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| | older guys younger women Page 24 of 29 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29) | Gorgeouscomedy, I date younger women, and I have nothing to prove. Think of it this way. Lets say I meet someone and we start dating. Im not going to ask her to marry me after a month or two. So, a year later we decide to get married. Well, then there is the planning. That can take anywhere from a couple of weeks to a few months. So now we are anywhere from 12-15 months into the relationship. We get married. Now, if she decides that she wants to have a baby, 9 months go by, assuming she can get pregnant right away. We are now two months into the relationship. What if she wants to wait for a time to have children?
If I followed your example and only dated women 2-3 years younger than me, she would be menopausal since I am 44 now.
Also, I would like to have more than one child. This is also the reason I no longer date women with children. I have found that the majority of them do not want more children. That is the reason I tend to date women who are at least 10 years younger than myself. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2012 7:03:59 PM | Wow, this thread has a lot of traffic. How funny.
Despite knowing better, I'm always kind of surprised by the thought that a younger woman would be interested in an older man. Whenever I observe the subject come up among people, it always seems like she'd think the idea was creepy or gross. But then I suspect that sometimes the woman in question just can't admit to an interest publicly and has to pretend otherwise. And probably doesn't understand that an older guy probably won't approach a younger woman because of the extra risk of being stigmatized as creepy, etc. At least with me, there's even more of a need (than with the same age) for such a woman to make things clear or take the initiative.
I've always been really sceptical of the beliefs about maturity levels in an older man/younger woman match-up. I'm pretty sure that, in at least many cases, the woman would just like to THINK that she's more mature, but she isn't any different than guys her age, and she'll find a guy who'll exploit this because of the turn-on for him of a physically younger woman. In these cases, the man isn't REALLY more mature or put together necessarily, and his extra "experience" doesn't really count for anything. It's just the idea of such a thing, as an illusion, that's appealing or self-flattering for her. I've noticed that sometimes when a young woman is thinking she can get an older, supposedly more secure, more mature man, by putting on her own "airs"...she isn't REALLY even close to his equal and doesn't deserve what she thinks she's trying to get, and if she does it's sometimes unfortunately just because the man can see that he can "play" her for the opportunity of, again, a physically younger female body. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2012 7:15:47 PM | bigobigd:
She was 28 I was 71, SHE CONTACTED ME FIRST. WOW WHAT A TWO YEARS THAT FOLLOWED.
You sure she wasn't just looking for a sperm donor, figured y0u'd be desperate and easy, and wanted to break up and/or not have the father in her life?
pugalist:
I can't date younger women. I just don't find that I have anything in common with them I have high standards so it's tough sometimes to find women beyonda certain age that keep themselves in shape and attractive, but I'd rather stay home alone then go out and listen to some 25 year old talk about Jersey Shore, their purse, boob jobs, clothes, the Kardashians, etc.... I just dont have it in me... I LOVE women my age or older who are energetic, in great shape, and accomplished because we can relate to one another and have more in common and to talk about. Plus an older woman is almost always easier to have a relationship with because she understands intimacy and communication, and she's most often, better in bed...;)
Ha! Word up. | |
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Posted: 6/23/2012 9:05:32 PM |
Whenever I think about women who marry older men, I always picture the poor woman being flung back into the dating pool in her early 50's because that "attractive, older man" she fell for is now deceased. As tough as dating is in your 30's, I bet it's WAY harder to find someone when you're a 50 year old woman . . . because guys your age want younger women, and can often get them!
Totally false. My mother is married to a guy who is 15 years older than her. Heck, he dosen't even look his age, takes good care of himself,active. Responsible Finacle wise (no he's not rich) He's all around a great guy. Awesome step-father. My mother dosen't have "daddy issues" her father is deceased but dosent mean issues or anything. Heck, one of my best friends, she is dating a guy 15 years older. And belive me, he's not rich, she makes more than him if anything. And shes always had a good relaionship with her father. So, please try to look at facts instead of assumptions | |
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Posted: 6/23/2012 11:26:55 PM | | I don't think that it's wrong. I've dated a man who was 10 years older than me. He was a super cool guy but his out look on life and lifestyle reflected that he wanted to settle down and start a family. Oppose to the younger guy that I've date (5 years younger) who really just wanted to hang out and chill in good company. So I think really it's all about what YOU want and making things clear from the start with whom ever you're dating in assurance that both parties are on the same level to move forward. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2012 6:05:13 AM |
She was 28 I was 71, SHE CONTACTED ME FIRST. WOW WHAT A TWO YEARS THAT FOLLOWED.
