| What if you meet someone on here thats bipolar and is an alcoholic?
Posted: 1/24/2008 11:28:24 PM | I could go on and on, but are the people above all that bad? With proper meds, many of us are normal. Most of what you hear about bipolars however are the horror stories of people that aren't properly medicated or haven't found "thier right pill" yet. Thanks again gotapulse.
Saying medicated people are either boring whatever and its in between depressive and manic states if very ignorant. one state either manic or depressives brings episodes that are disturbing to say the least mildly effected episodes seem like hey this is a real cool , up person. or midly depressive ahh theyre going thru stuff. but the real episode is hardly normal.taking med between each episode only might decrease or temper manic or depressiveness doesnt gaurentee anything What about the medication you take when in remission long as 6 yrs . If you see someone suffering on meds for the sake of this illness try and think what are the side effects. Allergic to the sun hmmmm ever had ecema, lethargy ever had a time where you just dont feel like getting out of bed or simply cant get out of bed. (not from the illness, mind you) Have you ever seen anyone with parkinsens disease, restless leg sydrom, extra prone to gum disease same as above, drug related And my favorite Increased Appitite, damage to thyroid glands
and believe or not they have personalities ranging from a Dr. in a hospital, Actors average as you or me to some of the worser off case senarios where they think no one cares just like the rest of us. Some into Booze some into drugs Trouble is they have to care more to survive and sounding like Mental illness is looked after by everyone else and the patient or person isnt really the issue. I repeat is just like you or I someone thinks thats boring boring is as boring does. | |
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| What if you meet someone on here thats bipolar and is an alcoholic?
Posted: 1/24/2008 11:50:03 PM | Run the other way fast and don't look back.....my wife is bi-polar and that is why I am leaving her.
What a joke, dont Look back .......my wife YOU MARRIED HER
like I said before narcissim is a mental illness that cant be cured or medicated it also is never to blame laizee fair attitude will pick the obvious to pounce on and be in denial they could fail or be a problem to anyone what about her now is she happy youre out of her life too. | |
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| What if you meet someone on here thats bipolar and is an alcoholic?
Posted: 1/25/2008 12:25:19 AM | RUN LIKE FUKK WHILE YOU CAN , BEFORE THEY GET UNDER YOUR SKIN!!
My ex-pasrtber's bi-polar and also an alchohilc , a very explosive and destructive combination , its never going to work trust me its took me two years to get over the stunts and antics that were pulled on me , my family watched seeing me decline further and further the more i was getting involved with her .
The doctors call it bi-polar.....its just a fancy word for being a complete nutter and the sooner you think down that road instead of feeling sorry for them then the sooner you can come to terms with and move on for the better.
The hardest thing to accept's no matter what you do to show you love them , no matter how hard you try , its never going to be enough.............bi-poars cannot be trusted they are compulsive liars and have no remorse of guilt for the things they say..........more to the point they act up on this so called condition and use it as a pathetic excuse for their outrageous behaviour.
Run like the clappers mate !!!!! | |
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| What if you meet someone on here thats bipolar and is an alcoholic?
Posted: 1/25/2008 1:16:34 PM | At an earlier time in my life,id have said that with meds,they would to me be someone id stay with.
But after meeting someone on this site who is bi-polar with mania,and relapsed on alcohol,and the total insane things he said and did,and then decided to kill me because I was the reason for all the evil in the world. With a cross bow......
Today I say....RUN RUN FAST!!!
Seems they always think they no longer need their meds and stop taking them. And the outcome of that is never good.
Made the mistake once....I shall never again. Some mental health issues are bearable and just puts the person in different moods from one minute to the next,but to take the chance they will go "temp" insane......
RUN.....trust me. | |
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| What if you meet someone on here thats bipolar and is an alcoholic?
Posted: 1/26/2008 7:40:46 AM | | First off. If you really don't understand bipolar then you can't deal with it. I am bipolar. I was diagnosed 2 yrs ago. I have been on my meds faithfully and I have had no occurances of mania whatsoever. I have been in healthy relationships and my last relationship my ex was both bipolar & alcoholic. He also had another problem. It was smoking pot every night after work. I spoke with his dr and the pot thing usually helps the bipolar, but I am againest any drugs in my house. He was also addicted to his vicodin. When you are bipolar you tend to have addictions. I can not really say that I have an addiction. I don't do drugs, I drink every once in awhile, and I am a happy person. Being in the Medical Field I could handle this situation for awhile, but I must say after 2 yrs of him being on the rollercoaster ride with his meds, I finally called it quits. It was not a healthy relationship for me. He still resides in my house cause he can't afford to move out on his own and I need finanical help to afford my mortgage since I am laid off for 4 months. I guess what I am trying to say is that not all bipolar people are psychos. I AM NOT PSYCHO!! I have never had an ex tell me that I was. The only issue that I have with men is a trust issue and that is only because I wear my heart on my sleeve and I trust them until they do me wrong. | |
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| What if you meet someone on here thats bipolar and is an alcoholic?
