| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 9/16/2008 2:56:11 PM |
The only thing you can be in this situation is yourself - anything else is a lie, and if you go into this from the standpoint of beginning with a lie then you're going at it all wrong. Find a woman who accepts you for the person you are, not someone you're constantly having to act for...
Finding one is the problem. Atleast one that doesn't run. 
Being myself seems to not work. Obviously considering that im batting zero.
And, when you do get your woman lined up, then how you approach the topic of your virginity is completely up to you - but if you think that she can't handle the news with a level of compassion and discretion, well, maybe she's not the one?
Well...I haven't been waiting for the one. Just finding someone period is the problem.
Most seem to think a guy that is a virgin at this age is just someone who has been waiting for the right girl to fall in love with. They never think that the guy just maybe doesn't have any luck.
Kinda frustrating when people think that way. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 9/16/2008 3:15:39 PM | | nothing to handle but i know women who would not sleep with virgins at that age or similar.just curious as to why your a virgin at that age?are you brittany spears??????trust me you were better off losing it earlier [if possible]because i lost mine at 15 and honestly only learning the last few months[28 now] what proper sex is or more to the point,what proper love is.thought i had all the experience in the world and needed nothing more to learn or experience but i have found my true love and it makes it 10 times better even if it was the exact same sex as a one night stand.get into the game fella and forget the things that go wrong. at the start its a learning curve,more so for men than women.notice you are 25 so gather you watched plenty of porn but if she does not moan loud enough to wake the neighbours "4 blocks away" it does not mean shes not enjoying it.just stimulate her clit,feel the back of her knees,rub her thighs,kiss her neck,stroke her hair or gently rub her neck will at least make her feel special.different strokes for different folks.every women as well as every man are different.if you meet someone special and you feel you are not satisfying your partner,she more than likely wont tell you.COMMUNICATION is most important.If a female tells you your doing this wrong and that wrong but do it this way,then they are the best to be with because if your with someone your not satisfying who says nothing,then its simply never going to work.did not check op`s profile out so if your female then its a penis and not much to learn lol but just don`t forget there are 2 balls to play with too and we like our nipples kissed bitten and licked too lol | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 9/16/2008 3:19:46 PM | Sheeeesh, all the negativity on here is kinda harsh...who really cares, man? More people would accept this thread more if it were a female poster, so does it really matter that it's a guy? Just because dudes are normally more likely ready to jump on the opportunity to lose it before they exit junior high...doesn't mean you're a freak, outcast, pathetic, or anything else. It's something to respect, in my book.  (Assuming you've saved yourself this long for a reason...I really can't be sure, however...if you really *are* irritated about your virginity, then perhaps the "go get a hooker" posts may be applicable...)
...watch "The 40-Year Old Virgin" and feel better?  | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 9/16/2008 4:12:47 PM |
just curious as to why your a virgin at that age?
I just can't get any. Women do anything with me.
notice you are 25 so gather you watched plenty of porn
Yea...I watch a little bit.
just stimulate her clit,feel the back of her knees,rub her thighs,kiss her neck,stroke her hair or gently rub her neck will at least make her feel special
I've never did any of that before. I have to get in that postion first. And getting there is the problem.
Just realized you weren't talking to me. But I still answered it. lol | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 9/16/2008 6:03:02 PM | I've only had sex a few times, always with hookers.
I think it's better that than nothing. Of course it won't teach you how to *get* girls without paying - you're on your own there. But maybe it will make you more sure of yourself when the time does come to pleasure a lady.
