| What if you meet someone on here thats bipolar and is an alcoholic?
Posted: 1/17/2006 8:24:32 AM | Man, oh MAN! This is definitely a hot topic as there are literally millions of people in this country alone who suffer with this debilitating disorder. Many bipolar people actually live fairly normal lives today thanks to modern medicine, but unfortunately it sounds as if your girl is fairly self-destructive. Some of the posts in this thread sound so much like what I spent the last two years going through with my g/f that it isn't even funny. She was one of the "more normal" types, but there were definitely times where it was total chaos. It was very stressful and I found it difficult to get "comfortable" around her. I tried to be as supportive and understanding as I could be, but there is very little reasoning with someone who has it. They generally already "know it all", so to speak.
I could go on and on about my experiences, but one thing you can do for yourself is to discover what it is that you were originally attracted to her by. Make sure that you don't get close to another person who is a negative influence on your life as life is too short not to enjoy. I spent so much time trying to convince my ex-g/f that life isn't really that bad and tried to involve her with fun activities. But like your g/f, mine was addicted to sugar and also suffered from OCD (obsessive-compulsive disorder), SAD (seasonal affective disorder), PCOS (polycystic ovarian syndrome), and she also showed symptoms of schizophrenia (her aunt has the disease).
PLEASE SEE MY REPLY TO THE TOPIC ON ADDICTION and how it affects relationships and friendships. | |
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| What if you meet someone on here thats bipolar and is an alcoholic?
Posted: 1/17/2006 12:36:24 PM | | Outdoorguy i commend you for everything you stated i read your post and i was very pleased and you seem to really be intelligent,I wanted to also tell you there are actors and actresses with bi-polar and manic depression,Sonny from general hospital suffers from it and he and his wife are just fine and numberous of others so just keep doning what you doing and keep it postive as always! | |
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| What if you meet someone on here thats bipolar and is an alcoholic?
Posted: 1/17/2006 7:20:50 PM | The Majority of these posts are verbatim my experience living 23 years with a bipolar. Unfortunately we were in two different realities. He would self medicate with booze and prescription medication and manipulate me on a continuum. Why, because he could! I take full responsibility for being in the relationship so long and thinking I could possibly find him help. Most people living a life with a manic don’t care to rehash the experience as it is scathingly painful. When they are nice it can be bliss, but when they are angry, which is more the majority; it can be a terrifying life. Temper tantrums, road rage,
Insolence and narcissism can make for a difficult existence with a partner. I was lonelier in that 23 year marriage than I have ever been living without a partner for ten years. The worst part is my adult child now has to deal with all her fathers’ antics. For two years after the marriage ended I slept with a hammer, pepper spray, a set of keys, and a cell phone under my pillow with a security system turned on, and shoes by my bed. Plus my lawyer was advised by a colleague that he had reason to believe my life was in jeopardy! So now that you are adequately informed by all the posts on this thread it will ultimately be your decision whether to continue a relationship with someone who is bipolar. People with problems tend to glom onto those kind and unsuspecting creatures waiting to save the world! I certainly hope my radar is up to snuff on this one. I would hate to let this get by me again! Good luck whatever choice you make! | |
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| What if you meet someone on here thats bipolar and is an alcoholic?
Posted: 1/17/2006 8:33:48 PM | I'm was diagnosed with being bi-polar but very mildly. I don't have any "crazy episodes" I just basicaly have imbalanced moods.
I think it all depends on the person. I've known others that have the same condition, some can be so hard to deal with that it isn't even funny, others can be so mild (like me and a guy I went to school with) that you wouldn't really be able to tell without looking for the signs specificaly.
And as for the whole drinking thing. I'm only 21, only been this old for a few months. I drink (almost) every weekend. I maybe have three drinks and relax a bit. But there have been times when I have gotten smashed. I don't think that for me it's a problem. I am perfectly happy watching tv and doing nothing, or going to a club and leaning against a wall lol.
Like I said though, it all just depends. | |
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| What if you meet someone on here thats bipolar and is an alcoholic?
