| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 11/23/2008 4:27:42 PM | ...people have actually told me I'm ugly and complete strangers have pointed at me and made rude comments, laughed, ect
Twirpy, There is no need to feel down about yourself at all. People who talk, point and laugh are gonna get theirs in return when the good lord is done. I have seen his payback more than once and it aint pretty. Usually they will have a child with the same condition you have. There was a lady once who laughed at someone who had a lip problem and she got preg and her child was born with same lip problem that she had made fun of. I bet she isnt laughing anymore. What people dish out always comes back to haunt them. You just remember that they are no better than you. In fact you might be better than them on the inside...where it counts. If somene cannot get passed your flaws then they arent worth having in the first place. We all have flaws. Just some are different than others but none the less no one is anywhere near perfect. My advice to you is to never give up on finding that special person that will love you for who u are. Best of luck to you.
PS. I'm sorry that you have to deal with such incompetant idiots.
by the way I used to make fun of what the baby I was carrying would look like when born. I absoultely cannot stand red hair. I siad my child would be born with red hair , very light completected and tall and skinny. Well she was born just as I said....red hair tall ,skinny and very light completcted. never joke or make fun of anyone. I now have two very light complected red headed skinny kids lol. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 11/23/2008 8:35:43 PM | | How do you handle it? The same way you handle everything else, just keep on going. Sure, some day I may find a woman who wants to have sex with me(without paying by the hour) but I'm not going to hold my breath. I have hobbies, a job, and the internet to keep me company. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 12/21/2008 9:58:24 AM | I'm a 21 year old virgin and i've been in a couple of relationships but i've never had sex but that doesn't bother me at all
great things happen when you least expect it and even better things happen to those who wait | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 12/28/2008 6:48:35 PM | Same here I'm 25 and still haven't done the deed.
Does it bother me? Not a whole lot. Most people ask me why, usually the reason is that I just haven't been comfortable with someone yet, because for me that's essential. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 12/29/2008 12:50:51 AM | | I will tell you after the 6th january, when i turn 25-still have not had a girlfriend, am trying to get a lunch date with some women i know | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 12/29/2008 8:08:19 AM | | It's not so much an issue of virginity as it is finding the right match. Don't just go **** a random stranger--you'll be racked with performance anxiety, will be disappointed with the whole experience, and won't even like the person (or yourself) after. When you click with someone intellectually and emotionally (whom you also happen to find hot as they do you)...NOW you've hit the jackpot and the sex will be GOOD! | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 12/29/2008 8:29:39 AM | .....Get an escort.
Is that what you did? if so then your pathetic.
Who the hell are you saving it for???
Maybe he wnats it to be with someone who loves him and he loves in return. This is the way it should be. It should be special for him. I use to have a freind that was in his mid 20's and never had sex yet. I asked him why and he replied he was saving it for the right girl. He didnt want just anyone. That was really sweet. mikesignify30, just becuaes you didnt want it to be special does not mean others feel the same. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 12/29/2008 8:56:57 AM | Its a self-fulfilling prophecy; the longer you hold out for whatever reason, the more awkward, distant and elusive intimacy becomes.
Women are generally uncomfortable with convincing themselves to have sex in the first place with a 'new ' partner, its crossing that first bridge thats an issue.
The seduction process is very subtle and requires a careful approach which becomes more refined as we get older. Those subtleties can make or break the budding relationship, and whatever half assed crap anyone else tells you, these are NOT things you can learn from a book or from other people.
What you get when you have a completely inexperienced male in the picture is a recipe for absolutely nothing. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 12/29/2008 9:09:40 AM | ^^^
Ice-ey9 is abosultely right..
Its a self-fulfilling prophecy; the longer you hold out for whatever reason, the more awkward, distant and elusive intimacy becomes.
Women are generally uncomfortable with convincing themselves to have sex in the first place with a 'new ' partner, its crossing that first bridge thats an issue.
I mean, seriously, by age 25, you have not met ONE SINGLE female you consider "good enough" to be attracted to? to have sex with, to 'make love' to..to fall in love with and display that in a physical way?
WTF makes you think "you" are sooo "good", so "special"?
seriously, I think anyone in this situation should really consider psychological help..I would guess there are issues of self-esteem, possible paranoia and/or schizophrenia, or depression, ..some type of problem... maybe you are really homosexual and just can't or won't admit it to yourself?
this is NOT "normal"..don't kid yourself that it is.
do you want to be a 30-year old virgin? a virgin at 35? or 40?
how do you think you are suddenly going to meet 'the one' when you didn't in the previous 12 or 13 years?? (most people typically start becoming attracted to the opposite sex at around12-13 years of age, if not earlier..) | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 12/29/2008 9:23:54 AM | Well , I recently leveled up , and am now a 25 year old virgin.
