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Posted: 11/30/2008 9:50:49 PM | | I have lived with a woman 20 years younger than me. I think it is more to do with a mental connection between the two people. Living where I do keeps me young thinking | |
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Posted: 12/1/2008 12:36:33 AM | | As long as the younger woman is the age of consent (16 is 31 states and Washington DC), and she is willing, and her parents don't object, there is no wrong unless you are affected by the opinions of others. However, very few women below the age of 25 will date you so realistically you should date women over 25. | |
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Posted: 12/1/2008 2:23:48 AM | I typically try to stick with a 10 year window as it seems to work well enough overall (yes, the window always closed at 18 :P ). I have noticed that lately I seem to get along with/date those in the 22-25 range more often, I'm not sure why. My last was 28 so maybe that's shifting. Before that it was 24 & 22 for long-term relationships. Mind you I also saw someone who was 32 for a couple of months when I was 24 so it's gone both ways. I just seem to prefer someone who is old/mature enough to be in control of their lives but not so old as to not be willing to just go out and have fun because as many older women I've met seem to be whether it's because of kids or just lack of inclination to do so.
So no, I wouldn't say it's wrong. I'd just sya keep in mind the maturity bit that I'm sure has been mentioned over & over by now. It's your life, if your one is 10+ years younger (or older) than so be it. I will say my older cap is shrinking lately but I think that's because I'll admit I would like a kid or two of my own and I'm not sure I want myself or my other to be pushing 60 at the high school graduation, sorry if that sounds shallow. | |
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Posted: 12/6/2008 5:05:36 PM | | No issue at all. My employment puts me in a social circle of people much younger than me. For an older guy, I've taken pretty good care of myself as well. i don't have some great objection to dating women in their 30's or even 40s'; they often seem to have issues with a man pushing 40 who bartends (even though I'm completely debt-free and have a lot of loot saved). There seems to be a double standard these days: An older 'cougar' is seen as empowered by going for a younger dude, where an older guy with a younger woman is just seen as a creep. I'll leave you with this thought:- aging is completely unavoidable and will be experienced by every one. | |
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Posted: 12/6/2008 7:52:43 PM | Hay as long as it is legal and your both happy rock on....I have ALWAYS dated guys older then myself but Im finding I like the way guys my age and younger think....people evolve thank goodess, sometimes we need to open up our minds to achieve happiness.... | |
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Posted: 12/6/2008 8:14:11 PM | | A good friend of mine is 38 and his g/f is 21. I wouldn't have believed it, but they are both happy. So I don't see a problem. If it lasts, great, if not, so be it. I told him to enjoy himself for the moment and not worry about tomorrow. I'm happy for him. | |
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Posted: 12/23/2008 3:37:30 PM | I actually don't have a problem dating older men. I have set myself a limit, though. I will date tops 16 years older than myself. Only because someone over 16 years older than me is closer to my mother's age than my own and she is single as well.
I have dated men in their 30s having been only 18 years old. I didn't see a problem with it. I am not like most people my age, and often get mistaken for being in the 30s age range as well. Though only because of intellect and not because of appearance.
I think that even if the age of consent is low, only people 18 and older can decide whatever age groups they want to date. And it's the rule I've stuck with forever. It's worked well for me. The best bonds I've had were with people older than me. Those my age felt younger and not mature enough to handle me.
It's all a personal taste, really. | |
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Posted: 12/25/2008 2:35:51 PM | In general, I don't see a problem with a younger woman dating an older man as long as they have good chemistry together. Although for me, if there is too large of an age gap, I might be more inclined to call him "Daddy."
Just having some fun with this one.
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Posted: 12/25/2008 3:39:41 PM | If an older guy can't get with an older woman (or one his age) and he has a chance with a young woman, he should go for it.
people who think its bad are usually just jealous people who offer no other solution or alternative options.
get in where you fit in. | |
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Posted: 12/25/2008 4:38:00 PM | Linear concepts of age don't mean much in relationships. Many of us wouldn't be here if our parents/grandparents/some other ancestor hadn't hooked up with someone much older.
Have been fortunate to date much younger women - up to 20 years younger but have also enjoyed dating older women, up to 15 years older.
Its the human connection between the two people that is important.
