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Posted: 8/13/2005 10:56:22 AM | first off, i am plain myself
and a bit overwieght
i was skinny my whole life until about two years ago
( i am 39)
i don't care about the person's weight
i have dated rake thin guys and huge guys
it makes no difference to me, as long as the guy is honest about who he is
that said, since i have put on weight,
i have had more guys hitting on me than before
so, is it about weight?
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Posted: 8/13/2005 12:26:20 PM | I can careless how big a guy is, and as a women it is the threads like this and the attitudes expressed in alot of them that give us gals alittle insight on the guys that makes us stop and think about whether you have the attitude and presonality we want to be around....
The only women I know that care that much about the weight are the "Barbie Doll" types!!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 8/13/2005 1:16:01 PM | in my oppinion( being overweight myself ) i think that men and woman both want a good looking person to be with..but i know now, that it will never happen for me.. i look for men that are alot like me, inside and out... i know that a man with a perfect body wouldnt want an overweitht girl so i set my standards lower, even though i should not. regardless of my weight, i'm hot as hell and i am very happy with the men i have dated... 99% of them being much less than perfect... all ppl are sexy and beautiful in their own way.... remember, there are plenty of fish.. lol  | |
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Posted: 8/13/2005 3:21:46 PM | | I dated a guy who was around 350-400lbs once.... his weight didn't bother me one bit. He was great to cuddle with, nice stomach to lay my head on... I don't discriminate by weight, but granted I'm a bigger person so I really can't.. | |
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Posted: 8/13/2005 3:36:55 PM | "Women are all liars about this". Umm. NO we aren't.
Generalizations are highly annoying. I prefer a bigger guy. Taller with meat on his bones..er..bodyframe.. yeah! that's it !
I love getting lost in a hug from a teddy bear.
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Posted: 8/13/2005 4:29:39 PM |
As someone who stays in shape and takes pride in her appearance (I'm not goregous, but as least I make an effort), I'm annoyed when people who don't put out the same effort in their looks as I do whine about not being percieved as attractive.
the funny thing is, when a woman says this its fine, if a man says this in relation to dating larger women, we get raked over the freakin coals for it. | |
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Posted: 8/13/2005 10:07:13 PM | In my opinion, ( And, this only my opinion)
If you fall short in the "physical" category, make up for it in the in another category... We all have many facets, be it physical, emotional or whatnot....
If one is to sit and say..." I'm too fat", "I'm no fun", "I'm too hairy", or whatever... They have beaten theirselves....Who wants to hear "I'm not good enough"?....
Walk with pride my friend. If you exude confidence (without being arrogant) you will be surprised how much better life goes for you. You may not find your "dream girl" but, you will find many more friends and maybe a lady that will far surpass the woman you thought to be her...... | |
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Posted: 8/13/2005 10:10:25 PM | I have had some interesting experience in this area. I have been rejected by several women for being too small. On the other hand, I seem to be very attractive to large women. I have them hitting on me all the time.
I don't mind larger women. In fact, my last girlfriend weighed in at nearly 300lbs. When we first started dating she only weighed 230. I guess I treated her well, she ate when she was happy.
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Posted: 8/13/2005 10:35:34 PM | Hey everyone...Just my take on it, from an average-bodied (good shape, but not a porn star) -decent chest-sized, 5'9", brown eyed, reddish brunette haired girl...
I've dated a few thin men, two really muscular men, two heavy men (280 and about 350 respectively) and several "average" men (small tummy pooch and maybe love handles - maybe 20-40 pounds or so overweight).
Obviously, since I'm on here, none of them were the right guy for me. :-) The following is what I've found in my dating experiences.