Honestly? I find myself not really caring any more. Been feeling wonderfully asexual in the last few months. The one issue I have with it is people getting in into their heads that I'm some sort of morally superior being for being able to turn down the hordes of hot women promising me all sorts of erotic pleasure on a daily basis. Because that's really not how it was.
I mean, seriously, by age 25, you have not met ONE SINGLE female you consider "good enough" to be attracted to? to have sex with
Somehow . . . it seems to me that you've missed the point ;)
maybe you are really homosexual
Odd you should say that, because gay people have sex. They're famous for it. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 12/29/2008 9:25:10 AM | Yes, attracted to, but some men just don't get to have sex, how damn hard is it to understand that??
I get the impression that you think it goes like this, boy meets girl he likes, girl likes boy, relationship blooms and eventually turns from friendliness to intimacy and sex???
I cant remember a single occasion where i met a girl, or now a woman, who i shared a *mutual* attraction to, it was i liked the girl and she didnt want to know, or girl liked me and i wasn't interested. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 12/29/2008 9:29:42 AM |
I get the impression that you think it goes like this, boy meets girl he likes, girl likes boy, relationship blooms and eventually turns from friendliness to intimacy and sex???
well, for probably at LEAST 98% + of people, YES, that is EXACTLY how it goes..
what makes YOu so 'special'?
really, you're not a bad-looking guy from what I see on your profile pic; I'm sure you could meet women interested in you..unless youa rte EXTREMELY "picky"??
would you only consider sex with a c;ebrity-type woman such as Victoria Beckham,
(" Posh Spice"), etc.?
Odd you should say that, because gay people have sex. They're famous for it.
perhaps..but first they have to be willing to ADMIT to themselves, and maybe to family, and people they know, that they are gay, rather than trying to pretend they are "non-practicing heterosexuals"..? 'asexual heteros' ? | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 12/29/2008 9:36:43 AM | | I'm not typing out my life history for the past decade and all the things that contributed to not having sex, and no i don't have any retarded superiority complex, i just haven't been able to connect with anyone that way yet, in recent years i just didn't try anymore. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 12/29/2008 10:53:03 AM | Virgins unite,form of.....a monk? Idk I'm a 21 year old virgin and I'm completely kool with that,I mean it gets frustrating at times but meah I'll live. I think it's really chill how people are being honest about being virgins;at one point of my life i just wouldn't comment but I've got nothing to be ashamed of.I'm a good looking dude,I'm worldly,well rounded( well except for that one thing of course  ),and have nothing but the utmost respect for women but most importantly myself.Anyways stay strong my virgin brethren,just make sure to put yourself out their and we'll all be fine.............
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 12/29/2008 11:00:01 AM | how old is "this person" now? would A........should A...........couldA..... i dont think this person exsists anymore actually....  | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 12/29/2008 12:40:57 PM | What these people said! 
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artlover88, #75
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HipMom47, #150
Trust me, remain a virgin until you find the right girl. 
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bigslim, #165
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shufflebottom, #215
You sound like a good man shuffle, but time waits for noone. You're 32, go ask several girls you like for a date, you'll do great. There certainly a woman out there for you.
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braves1983, #354
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Being a virgin at any age is fine.
Although if you're over 30, then it's probably time to get serious about dating to find someone special (not to get laid, like someone suggested, duh). Ask a girl/guy that you like for a date and keep looking. Don't stop.
Being a virgin beyond a certain age has a stigma of *being inadequate* only in countries where food is abundant (USA, Europe). Thanks, Hollywood! In some other places, people lead some kind of day-to-day existence, which I wouldn't call life. Can you imagine coming back to your wife at home, having to look into those eyes and telling her there is no food for the kids?!
Another thing that comes to mind is ants and salmon.
I believe male ants get killed by the females right after sex? No thanks, I am a happy virgin ant,  ! Then, also salmon mate in upstream rivers, to avoid predators eating their young, and then they die of exhaustion. Hmm, sure happy I wasn't born a salmon.
Carpe Diem!
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 12/29/2008 12:56:46 PM | A good friend of mine was a virgin up until this Christmas, at the ripe age of 23 he let that social stigma go.
Every adult virgin I've met with the exception of 2 or 3 (religious reasons) were that way because of definite social problems and a lack of interaction with people. Some worse than others, but a good example was my friend. Completely incapable of talking to a woman that he did not know for any amount of time.
Knock the shy mess off, get out more, get social. Go do something that forces you to interact with others (male and female) and eventually you're bound to meet someone who wants to talk to you. That's the first step, there are a few between, but that can eventually lead to *gasp* sex! | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 12/29/2008 7:19:46 PM | "Maybe he wnats it to be with someone who loves him and he loves in return. This is the way it should be. It should be special for him. I use to have a freind that was in his mid 20's and never had sex yet. I asked him why and he replied he was saving it for the right girl. He didnt want just anyone. That was really sweet. "
oh please.. *gag* Typical girlie sappy shit. | |
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