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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 8/20/2009 8:39:08 PM | I agree osisbeyond I'm was very shy to and know not that much. I'm 28 year old virgin and the respect for women is there more then some guys but I'm still fishin  . | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 8/20/2009 9:00:30 PM | I'd suggest finding a really awesome single woman n her thirties to take you home and make love to you until you know everything you ever wanted to know about sex.
If you're lucky, she'll have kids and send you home with a Lunchable.
Beth | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 8/21/2009 7:44:02 AM |
I'd prefer it never become sexual; some affection and romance is all I want.
Right, just like looking and smelling a delicious dinner and can't eat it. It must feel good to you. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 8/21/2009 8:26:45 AM | | Are we talking a person that's never even fooled around, or are we talking about a person that's at least kissed or touched someone of the opposite sex and had or given oral sex? To me there's a difference. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 8/21/2009 10:43:31 AM | You know if i would have waited and saved my virginity for someone worth while...i would still be a virgin...
 Now that Made Me Laugh out Loud
I've been scrollin' through this LONG LONG LONG thread and see allot of women talking about "Not being able to be with a Virgin" for some reason or another....so does that mean all Virgins MUST troll for sex to make them legitimately "eligible" for a relationship?
EdIt: on the virgin note, is a Virgin someone who has never penetrated a woman and or been penetrated themselves? | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 8/21/2009 10:43:47 AM |
Right, just like looking and smelling a delicious dinner and can't eat it.
No, for me it's more like watching a sport but never playing it. I like cuddling, having someone hold me; that's relaxing and comforting. But I wouldn't like getting all sweaty and physical with her and having to deal with all that sex stuff. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 8/23/2009 9:11:17 AM | | What scares me is like someone else said in this thread or another thread, I seem to be the kind of person that gets attached by fooling around, even if I wasn't that into it or the woman. For some people, fooling around and sex is nothing more than a handshake, but for me, I never watched porn or was given the gift of easy, casual sex with wh*res so it means more to me. It bothers me that I could hook up with some girl I barely know or just started dating, and the next thing you know, I think I'm in love with her even though I'm not just based on the fact that we had intercourse. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 8/23/2009 12:38:56 PM | | I'm 21 and a virgin, and I imagine I'll still be a virgin at 25, since I'm in no hurry to get married. It doesn't affect me negatively at all. So I've never had sex. That doesn't make me less of a man. I actually think it makes me more of a man. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 8/23/2009 9:40:49 PM | I'm not all that bothered about being a virgin at 42.
I'd like to find a woman to marry one day. I might not be ready for marriage for a few years but I certainly want to find a g/f.
Life is more than sex ....without affection I don't even think I could get an erection. I feel that sex before marriage is just using someone. Just my 2 cents | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 8/24/2009 11:07:14 AM |
Unless you never leave your apartment or are physically repulsive, there is virtually no way you can remain a virgin.
Oh, please, this, along with a host of other comments, are the most foolish statements I've ever read.
It is not difficult to remain a "virgin", in this day or any other day. No one is forcing you to have sex (intercourse) with another. If you have no desire to take a chance on some incurable std, believe sex is a gift that should be reserved for marriage (or at the least a very long long long term relationship - like for life!), or value the intimacy of a shared committed sexuality, and don't desire to abase yourself with casual sexual expoits; remaining a virgin is a piece of cake.
Personally, those who chose to wait, those who cherish the intimacy of another without all the mental/physical baggage that comes with indesciminate coupling, are much more secure in their sexuality than those who have little self-respect and even less self-control than the promiscuous.
TK
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 8/24/2009 11:13:59 AM |
I'm praying for you, my son.
It's almost impossible to be a virgin these days.
How do you do it?
Unless you never leave your apartment or are physically repulsive, there is virtually no way you can remain a virgin.
It's pretty easy. There's a word we all learn between the ages of six months and two years old. The word is "no". That's all you have to say, essentially. You might have to say no creatively, but as long as you keep saying no, you will remain a virgin.
Having done it before (I had a girl throwing herself at me and I refused to even kiss her because I had no romantic interest whatsoever in her), I can say it isn't that hard. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 8/24/2009 12:13:40 PM | I agree with the last couple guys, except I'm not waiting for marriage, just not interested in casual sex - casual to me meaning anything for sport, not out of love or mutual respect or attraction.
Some guys are controlled by their d*cks. Some think with their other head. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 8/26/2009 11:38:48 AM |
Nothing wrong with being a virgin. I lost my virginity a long while back but one of my closest friends is 21 and still a virgin. We make fun of him sometimes but we all admire him for it. This guy is really cute, charming in a slightly geeky way, he has charisma and game...no one would EVER think he's a virgin, yet he is. He just chooses not to have sex with the slightly slutty girls who hit on him or to give it up to someone he doesn't care about. He values himself as worth more than a quickie with some chick he wouldn't even consider going for a coffee with (funny how many people's standards towards whom they would go for dinner are stricter than for whom they would share a bed/couch/rug/alley/club bathroom stall with...). I know alot of good looking girls who would take his "flower" from him, but it wont happen unless it's a girl he can see himself having a relationship with or at least dating, and those girls usually take his kindness for granted and treat him like a brother. He's not gay, he's not ugly, not cripplingly shy or fervently religious. He's just a really great guy who has not yet found the right girl. He would be the best boyfriend ever if the right girl crossed his path. To all you virgins, I salute you and hope that you find what you are looking for! And by the way, you don't need to spend money on escorts, lots of girls would love to have a virgin to show the ropes to...easier to coach into doing what you love :P
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I just want to say that the peer pressure presented by the majority of people concerning this issue is astounding. There really is nothing wrong with being a virgin. I dislike casual sex because my personality deems it a waste of time. I hate wasting my time because I don't have an infinite amount of it. I'm not against sex. I'm just against sex where I can't give it my all and expect the same back.