I bet she worked better than Viagra!  | |
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Posted: 6/24/2012 1:51:22 PM | I am late 30's and physically gifted to be in my late 20's .. seriously, it comes to the point where age is just a number. Now for people that think age is important, they have an age which is considered old... let's say 89. Since we can't all be 89, that number is pretty useless for any age calculation... Bob Hope was 105 when he died... wow.
My thoughts is that if you look 30 when 40 then you should be treated in a relationship as 30.. go for the 25 year old | |
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Posted: 6/24/2012 1:58:55 PM | | Dating 16 is wrong at 38 when she is related to you... omg... some women are women at 16 and some are later in life... be gentle | |
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Posted: 6/25/2012 9:09:52 AM |
Despite knowing better, I'm always kind of surprised by the thought that a younger woman would be interested in an older man. Whenever I observe the subject come up among people, it always seems like she'd think the idea was creepy or gross.
I think it depends on the situation. I sometimes get approached by women who are 20 (or slightly more) years younger than I am. EVERY one of them had parents who were around 40 years older than they were, or approximately 20 years older than I am. They also all had older siblings. These women look at 45 to 50 olds as contemporaries of their brother(s) or sister(s), thus part of their generation. Conversely, a 30 year old woman whose dad is 50 will look at me as a contemporary of her dad's. | |
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Posted: 6/25/2012 9:29:32 AM | (Age/2 + 7) +- 2 years is the rule I typically use.
So if you're 38, then 26 is near the bottom end of how old your partner should be.
Dating younger women is a time honored tradition throughout history. It makes perfect sense when you look at the increased financial stability, maturity, and willingness to accept responsibility that typically comes with age. That isn't to say every older man is mature or every younger man is immature, however if we accept that maturity typically develops with age then it is more likely that an older man will be more mature than a younger man.
Aside from that is the biological limitations. Men can have children well into their 70's or even later. A woman's ability to have children statistically declines as they age into their 40's, and is usually lost by their 50's. This tends to discourage sustained relationships between younger men and significantly older women, at least those relationships that lead to families.
Personally, if you click with someone and they fit what you want out of life, then date them (within the limits of the law). I have dated older women, younger women, and everything in between. When I was in my early 20's I dated women as much as 20 years older, and as I've approached my 40's I've dated women as young as 15+ years younger. There are meaningful and substantial women at both ends.
What I have learned over the years is that the hardest thing in the world is to find someone who fits you mentally, emotionally and physically. When I find that someone, I am certainly not going to let something like a few years get in the way. | |
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Posted: 6/25/2012 9:30:38 AM | | In my situation, its vice versa. I'm gonna concentrate on dating women 38-45 years old. The ones around my age and even a few years younger still have that entitlement mentality. I do strongly belive women in their 40's are looking for love and not just arm candy. I remember reading a profile from someone who is 27, claims shes very picky, dosen't like guys with blond hair and only dates tall dark and handsome type. I do seem to get along better with older women as they are more mature. 40 year old women rock!! | |
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Posted: 6/25/2012 4:27:50 PM | | I think if its just for a fun time dating someone much younger is ok. But for a long term deal it may not be unless you are both wanting the same things...kids, marriage etc...some wait til later in life to get married and have kids so if you meet someone who is younger and they want the same thing, it may work. But if you are 37, have kids, a house, and all that and you date someone who has never been married, no kids, lives at home and whatever chances are its not gonna work. Especially if the younger one wants kids and to get married. And you dont want kids, or to get married again. But if its casual dating....who cares as long as they are of legal age lol | |
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Posted: 6/25/2012 4:32:32 PM | | I always liked to date people in my age range maybe 33-40. Im 37. I just never dated anyone younger. I don't want anymore kids and I am pretty settled in my life. Good job, kids almost grown, so I have lots of freedom to do what I want. I just never thought a younger guy would be on the same page as me. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2012 2:03:39 PM | | I will second that opinion. .I have always wanted to date people in my age range, as I feel we would have more in common, and be looking for the same things. With someone much older, as in 20+ years, the majority of the time, the attraction isn't there. . Sorry, but if that isn't there for me, there's no point. On another dating website that I'm a member of, some men who are 20, even 30 years older (:P Yecch! ) view my profile, and some have even written, expressing interest,even though dating age range (29-44) is clearly shown on my profile. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2012 3:58:45 PM |
(29-44) is clearly shown on my profile.
