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Posted: 7/28/2007 1:57:47 AM | HA! You assumed I was in my twenties I dont know if I should take offence or say Thankyou, as for you I also read your profil and all I can say is WOW! You have more dislikes then any stat that Ive read, and your looking to: talk/email with a guy and nothing else WELL THATS FOR SURE. I followed your threads youve been making in other forums and it looks like my effort paid off to proove my theory. I cant belive there are guys apoligising to you for there opions like MR X. You counter males who speak out and you shut them down, and you get them to say sorry. WELL I GOT NEW FOR YOU SISTER IT AINT GOING TO HAPPEN WITH ME. Oh and the pic of your pet BAT questions if your the one doing DRUGS. | |
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Posted: 7/28/2007 12:51:24 PM | | hey u go girl. same here i am 22, and love datein older guys, hey u in ontatio, so am i, we should double date sometime girl lol. link me tho ttyl bye. | |
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Posted: 7/28/2007 3:13:43 PM | I don't see this occurrence in society much anymore ( well not where I live ). In fact on experience I have been told by women 5 years younger than I - that I am too old or more than a few occasions - which is fair enough everyone has a right to a preference.
I see more women say 30-35 dating 20 year old males than anything else
Older man and Younger woman is still accepted in eastern Europe - in fact women there prefer a man who is about 10 years older but in the west it is a "no-no"
A mid twenties woman sees a man in his mid thirties as more settled, worldly , financially secure etc etc etc and family orientated then one her own age | |
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Posted: 7/30/2007 1:37:06 AM | Tonyrocks - Im actually starting to look forward to your replies now cuz they are making me laugh... I dont know if thats the intention you write them with?
1. - Talk/email - whats wrong with that?
2.- 'followed my threads and it proves your theory' lol what theory?
3.- 'get men to say sorry' ? what the hell are you on about? lol
and as far as the 'pet bat' thing goes... he wasnt actually a pet. He was injured. And I used to work for a bat conservation group..... yer know - wildlife n stuff?
You make me laugh, your funny x
On a note thats actually to do with this thread...
I actually work with a lady whos 19 years younger than her husband. They are happily married and have been for 17 years...
Not everyones case is the same.. | |
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Posted: 7/30/2007 10:59:04 AM | I don't see anything morally wrong with a wide age gap in a relationship, but I do think there are practical complications. For me, it comes down to finding someone that I really click with, and it is *almost* regardless of age. I mostly hang out with much younger women, but that is more to do with my situation.
I'm certainly open to dating women my age or a little younger, but I seem to only find women over 45 and under 23. Odd that women 25-35 find me unbearably old when I'm getting hit on by 19 yo's. I'm not entirely against dating much younger women, although it is sometimes a bit of a shock to find out someone was born after you graduated from high school, or who doesn't know who Frank Zappa is. That is more of a personality thing. I hang out with a 25 yo who is totally into 80's music, movies, and culture. And I wouldn't fit with a 40 yo who thought Watergate was "just a burglary" either.
But I do think stages of life is very important. My kids are still young and I've found women around my age who have grandchildren older than my kids. Or they're just starting to think about what they want to do now that the kids are moving out of the house whereas I'm still considering having more kids.
I think the reason it is harder to find women in their 30's and early 40's is because they are typically single working mom's with not a lot of time to date. I also completely agree that women in this age range are definitely looking for younger guys. It is a real phenomenon. That's fine, I hope everyone finds a match, but it does make life tougher for all of us over 40 divorced dads. We're stuck trying to convince them that we are still active, fun, and able to achieve an erection more than a couple times a week. But it's difficult to change that perception. (Has anyone ever changed a woman's mind? Please write me with examples and instructions.) At least that is the cultural perception here, I know it's not the case in other cultures. Sigh. Or we have to go looking for much younger women who are interested in older men. Again, that's fine, but it is a much smaller pool with a lot of competition and more obstacles for a long term relationship. | |
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Posted: 7/30/2007 8:01:32 PM | I think I will say I totally agre with the above. Its a shame though many pass anyone over 40 up for the younger males without even attempting to even communicate to see if there is something deeper there.
Oh well... | |
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Posted: 8/1/2007 8:53:14 PM | i like the older guys my man is 41 and i dont care what people think about that if they have somthing wrong well there is the door its only a number so dint worry what people think i dont  | |
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Posted: 8/1/2007 10:38:29 PM | my son's father is 13 years older than me, and in the end it got to be too much.
from personal experience I can say that eventually the novelty wears off and when it does, there will be some issues. I really think 10 yrs is the maximum age gap for an effective rltshp (between either sex), and that 1-5 year difference is optimal. when you start getting more of a gap than that, your experiences of the world are too divergent and.... there's always the risk of it turning into more of a parent-child rltshp, which is creepy for both parties.
