| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 12/29/2008 7:25:26 PM | | Well it is a fact that the the early Church Fathers did not like any mention of sex - and some really disapproved of it all together - The nuns are said to be "pure" just like most of you reading this - So the solution is for her to become a nun and the poor bloke to become a Monk - and make do with sending her a few texts on high days and holidays. However unlike most of you (it seems) I have different views. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 12/29/2008 7:46:57 PM | have you been trying to stay a virgin?
It is a difference between whether it is a choice or not...
I assume since you are asking then it is not?
Confidence is everything. Depending on the amount that you have it shows. If you have alot then it exudes from you and people are attracted to it whether you are attractive or not.
Hope this helps... | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 12/29/2008 8:21:19 PM | | I can't say that I've met many past that age.. but those who are, are either living in some kind of extreme religious wonder world.. or they are a really miserable bunch! | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 12/30/2008 4:01:26 AM | Same story from everyone, you must be a miserable git thats on par with victor from one foot in the grave, or a religious nutcase.
Does no one believe that sometimes it just doesn't happen to a guy, and as he gets older it gets harder for him to develop relationships??
Or are most of you too ignorant to understand that/refuse to acknowledge it.
And this "Maybe he wants it to be with someone who loves him and he loves in return. This is the way it should be. It should be special for him. I use to have a friend that was in his mid 20's and never had sex yet. I asked him why and he replied he was saving it for the right girl. He didn't want just anyone. That was really sweet. "
oh please.. *gag* Typical girlie sappy shit."
So females can have emotional needs, and want to feel a connection that isn't purely physical, but men get branded a wimp for having the same purpose.
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 12/30/2008 9:31:31 AM |
So females can have emotional needs, and want to feel a connection that isn't purely physical, but men get branded a wimp for having the same purpose.
Only by the ignoramuses of this forum.
Personally I don't get why you're still reading their posts and responding, unless you're enjoying the attention.
I think by now it's pretty obvious that you should just stop worrying about this so much and see a hooker if you want some gratification and sexual experience.
Whatever you do, winging isn't going to change your situation. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 12/30/2008 10:37:20 AM |
I think by now it's pretty obvious that you should just stop worrying about this so much and see a hooker if you want some gratification and sexual experience.
Simon, I'm not even a man, and I agree ! You've worked yourself up to thinking that sex is some sort of elusive, magical, fairy tale of a thing. You're not even going to be able to get it up when the time comes!
My prescription - go get a massage, complete with happy ending. Repeat until you're comfortable with this, and then call an escort service.
If you don't get laid soon, I'm afraid you're on your way to becoming a serial killer. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 12/30/2008 12:54:07 PM |
Does no one believe that sometimes it just doesn't happen to a guy, and as he gets older it gets harder for him to develop relationships??
Or are most of you too ignorant to understand that/refuse to acknowledge it.
Dude, it doesn't "just happen" to anyone. Nobody is just walking around in the mall and stumbles into a naked girl bent over the water fountain. You don't just wake up with a vagina on your lap. It requires communication, self confidence and sometimes, if only the slightest bit, EFFORT.
Get the **** off of your pity party bandwagon and go out and TALK TO GIRLS! Find the one who is worth waiting for, since sitting in your house jerking off isn't going to lead Miss Wonderful to your door.
FWIW: Miss Wonderful in most cases would prefer that you know what you're doing with your****than be a virgin. Sorry, but it's the truth. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 4/8/2009 12:56:33 PM | | who cares you don t have to tell people only u know, just if want to sleep with someone find out why you can't thats the issue. everyone does things at different times aslong as you don t get to be like 40 and u ain t tried it, thinking u should have done it by a ceratin age will make u depressed and feel like a failure but it would only bother if its not what u want. not what people would think - just lie. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 4/13/2009 5:40:38 PM | I don't think about it much anymore except I don't see why the stigma against virgins.
I'll be 42 on teusday April 14, 2009. I've never had sexual intercourse with a woman although I gave one woman oral sex back in 2005. ( under some duress I might add...it wasn't all thate enjoyable because we really didn't have a loving relationship.....to her she just wanted sex.....which is a huge turnoff (sexually and emotionally ) for me.)