And don't tell girls your a virgin! From my limited experience, girls *hate* to think that they've had more sex than the guy they're with; it makes them feel slutty. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 9/16/2008 6:42:26 PM | | I personally think this is just something you will have to decide how to handle on your own. I myself was almost a 27 year old virgin. there are sites out there where you can find play partners.....no cash necessary except for maybe a room...unless they can host or you can....in which case just go out and get some condoms and your set. if you are religious and your religion tells you to wait till marraige....you better make damned good and sure that she/he is "the one", otherwise you'll more then likely discover it was a mistake to get married and you'll be heading for divorce court. if you are comfortable with being a virgin then more power to you....just remember there ARE scientific facts to proove that being a virgin for a male after age 30 can become unhealthy....be ready to endure all that mental mumbojumbo if thats where your heading. on the other hand....if you are a male virgin and you dont feel any stigma over keeping it and wish to just loose it....then put this in your profile and wait and hope. there are ups and downs to both sides of the coin. my personal first time wasnt perfect at all. it was with a girl i met on a certain site who knew i was a virgin and was willing to help me out for my early birthday gift. i wasnt in love with her and she wasnt in love with me....it really was more of just her helping me to lose my v-card. ill always remember it and appreciate the act...though the girl and i dont talk anymore because she turned into a **** about things. at least now i KNOW that i can please a woman in bed and such then whenever i determine ive found "the one" then i know she will be satisfied. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 9/16/2008 7:25:24 PM |
I'd think, after 25, you'd have lost count and no longer would consider yourself a virgin.
I think after masturbating some 10,000 times, it should atleast count for having sex once right?
Ok..................................Maybe not. But i'd atleast like to keep the illusion that it does.
I'd still trade a good 2 to 3 thousand of those for the v-card loss. Hell...i'd trade them all for some action with an actual female. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 9/16/2008 7:51:17 PM | i woz a virgin up until a few months ago, before that i found it hard 2 deal wiv bein 24 n still a virgin
Until i met my ex, i told her the truth and we took things slow and it was amazing 2 finally lose it 2 sum1 i loved,cared 4 n trusted
so my advice is 2 wait n find sum1 who u can trust and they care about u as much as u care 4 them | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 9/17/2008 8:57:50 AM | I don't really get the waiting. People who wait are in my eyes people who pass sex up to wait for that someone speical. Not someone who just hasn't gottin any.
I'm not some man whore. But i'm not really waiting for the one. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 9/20/2008 1:16:34 AM | | I am in my early thirties and have never had sex, I had plenty of oppurtunities. Just recently had a couple of chances. I use to be very religious, I'm not anymore. I guess now I'm waiting for a relationship or a really hot woman. Some average whore just isn't enough. The worst part of being a virgin is the disrespect you get from people. People stereotype virgins as being pure,nice, and naive. It's put a chip on my shoulder, I have almost got into fights because of not having sex. Women see you as a nice guy, almost like your not a man. I had to tell a couple women off because of that. The original term for virgin means young female, now people use it for men who haven't had sex. Virgin men are looked at as being less masculine, because the term was meant originally for women. When people first meet me, they think I'm a cool dude and treat me with respect. When they later find out I'm a virgin, they treat me like I'm naive or some really nice guy. Honestly, I'm not pure, I'm not naive, and I'm not always nice. I'm my own person,sticking my penis into a vagina doesn't define me as a person. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 9/20/2008 3:04:16 AM | | It really doesn't matter what who says. I too am quite conservative and believed that it would be much better to save it for someone whom I really loved and thought I could spend the rest of my life with (even if it doesn't happen so). I am in my mid thirties and still one, and not shameful of it at all. The boundaries of society do sometimes force me thinking about the decisions I have made thus far. It sometimes seems like a battle between that which yearns to be myself and that which wants to be shaped by societal conditionings. Yet I find myself more attracted to my own centrality and the regrets of the past of any kind are dissolved when I feel more in my presence. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 9/20/2008 10:48:15 AM | hey man i'm 21 years old and i'm a virgin which doesn't bother me in anyway because i'm an optimistic type of guy and by staying optimistic it can help you through so many tough situations, i'm not looking for sympathy here but people have looked down on me before just for being a virgin at my age, but just look at things this way, one day something good will happen when you least expect it and i hope anyone in this situation doesn't feel too down about it but with all do respect don't lower your standards by sleeping with a hooker because thats the fools way out everyone has there own qualities and thats all we need to use
stay optimistic and all the best | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 9/20/2008 12:15:16 PM | I myself would never actually do a hooker. I mean, you could catch something bad. Or get arrested.
