socio-economic and cultural reasons there are very very few black or latin people in my profession (in Canada). I think that out of approx 550 med students at my school there must be only 5-10 black ppl. So that's part of it - scarcity of women. I also find that indian women don't stray outside their ethnic group as much. And when they do, they often feel the need to be secretive about the relationship or the relationship ends after her parents find out about it. This is unfortunate because Indian girls are my favourite. =P
So that's basically it. When 95% of the ppl you hang around are white, indian or east asian and the indians are difficult to date, then you'll end up dating white and east asian girls. | |
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DonQ
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Joined: 1/10/2008
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| Why don't asian males dig mixed asian women?
Posted: 3/21/2008 10:07:12 AM | ok let me say women of any race can be very hot. Beauty is not now or has it ever been limited to race. IMHO
As for mixing the races, its inevitable. I really can't see anyone truly being of any one, pure race. If you look into their roots far enough, you'll find a blending somewhere. A friend/co-worker when I was in the AF was white but her husband was half black half asian (korean) . Their son got the best traits of the races in his gene pool and is the most handsome child I think I ever saw.
I guess all I have to say on this is if the asian men can't seem to find you attractive and desirable, thats their loss and for the rest of us, our gain. | |
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| Why don't asian males dig mixed asian women?
Posted: 3/21/2008 10:09:15 AM |
Huh? Are you sure that CBC/ABC guys don't want a mixed girls.
If they're mixed with White, sure. If they are mixed with Black, there seems to be little interest. Don't play the scarcity card either. There are a LOT of Black and mixed single women on campuses in Toronto. Why does it have to be just medical school? Why does it have to be someone in your profession? That's where the double standard comes. I notice that most guys don't even seem to have similar profession on the list. You write just to say hi to guys in the same profession and the e-mails are IGNORED!! Socio-economic and cultural? Come off it. I have had doctors in my family for 2 generations. | |
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| Why don't asian males dig mixed asian women?
Posted: 3/21/2008 10:22:07 AM | I don't have to date a doctor. The only women I see are those in med school. There are no black girls in my class... zero. I'd consider dating an attractive black girl if I came across one. That rarely happens. You may have doctors in your family. That doesn't mean there are a lot in med school.
You might consider putting up a picture. It would probably help. | |
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| Why don't asian males dig mixed asian women?
Posted: 3/21/2008 11:48:44 AM | Ok sorry, my response was a bit curt and unclear. Let's try again - this time I promise to communicate like a normal human being. But be warned... this is long and likely boring to some of you.
If they're mixed with White, sure. If they are mixed with Black, there seems to be little interest.
Well, I certainly can't deny that racism exists within the Asian community just like any other but I don't think you can chalk all of it up to racism. You might actually be part of the problem yourself. I don't know you, but I think that Black girls often face a problem similar to that of Asian guys. There is an idea that they are somehow less desirable than people of other races. Now there are plenty of reasons for this (mostly bs as you know), but my point is that Asian guys often make things worse for themselves by being very self-conscious of this and defensive. It sort of brings a negative air to social situations. I don't know if this applies to you but you might want to think about it.
There are a LOT of Black and mixed single women on campuses in Toronto.
Yeah that's true. I was specifically answering the OP's question about mixed girls, and they're still far rarer than White or East Asian girls. If you say that there's a 1 in 4 people on campus are East Asian and 1 in 20 of people on campus are mixed (don't know the actual number but I'm just making a point), and that one half of each group are male and the other half female, then the chance of an asian guy/mixed girl couple is 1/8 x 1/40 = 1/160. That's pretty damn low. It will be even lower when you consider that people of the same ethnic group tend to hang out a bit more with each other; not to the total exclusion of others mind you... but a bit more.
Why does it have to be just medical school? Why does it have to be someone in your profession?
I'm more likely to date somebody within my peer group simply because I hang out with them more. In fact, they're pretty much the only people I see; except for my patients... but that's just plain illegal.
I notice that most guys don't even seem to have similar profession on the list. You write just to say hi to guys in the same profession and the e-mails are IGNORED!! Ya, I agree it's different online. It depends on your profession really. I know that many of my female colleagues complain that for some guys are intimidated by professional women. We call those guys losers. I don't know about the guys in your profession... but you really need to put up a picture. That would really help online.
Socio-economic and cultural? Come off it. I have had doctors in my family for 2 generations.
I'm not saying that black people can't be doctors. That would be a ridiculous statement. What I was trying to point out is that there is a scarcity of black students in my program. If you look at nationwide statistics, my situation is pretty universal. Blacks are underrepresented in medicine. It's not right, it sucks, and it makes it difficult for me to find black women. This is also true of other fields where you see a lot of Asian guys - engineering, banking, etc. So while that obviously doesn't mean that black people and Asians never cross paths it does make it less likely. And yes, if you wondering, I also think that decreased interaction might mean that stereotypes become more pervasive. So that doesn't help either. | |
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| Why don't asian males dig mixed asian women?
