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Posted: 6/22/2011 2:22:12 AM | | age ain"t nothin' but a number..I'm 42 and was dating a 31 yr old..there was only a few age issues we had | |
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Posted: 6/22/2011 2:35:07 AM | The problem is that you will both reach critical stages at the wrong times.
i.e. A man married a woman 10 years younger is winding down his career and getting ready to relax just when she is getting her career going after raising kids.
A woman marrying a man ten years younger is most likely to be more a mother than a mate so the young man never learns many skills he needs.
Just a few possible scenarios. How about younger person waking up and realising how old you are?
Honestly I think both people have issues in a spring/fall romance and underestimate the emotional /psychological damage they cause. | |
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Posted: 6/22/2011 7:11:38 AM | | No I do not think so I am 40 and I have dated 29 year old women the other thing is that you are searching for that potential mate you have to keep all possibilities but is the partner compatibly to your interests and your life experiences. | |
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Posted: 6/22/2011 10:00:20 AM |
The problem is that you will both reach critical stages at the wrong times.
i.e. A man married a woman 10 years younger is winding down his career and getting ready to relax just when she is getting her career going after raising kids. [/quite]
You’re assuming everyone’s life follows a pre-determined pattern and that relationships cannot flex enough to allow for changes in goals or lifestyle. That seems like a pretty rigid perspective to me. IMO if a couple can't work through the dynamics of life they have bigger problems that a few years difference in age.
Just a few possible scenarios. How about younger person waking up and realising how old you are?
Hey - old is GOOD.
So... you’re 46. Do you feel you’re unworthy of a spritely 36 year old? Or that he’s too young to understand stretch marks, sagging breasts and belly fat? (Not saying you fit the description of course.) | |
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Posted: 6/22/2011 11:18:21 AM |
age ain"t nothin' but a number..I'm 42 and was dating a 31 yr old..there was only a few age issues we had
That's probably it exactly. It'll cause a hiccup or two. Those issues might be the turning point or one too many. It may be that you're a perfect match and the hiccup is easily dealt with. It can be more of a challenge but its nothing that can't be overcome. | |
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Posted: 6/22/2011 4:19:26 PM | | The youngest I dated was a 22 year old and the oldest I dated was 40. The mature woman I dated our dating relationship lasted longer. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2011 9:56:53 PM | | Younger women look for older guys to date because they have their shit together.. are not into drama, and hopefully are not into drugs and don't ignore their responsibility's. thats just my opinion though. :p | |
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Posted: 6/25/2011 8:00:31 PM | | if you have dated lots of women then they must not think much of you the key word here is LOTS!!!!! | |
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Posted: 6/26/2011 2:55:26 PM | | well im 36 i dated a 22 year old she was mature in some ways and alot of ways she wasnt. i think she was loooking for a dad sence hers was a drunk when she was growing up some women looking for older men have alot of issues buti would do it again hell right now i would date anyone tired of being alone | |
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Posted: 6/29/2011 11:33:33 PM |
Age is a matter of mind, if you don't mind, it doesn't matter.... ...true. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2011 1:05:30 PM | Well, I just turned 33. I was married to a man who's 2 years older than myself for 10 years. I tried dating men my age...but I get tired of watching them play video games. LOL.
So I started dating men in their 40's. I LOVE older men. I get along with them personality wise. I understand where they're coming from. I like a lot the same things they do...but ...is it just me...or are they all damaged?
I keep picking guys who have been raked over the coals by some demonic chick in their past and they haven't dealt with it yet. It's very frustrating. I don't mean to pick on them. They never start out that way. They always start off as really sweet guys. But I wish they came with flashing red lights that said, "I'll seem like I've got my crap together, but really I'm bitter and will compare you to every ex I've ever had! And then I will disappear without a word!!! Brawhahahahaha!"
Lmao! :D
Well, it'd be funny if it wasn't so sad. I don't think it's an age issue though...I think it's an insecurity issue. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2011 6:55:38 PM | So... you’re 46. Do you feel you’re unworthy of a spritely 36 year old? Or that he’s too young to understand stretch marks, sagging breasts and belly fat? (Not saying you fit the description of course.)
Sorry no time to research the proper format. You make a good point but of couurse I can only address general population. There will always be abberations to the rule but the rule exists for a reason. Fact of life! Even though I have held my "looks" longer than average they won't last forever and yes I feel far more comfortable with a man closer to my own age. (I was married to a man eight years younger and there were too many complications) What is wrong with finding an equal instead of a subservient?
