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Posted: 6/17/2007 9:19:49 PM | | I dont think there is anything wrong dating younger women,just as long as age isnt a issue with either party.Dating a 20 yr old is a bit young but 25 I dont see anything wrong with that. | |
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Posted: 6/18/2007 12:09:32 AM | | Give me the opposite. I would have no problem with a 30 year old woman. Of course I love women of all ages, haha. | |
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Posted: 6/18/2007 7:30:04 AM | I am 49 and divorced for 2 years. I have yet to date someone older than 36. Most of my girlfriends or dates have been around 31. The truth is that I am open to having a new family, as family is very important to me, and I just find myself attracted to woman of this age. I just am not attracted to women my age or older. I've wondered if this is wrong as well; but if that marriage rule of AGE / 2 + 7 is true, then I am dating women of the right age.
My personal rule is not to date any woman who is younger than my oldest child. Ha ha. Really, I don't think age matters much as long as you are both legal adults and the relationship works. Some women are just naturally attracted to older men and many men are attracted to younger women.
Having said that, I was at a restraunt the other night near the local university. A couple 20 year old college girls were showing interest and were way hot; but, I'm sorry, that is just too young in my eyes and while I enjoyed the attention and was flattered, I would have felt like a dirty old man if I had pursued someone that age. The youngest I might go is later 20's but that would be under very unusual circumstances. | |
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Posted: 6/18/2007 7:40:38 AM | ^^^
Actually, there is no "Marriage rule of age/2 plus 7". That is an old saying from who knows where. Statistically, marriages within a 7 year gap either way are the most successful.
That being said, I think people should be free to date whomever they please. People who limit their search to only men/women 15 years younger than them are missing out on a lot of great people, but that is their right.
As for me, I am 36 and wouldn't date a anyone older than probably 44. Although, you are a nice looking guy and look probably mid 40's, so I might stretch my rule a little for someone like you. That is my choice as well, and I know most of my friends (early 30's) wouldn't even want someone over 40. Most women want someone within their age group who has had similar life experiences, etc, but of course there will always be men and women who want to date younger. I really don't see why it should be an issue as long as there is no deceit.
Current BF is 37, and for me, that is about perfect. I love the fact that we went to high school at the same time, know the same music, and have children the same age. Most older men have older teens or grown children, and I can't relate well to them. | |
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Posted: 7/22/2007 4:32:03 PM | Funny.. I seem to click better with younger women.. because I am NOT all that put together.. half the time I am way too immature, belying the truth of my own age.. and sadly its not an act. It's just who I am.. goofy as hell.. I just never felt like I grew up. I used to think something was WRONG with me. I mean when I was 17 I ditched the whole video game thing.. and now I talk to a friend who is a vertfiable video game junkie, that I graduated from High School with.. I don't know.. I guess video games don't make us immature but it is something I always associated with being younger. Maybe that's just my hangup though, I've since gotten back into them although its more of an.. hour or three a week than a daily thing. But still it just seems like something else that makes me feel not like a grown up.
What does everyone else think?
-Justin | |
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Posted: 7/22/2007 10:00:55 PM | | I have always found myself physically attracted to older men, usually about 10-15 years older...The laugh lines, salt and pepper hair, maturity, experience the list goes on. I think for me its the fact that for the most part they have there partying done with, they are set in there ways so not a lot of flip flopping on things. They know where they have been so they know what they want for their futures. They are to old for games and pretty direct about it. They know how to appreciate a good woman more so then a younger man. | |
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Posted: 7/23/2007 3:22:08 AM | Id just gone 18 went I dated someone 34...
then I entered a relationship for 5 years with somone ten years older.. I was 21.
whatever floats yer boat. I wouldnt date someone alot older again.. | |
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Posted: 7/23/2007 5:07:23 AM | | 18? I wouldnt recommend it, its kind of going in the wrong direction, ALTHOUGH it is legal but an 18 year old compared to a 38 year old? its like trying to talk to a child they dont have those years of experience and they dont have much to share other then what time they have to be home and in school. YOU CAN DO IT like you can drive a car with your feet but its just not done man, somethings are best left untouched like Pandoras Box. Sure they have less baggage, and there happy and dont give a crap about the serious things in life but.....your 38 youve passed that and at times sure you want to turn the clock back but why? its like watching a great movie and now you want to see it agian dont bother. Be proud of what you accomplished and who you are and move on man love life dont try to Muck it up. | |
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Posted: 7/23/2007 6:05:05 AM | I was working at 18... I could drive and I was earning my own money. The only dramatic change in those ten years is the way I look at the world.