that's just an opinion, but I have to say that when I see a 38 year old man post that he is looking for women 18-38, I skip over it right away. not because I'm intimidated by younger girls, but because I think the man is probably quite lacking in maturity. no offense to young girls! | |
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Posted: 8/2/2007 2:42:29 AM | ~OT~ I was 9 years older than my last long term relationship. I was 8 years older than the only man I've met/dated since. Today ~ the man that makes me feel the most comfortable is about a year older. I re-evaluated and my age-appropriate numbers narrowed to about a two year margin. 40 or so to 45. A couple years either way. I'd prefer one within a year of me. Same time zone sort of mentality. At least for me.  | |
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Posted: 8/2/2007 6:22:17 AM | | for me when I was younger 5 years either way was good... as I get older I can go 10 years either way... the fact of the matter is that if I am dating someone 10 years younger or older I should have some common ground... anything else and I may end up trying too hard! | |
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Posted: 8/2/2007 8:43:19 AM | I don't think there is anything wrong with that as long as your comfortable with her friends etc.. Enjoy 
My morals are different, in real life i found guys of 21/23 interested in me and no matter how tempting it is at the time, i so wouldn't go there. Maybe i am worried about corrupting young minds when in reality it would probably be the other way around  . I have never had a relationship with a guy younger than me but since i have been single older guys i have met seem so grumpy. For now i am gonna stand by my morals and not consider having a relationship with anyone 5 years younger than me  . | |
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Posted: 8/2/2007 9:11:45 AM | My old man is 63, and his girlfriend is 40, 2 years older than me. Been together for 10 years or more and seem very happy indeed. Takes all sorts and wouldnt rule anyone out.
I personally wouldn't date anyone more than about 10 years younger or older than me, normally, but if I felt a strong connection then I would probably break that rule and give it a go. You never know.  | |
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Posted: 8/2/2007 8:16:26 PM | there are many younger women looking for the exact same thing that their older counterparts are. Not every young woman is an idiot as seems to be the stereotype.
They may not have money or careers yetbut they aren't buying into this whole celeb, no morals run around and be stupid act either. If an older guy is looking for the same thing and they connect, why not? Most younger guys aren't loking for a LTR.Unfortunately, some women need to get f-ed over a few times before understanding that a guy is more than his car/hair/abs/texting skillz.
(And the same lesson learned by being a birdbath, gents)
People can bring a lot more to a relationship, older or younger, than the age of their genitals ( which is really what all the fuss is about.) | |
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Posted: 8/2/2007 9:15:48 PM | The older (perhaps I ought to say more mature with more life experience) you are, the less an age gap matters, but its a moving target at both ends of the spectrum. The difference between 18-22 can be profound, while the difference between 28-32 can be minimal.
I'm 46. I would be comfortable dating a "worldly" mid twenty something, but I'm really not trying to meet anyone that young, as the odds of a successful relationship are pretty poor. That doesn't mean I would discount a new friend or activity partner that age, not all relationships have to be sexual. MOST relationships aren't sexual.
As for "wrong", thats a moral and / or legal qustion. Good luck sorting that one out ! | |
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Posted: 8/3/2007 9:59:43 AM | Why is dating someone who is 16 wrong? I'd say it would depend on how mature she is. The only beef I would have is of the guy's playing with her mind just to get young ****. In this case insincerity is the problem not her age. | |
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Posted: 8/3/2007 8:50:07 PM | | if its wrong who wants to be right i ride harley i always have girls in there 20s iam43 made me do them | |
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Posted: 8/3/2007 11:10:29 PM | I've been thinking since my last post.... I usually get involved with / pursue women my age or a bit older, definitely more mature / real in outlook. Not on purpose, that's just the way things tended to work out. My ex-wife was 9 years older, met her on a wilderness canoe trip I was leading; a week in the bush with 6 women, age ranging 23 -62.... (I was about 32) ...made for some interesting conversations, let me tell ya!
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Posted: 8/3/2007 11:14:18 PM | | Right now I guess I'm looking for more my age or a tad younger. No Barbie dolls please. Heck, No Gold Diggers or anyone looking for a Sugar Daddy, either. | |
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Posted: 8/4/2007 6:51:06 AM | I'm not that interested in older men. I don't have a father fixation. ! A fella my age or younger would do just fine.
Preferably someone with intelligence, since I have been having a difficult time finding that in people in this town. | |
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Posted: 8/4/2007 1:20:05 PM | | all depends whether they're woman or girls as maturity levels are different in everyone | |
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Posted: 8/5/2007 5:48:16 PM | there are no rules,
in love
as in war
We are biological and have you ever stopped the wind from blowing in a storm?
And yet, there is no greater love sometimes than letting go, letting be, and being done with it.
We interface with mother nature at our own risk.
Sometimes, the most effective seduction is equal parts discresion and respect, mixed effectively, into chaos.
It used to be the most amazing gift, and now, it seems to more of an extreme sport.
after all is said and done, for love like life, is about goodbyes. Anything else is healthy sociopathy?
I could be wrong.
Sometimes it is better to find out you could have, but didn't.
heartache city yes, bring it on
remember there are no rules
other than the laws of the land
beyond this,
only stories, like my random reflections
thank you all for your stories
all good people here | |
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Posted: 8/5/2007 8:14:14 PM | No wonder I can't find a date!! ha! I am curious--what does a 38 year old man have in common with a 20 year old girl? (unless you are just looking for a booty call?) That's a big age difference, but then again I don't know this 20 year old girl and she could be really mature.
To be honest, I would never want to return to my 20s and love being in my 30s. This is the most confident I've felt and I am SO glad my 20s are behind me.
I've dated older men and I've dated younger men, although my preference would be to date someone around my age or older (I'm 35). Age is just a number but I think it also depends on the person's maturity level. I think I've always been a bit more mature for my age but I had a lot of responsibility at a younger age and have been working since I was 13 years old (if you count babyisitting ha!) | |
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