Some younger women seem to seek/appreciate the "experience" an older man offers that boys her aged haven't learned yet. Usually a huge difference between the romantic, sensual, woman-pleasing loving that an experienced man can offer and the "Hey baby lets do it! Hop on -hop off" of a younger man.
Should have saved it, but years ago read a magazine article titled something to the effect of, So You Really Want To Date A Younger Woman? Then it went on to dealing with the ways of a different generation...was written for humor and it was hilarious.
Of course its the lady who makes the decision. There have been a few wonderful younger ladies in my life that sadly stuck to linear concepts of age rather than our connection - or maybe I misread the connection - either way, nothing developed. But that's their right/choice.
And, there's aways some fear of being thought of as a perv when approaching a younger woman about developing a relationship, even if there is a good connection. | |
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Posted: 12/27/2008 5:46:27 PM | I did the older woman thing when I was young and even married a woman 5 years older; that worked out ok (well, for the most part). So... I suppose a late 30's woman would count as younger for me now ;)
The hard part is finding people who are not only compatable (however you define that) but also socially in a place that suits each other. I want to travel and with grown kids I'm not inclined to involve myself with someone who still has that responsibility (let alone those who want to start it fresh!).
Good luck all. | |
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Posted: 1/7/2009 8:41:35 PM | | I tend to date my age and down. I'll consider down to 18 but reality is that there's more likely going to be a real connection with someone who is at least 20 years old. Lots can change in 2 years especially a woman's maturity level. | |
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Posted: 1/8/2009 6:09:15 PM | | i prefer someone who is younger than me for the sole reason of having the energy to keep up with me. | |
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Posted: 1/11/2009 4:40:41 AM | Just my random thoughs about this man/woman aging difference.
I do believe men age better than women. Honestly I see a lot more overweight women than men, and most women in their 40s have more wrinkles than men in their 50s. It is possible american women care more about their looks, I was never been in the US, but here in the "old europe" only rich women care about look after 30, and they expect to date very rich men anyway, so out of reach for my wallet... 
I have known women in their 30s looking like my mom, and I will never date them. I guess immature boys can be attracted by a mother-like figure (Oedipus say something...) but that is not my case. I'm a normal looking man, I expect to date a normal looking girl. That's all.
It is true a woman has to care more about looks, because it is the main "selling point" in the dating arena. Most men are more impressed by the physical side, while most women look more to the social side (like job, wealth, charisma, etc...). So it is natural for men to improve what can give them more success with women, even if this means caring less about looks. But if a middle aged bald overweight man think to himself as "still good looking" he is just plain silly. Most men are more realistic about looks than women. | |
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Posted: 1/11/2009 6:21:23 AM | You know the story... the grapes out of reach are not ripe yet... LOL
You cannot accept the fact some men actually prefer a firm body and a smooth skin, noo, it has to be some psycho-pathological issue. Of course the fact the kind of men who can attract hot young girls are the most good looking and wealthy has nothing to do with your lonely granny rants. Envy is a bad beast, let me tell you this.
If your post had more than 1% truth, then you should be happy about the evil young seductress taking aways the old garbage, so you are left with the handsome mature stable and smart men who can appreciate you. And since it seems your main target.. the well endowed love machines. Good luck! | |
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Posted: 1/11/2009 6:27:35 AM | Oops sorry people.. didn't know the original message I was answering to didn't appear in the reply. Let's make things clear.. I'm 37 y.o.man who prefer girls younger than me, even if I don't go cradle snatching (20 y.o. is too young for me)
One thing I find extremely annoying about older women (luckily not all) is the constant whining about men, accusing them of the most improbable things. I have bad news for you women... you believe you perfectly know men's mind, but you are mostly wrong. I've seen a lot of women unable to see the difference between reality and the most crazy fantasies about men. | |
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Posted: 1/11/2009 7:30:35 AM | | To each their own... having said that for me personally... I don't wanna date anyone young enough to be my son or old enough to be my father. Either way it's just too creepy for me. | |
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Posted: 1/11/2009 9:47:12 PM | | No more than a 10-year age gap is generally a good policy, unless you have lots to talk about and happen to be on the same "page" in life (and, lastly, happen to be attracted to each other). If two people are bored and lonely, looking for some excitement and passion, as long as their health and lifestyles are similar, then age doesn't matter. I know I'm healthier than a lot of bar-hopping 20-year-old alcoholics. | |
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Posted: 1/12/2009 4:41:41 AM | 50 years later and how much have times changed? In 1959 Cary Grant delivered this line in a movie:
“When a girl is under 21, she’s protected by law. When she’s over 65, she’s protected by nature. Anywhere in between, she’s fair game. Look out.” | |
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Posted: 1/12/2009 8:22:53 AM | I agree, I am 23 and go for guys in their 30's more often and hear sh!t for it..
