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Posted: 9/5/2007 6:43:23 PM | | You totally nailed that one Ace, great thread. I have 'many' female friends that tell me as well as the many dates I have been on that I have a great personality, but friends is as far as it can go. I tend to hear, after the date and see the "Dear John" email, "you're a great guy and it's me, not you-really, but I just don't see it working" and so I'm like, whatever, I figured it might come to this. But yeah, a dude packing some weight -strictly taboo, a woman packing some extra, "seems" a lot more acceptable. | |
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Posted: 9/5/2007 6:54:05 PM | | The problem with ALL these weight threads Is the Obese people are complaining that they only want to date thin or average ones - and they wont date obese people. Heres a clue Sherlocks - maybe for the same reason you dont want to date the opposite sex with a Build like you. Only they arnt Hypocritical .. | |
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Posted: 9/5/2007 8:07:41 PM | [But yeah, a dude packing some weight -strictly taboo, a woman packing some extra, "seems" a lot more acceptable]
Who the heck are you kidding!!! A woman who packs extra weight is just as taboo. I have met several men who like the "package" (smart, funny, outgoing, happy, nice smile, put together, well dressed) but who do not accept that I carry extra weight. It is never presented as such, but it is certainly obvious. So don't give me that cr@p about it being a strictly male issue. That is far from the truth! | |
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Posted: 9/8/2007 12:00:05 AM | | im talkin bout the original posting. i am new to this post thing but when i read that dudes comment i thought, how retarded. to think that men are the only ones gettin stereio - typed and lied to. | |
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Posted: 9/8/2007 12:34:59 AM | I dated a significantly over weight man for a number of years. Though he treated me very well and we got along fine. It never bothered me for a very long time, however I maintain a really strict, disiplined life style and work out faithfully it started to bother me after a while. Mainly because he just did not take care of himself, not for him, his children and or me. Now there is something to be said for one who cares enough to maintain them selves in a decent manner. It speaks about a man/woman if they do or do not. Now I would not consider it. Lets be honest shall we? Men 9 times out of 10 want, demand, expect a woman to be pretty fit. And typically more fit than he is. There are so many personal bennifits to staying fit in the fist place. Hoever YOU have to want it for your self or it will never last.
So yes it matters. To me anyway. | |
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Posted: 9/8/2007 12:45:08 AM | Why are we so afraid of the word FAT or OBESE? I'm sick of seeing all these euphemisms like 'heavy'.
I don't like myself when I have a great wobbly belly and I don't expect other people to either. Let's not kid ourselves that it's attractive, however great your personality is.
I seem to put on weight easily so I have to work at it. That's life. We should get over it and quit complaining. Or lose weight. | |
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Posted: 1/25/2008 7:51:13 PM | | Ok, to me any woman can be hot or not. Its not much about the weight. U can b skinny or 100 lbs overweinght and still b beautiful. I tend to like average to curvy best but I have seen plenty of hot skinny women. Must we all be sooo selective, put our standards so high we will never find anyone? Not me. I wont settle for just anyone but everyone has their faults and if u find someone u can deal with then be thankful. Life is short. Thanks for listening. | |
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Posted: 1/27/2008 10:49:27 AM | Hello to all.
First the weight thing....lets face it is it a thing. It has always been a issue and very few people are honest about it. Male or female.
I have Thyriod dysfunction and to try and loose weight is a joke. I have to "diet" to maintain my weight. Having this is not a excuse to be fat but a reason its a struggle. SO its a part of my life and I deal with it. I am not that big because I work at it.
If you are not happy with how you look it shows in your personality. And for me that is a huge turn off. Therefore if you are not willing to do something about it to change it...then learn to like it. If you accept it then others will see that.
Health wise bean polls have as many problem as the over weight's do. So how about not looking at AVERAGE people with a few pounds (something to cuddle with) as fat just because a store wants to sell size 0-5.
Cheers. Have a good one! | |
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Posted: 1/27/2008 11:03:20 AM | actually..my friends and i prefer larger men...maybe its the protecter thing...i am no twiggy...i want a solid guy with meet on his bones..something i can really hold on to..i dont want no stick man..who will blow away in a puff of wind...but large or small..there has to be an initial attraction there...and we all know when we look at someone..if there is some kind of attraction..where you want to know this person better..i also prefer tall men....not because i have anything against short men..but because i am almost 5' 7"..and want a guy who is taller than my self  happy fishing.. | |
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Posted: 1/27/2008 11:14:55 AM | I love a bigger guy.
I have dated both a Gym rat body builder and a tall thin lanky guy and all things in between. I prefer a big guy but I am not going to exclude the rest.