I worry more about not finding a compatable girlfreind that actually likes me for who I am and isn't a sex fiend or a voracious fornicator. I can wait till marriage on the losing the virginity...that is my plan at least.
I would like to find a suitable girlfreind who I may have a chance to marry one day. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 4/13/2009 7:32:19 PM | | Nothing wrong with being a virgin. I lost my virginity a long while back but one of my closest friends is 21 and still a virgin. We make fun of him sometimes but we all admire him for it. This guy is really cute, charming in a slightly geeky way, he has charisma and game...no one would EVER think he's a virgin, yet he is. He just chooses not to have sex with the slightly slutty girls who hit on him or to give it up to someone he doesn't care about. He values himself as worth more than a quickie with some chick he wouldn't even consider going for a coffee with (funny how many people's standards towards whom they would go for dinner are stricter than for whom they would share a bed/couch/rug/alley/club bathroom stall with...). I know alot of good looking girls who would take his "flower" from him, but it wont happen unless it's a girl he can see himself having a relationship with or at least dating, and those girls usually take his kindness for granted and treat him like a brother. He's not gay, he's not ugly, not cripplingly shy or fervently religious. He's just a really great guy who has not yet found the right girl. He would be the best boyfriend ever if the right girl crossed his path. To all you virgins, I salute you and hope that you find what you are looking for! And by the way, you don't need to spend money on escorts, lots of girls would love to have a virgin to show the ropes to...easier to coach into doing what you love :P | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 4/14/2009 10:21:27 AM | "I have a profound respect for him for keeping his virginity. He treats ladies very well and is by far one of the best people I have ever met. Don't sweat it if you still are. I wish I could turn back time and take mine back."
I second that.
There is nothing to say you are not a man/woman if you choose to wait.
For those that do, I respect them, and definately wish I that I did.
For those that don't, I have no ill thoughts towards them either, I just wish more would respect others who choose to wait, for whatever their reasons. It most certainly is those sorts who wait, who are often the most kind, gentle, generous, loyal people you will ever meet.
It never fails to amuse me when I hear/read the ignorant, closed minded comments like "oh please, that's girly sappy shit" and like minded comments in regards to someone who chooses to wait.
Why the hell guys are branded as a wimp and a girl is assumed to be pure, is beyond me.
And yet a guy is expected in many cases to go spread his seed all over the world, because that is what men do, and men should be proud to have as many sexual partners as they can. However, when a woman is active sexually it is frowned upon and she is slaughtered with such hateful, derogatory assumptions.
There's a lot of stereotypes and expectations that are just purely ridiculous, that really need to be banished from this world, including this one. That you're a wimp/loser if you haven't had sex, and you're waiting, or say you are waiting.
Seriously, for those who claim others are wimps/losers, etc. you have some insecurity issues of your own to deal with. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 4/14/2009 11:16:49 AM | I find it amazing how many people cannot fathom the possibility that a man might be out there who is perfectly healthy and normal, but chooses to not let his life be ruled by his libido. It's quite possible that the OP, those admitted 25 yr. old virgins, and others have actually chosen to not "hit" ever piece of willing tail that comes across their paths. Is that so difficult for people to understand? Apparently so, based on the responses in this thread.
So, here's to narrow sightedness and intolerance. Maybe someday people will learn to be able to respect views outside of their own, especially about something as personal and subjective as sexual attraction.
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 4/14/2009 11:48:11 AM | | well im nearly 33 and im still a virgin, no sure how it stayed that way for me, just for some reason ive didnt feel the need for it, plus wi having depression doesnt help either but it doesnt bother me, but sometimes i want sex some i dont | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 4/14/2009 12:03:10 PM |
I find it amazing how many people cannot fathom the possibility that a man might be out there who is perfectly healthy and normal, but chooses to not let his life be ruled by his libido. It's quite possible that the OP, those admitted 25 yr. old virgins, and others have actually chosen to not "hit" ever piece of willing tail that comes across their paths. Is that so difficult for people to understand? Apparently so, based on the responses in this thread.
Those of us that think its a bit strange to be a 25 yr old virgin arent suggesting they should have hit "hit every piece of tail" that crossed their paths, but by 25, they should have hit at least one! And wanting/enjoying sex does NOT mean we are all "ruled" by our libido; it just means we enjoy a relationship that includes a physical part - which is a normal, healthy thing for people to want.