To me, my aim in having sex is reaching a point where I can reach into the depths of my soul and express myself in a way that is pure passion, but for me to have passion I must love something.
The way that I see it is that sex is an art. It's an expression, its something that requires skill and mastery to refine that expression into the physical accurately. Anything else is baseless and compared to taking a crap on the toilet...just satisfying an urge. I suspect that those who are waiting for the right girl are not into just satisfying an urge. But sex with true passion is extremely rare. We don't get help from the media who advertise sex or the vast population of individuals who use sex as a trend. The virgin is often left out of the loop and becomes desperate. Desperation breeds insecurities which is very unhealthy for the virgin.
My advice to any virgin is that you have to recognize that sex (affection/romance) is a need. Like a starving person the hunger makes you desperate. This is never good. Many people say have confidence but never explain how to actually have confidence. I'll attempt an explanation:
The trick in building confidence is trying to be the best of yourself and never doubting yourself. It is also the ability to see the world objectively. To be the best of yourself you must work hard to follow your dreams and goals. Then you must find what archetype of person turns you on and what that person would look like in reality. Become that person (literally). To never doubt yourself is simple. Be positive in every situation and believe that your way more than good enough. Then you need to see the world objectively to balance everything out. You can't walk up to a girl that catches your eye and just start kissing her on the street (unless your Brad Pit). Expression is a skill and sexual expression is an even greater skill. You may have lots of it but like a beautifully written piece of music it needs dynamics, crescendo's, articulation, tempo, timing, and rhythm. All this is learn'ed naturally through experience. But experience requires lots and lots of failures. Go after what you want and don't stop until you have it. It's worth it. (don't fall into the escort trap, it might be a quick fix but one that may compromise who you are. Sex is sooooooo much better when it has meaning and passion. Don't be fooled by porno). I hope this is helpful. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 8/26/2009 11:48:33 AM | | And never, ever, ever, ever throw a pity party for yourself or get obsessed over a chick that just isn't into you. Learn to be tough and just move on. Its okay to be rejected. Actually its a good thing. If a girl just wants you as a friend its a very good thing. Unless she's using you as a crutch then just treat her like one of the dudes. But never, ever beat yourself up or get obsessed over a girl. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 8/27/2009 6:12:35 PM | I'm one at 25 (almost 26) but you can't really count the first 25 years because I was painfully shy, had extreme social anxiety and agoraphobia, wasn't well liked by the opposite sex to begin with, and didn't really know what I wanted. As far as I was concerned, sex looked really cool and it would somehow make up for my then sh*tty existence to have sex with a really hot girl, not even necessarily one that I had feelings for.
Only started dating and talking to women in February. Either want one of two things: Like someone said earlier, to meet an attractive 30-40 something woman that gives me the time of my life, or do it the old fashioned way and meet a girl my age that I really like and let it happen on its own. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 8/27/2009 6:58:10 PM | | I just want to find someone I love and have sex with that one person after marrying them. I'm not interested in having sex with a random person. I'm like a woman that way, I need love to have sex. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 9/17/2009 3:41:00 PM | | Seriously, losing virginity for women is so much easier, for men they have to play their cards right, they cannot make one mistake. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 9/17/2009 4:50:17 PM | LOL... goodwitchbeth .. that post you wrote made me giggle!! Hilarious. hehehe funny thing is.. i think i have one or two Lunchables in my fridge LOL (fast little snack while trying to get lunch into my son lol)
I KINDA agree with Drusurfer Its easier.. and its not... Most men these days want a women who is .. to say the least.... somewhat experienced.
I lost my V-card at 18. Its not a big deal. I had a virgin once.... So they didn't exactly know what they were doing... but after a while(and much encouragement because he was shy) he got the hang of it. :) | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 9/18/2009 12:08:23 AM |
But I wouldn't like getting all sweaty and physical with her and having to deal with all that sex stuff So many different characters on these forums, and asexuals I find fascinating. Do you consider yourself the quintessential asexual? No thought of sex for procreation even? Its just so fascinating because I cannot even fathom such an ideology. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 9/18/2009 2:22:34 AM |
Unless you never leave your apartment or are physically repulsive, there is virtually no way you can remain a virgin.
absolutely ridiculous statement
attitudes like that is why no-one (well not a guy anyway) will ever ADMIT to being a virgin. That doesn't mean there aren't plenty of older guys for whom its never happened.
I was a lot older than the average when I lost mine and I'm not physically repulsive and have always had a good social life. | |
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