I'm an active person. Which means I don't like to lay around and watch TV or sleep in for hours on end on my days off. Many of the men I dated that were even just a little overweight did just that. And you know what I got, when I wanted to get up at 8am on a Saturday and go to the gym? I got the speech of how "I must love the gym more than spending time with them" and I got the SAME speech if I wanted to go hiking with my girlfriends. OF COURSE I'd rather be hiking with them, but they didn't ever want to. I always spent more time sitting around watching TV with them because I was willing to NOT be active to be with them. And I wasn't happy. I was initially TOTALLY and COMPLETELY attracted to ALL of the men I dated, for their looks AND their personalities, sense of humors, wit, etc. but several of the ones that weren't in good physical condition were insecure and eventually took it out on me. The most possessive jealous men I ever dated were the two heavy ones and a couple fo the average ones. And you know what's sad? I was head over heals in love with one of them and finally had to leave for my own well-being. OF COURSE I would rather be with someone that wants to go to the gym with me and wants to eat healthy food with me (instead of me cooking two different dinners, which I've done) and wants to bike ride and hike with me. So, that's what I look for now.
BUT, if I see that ANY man has a written profile that I like (not even considering weight ot the picture), I'll give him a chance. I believe that my knight in shining armor could be in any package. I REALLY believe that.
One more thing, maybe some of these thin and pretty girls have been with heavy guys. I'll tell you one thing, the stamina of a man when it comes to the bedroom (in my own experience anyway) was much different between men who were average or thin as opposed to the heavier men. That's just simple heart health I think. But did I ever leave any man because he didn't have enough stamina? But do I like the feeling of a man above me making love to me? Yes, because I feel safe and enveloped in passion. But usually, with the guys with less stamina, I almost always was on top (or ended up on top) because they just didn;t have the stamina. I have to say I didn't like that. But it's something I know at least my girlfriends and I have discussed, so mabe other groups of girls talk about it too.
I know some of you guys may think all I said was bullshit and I'm lying, but I am seriously just trying to be honest. Good luck in all of your searches. Wish me luck too. It's next to impossible to find decent guys here in Vegas if you're not a size 2 - Triple-D chested woman. Oh well, I know the right one is out there so I'll keep looking. :-)
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Posted: 8/13/2005 10:49:25 PM | Funny..an overweight man thinking only THIN women are attractive..Honey that is the POT calling the kettle black and I wish you luck with the attitude you have...
Lets get real..All of you with the WEIGHT issue...SCREW YOU...I have read these post over and over in these Forums and You are so FULL of BS, No the damn wonder You are single...ME I have weight but I am BEAUTIFUL, SEXY and a DAMN wonderful woman.. I date but have yet to find the right man..Like any THIN woman, I'm no different except I am not a size 2! First TRY throwing away that Noose you put around your own neck with JUDGING someone by the weight and looks..TRY Looking at the whole package..Strange Idea, But hey It works...And yes so many put it's not looks that matter but when you write you quickly find it's lip service..I wrote to one BIG man on here because his profile sounded like he was a good man..He was much like you...
Let me tell you that any woman with Intelligence who is THIN or not will not find a man Like you with that ATTITUDE attractive..Has nothing to do with your looks as you are a handsome enough man..It's YOUR ATTITUDE!...
NOw you all blast me, But hell You all seem to be so hung up on the stupidest issues and then you whine because you can't find anyone....I've met a few good guys in the last week..and They are not shallow narrow minded individuals who think my size dictates whether I'm a good enough woman for them to soil themselves with talking to..
A fair warning to all of you..YOu keep those attitudes and you'll stay alone , you'll stay unhappy and you'll end up looking in the mirror one day wondering why...TRY looking deeper inside yourself...
WE all know what attracts us, but to keep posting stupidity about weight, looks and the like purely shows what JUVENILE people you truly are...DO you think the whole world is Hollywoood thin?..Get your head out of that closet and look around..If YOU prefer thin, then that is fine and you simply look for that, But why the hell do you all have this desire to post and whine about how unattractive big people are or that someone is ugly...God, Try enjoying life and seeing every person you meet as a Human being and you might have some hope.. | |
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Posted: 8/14/2005 12:03:16 AM | @ Orchid38
With all due respect, I certianly hope you were not referring to me. If you were, perhaps you took my post out of context. I for one, prefer a woman to have a bit of "meat on her bones",so to speak.
I was just saying that he should exude a bit of confidence. There is much more to a person other than weight or looks. Personality wins over anything, in my opinion. ( That and dark eyes, but that is another forum...LOL )
Perhaps you should look at some of my posts in the other forums? | |
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Posted: 8/14/2005 5:35:54 AM | Here for what it is worth from an honest fat man.