Attitude is what is important and speaks volumes about a mans character.
And yours is screaming at us, and it ain't too pretty.
Your parameters are way too tight.
A certain color of eyes, c'mon Dude. Be for real.
Basically if your search is so restricted you wouldn't date yourself, you need to step out of the box a bit.
You are doing the exact same thing you are blaming the tall thin women of doing to you, by excluding based on the color of someones eyes and hair.
You need to practice what you preach. | |
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Posted: 1/27/2008 11:23:30 AM | Brother, come on. You list several preferences that you like tall, hirstute, Brunette... You seem to understand when it comes to what you want and are attracted to. Why can you not understand when they want what they want.
That said, I'll tell you, I ain't skinny. I carry a belly. But what is far far more attractive to most women is how you carry your self. Your profile set up tells alot about you. If you came across as more confident and with more to offer than your physical issues then you would be more succsessful.
There will always be women (and men) that are not interested in someone that is not athletic. Cool, then I am not for them. Ther will be women that are not into tall guys or black guys. Cool, I am not for them. You can't be everything to everyone. But you should try to play up your strengths instead of lament your weaknesses. | |
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Posted: 1/27/2008 11:27:03 AM | re the op's initial post
while i am neither one of the thinner types or hairy, i'll add my two cents and say that i enjoy a bigger man just as much as any other *type* - i like to feel someone large next to me, it makes me feel protected and more feminine myself.. and gives me something warm and cuddly to cozy up to, someone larger to hold on to... to be encompassed by masculinity when he holds me is a lovely thing...
of course, it's the personality that makes or breaks the relationship, more than anything.. but i certainly wouldn't *not* date someone because of their weight.. as long as we can still get out and do things together, still go for walks along the lake or through the trees... still enjoy life fully.. the size doesn't matter | |
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Posted: 1/27/2008 11:56:25 AM | You just wouldnt like the food at my house, no salt, no sugar. Ever. Can you dig it?
Oh yeah, and even tho you would NEVER judge me by my appearance, I am way too short for you! | |
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Posted: 1/27/2008 11:56:55 AM |
hairy (Unshaven, hairy arms, belly, backside, etc .......well for starters mate u sure got off to a bad one. Cant say any lady i know would let herself get into such a state and have hair anywhere else but on her head.Suppose its all about hygene these days but the ole "hollywood" sure does it for me.
Plain n simple my friend.....Lose weight and you`ll be lucky in love , ladies dont do fat blokes its as simple as that....totally unattractive.
Take care and good luck. | |
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Posted: 1/27/2008 11:59:25 AM | | I quite agree with you there dude although there will always be someone for someone if that makes sense lol well anyhow good luck in your search from The english guy. | |
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Posted: 1/27/2008 12:00:00 PM | It'd be different if you were a rock star..................................................
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Posted: 1/27/2008 12:10:15 PM | From just what I have read you answered your own question maybe just maybe you are also prejudging like ------Tall thin and let me highlight THIN very attractive ladies why not slightly overweight attractive ladies. Maybe it it your standards that needs looking at besides there is a difference between being somewhat overweight to FAT.
Most men tend to do the same thing they will always go for the thin ladies first and overlook someone that may be sightly over-weight. So I would suggest looking in the mirror and seeing the real you and quit trying to be something else and change your pre-set goals. You might just find what you have been searching for. | |
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Posted: 1/27/2008 12:16:18 PM | Im a big girl i get judged by my size also, so its not only women that give the "PERSONALITY" speech.
Unfortuantly many ppl judge someone for their apperance and thats each to their own.
I do see someone for who they are on the inside, doesn't matter short, tall, thin or large its how they treat you.
Good luck in your search. | |
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Posted: 1/27/2008 12:21:40 PM | I've always found 'Heavy D's' to be fine as hell. Most (definitely not ALL, by the way), represent comfort, adequate food, and hot sex. I'm in love with a much older and portly gentleman with amazing eyes, teeth, etc.; an overall extremely handsome fellow.
He's got a great bod I'd love to be with naked in his palace. I'm willing to bet he's got a gigantic c0ck, and just hasn't had the pleasure of me...YET!! Oh God, I hope I run into him real SOON!! He's so fine! Love, Titus | |
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Posted: 1/27/2008 12:35:03 PM | | AHHHH the most popular thread on POF...weight. I don't understand what the issue is. If someone doesn't want to date me for any reason, to include my physical appearance, why is it THEIR problem? People like what they like. Doesn't make them shallow. And if more people prefer thin over big, oh well...it's life. There are no rules saying you have to get to know me first before you reject me. Don't blame it always on weight...hell, I'm in good shape and still single...go figure. | |
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