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| What's the lamest excuse for getting shot down ??
Posted: 6/18/2008 3:06:14 PM | The absolute worst I ever got was when this woman said to me, "You are the kind of guy I wish I would marry, but I'm not ready for marriage."
...then I come to find out she is engaged 2 months later to a guy she met online who lived 5 hours away, lived with his parents on a farm, he had 2 kids (she had 3)...and neither of them had a job...
To make matters worse, she called me a week before her "wedding" because she wanted my advice on how to call it off. | |
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| What's the lamest excuse for getting shot down ??
Posted: 6/18/2008 4:27:14 PM | i had one... i met someone of the net and we met and everything....he took one look at me and said". you know what i just remembered i have something else to do tonight im sorry" and drove off so fast i never heard from him again. boy that made me feel good! ya know?  | |
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| What's the lamest excuse for getting shot down ??
Posted: 6/19/2008 1:46:52 AM |
"I dropped my cell phone in the toilet."
You'd be surprised how many guys try to "multitask". (I simply will not talk on the phone with certain people because I knew where they were once too often from the acoustics.)
And therefore you'd be surprised how many phones and crackberries get dropped in the toilet.
Having said that, I have no evidence to say that he was being honest. | |
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| What's the lamest excuse for getting shot down ??
Posted: 6/19/2008 1:54:53 AM |
that i don't see a match here...but they are persistant.
I have a lady friend who told me she always says she met someone else. I said, isn't that a bit hurtful? She said, it may be, but that's the only thing that does not start an argument. So you may have a point. | |
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| What's the lamest excuse for getting shot down ??
Posted: 6/19/2008 3:40:06 AM | Three of the lamest I have gotten over the years were...
- I don't feel the attraction to bald men. (Well damn, it's not like I am hiding anything with my picture...)
- I don't like country music.
- I don't date military men.
The first one I can actually see because everyone has preferences and it's no iggie either way to me. But why even go out to begin with if you can see I have a serious receeding hairline? I think it was a cop out because she just did not want to say "I'm not feeling it."
The last two were actually very serious with their statements and even before those comments came out I had thought "Wow, this woman sure is shallow!" | |
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| What's the lamest excuse for getting shot down ??
Posted: 6/19/2008 11:00:15 AM |
Posted By: darkhorse723
What's the lamest excuse for getting shot down ??
Message: I once had a girl at a club tell me that she wasn't drunk enough yet to talk to me, that was a stinger, I tell ya.
You should have offered to buy her a double.
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| What's the lamest excuse for getting shot down ??
Posted: 6/19/2008 11:08:03 AM | | My last boyfriend stopped seeing me because his grown daughter had moved in with him and he felt it would be inappropriate to continue to date me since I often slept over at his place, he thought it wouldn't look good to his daughter. Keep in mind I have my own place that he could have stayed over at and his daughter is the mother of an out of wedlock infant with no signs of the father anywhere so she isn't that innocent. I think she might have slept over herself with someone. lol | |
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| What's the lamest excuse for getting shot down ??
Posted: 6/19/2008 5:17:03 PM | The ones I got were,
I just want to stay home tonight and read a book.
I can't go out I have to study for an exame.
Sure I would love to go out with you, why don't you call me around 7:30? I call three times and get her answering machne every time and found out later she went out with her friends. | |
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| What's the lamest excuse for getting shot down ??
Posted: 6/19/2008 6:18:12 PM | "No, I can't go out with you next week. I'll be washing my hair."
We could come up with hundreds of these....
There will always be "lame excuses" that are given for whatever reason. | |
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| What's the lamest excuse for getting shot down ??
Posted: 6/19/2008 11:19:02 PM | I read some of these and there pretty good or bad depending how you look at them. I'd like the girl to be honest and at least let me know why. Then at least, if it's something you can improve on with the next girl, you don't make the same mistake twice.
In the times I had to do the talking I just say your not my type. Simply put, you are or your not. It's not personal and I hope the gals wouldn't take it as such. They will of course...
The lamest excuse I ever got was probly not to lame per say, and it wasn't that theatrical, but it was interesting when all the facts were in. Remember, I don't want to make the same mistake twice if possible. So I appraoched her in a very neutral setting and said I really like you and want to get to know her better. I go on and say, We had a great time on our first (and last) date. Anyways she say's "Your a great guy J. and you did nothing that would not make me like you. I'm just in-between things right now".
Ofcourse I was devastated at the time and for a long time after. I really liked this gal and it's not like me to fall for someone so hard. That has only happened wonce before. Well, the excuse , Like I said was pretty non-descript. Designed not to hurt my feelings too much, but enough to let me know it wasn't going to happen. Anyhow, many months later I find out that she is a lesbian, and she really was in between things at the time. It was just another womens legs. :(
Why did she go out with me the first time?. I think it's was because alot of people had there suspicions of her sexual preference, and it was probly to throw them off. She had a job where that might make things difficult for her. So when all is said and done, that the worst excuse you can really hear, if it's true, is you don't have the right parts or something like that. Because no matter what you do, you'll never have a chance. | |
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| What's the lamest excuse for getting shot down ??
Posted: 6/20/2008 6:33:02 AM |
I have a lady friend who told me she always says she met someone else. I said, isn't that a bit hurtful? She said, it may be, but that's the only thing that does not start an argument. So you may have a point.
Unfortunately, your friend is right. I consider myself to be very straight-forward and honest. But I don't want to hurt people's feelings and that's what usually gets us cussed out.