My 'girlfriend' is 41 and goes for way younger guys and nothings said but 'way to go'..
Makes no sence to me? Age is nothing but a number in the end its the connection you have with a person not the year of their birth.. | |
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Posted: 1/19/2009 3:54:58 AM | Ain't it grand?
When I was 32 I dated two gals who were 40.
On my 36 birthday, a gal I tried to date a few years before, showed up and said thanks for throwing her a party. We have the same birthday, she was turning 25.
Since then, the young ones approach me. Young women are like guys used to be 20 years ago. I find it refreshing and they are often, well-read, well-researched and well-versed in life. Kids are far more sophisticated now than 30 years ago. In only figures they will be "full on" by their early 20's.
And my observation is gals over (generally) 34 are on the full court press asking "the 20 questions", especially during the early stages of a relationship. The time I'm figuring out whether or not we can have fun together. It's a real "Buzz-killer". | |
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Posted: 1/22/2009 12:12:20 PM | My last girlfriend was 22 yrs younger. We were together 3 yrs and for the most part had a great time. The girlfriend b4 that was 11 yrs younger and we are still friends today. I have tried dating my own age with great failure. It seems after 45 women just get "old" mentally. All they want to talk about is there kids or grandkids. Its like there own life up and died. Another pieve is that they also seem to decide that keeping slim and trim is to tough, being playful is an effort, and dressing appropriatly sexy is taboo. I much prefer someone who has maintained her youthful figue, attitude and playfulness!..................and I have never had trouble keeping up physically or socially. | |
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Posted: 1/22/2009 1:04:30 PM | I think sometimes we have to sit down and ask ourselves what do we want out of a relationship. If you are looking for someone young and possibly immature , not ready to settle down or alot of drama - date someone in their early 20's. ( most not all )
If you are looking for a relationship with long term tendency and maybe a little bit more seriousness I would up the age ante. ( for the most part) Just remember you will get out what you put into something. Good luck to everyone on their fishing. | |
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Posted: 1/23/2009 10:56:41 AM | A lot of women, as they get older, convert "life experience" to bitterness, anger, controlling behavior, and suspicion. A lot of the well balanced women over 40, who are attractive, sane, and reasonable are still married. After all, half of first marriages survive, and 75% or so of people get married before 30.
There are some attractive women over 40, who have the normal amount of baggage, that anyone, who was married and has children will have, but who aren't "damaged", but what is the percentage of 40+ women, who I would find physically attractive, unmarried, and with a positive attitude....5% of the total, maybe. Those women are highly sought after, and can be difficult to find.
I've found some, and I've dated them, but they tend to be pretty demanding, being well aware of their market value, and often set in their ways.
Younger women, who are "into" older men, are somewhere around 25% of the total. A higher percentage of younger women are naturally attractive, and are often much more open sexually, naturally expecting it to be part of things. The older/younger dynamic, in and of itself, is unlikely to lead to "power struggles", and more naturally assumes a dynamic with the older man caring what will ultimately be good for her in life, and wanting to guide her to fulfilling her dreams, while being a constant source of affirmation and validation, as she tries to be all she can be.
The "perversion" argument, while common, is contradicted throughout history, going back to the bible, and other literature. It was very common for an older man to take a younger wife, since men are very visual the looks are very important. Many men do not care if a woman is nice as long as she is attractive and preferably young. Young is beautiful.
Obviously, it's not the norm, nor right for everyone. However, it is not so rare as to be an aberration. POF is a dating site, and so long as like minded people find each other, it isn't open for judgment. | |
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Posted: 1/24/2009 8:35:17 AM | | I would like to date a "mature" younger lady, Ive dated women my age (40) and they just seem to be more worried about thier career, and not about having fun, smiling, enjoying life. Life is short. | |
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