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|so waht exactly are you asking us to say? Do we agree? Well, just because someone may not agree, or practice the same beliefs you do or dont, does not make either correct. Its a personal preferance, one mans desires are not necessarily another mans. Look at it this way, some people arnt looking for that emotional attatchment, not saying it is right, but some people just dont want anything more than meaningless sex. IDK, i can see both ways.|
Posted: 8/14/2005 2:26:08 PM
|All I'm looking for is a discussion on the pros and cons. A healthy discussion can lighten a heavy heart.|
Posted: 8/14/2005 3:56:57 PM
|I do not need a man to bring me to orgasm, I can get there better then any 1 of the 4 men I have been sexually active with has taken me, all by myself. So I don't do just sex! Yes, I am left longing to hold a partner, wanting to see his eyes when he reaches that point, and hearing the sound of his pleasure, but I know that missing those aspect of love making will be all the more intense when we do find one another.|
I make love to a man that is committed to me, and agrees to a monogamous relationship. Then we have all the opportunity to take each other to heights unknown. That emotional connection has got to be there for me or look out B.O.B....hear I come. The warmth, soul reaching, back arching, heavenly bliss of moaning, and knowing we are connected heart to heart is so much better then just spreading my legs just to get off.
Another old fashioned person who is happy with her choice to engage in sex with someone I am connected emotionally with.
Posted: 10/4/2005 6:21:45 PM
|However people is it possible that waiting for that sexual and emotional connection is fine and dandy but you should also fulfill your needs when you are feeling randy?|
Posted: 10/4/2005 6:25:55 PM
|a lot of people get emotionally attached.. but yeah.. sex is just sex for some|
Posted: 10/11/2005 8:58:00 AM
|I've noticed quite a few points and counter points. I, however, am stuck in the middle. I enjoy sex as much as the next person, and I'm a magnet for one night stands that I, most of the time, enjoy it as just that. BUT, there are times when I long for a lover to wake up to in the afternoon (I work nights and sleep in the morning). I'm currently in a sexual relationship with someone I just hooked up with for sex. We're now farely close friends, and still having sex. I believe it's all on the maturity level of the people involved, as well as the communication of what each wants. If a common ground that matches the needs/wants of everyone involved cannot be reached, then both the "random sex" AND the "making love" will end poorly no matter how you try and salvage it.|
Instead of saying "I don't think it's 'wrong'" I'm going to say both ways are right if you communicate your wants and needs effectively to your current partner.
Just my two cents...
Posted: 10/11/2005 9:13:13 AM
|Sex without emotional attachment is light and good, it will only leave you physical satisfaction...... |
Sex with emotional attachment is GREAT, it will leave you everything and hurt you one day, the more emotions you put in, the deeper you will get hurt.......
At least this is my experience.
Posted: 10/11/2005 11:08:38 AM
|Sex is whatever you interpret it to be and who cares about what anyone else thinks of that? It's not their life or their body...and at the end, it isn't your reflection they see in the mirror. You have yourself to respect.|
Choose wisely what makes you respect yourself...live and let live.
Posted: 10/11/2005 12:45:46 PM
|I don't need to be in love to enjoy sex. |
I don't even have to like the person.
What I do need is attraction and chemistry. You can have those two with someone you don't like, though it's unlikely you'd be banging someone you don't like, but stranger things have happened.
Obviously sex is better with love and like.
Posted: 1/18/2006 11:03:22 AM
|Sex is the protagonist of life. To indulge or not to indulge? Is sex looked at on a personal level only or on a broader scale? Curious thing about the trials of sex is that it has a way of talking back. You might here the "Why nots" say to you.. "What's the worst that could happen?" Or you might here someone else say. "What was I thinking?" Or two can have a wonderful family and all is fine. It all depends on where you let sex take you.|
Posted: 2/7/2006 5:05:57 PM
|ok foxtat, thats all true enough, but whats your point?|
Posted: 2/7/2006 5:43:17 PM
|No, you're not old school...YOU ARE REAL. I think that it's impossible to just have mechanical, going-through-the-motions-type of sex. There has to be some chemistry or some sort of fondness ( not love or anything like that ), but a natural fondness and interest for the person to have GREAT SEX. I know the diff between the ones I will sleep with only once and the ones I will see again.....|