When I first started here, I always very frankly said " Thanks for the interest but I don't think we're a match. I wish you luck in your search." I thought this response was straight-forward but innocuous and would keep me from having to be "not-nice" or get the "not-nice" email. But I was so wrong. So, so wrong . . . *sighs*
Now I respond back with "Wow, I'm flattered. But I've started seeing someone" and that ends the communication with most. Some are a bit persistent but I receive decidedly less cursing emails. *smiles* | |
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| What's the lamest excuse for getting shot down ??
Posted: 6/20/2008 11:26:49 AM | skiptooATL wrote:
When I first started here, I always very frankly said " Thanks for the interest but I don't think we're a match. I wish you luck in your search." I thought this response was straight-forward but innocuous and would keep me from having to be "not-nice" or get the "not-nice" email. But I was so wrong. So, so wrong . . . *sighs* Lately, I've been prefacing first dates with statements about meeting to see if there is chemistry. I'm not sure that helps/hurts, or makes things easier when there isn't chemistry.
People should sign a waiver before they go on dates that says, "I understand that I run the risk of getting my feelings hurt if my date tells me honestly why he/she doesn't want to continue dating."
It's not our fault (nor should we feel guilty) if we're honest with people. But as is pointed out many times in this thread, people don't have the courage (or maturity) to respond honestly (or deal with the honest responses of rejection). | |
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| What's the lamest excuse for getting shot down ??
Posted: 6/23/2008 6:41:34 AM | | Well, I get some responses like that...."I've started seeing someone." But, that is always suspect. If you're seeing someone and off the market, one would think you'd delete your profile. And if you haven't deleted your profile and you ARE seeing someone...you're a dog because you're still looking...LOL. So, no matter how you slice it, you're full of shit...LOL. | |
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| What's the lamest excuse for getting shot down ??
Posted: 6/24/2008 8:10:26 AM | belladonna813:
Well, I get some responses like that...."I've started seeing someone." But, that is always suspect. If you're seeing someone and off the market, one would think you'd delete your profile. And if you haven't deleted your profile and you ARE seeing someone...you're a dog because you're still looking...LOL. So, no matter how you slice it, you're full of shit...LOL.
I understand what you're saying. In fact, the line was used on me. After a couple of distasteful exchanges with some POFusers, I started using myself. But, as we've all seen from this thread, there are worse lines out there. . . . .
IMO, it's all in how you take it. When it was used on me, I could have taken it as an insult or as the person being "full of [shucks]" and doggish. I chose to take it as the person feeling there was no match between us, and wanting to tell me so in the least hurtful but clearest way. Why be insulted by a statement made with the intention of sparing a person's feelings? Oh yeah, that's right everybody wants "honesty". *smiles*
Anyway, I guess what I'm saying in my defense of using the "excuse" is that I'd rather spare a person's feelings than insult their intelligence (like saying, I can't go have coffee with you because um, I'll be washing my hair). And before you say that "I've started seeing someone" is indeed insulting to their intelligence, let me just say I am acknowledging your intelligence by having faith that can put the proverbial two-and-two together. *smiles*
DiveFree:
It's not our fault (nor should we feel guilty) if we're honest with people. But as is pointed out many times in this thread, people don't have the courage (or maturity) to respond honestly (or deal with the honest responses of rejection).
I don't so much feel guilty about being honest, just cautious about when and with whom to use it.
Speaking as a woman who has said to someone "Hey, It was a pleasure to meet you, but I honestly don't think we clicked with each other. I appreciate you coming out and meeting me though", and then having come home from a night out a few weeks later to find the fool sitting on the steps in front my door, to tell me how he couldn't stop thinking about me and how he has been driving by from time to time stopping in my driveway "to check on me". . . Can you say should have used the excuse? . . . *smiles*
Ridiculous lame-duck lies aside, sometimes you gotta have a euphemism.
I'm just saying . . . | |
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| What's the lamest excuse for getting shot down ??
Posted: 6/24/2008 9:52:45 AM | | The next person might find the unattractive schmuck to be attractive and charming....I know myself that a man told me I was unattractive, next day met one who thought that I was gorgeous, a lot has to do with how open minded men are too a woman's weight and if they find most women to be attractive (they truly love and admire all types of women).... | |
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| What's the lamest excuse for getting shot down ??
Posted: 6/24/2008 12:56:42 PM | Okay lamest one I had..
"I have to paint my parent's garden furniture that day." Apparently they had a big party that weekend and the lawn furniture just had to be perfect. LOL!
Anyways, like it was said before.. Lots of fish in the sea. | |
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| What's the lamest excuse for getting shot down ??
Posted: 6/24/2008 2:27:54 PM |
The next person might find the unattractive schmuck to be attractive and charming....I know myself that a man told me I was unattractive, next day met one who thought that I was gorgeous... Precisely why I would never say "You're not attractive". I might say, "you're not my type" or "I didn't feel sparks", etc... But calling someone unattractive (or a schmuck) although honest is tactless. There's something to say for honesty that is not brutal. | |
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| What's the lamest excuse for getting shot down ??
Posted: 6/24/2008 3:16:11 PM | | I still think that after meeting someone the best thing to say is "Nice to meet you, we do not seem to be a match" No feelings are hurt, and if someone goes bonkers over this comment and demands to know what is wrong with them, etc. this shows that they are not for me anyway. The no chemistry, no sparks stuff sounds like something a person would say who is expecting some fantasy person to show up. | |
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