I dont understand. All big fat guys want the slim petite ladies because that is what society through the media dictates is beautiful. I am no exception, and I think if everyone spoke the truth the real truth all people Men and Woman want the slim shaply bodies. So why doesnt any one face the facts. How can any fat person complain that nobody wants them when they are in fact serching for the same small slim bodies. I dont mean to be confusing but be honest get naked and stand in front of a mirror and ask yourself who would be attracted to you. and search for the honest answer. I have I am a big guy and how could I expect a sweet youg lady to want my body. I have to do something about myself rather than blame women or call them names. I developed a heart problem that has kept me out of the Gym and I have been on both sides of this issue. The truth is I am now fat and although I know there are some beautiful Ladies that Love me as I am. Most want an attractive body to go with the beautiful person I have inside it. so I guess the real and truthful answer is for anyone who is complaining. be Honest with yourself and if you dont like something chande it including your body. | |
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Posted: 8/14/2005 6:59:02 AM | I have never judged a guy by his outside appearance. I don't care if they are short, tall, overweight or skinny. I't s what's on the inside that matters to me. | |
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Posted: 8/14/2005 8:06:45 AM | Well, I'm gonna have to agree with HUCKLEBERRY.
We are who we are, we all look different, and not one of us, is better than the next....or worse either!
As for taking care of yourself?? If you don't do that, I won't take another look. Now, this is not all to do with weight. Some of use have a more difficult time than others, due to physical urges. I for one am sometimes hungry when I shouldn't be, but at the same token, I am the only one that can change myself. I am always trying to preserve my looks, do things to look better. I workout, I've had varicose veins removed, spiders injected......and I'm not rich at all! Far from it! I understand the kind of life I've had until now, I couldn't do those things for myself, because I was busy taking care of my kids, working and (in my situation) everything (long story). I just try to look better to the best of my ability. I have acne yet on top of it all! Now talk about gross and ugly! And I am also overweight, actually by the Body Mass Index charts, considered obese. HOWEVER, I know for a fact, that it's all in the attitude I show others, how I carry myself, which also dictates how I take care of myself, that makes all the difference in the way people see me.....and I know, that when people see me, they see a person with a smile on her face, not someone walking around looking like she's been sucking on lemons. Probably because I eat too much sugar! 
One thing I look at on a man, is how he takes care of his teeth and hands.....brush, floss, tongue scraping, makes nice kisses! Washing your face twice a day is a nice face to kiss......
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Posted: 8/14/2005 8:32:58 AM | Maybe this thread is a smart way the original poster has to weeding out women that may want him by using this forum instead of going thru the usual routine.If you have a beautiful smile its what attracts me.I will say i will not(if i were single)date obese men.Corpulence is not a very attractive feature on anyone.Does it take away from there personality.Yes ,SOME people are held back by there weight.Some are not.
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Posted: 8/14/2005 9:10:55 AM | Focus on your creativity my brotha, women love men that sing, dance, write poetry, play instruments. or anything along that line. Women like to be entertained. They like things that are unique. Look at "Blues Traveler" I bet that cat, get his fair share of women. Women, are complicated until you learn the game. Don't you give up though, it will never happen if you just sit around and wait for it. Be the aggressor! | |
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Posted: 8/14/2005 9:36:15 AM | | I just read someones profile .. and this is what it said.. "sorry I"m a bit shallow.. looks matter.. " then when you get down to what he is looking for in a woman.. he said.. "must not be shallow"... isn't that a hoot .. MEN!!!!! go figure.... | |
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Posted: 8/14/2005 9:56:10 AM | | Well put( privatemansak ) but one thing about that is.. wouldn't it be nice if we could be loved for what we are inside and not for what we look like.. enough said about this subject... | |
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Posted: 8/14/2005 10:01:12 AM | | Don't know if you are still interested in hearing it but... I don't care for skinny/thin guys, I'm not big on the muscular type either. I'm not a little girl but I like to feel like one ;) so I prefer meaty men. My last guy was 6'3" and 270+. Mmmmm cuddly! | |
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