Forgot to mention I divorced him because he changed. Of course he did but I refused to believe it could happen. He is not bad or wrong just not the man I would have chosen if now was then! | |
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Posted: 6/30/2011 7:04:35 PM | Re: SaucyArtist
girl we have similar problems. lol
we have both been searching in the wrong places. If you want a go getter don't date a guy that shows up wearing his hat on backwards and pants hanging to his knees. Big boys are the same they just have an enormous belly. "Adult" men don't drive gangster cars or collect speeding tickets like a poker hand but they will blame their ex for all their problems. If he is 40 and still whining about how his ex was evil and he never did a thing wrong, Run away! We all play a part in every relationship. Sometimes just allowing someone to act badly is enough to bring it on so never date anyone that does not accept thier own responsibility. No matter the age the signs are there if we open our eyes. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2011 9:05:12 AM | There's signs of men who are immature for their age no matter how old they are. You girls mature way quicker than boys even at teenage, so when 18 is the legal age to date someone older than a female (by law), it shouldn't matter.
Women: If your concern about age then date your highschool sweet-heart and stay away from the club scene.
Men: Always confirm age, confirm, and confirm again. I'm not disrespecting women but even myself don't mind dating someone younger but SOME girls want to look, act and be with older and MATURE men (looks, charisma and lifestyle is a factor). It's a rebelious nature or an escape from normal environment their used to but want to leave. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2011 11:00:10 AM | Your observations are supported by scientific studies...and there have been many. What was discovered was that men and women have different criteria on choosing a mate (surprise, surprise) Most of our attraction stimuli are based on a number of things. Both males and females fantisize about future (dream mates) mates. We, over the years will refine or jsut chang our minds many times and the scientific studies have localized one gereral reason as to why we choose who we do.
Women, the child bearers, tend to gravitate toward to men for a number of reasons. First, a woman't natural instinct is to choose a male who is established and has proven he can provide for her and her future children. An older male will be more stable as a rule, so she isn't always left guessing or worse being concerned about the basis essentials of life. She will usually find that an older male will have more mature manners, ie know how to treat a lady. Regardless what they say, this is very important to young women who are more prone to insecurity than young males. Physical attraction usually takes back seat for long term relationships as security is more attractive to young women. This is not to say that some younger males aren't matue enough to support a family relationship, it is the preception that they aren't | |
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Posted: 7/4/2011 3:57:13 PM | | I don't think any age is wrong as long as he or she is over 18. If you both agree to it be happy.To many people like to stick their noses in everyone else's business.Mind your own business but if your life is so boring that you have to mind someone else's do us all a favor and leave this planet. That should take care of the over population real quick. I don't care if she's 60 and he's 18 or the other way around. Get out of my business!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 7/4/2011 4:26:13 PM | Penpa46--Lmao!
I hear ya! I got smart and asked the last one, "If I asked your ex about you what is the one thing she'd tell me?" His response? "She'd probably say that I'm a stubborn prick." Lmao! Okay. Bonus points for honesty, but...dang! You know what? He is a stubborn prick and fairly intolerant.
Where are the men who are comfortable in their own skin. The ones who aren't trying to be something they're not? That's the guy I want. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2011 11:24:37 PM |
Where are the men who are comfortable in their own skin. The ones who aren't trying to be something they're not? That's the guy I want.
Trying to be someone who they think you want them to be. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2011 4:38:47 AM | I spent 7yrs with a guy 13yrs my senior my friend spent 18yrs with a guy 13yrs her senior I think its easier for men to date younger women than it is for women to date younger men just because its more the norm and women now have this whole cougar thing which is just rediculas.
I say if you can get em them fair play!! | |
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Posted: 7/6/2011 4:59:06 AM | I think most people are intrinsically happy with who they are. It's only when society criticises and/or rejects us that people start to feel insecure in ourselves. There are three responses to this sort of criticism/rejection that jump to mind:
1. Depression and/or bitterness. When people give up on society and retreat into themselves.
2. Conformism and/or deception. When people will do anything to become what society wants or to give the false illusion of being what society wants - even if it isn't true to who they really are.
3. Defiance and/or tenacity. When people refuse to give up (as in 1) or conform (as in 2) but carry on in the hope that their efforts will ultimately be rewarded.
None of these responses (in the extremes) are very healthy. Someone with the strength of will to keep going (3), but with the flexibility to try new approaches (2) whilst remaining true to themselves is probably best off. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2011 7:59:46 AM | Im 42, she's 25.
And neither one of us cares one whit what anyone else thinks
And have had to tell more than a few directly to butt the F out.
But it wasnt her age that got me, and it is not why I am so off the market because of her, it is just the age she happens to be. If she was 38 and the same person, she still would have stolen my heart.  | |
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