Posted: 1/18/2006 7:45:04 AM | I want to comment again on your posts i see alot of comments suggesting run and run away from them,no we should run away from you all you are a hell of alot more Dangerous than any of us will ever be why because all of you are desperate to find someone off the internet don't care what kind of person they are what kind of background they have now what does that say about you all?then you againgst helping the sick well i got a problem with that suppose your mother went seenile or had to be bed ridden?or had Alzhemers would you run like hell like you stated on some of your posts or would you run period and also would you do like most kids do their elderly parents desert them and say the Hell with them huh?I would really like to know since all your comments are so negative and hateful againgst all sick people i mean think about what you are saying or better yet howw would you like the tables turned and Outdoor guy posted should Bi-polar people date stangers meaning people they don't know, people who are ex cons,peple who are rapists,etc how would you feel but he didn't state that i did and my point is you all are just as lost as we are and you are just as dangerous as a matter a fact more dangerous cause you could be lying about everything you print on here thats why OutDoorguy should watch out for cruel people like you all .Yes it is wrong to put down people with bipolar thats my point what if it was your moma would you run to the Hills then?or your child or any relative in your family lets take time to actually think about what we write before we write it because the things i have read has actually upset me but like he she you all are ignorrant to the facts and all this talk about volience,"Hell some people have hell in they sytem maybe thats what happen wit you women but don't dare put it on bi-polar because thats just a cop-out and a scapegoat alot of people use Bipolar as a way to get out of things but it doesn't work you do something wrong you going to Jail just like all the rest and people misusing bi-polar for mean as hell need to know that .You do the crime you do the time thats the way the law works and you all need to wake up and yeah we might be out of our minds as they call it for associating with your kind because i don't know about the other Bipolar people on here but my doc tells me not even to talk to people online but i do it for my choice,now as far as you all saying people can do better than us yeah right so ive seen they hook up with rapists,child moldesters,jailbirds,prisoners,men who like to whop you ass come on we can do alot better than that and have with no problems and last but not least we need to learn that our family will always be their for us no matter what friends and etc they come and go family doesn't so to hell with people that don't accept our condition!we are not living for you all we are living for ourselves and God put us on earth not you cruel humans who wrote such negative things about us! | |
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| What if you meet someone on here thats bipolar and is an alcoholic?
Posted: 7/12/2006 11:27:18 AM | | She had me feeling bad about myself. She had me believing things about myself that werent true. She made it all about her and trying to talk about this stuff with her would just send her into another huge mood swing...not worth it, just walk away. Sugarnspice's response is typical behaviour from someone who does have it. Bringing other stuff into it when it had nothing to do with the topic. Nobody was talking about their mother...they were talking about someone who is bipolar and is an alcoholic. Why would someone wanna stick around for that? If you care about the person the hurt does go away eventually and you move on. Bipolar people DONT MOVE ON! They live in the past and it affects everything. | |
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| What if you meet someone on here thats bipolar and is an alcoholic?
Posted: 7/25/2006 9:32:53 PM | | I can only tell you I married a man and spend 12 years trying to understand what in the _ell was going on this our relationship. We have been divorced 4 years and the same thing is going on; nothing chances, he continues on the same path; there is no bottom for him. Nothing is important enough to him to stop drinking and take care of himself. So I say RUN don't look back and don't get involved, there are plenty of co-pendents that will care for them | |
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| What if you meet someone on here thats bipolar and is an alcoholic?
Posted: 9/27/2007 12:21:31 PM | The best way to handle a situation like this is to refer them to a 12 step program (like AA or Mental Disorders). These 12 steps programs are truly a help to the one suffering. For those who are interested in an Alcoholic or Bipolar person, attend what they call Al-anon. These are both illnesses and can be addressed and help through these spiritual 12 step programs. But remember, the only one you can help is yourself, the others have to be willing to admit they have a problem and seek out help for themselves.
