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Posted: 9/14/2006 6:12:44 PM | | Alonenow and Ace, both of you sound like great guys to date. If you lived in Michigan, I would definately go out with ethier of you! Alonenow, your list wasn't offensive to me at all and sounds well thought out. Ace, I know it is extremely frustrating finding suitible people on these sites,( I belong to all of the free ones I could find.) But you just got to try to have faith that you will find someone. Good Luck to you both! Sarina | |
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Posted: 9/14/2006 7:08:05 PM | Sounds like we should all just stop lying and stop judging.
I lost 100 pounds on atkins.
Men and women are only so different. An attractive man will be ---attractive--- to more women. It's a basic equation but everyone who says different is lying to themselves.
We can all be in love, no?
Isn't that a word like. Say. God? That just doesn't do justice to what's 'behind' the word?
If I really had to put love to a concept it would be that it is the collective emotion of humanity which each and every one of us communicates to each other in UNIQUE original ways.
Perhaps that is why nobody seems to find their "perfect" relationship.
Time machines, there's my idea. | |
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Posted: 9/14/2006 7:34:55 PM | Hi there. I just started coming back in here and saw this thread started and I just wanted to have my say.
I LOVE big guys! Always have. My ex is a pretty hefty man and we were married for many years. Let me tell you - The 'romance' (being nice) was NEVER a problem! Even before him, I've dated thinner men and my favorites are still the big men. I just have an old fashioned sense of security with someone, big and strong sitting or laying next to me.
I'm a big girl and you know what? I love me. I love, love, love me! Sure, I'm very aware that I'm not what's considered 'model material' but I don't want to be. I'm absolutely tickled purple that I'm who I am. I know what my qualities are what make me who I am and that's that.
I guess I'm attracted to the bigger men because my father is and my grandfather was both big and they were wonderful. Excellent providers, stable, very nurturing, involved and supportive. I would think that one would naturally gravitate towards people similar to who gave them the most positive experiences in life. I thought these two men were incredibly handsome too. I've dated and had relationships with men who are big, hairy, didn't dress in 5,000.00 wardrobes and so on. I guess I think differently than most. I want what's in the heart and the mind. If that captures my interest, then Baby, we're good! | |
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Posted: 9/14/2006 8:32:09 PM | Here's something like what I had in mind...
http://www.figureconcord.com/ublog/custom_graphics/opposites_attract.jpg
Copy and paste the address into your browser. | |
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Posted: 9/14/2006 8:43:18 PM | Aye aye capn', I am with you all the way on your "a few extra pounds" no picture usually
means it'a a lie theory.
Dont care what all you gorgeous, ugly, fat, thin, grotesque, (or what ever the hell you look like) people with NO pictures say you look like!!! Just give us a picture and WE wiil decide what you look like!!
Hats off to Ace, he has a picture up, so best of luck to him !!!
The capn's rules "no pic no reply" dem the rules !!! | |
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Posted: 9/14/2006 9:03:14 PM | I haven't read all the replies in this post...gosh, I'd be here forever if I did...but I must say I'm surprised to hear guys say that women mostly want thin men. Myself, I prefer a guy who is slender to a few extra pounds, but most of my girlfriends love "bigger" men. Not necessarily grossly obese, but just HUGE. Being TOO thin does kind of turn me off too. Hey, I guess we're all looking for perfect, but it ain't gonna happen.
I always thought it was more the men looking for the woman with the perfect figure. I'm mostly healthy, but have no thyroid gland, thus, it's hard for me to stay slender, even though I run, walk and do exercise tapes. I have about 30 lbs to lose, that just won't seem to come off, hell or high water, and I get ridiculed for that. But at 53, I'm not doing so bad. | |
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Posted: 11/24/2006 11:03:48 AM | I just found this, and didn't read the whole 8 pages of it, (only the first 4 messages) and I am puzzled.
Ace, Don't you think that the issue is a matter of preference?