Posted: 2/15/2008 11:04:37 PM | | I believe that there are always solutions and options to any problems. If I meet someone with bipolar and alcohol problem, and I like him, I think we need to settle those problems first before going for a relationship with him. Relationship has its own complication-issues, responsibilities, nurturing.. and requires readiness of the people involve to handle those. | |
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| What if you meet someone on here thats bipolar and is an alcoholic?
Posted: 2/16/2008 12:55:04 AM | Alcoholic? Walk in the opposite direction.
Bipolar? If they are properly and willingly medicated *AND* in ongoing therapy you might have a chance at a wonderful, rewarding and at times difficult relationship.
The two combined (which is not unusual) spells disaster.
Keep in mind that bipolars and alcoholics often have comorbid afflictions which exacerbate the primary condition. I was crazy in love with a bipolar whose illness(es) were bigger than anything I could ever hope to handle. He refused therapy. | |
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| What if you meet someone on here thats bipolar and is an alcoholic?
Posted: 2/16/2008 1:43:37 AM | re post 9/28/2007 msg 21o "am bi polar but I am mild and am not a violent person or take things out on people. I have also been reluctate to even post anything because I realize how brutal people can be on here."
I agree totally talking on a forum trying to be correct and see both sides Hah they ignor what is being said and just want how bad bipolar is I agree alcohalism wouldnt be the right mix but in a relationship you have to be realistic and include your own faults too. Why cant you pay attention to why you fell in love and love the real personality try to treat the person illness and addiction separately. It is brutal thes post all say one thing run like hell. thats all they want to hear they might all have 10x worse personalities which will never be cured.
Yes A woman working 8-10 hours a day with mental illness is going to burn out i felt for her maybe she cant handle it it but seeing familys give up be realistic most parents dont have to be responsible fot adult children. Mental illness from birth they already are prepared for adult mentally challenged but sudden illness no. If you fall and love and marry you cant assume other couples don't have way better repetoire and personalities than u maybe you picked the girl for her rotten personality and blame her illness and addiction? Some Men with bi- polor are teddybears and sweethearts but these woman say run get the hell away maybe they were taught to be AH's | |
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| What if you meet someone on here thats bipolar and is an alcoholic?
Posted: 2/16/2008 2:58:39 AM | Okay......let me get this straight. Run like hell is the best advice you can give someone on here folks? C'mon!!!!! If you don't have the disorder then how can you possibly know what the other person is going through? Are all of the bi-polar sufferers bad, dangerous or horrible people? No, they are not, and as a person with bi-polar, I am sickened at the close-mindedness of some of the people who commented negatively about sufferers of this disorder. I take medication for my disorder and I am just fine.
I don't fly off the handle and violently attack people if they upset me, and I darn sure don't take out my frustration on someone else's property if they get under my skin, either.
Instead of pitying those who have bi-polar, why not offer to understand just why the bi-polar sufferer is different from you, and trying to accept them even through those differences to you? There seems to be some sort of stigma attached to people who suffer from this disorder, that people need to fear all of we who are afflicted by
manic-depression. Actually, a noteworthy thing to add is that it is peculiar that persons of exceptional talent seem to have the disorder. Some of the greatest composers and painters, sculptors of bygone eras and centuries, plus even popular rock musicians of today have the disorder, Axl Rose to name just one. Sorry that I have been so cold and scathing in my post, but nothing gets my blood to boiling faster than someone who speaks negatively about a trait or disorder that, aside from proper medication and therapy, a person can do nothing about. | |
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| What if you meet someone on here thats bipolar and is an alcoholic?
Posted: 2/16/2008 4:08:44 AM | I sufferd from alcohol since i was a kid, I suggest if a girl or guy meets one, they make sure they had some long term off of it. Dont feel sorry for them, they are responcible for themselves and the choices they make. At first its fun, leading into long term hell. Thats been my experience, Now i have over two years and i love me, and life whitch i can have a normal realionship and love another. | |
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| What if you meet someone on here thats bipolar and is an alcoholic?
Posted: 2/26/2008 7:21:12 AM | | I briefly dated a bipolar who is 90 days sobor through AA. but he has an addictive personality which can be part of bipolar disorder. He is addicted to other things now. He goes up and down like a yoyo and I never know what mood he will be in from minute to minute. Frankly he scared me. He admitted he has a bad temper and is working on that too. He is working on so many things at the same time and is so wrapped up in himself I feel more like his sponser than his girlfriend. We have not been intimate thank God. he told me flat out he is dr jeckle and mr hyde in bed. That was a huge red flag for me lol. So I told him in a nice way that I did not think he was ready to be in a relationship yet till he spent more time working on his own issues. There is so much more to this story but I think you get the drift. On a simular note I have sadly run into several bipolars since dating on pof. The last 7 dates were all bipolar. What is up with that? | |
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| What if you meet someone on here thats bipolar and is an alcoholic?