Human beings were made to enjoy being touched. Its a part of being human. Its comforting and warm - babies thrive on it. And adults need it too. By 25, they've had 7 years as adults to socialize and meet people and find someone to care about who cares about them. If someone hasnt had a caring relationship with a member of the opposite sex (or same sex if they are gay) by 25, then maybe they have some other problem thats getting in the way; maybe something like excessive shyness, or a social anxiety disorder that they can get help for.
You only get one go around on this earth so get out there and enjoy it! As far as I know, when you die you dont get any extra points for staying celibate for more years than everybody else! | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 4/14/2009 1:07:58 PM |
I think somebody already said it but I gotta say it again...BUY A HOOKER.
I'm fairly certain you can only rent or lease for the evening or weekend, but then again I've never gone down this road.
Umm, I think it really depends on your philosophies on sex, love, and intimacy in general. I waited till i was 22 before I finally up and decided to do it and I could have waited longer if I wanted to but on the flip side I could have lost it when I was 16. The only person you have to answer to about this is yourself so make a decision and go with it. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 4/15/2009 6:17:53 PM |
I find it amazing how many people cannot fathom the possibility that a man might be out there who is perfectly healthy and normal, but chooses to not let his life be ruled by his libido
*Yawn*.
Gotta love the assumptions that people are waiting when they are a virgin that long.
I think waiting is rediculous.
When you have the opportunity take it.
I've tried. Haven't gottin any.
Waiting for that speical one. Please. Speical?
If you have the chance. You should take it.
You never know if you'll get it again.
If I had any offers, i'd take them no doubt. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 4/24/2009 7:24:49 PM |
Does no one believe that sometimes it just doesn't happen to a guy, and as he gets older it gets harder for him to develop relationships??
Basically for me, this. I cant go a single day, maybe even waking hour without listening to someone talk about their relationship(s)/sex lives/love etc and I am the oldest in my circles at work/home/friends. And staring down 25 having absolutely no ****ing experience in any of these regards kills me inside everytime it becomes a topic of conversation. And I have tried. I have put myself out there. I am "too much like a brother to date". Or they are "too close to me". And I die even more inside. I try to hide from them all to avoid listening to them because I cant take how far I have fallen. Even now I am fighting back tears thinking about how every month that passes is now exponentially increasing the odds I will die cold and alone. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 4/25/2009 9:26:25 AM | | After years or jerking off and a bit of French-kissing when I was 26, I finally did it with a woman when I was 31, and it wasn't all that great. Wasn't sure if I liked her to begin with...nice bod I guess but whoreish personality (I wanted someone a bit sweeter) just wanted to "get it over with" so I rushed in, slid on a condom and prepared to go to work. She started out by blowing me (very nice albeit very rough and she bit too hard). Climbed on top of me grinding away (nice) then started grinding back and forth so that my****got bent back the wrong way (ouch) and couldn't get it up after that. Was so nervous I couldn't keep it up, didn't cum...it was awkward to say the least. Since then, I've tried to dig in deep and establish a comfort zone with someone I genuinely like, and then start EASING into sexual things (starting with a kiss) on date #3...makes the thing so much more comfortable and enjoyable. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 8/20/2009 10:53:15 AM | Kid, on your post regarding
"Would you have a tendancy to view someone my age who's still a virgin as "damaged"?"
Let me just say that I am only 20 and a virgin, and yeah I feel pretty damaged. I do think a recent event (eh not going into it here) made it glaringly obvious that I have slipped with my contentment in life and am indeed not in the happiest of places right now.
Just my 2 cents. I dont know how to handle being a virgin...if someone intelligent find out, message me xp | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 8/20/2009 5:01:59 PM | | I'm a 51-year-old virgin, and I'm very happy with my life right now. I got out of what was the longest relationship of my life, though still non-sexual, because I wasn't happy. Now I have an apartment by myself, things set up the way I like, can spend time and money on what I choose. I've started writing again to women on PoF and other sites, but I'm not really in a hurry to get together with anyone. And if I do, I'd prefer it never become sexual; some affection and romance is all I want. | |
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