You describe your "dream woman" in a very specific fashion, as if you were ordering a Barbie doll from a Matel catalogue. It is an irony that you would be complaining about the same behavior that you exhibit on the same paragraph!
"Perfect" may be hard to achieve...
Another guy stated that all women are liars... I am also wondering about that. But, I speak for myself when I say that THAT is not the case.
I met someone (for coffee) who didn't put a picture around here, and it didn't matter to me. His personality was good enough for me. Nope, am not desperate (I am only looking for friends and am VERY serious about that) but didn't care about it. Period.
I have been very clear about the fact that I am a heavy set woman. But, am also very clear about what I want, who I am, and what I am not.
I would venture to say that there are way too many people (especially MEN) who state that they want a woman with a personality, (a professional), who doesn't have any drama in her life...
Now when do they find that... She better not weight more than 150 pounds!!!
There are way too many people lacking originality on these sites!
I am tired of reading about what friends think about people, (DUH! Aren't they FRIENDS? Of course they will say NICE things about them!) How they like to cook, and go to the beach for long romantic walks. (Who likes fast angry ones?) DARN BEACH IS CROWDED BY NOW - How is it that when I go by myself I don't see those COUPLES holding hands? You would think that with such a high ratio of statements... Never mind.
But I am sick, sick, and tired of the ones who brag about material stuff, sucessful careers, and looks. "I go to the gym"... and "I have a few toys" are not among my favorite statements.
Also... The implication of self-mutilation when refering to weight issues disturbs me.
"I want a woman who takes care of herself". What is that supposed to mean? How about if I got ill a few years ago and my thyroid (the half of it that is left) is messed up? Am I to blame for that? Does that mean that I didn't take care of myself?
Maybe I know how to eat, don't smoke, don't drink, go to bead on time, don't go crazy about my job, get along with others, have my bills paid (and a decent FICO score), go to church, and get along with my family. Maybe am NORMAL but weight more than your average drama queen!
Whoa. I needed to get that out of my chest... But am still a 38 D.
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Posted: 11/24/2006 1:51:17 PM | OH that just hit a nerve
Ok i have learned here in the forums that u must be so careful as to not offend or hurt people to carefully select your words, so apology first if this is offensive.
IM just taking a wild guess here.
HOT chick what is a hot chick to a over 5o male?
What is a old fart?
I had this conversation with my 19yr old daughter who is extremly gorgeous,she just turned the legal age to go into the bars.
She talked to me about this as she said "omg mom, why is it that man over 30,40,50.keep trying to pick up us young gals at the dance clubs it just CREEPY, yes thats her words.
well i told her why (no need to explain)
Her words to them now are.. depending on the age....
Arent you my dads friend ?
Oh i remember you, your on my grandpas lawn bowling team.
im sure you get what i mean. Yes she is young and naive, perfect for the old farts, but she wants someone her own age, as should others, there are alot of *hot chicks* your age.
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Posted: 11/24/2006 4:54:03 PM | Any nice looking female that is under about 45 is just eye candy to me. I don’t have any interest in them in any other terms.
So ........ a hot chick (to me) would be a gal over about 45 that is in shape.
We get use to certain types - my ex wife just turned 47 - we were married 17 years. She is the oldest female I’ve ever been around. I got “dumped” into the single’s scene three years ago (right out of the blue) and found a good sized percent of the females I could be interested in are “these days” (45-55) are looking for guys much younger than they are. So ........ they are now just like me lol. Once I see that - it drops them off my radar screen.
I (like your daughter) don’t get older guys making fools out of themselves sniffing around real young gals - it is almost comical lol. I have two step daughters (25 and 27) even that age group (their friends) are about 20 years too young lol. | |
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Posted: 11/24/2006 5:05:11 PM | I am not so sure that you should be upset that many women won't
date you because you are supersize, and not just overweight by
50lbs or so.