Posted: 2/26/2008 3:43:28 PM | | After reading all the posts here I am almost afraid to admit I am bipolar myself.. If I listened to most of the people here I would just go out and drown myself. I mean if everyone feels so negatively towards us no one could possibly want to date us or have any sort of relationship with us, friends or otherwise. Its bad enough that it's much harder for us than "non-mentally ill" people but now we are deemed by many as undeserving of so called"normal" peoples love and friendship... Come on read some books, take some classes, volunteer time to an organization that works with the mentally ill. Educate yourselves people and find out what it all really means.. We are worth getting to know and love. Get to know us and see how really stong and loving we can be. | |
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| What if you meet someone on here thats bipolar and is an alcoholic?
Posted: 2/26/2008 7:24:07 PM |
Get to know us and see how really stong and loving we can be.
i can respect this request and it seems sincere. it comes from someone who has taken the initiative to address an issue.
problems arise, however, when you combine a mental/emotional disorder with a heavy dose of denial and throw in a drinking problem. you end up with a needy, abusive individual who demands your attention, but won't listen to reason and would rather wallow in misery while drinking themselves into a stupor on a regular basis.
now, if the person honestly admits they have problems and takes steps to help themselves, i would totally support them in any way i could. | |
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| What if you meet someone on here thats bipolar and is an alcoholic?
Posted: 2/26/2008 7:36:07 PM |
On a simular note I have sadly run into several bipolars since dating on pof. The last 7 dates were all bipolar. What is up with that?
Treasurehunter, I have a theory on this. Those that are dysfunctional in relationships recycle themselves back into the dating pool. I would think that a dating "pond" such as POF is heavily infested. | |
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| What if you meet someone on here thats bipolar and is an alcoholic?
Posted: 2/26/2008 8:51:13 PM | | Hi lil brooker I have talked to many girlfriends and they too have run into the same problem. Don't get me wrong I realize mental illness is serious and sad at the same time. I would not wish it on anyone. The ones I have dated were on meds and still had highs and lows so drastic it ruined any chance for a relationship. That is where the problem comes in. Falling in love with someone is one thing but having to deal with the drastic change in personality is another and then ad alcohol to it is a double whammy. | |
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| What if you meet someone on here thats bipolar and is an alcoholic?
Posted: 2/27/2008 2:09:30 PM | kittenshere on 2/16/2008 3 04 AM
Subject: What if you meet someone on here thats bipolar and is an alcoholic?
Message: the only logical advice is run like the wind and dont ever turn back. lol.
What a joke laugh here what are you trying to do on this site youve gone beyond advice youre just stiring things, your status in life is what, Sadist - Hater You just keep on posting never satified that you either hate bi polar people or alcohalics or is it just alcohalic bipolars | |
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| What if you meet someone on here thats bipolar and is an alcoholic?
Posted: 2/27/2008 2:28:43 PM | "Instead of pitying those who have bi-polar, why not offer to understand just why the bi-polar sufferer is different from you, and trying to accept them even through those differences to you? There seems to be some sort of stigma attached to people who suffer from this disorder, that people need to fear all of we who are afflicted by
manic-depression. Actually, a noteworthy thing to add is that it is peculiar that persons of exceptional talent seem to have the disorder. Some of the greatest composers and painters, sculptors of bygone eras and centuries, plus even popular rock musicians of today have the disorder, Axl Rose to name just one. Sorry that I have been so cold and scathing in my post, but nothing gets my blood to boiling faster than someone who speaks negatively about a trait or disorder that, aside from proper medication and therapy, a person can do nothing about"
What if there is a reason for bipolar disorder and its not a mental illness at all. It does invoke strange reaction from others and the above is true too. We all have our crosses to bear and thiese quirks bring out the best in other and it usually affects highly intelectual and Artistic people. Maybe this disorder brings out alot of things that would never have around if it never exsisted. Abraham Lincoin for one would he ever been elected if he wasnt bi-polar plus for campaigning. Patty Duke would she have ever been able to play the role of twins if she was uni-polar Think of Jack Nicholson without his polarity. | |
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| What if you meet someone on here thats bipolar and is an alcoholic?
Posted: 2/27/2008 3:04:25 PM | | I tend to get somewhat upset when I feel I need to defend the illness I have, which is bipolar disorder. I am touchy about it as many of us are. On this site in particular, I have seen profiles that say not to contact them if you are bipolar. If someone said don't contact me if you are blind, non-white, poor, uneducated, or have high blood pressure members would be raising nine kinds of hell about it.. Yes I am bipolar, I take my meds, see my Drs, I don't drink or do drugs and I monitor my illness very closely. I am in control of my illness it does not control me. If people are out of control, mean spirited, hateful users it doesn't mean they have a mental illness , it just may mean they are rotton human beings.... | |
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