I was a mature 18 year old and not at all like a child... It didnt work because I presumed that being with someone older, they would know what they wanted more than someone my own age. I expected them to be more mature.
WRONG!
Not everyone's circumstances are the same. You cant generalise everyone to be the same 'Tony'. | |
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Posted: 7/23/2007 12:22:58 PM | Man, these sort of topics never seem to go away, and I am a fairly open person. But when people say that age is just a number, I get the dry heaves.
The truth is, is that we all pass through different stages in life. I am almost forty one, and have been in four long term relationships. What would I have in common with someone who is, let's say twenty one years old?
The answer is absolutely nothing. My first two relationships were with women that were well over ten years my senior(10 years in the first case, 14 years in the second case). These relationships started off very well, but those little intergenerational gaps usually seep in eventually and cause enough discord for the relationship to fail.
That's why, up till recently, I went to the opposite extreme. I decided I was not going to date anyone outside of three years of my age. This worked well until I got into my late thirties when I found that the dynamics of the dating pool changed drastically.
For instance, how come many forty year olds will almost never date someone else that is around forty? I get told by many thirty four and thirty five years old that I am too old, and many of the gals between forty one and forty five tend to go for guys a bit older. Now believe me, I am not making generalizations here. This diatribe is simply based off of my own recent experience.
Now I am not saying that if someone who is fifteen years younger, they are off limits. I just hope that people who enter these type of relationships understand the risks of such. it is something that I would definitely not do.
But that's my opinion. I could be wrong.  | |
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Posted: 7/23/2007 4:01:31 PM | People are looing for differnt things at differnt ages. A very young woman dating a much older man is looking for security, to be taken care of... typically financially. She may also be looking for a more stable and successful man to have children with. Often older men sem to be looking to "regain" some aspect of youth and starting a second family often provides them with that, especially if they were to busy bulding their financial success int he first half their lives to attend tot their first wife and set of kids.
An older woman with a much younger man is in my mind typically looking for someone who can "perform." Or she may be jaded by older men who have rejected her because they are in a mid life crisis. Younger men are often less experienced and more willing to take instruction (from what I've heard). Frankly I do not get the huge age disparaty thing. It seems like the relationship would be more equal the closer you are in age. But I do find older men (within13 years) to be very interesting... usually becasue they are done playing games and have fewer hang ups... I just observe and talk to my girlfriends, I am no dating pro after all. Maybe someday I will be LOL. | |
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Posted: 7/23/2007 5:09:36 PM |
A very young woman dating a much older man is looking for security, to be taken care of... typically financially
I am so offended by this comment.
As I have stated previously the reasons I am attracted to older men, it has nothing to do with being "taken care of financially". If I wanted that I wouldn't be here I would be on sugardaddy dot com.
Just because a woman or man is attracted to someone of different ages doesnt necessarily have to do with finances, performance, mid life crisis or youth searching, it may just be they click. | |
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Posted: 7/23/2007 8:20:09 PM | | Let's start with what you should rule out. You should not date a minor no matter how old you are as an adult even if you are 19 and she is 16 unless you are in a country like Canada or in Europe where that's fine. You should be careful about dating women who are 20-25 in my opinion. They tend to be less stable than the older ones. If you're going to date someone who is 23 and you're 38 which might be stretching it at 38 she should be pretty mature. I think at 38 the youngest you should go is say 25, but it all depends on the woman and how mature she is and willing to accept you to go out with her. I think a 30 year old would be pretty open a 38 year old. I like girls in their mid 20s to say 32, but it is not all about the number. | |
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Posted: 7/24/2007 3:38:27 AM | | Long at their legal what is age but a number. True it would also depend on maturity levels and what point in your lives the two are in, as to how long it would last or how well it would work. But if everything is grooving along ok, and their legal, what does it Really matter. | |
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Posted: 7/24/2007 9:55:49 AM | People are looing for differnt things at differnt ages. A very young woman dating a much older man is looking for security, to be taken care of... typically financially. She may also be looking for a more stable and successful man to have children with. Often older men sem to be looking to "regain" some aspect of youth and starting a second family often provides them with that, especially if they were to busy bulding their financial success int he first half their lives to attend tot their first wife and set of kids.