People do have preferences, and one of them is probably not a
person who is so heavy that they cannot even go on hikes or
they get winded going up a flight of steps.
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Posted: 11/24/2006 8:33:47 PM | Ewwwww!!!!
I'll take heavy over skinny, toothless and covered in tattoos any time!!!!
But since I'm not tall or hairy, I guess ACE wouldn't be interested in me!!!
Take care. | |
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Posted: 11/25/2006 11:24:53 PM | I have read quite a lot of the comments here as well as the original one that kicked it off.
When we are young we have an inbuilt psychological profile of what the father/mother of our children should be so all of their physical attributes and their traits are on par with ours. It is about recognisable kinship.
As we develop and having children is not part of the 'search' process then the logic/analytical processes kick in. Will he/she be able to fit in my life, will I be able to fit into their's? Best friend, companionship, intimacy become important. As does what attracts us physically does not wane, so accept it is all we can do.
Body size shape, one person described her Grandfather and father beautifully and so that is the measure she uses to follow when meeting men. Go Girl.
Expectations are the worst of what we place on ourselves, we expect to meet someone who will accept us as we are. Mmmmmm, can we give the same back appears to be the debate here.
And I am one of those who do not have a picture on view, my choice due to my employment. My size, buxom thanks to my European background, Aussie clothes size 14-16. I have no problem with men wanting to know me etc., from my physical self. They have a problem with my being independent, thinking for myself, not wanting to retire etc. I have made a friend overseas and whilst I enjoy the chats etc., I have had to be very definite that there is no physical attraction on my part. This upset him as he liked my picture, yes I send one if I am sure the person has good values. However, I was clear about it at the outset of us chatting and prior to sending my photo.
I do not think photo's and words can constitute a relationship it can only offer a knowledge base that should take the awkwardness out of the first meeting. And not all the photo's I have seen on line fella's are recent or match the age given. Mmmmmmm? Perhaps, it is an innate need to be seen as we like others to see us as it is how we 'see ourselves'.
We are all unique individuals trying to look after ourselves to be as healthy as we can, recognise we all have faults and foibles that add to our uniqueness. And if we are all working on trying to be better people, trying to look after our planet and trying to be tolerant of others then we are not doing too badly at the end of the day.
Just a few thoughts from 'down under' and Cap'n I would have you laughing that much I'd have yer shiverin yer timbers, mate.
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Posted: 11/26/2006 3:09:21 AM | | I am so sick of these threads - who cares what the number on the scale is - a woman or a man can be heavy and still very sexy - it is all in attitude, and how that person carries him/herself. | |
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Posted: 11/26/2006 3:59:22 AM | | not true some women do date big men i am 5'2 101lbs and my boyfriend is 6'4 240lbs and i would not give him up for anything so don't give up you will find that woman who will want you for you she won't care about your weight | |
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Posted: 11/26/2006 4:10:30 AM | | theace: How many men on here that are of average looks and weight want to date a fat woman? Maybe 1 out of 100! I get alot of e-mails from all these athletic guys, but because I don't pump iron seven days a week, or run 50 miles a day I'm not for them. So needless to say it's not only women who are shallow when it comes to looks or weight. As far as for being hairy maybe you need to change dating sites to one that has a bigfoot waiting around to be courted. | |
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Posted: 11/26/2006 4:19:57 AM | | Ron9: As to hot chicks dating old farts, what age women are you talking about? While it's true most women in their 20's, and 30's don't want to date men 25 to 30 years older than themselves, and if they do it's usually because they want a sugar daddy. Check out several of the mens profile that are 40 and older, and they want someone who is in their 20's. Trying to regain their youth I suppose. Maybe they should hang out at Chunkie Cheese. | |
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Posted: 9/5/2007 5:23:53 PM | You tell em! I am totally with ya! If you are out for the athletic mr america you are gonna be lonely for a long time. You gotta love the heart not the hips baby! | |
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