Posted: 3/21/2008 12:14:21 PM | Okay, a long and well thought out response deserves nothing less than the same. I think it's important to get beyond stereotypes. Maybe in some areas Asians and Blacks don't cross paths in some communities. In Toronto, that isn't true. It just simply isn't true. There ARE Black women in medicine, banking and in companies that employe a lot of engineers. There are a TON of West Indian nurses in the UK, the USA and in Canada. So people do come in contact with each other. I read somewhere that if all of the nurses of West Indian heritage were to go back to the West Indies (and remember a lot of them are mixed and some are mixed with Chinese), the hospital system in the UK and in certain parts of Canada would grind to a screeching halt. Maybe it's different where you are.
My focus isn't whether the majority of Black or mixed Black/Asian women see a lot of Asian guys. Some do and some don't. The key here isn't what happens to a GROUP. The key is what happens when INDIVIDUALS do cross paths. No one can date a race yet many people are inclined to just cross entire races off their "list".
Now I expect this from White people, particularly White men. Frankly, many of them don't know any better There is little in our educational system that would produce a spirit of inclusiveness or sensitivity to and appreciation of other cultures. It's still a very Eurocentric curriculum. Don't beat up on me about it. I have known far more White people than Black in my life, far more. Based on what I have observed, it is rare for a White male to consider a Black female. PERIOD. Notice I didn't say consider and reject. It doesn't even get to the point of being considered or evaluated as an individual. You're off the "list" before people even meet you. There are excpetions but by and large this is true. I EXPECT that from White men. I don't expect if from men who are from visible minority groups themselves.
When I as an INDIVIDUAL who is Black but with some mixture send a polite e-mail to an Asian man (since that is the focus of this topic) who, based on his profile has a similar profession and a NUMBER of interests in common, I don't expect to be ignored. I also don't expect to be lied to and told "I'm involved" when it is clear this is a lie. This is before photos are even exchanged. I don't expect a man who is from a visible minority group to automatically cross members of another visible minority group off the list and then complain about rejection. Yet, I have seen it time and time again in this forum. When it also just so happens that the Black woman in question has some Asian heritage, well that is really ironic. Asian mixtures only count if one is mixed with White? That is the case of the OP and many others.
Any individual can only ask one thing of others, to be treated with respect and dignity and to be evaluated on the basis of what they as an individual have to offer. I would expect male members of a visible minority group who themselves have faced a lot of rejection to display a little bit more sensitivity and at minimum some basic courtesy.
I agree with you, it is a bit better in person. | |
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| Why don't asian males dig mixed asian women?
Posted: 3/21/2008 3:48:08 PM | | Almondcookie, don't give up, there are actually Asian men like myself out there who love the look of darker skinned women. I personally would love to check out Toronto and Montreal one day soon, while I don't care about race, I still think there're just aren't enough Black women here in Calgary (I've only managed to date one) and would love to meet more. | |
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| Why don't asian males dig mixed asian women?
Posted: 3/21/2008 4:06:57 PM | Everyone has their own tastes. I doubt it's a blanket thing or a cultural thing where absolutely every single asian male doesn't dig mixed asian women.
Remember no generalizations are wholly true....
not even this one.
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Joined: 7/4/2007
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| Why don't asian males dig mixed asian women?
Posted: 3/21/2008 5:58:01 PM | Probably because (not to stereotype..but from the selection of clothes available here in Vancouver BC..it seems my guess is right...)... asian women usually have no butt or boobs. If they do - it's usually either plastic or from "trying to hard to be someone they aren't".
(Its impossible to find a good pair of pants in Winners in Vancouver)... | |
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LBA26
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Joined: 9/2/2009
Msg: 95 | |
| Why don't asian males dig mixed asian women?
Posted: 9/10/2009 7:30:49 PM | | arrrg retarded but if your mother didn't like asian guys they are just giving a good assumption on their part and leaving you alone. i mean u can't go wrong with that ever right? | |
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LBA26
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Joined: 9/2/2009
Msg: 96 | |
| Why don't asian males dig mixed asian women?
Posted: 9/10/2009 7:37:20 PM | | i dated a mixed girl but they was on an MORPG and she was like 11 when i was 16.... yea i know. ps: she so made the first move, oh and u can't tell that i was asian by my screen name what so ever and most players picks light/tan skin ton. just looks better, white makes u look fat haha. | |
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| Why don't asian males dig mixed asian women?
Posted: 9/10/2009 7:37:45 PM | I think the reality is that Bi-racial asians (often white/asian) often prefer the non-asian when they live in both worlds.
Well, that's my experience. | |
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