Getting arrested for trying to get a hooker would have to be one of the most embarresing things ever.
But it's hard not have feel down about it. Everyone has needs. And everyone wants them fullfield. And when they aren't, it gets frustrating.
It guess i'm sexually frustrated. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 9/20/2008 6:28:12 PM | It would be strange for me to get a hooker because I was in meaningful relationships and I still didn't have sex. I'm in a odd situation, I don't whether to wait for my next relationship or just get it out of the way. It's difficult to find relationships when your a virgin at my age.
I'm wondering if other older virgins had a difficult childhood. I grew up in a abusive household, which gave me low self-esteem and made it harder to fit in. I was wondering if that was the case for other older virgins (25 and up). I have good self-esteem now, but it took a while to get it. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 9/20/2008 11:58:10 PM | bigfatmeatloaf-
I'm a female and I had a post in the ask guys forum asking how man guys would be willing to wait until marriage for sex. And I got some very harsh responses. So that's not quite true. If you're planning to wait in this day and age you are looked apon with disdain by the majority of the population. No matter what your gender may be. Not that a few rude people are going to change my mind. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 9/21/2008 12:33:13 AM | | I think the majority of the population would unanimously agree that such experience or lack thereof, would entail mostly negative connotation with such conjecture. Truth be told however that people have the right to defend their viewpoint and in many cases there are men and women who wilfully abstain completely from 'the act' alltogether, be it for religious beliefs or moral standards. Personally I believe that learning about sex and experiencing intimacy is part of the learning process through something we all experience called LIFE. Having interacted closely with persons in this situation (or even a later age), it is evident that the individuals I know of do appear to lack 'something' which can potentially sabotage a possible relationship in future. That 'something' is not easily learned or practiced through anything else other then experience, and in the subject department in question I believe that it becomes more important as you get older. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 9/21/2008 1:09:27 AM | OP, indeed you sound like sexually frustrated.
I saw virginity as a precious "first time" experience. Once you lost IT. You Never have it back. There will never be a first time anymore.Just like sky diving (someone post it). Ideally, when two people in love and get married, they build their lives starting fresh. But if one is not a virgin, the other one may get "jealous" along the way of that thief who "stole" the first moment.
If you are not "saving" for anything maybe you want to start being open,sincere, nice, sweet, generous finding a girlfriend and just do it with her. Or maybe go out and be with a super drunk. That way you don't need to put much efforts.
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 9/21/2008 1:48:54 AM | Go to las vegas to the only legalbrothels in America take 500bucks that will buy you any hooker in the state. I lost my virginity at26 had a sonat 27 still do not regret it. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 9/21/2008 2:55:20 AM | An opening between the legs..
Oh muh ****en GAWD!
And that was exactly what I said when I lost my virginity.
And I think 2min later I said something to the tune of "That was awesome!" | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 9/21/2008 5:56:25 AM | | Mine is choice and something I see as valuable. Some days it is difficult but I am proud of my choice. That is me. I knew I was going to wait until I was married so that was my bases behind it. That being said, you seem to have no bases behind the why of your situation. If you are that miserable and have no bases behind not having it, then I am not sure why you are complaining. Seems like you are having a mid-life crisis at 25 and trying to figure out an excuse for why you have not. Who cares. If you are misreable then do something about it. I don't see it as a big deal at all but my situation is different. There is so much else in life to concentrate on you know? | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 9/21/2008 4:24:54 PM | | I think by posting they are doing something about it. Maybe they have low self-esteem, they maybe looking for someone to encourage them, not criticize them. I didn't have sex for religious reasons. I had a girlfriend for close to 4 years too. I don't have the religious views anymore, but I'm not going out to get some whore either. It is a big deal to men and how society views virgin men. Does society put pressure on women to be thin? Its the same thing. | |
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