Maybe it's just my old eyes (lol), but I'm pretty sure your age range is (29-41). I have to admit though, that's more generous than I was at your age (36). Even so, I too have been inundated with messages and flirts from very old women (and very large women). That's been true since I placed my first internet ad back in my late 20's. It's not just men who can't be realistic. I don't mind them browsing my profile though. I'll probably be looking at every woman I find attractive (regardless of her age) until they throw dirt over me. I can't begrudge women doing the same. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2012 5:00:00 PM | | Oh, I meant that my dating age range on the other website, not pof's is 29-44 though considering how people don't seem to have any regard for that, maybe I should lower it on that website's, as well . :D Not that it would make a difference from men much older viewing my profile. :P | |
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Posted: 7/4/2012 5:39:49 PM | | youre not doing anything wrong. if you like younger women, and they like you, go for it. less baggage anyway. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2012 6:59:22 PM | | Right, less baggage. Lol. I'm 33 and look for 22-29. My lifestyle fits more into that age range. Not really attracted to my age and older. Definitely nothing wrong with it. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2012 7:15:12 PM | I would say 21 and up Im 41 and to be honest I do not look or act my age ,I get approached by 23-30 year old's ,I have found out its kinda uncomfortable to meet the parents and find out the age gap between me and the dad or mom is closer than my dates (lol). I am no pervert but women my age are nice but I'm just not attracted to some of them .
I have no problem dating in my age group ,but most are overweight ,smoke,drink or set in their ways . | |
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Posted: 7/8/2012 1:56:45 PM | | putmeunder I feel the same way except I prefer 25-30 yr old men. No older no younger. Its just what I like | |
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Posted: 7/8/2012 9:27:31 PM | Domo I'd like to ask almost stupid question
putmeunder I feel the same way except I prefer 25-30 yr old men. No older no younger. Its just what I like
If you start dating a guy...and it goes into LTR...and he turns 31....are you going to dump him for another younger guy?
I used to have the same age restriction and women would ask the very question, without the disclaimer of a stupid question.
I'm 35...my current age range is 25-41...I know it doesn't go as high as it does low...I still do have a dream of wanting a child...not that women over 41 "cannot" have kids most don't want them by that age. Heck if we're both over 40 by the time we get serious we'll be close to 60 when the kid graduates...kind of scary when you think about it lol.
There are always diamonds in the rough and if I found a 24 or 42 year old that I connected with and fell in love with I wouldn't back out just over a year over/under....It's not written in stone or something...its just a range to keep the extremes from messaging me...I won't connect with a 50 or above, at least until I get closer to that age...nor do I connect with a 21 or under... | |
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Posted: 7/9/2012 3:15:40 PM | | I just got out of a three year relationship with a woman 24 years younger than myself and it was the best time of OUR lives. Lot's of great times doing the same things we loved doing, camping, hiking, biking, kayaking plus good conversations, quiet evenings and nights on the town or concerts. The relationship ended when the strain of family and friends (mostly hers but my daughter had a huge problem with it as well) kept pushing her to be with people her own age. We both loved each other very much but she couldn't handle the drama she was going thru. Point is, why is it such a big deal what the age difference is, as long as it is a healthy, caring relationship? | |
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