An older woman with a much younger man is in my mind typically looking for someone who can "perform." Or she may be jaded by older men who have rejected her because they are in a mid life crisis. Younger men are often less experienced and more willing to take instruction (from what I've heard). Frankly I do not get the huge age disparaty thing. It seems like the relationship would be more equal the closer you are in age. But I do find older men (within13 years) to be very interesting... usually becasue they are done playing games and have fewer hang ups... I just observe and talk to my girlfriends, I am no dating pro after all. Maybe someday I will be LOL.
Talk about an unbiased perspective! Let me spell it out for you...men will date younger women for exactly the same reasons that you listed for older women dating younger men. Younger women generally are more physically appealing, they still have a zest for life and are not jaded or burdened with rugrats, issues, etc, etc. I also like how you try discredit the notion that a younger woman can god forbid actually be attracted to an older man. You would much rather believe that these younger women are motivated by financial security than actually being attracted to a distinguished or sophisticated older gentleman for his physical features or wealth of experience or knowledge. Let me tell you, I worked with and went to university with many women who dated older men (some even dated professors) and it was always an attraction to either their looks or their intelligence and wisdom...or some combination of both. | |
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Posted: 7/25/2007 12:44:00 AM | | Hey I’m not knocking ya! Hell I don’t even know ya, we live in a very politically correct world and that’s great and I support it but the world has become toooo politically correct. Believe me I’m not generalizing its fact and a statistic in numbers, I’m 32 and I’ve lived in down town Toronto my entire life and I can tell you that younger women have turned me down waaayyyy more then older women have. It’s got nothing to do with maturity and all about sex drive and there’s nothing wrong with that. Oh and its great that you were working and making money and had a drivers license by the time you were 18 but lets keep on topic this is about attraction and sex not who got there license first at 16. | |
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Posted: 7/25/2007 12:56:01 AM | on the 'lets keep on topic' note from Tony... I was pointing out my independence and maturity at the young age of 18 hence not needing an older man to take care of me. Nothing to do with getting a driving license.
And it IS to do with maturity. Boys of 18 were such a turn off. Infantile and idiotic...
Who wants to go out with that? | |
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Posted: 7/25/2007 2:50:14 AM | I think that it all depends on the other person, ive dated much younger girls and found some very grown up in the ways and others very immature.
Dont think theres anything that says you cant date someone much younger or older as its all about what they are like as a person | |
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Posted: 7/25/2007 8:15:49 PM | Oh yea? well Im 32 an older man and I KNOW YOU THINK IM AN IDIOTIC INFANTILE SO THERES NO PLEASING YOU. And dont play coy with me you cant say that your a 29 year old virgin? you dated guys who were 18 and younger in your more lustrous days so please......okay BONA DEA?
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Posted: 7/25/2007 10:06:05 PM | | I really think it depends on ones life circumstances...Im 45, never married and attracted to those men younger than me or just my age...Men older than me are preoccipied with raising their teen children and cant put a relationship first like a younger man with no children would be able to...Im also active and find older men are more sedentary as they grow older..Then theres also the generation gap...Older men tend to expect women to be more traditional...like their ex wives or mother was to them and thats definitely not me! | |
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Posted: 7/26/2007 1:09:24 AM | Tonyrocks (but kinda doesnt)...lol
You on drugs Tony? I did actually look at your profile to check out your age. The comments you were making on this subject, assumed you were in your twenties.
I rest my case. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2007 10:29:07 AM | My thoughts on this subject:
I am a 35 year old man that is dating a 24 year old women, while it is allot of fun, its amazing how old she makes me feels sometimes, she doesn’t mean to do it... it just happens. I must admit that I care what people think yes I know I shouldn’t but I do. I have done rather well in my life and she is a very beautiful woman, and I hate the stereotype that she is only with me for my money. Truth is she didn’t know
Anything about me and I found that she liked me for me, yes it can be a tough situation but in my case there are allot of positives to our relationship, I see how different our maturity levels can be sometimes and that makes me re think my decision but she
Makes me happy and no matter what a person has or has not true happiness is the
only thing that counts. | |
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Posted: 7/27/2007 3:43:23 PM | | There is a maturity difference that you have to take into account. If you are 38 then you shouldn't date someone under 28 to 30. If you do then your just looking for heart ache. | |
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