My dealings are to try to avoid them if they are not in a recovering program. They can make you ill by being with them if they are not recovering.
Just my experience of a 12 step program.
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| What if you meet someone on here thats bipolar and is an alcoholic?
Posted: 9/27/2007 12:30:45 PM | Speaking as a man that has Bipolar.... If the Bipolar is unmedicated and untreated in any other way, RUN!!!!!!!!!! You can't save them from themselves. Alcoholism is often a by-product of Bipolar, as people attempt to self-medicate.
The only way you should ever become involved with such a person is if they are already in recovery in both areas of their life. If that IS the case, then just treat them as you would treat anyone else. | |
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| What if you meet someone on here thats bipolar and is an alcoholic?
Posted: 9/27/2007 12:36:05 PM | Actually...for those who asked...it can be in adults who have it..a chemical imbalance in the brain. There is another form of it however, which is caused by a chemical imbalance in the endocrine system, which can at times affect the brain as well as other organs...and this is a condition that person is born with, whereas the other form often is caused by some form of emotional or physical trauma. I know...I and my son have the type you are born with....and while he has the most severe end of the range of behavior disfunctions, I am at the opposite end and function quite normally. Some bipolar adults can control their issues with medicine, while people like my son and I cannot because our chem levels go up and down so often during a day's time. Medicines do not self adjust, therefore we have to find other means to control our body's reactions to the chemical "dump" we sometimes get. I've spent years doing this and know what works for me, and pretty much what works for my son, although he is still in puberty, so all bets are off until he levels out some at adulthood. Still...people are people...would you write off a cripple, someone with heart problems, or cancer, or any other problem as undateable? I don't think you should because everyone has something to offer another, and that is love. It's just that people like us have to search for "unconditional" love.
The person in question....can't say about them. I have always been able to drink and handle it...take it or leave it, a little or a lot. Yet my non-bipolar sister can't. I will admit that in many cases, bipolarism and alcohol (or drugs for that matter) is definitely not a good combination, but you could say that alcohol or drugs are not a good idea for some who are supposedly normal. It really depends on the person. If you can't deal with that person's issues...then time to move on. That's 'bout the only advice I can give ya. | |
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| What if you meet someone on here thats bipolar and is an alcoholic?
Posted: 9/27/2007 12:44:33 PM | ~~~~~I just dont understand how you can NOT know something is wrong with her. I mean I am out of it but she has a 11yr old that I just love. She called me Dad all last year and still does if she see's me. I was the only thing that stood between her getting hit with a studded belt that this chick likes to wear to the bar~~~~~
I didn't read every page and every comment on this forum but from the sounds of this post, someone needs to get that little girl away from her mother!!! Hitting her with a studded belt??? She should have that child taken away from her and RIGHT NOW!!! | |
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| What if you meet someone on here thats bipolar and is an alcoholic?
Posted: 9/27/2007 1:02:13 PM | | It's not very unlikely to meet somebody off here is a drug addict, alcoholic, johnny,etc. I wouldn't even wait for them saying good-bye, I would run. I would fly even if I could. Somebody who does drugs and/or is alcoholic is not worth inhaling the oxygen in to their lungs. It could be put to better use. | |
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| What if you meet someone on here thats bipolar and is an alcoholic?
Posted: 9/27/2007 1:18:00 PM | "I just dont understand how you can NOT know something is wrong with her. I mean I am out of it but she has a 11yr old that I just love. She called me Dad all last year and still does if she see's me. I was the only thing that stood between her getting hit with a studded belt that this chick likes to wear to the bar. "
If for no other reason than the above.. authorities need to be contacted! Obviously you care about the little girl who considers you to be "dad"... do you want the little girl questioning for the rest of her life the Why of this one: "WHY did my "dad" not get help for me when my mom was abusing me so terribly"? The little one obviously loves you and feels loved by you in return.. do you want her thinking that love can stand back and not do something about dangerous emotional and physical abuse?
I hope you'll do the right thing.. it's almost criminal not to under the circumstances!
please  the little girl! | |
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