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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 9/18/2009 2:22:34 AM |
Unless you never leave your apartment or are physically repulsive, there is virtually no way you can remain a virgin.
absolutely ridiculous statement
attitudes like that is why no-one (well not a guy anyway) will ever ADMIT to being a virgin. That doesn't mean there aren't plenty of older guys for whom its never happened.
I was a lot older than the average when I lost mine and I'm not physically repulsive and have always had a good social life. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 9/18/2009 6:16:27 AM |
So many different characters on these forums, and asexuals I find fascinating. Do you consider yourself the quintessential asexual? No thought of sex for procreation even? Its just so fascinating because I cannot even fathom such an ideology.
Not really the quintessential asexual; I do masturbate and fantasize on occasion, and some asexuals don't even do that. But the things I fantasize are just fantasy; I wouldn't want them to be real.
As for procreation, I've had enough indirect experience of parenthood; my brother, my sister, and my last girlfriend all had kids. That's enough for me; I'd prefer to just be an uncle, and not father my own kids.
I wouldn't call being asexual an ideology, more of an inclination or orientation. I don't object to sex; I just find that it doesn't appeal to me personally. I have dates, I lived with my last girlfriend for months, I like cuddling and so on, but I never wanted to make any involvement I had sexual. It's just not my nature. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 9/18/2009 10:06:44 AM | I lost my virginity at 18. I could've lost it at 14, but the girl I was with was too nervous. The first time is almost always disappointing. Mine was no exception. Sure, it was great to not be a virgin anymore, but at the same time it wasn't good having a jealous girlfriend who wasn't very adventurous in the bedroom. She wouldn't even do oral. Guys, getting oral can be great, but please have her be careful with her teeth. Be sure to have condoms on hand. Even pre-ejaculate fluid can get a woman pregnant, and not all women like it up the butt, LOL! Some don't even like to be playfully spanked, which I find disappointing.
Virgin guys, lay off the porn (if you're watching it). Not that girls don't like porn (I've been with at least 3 who do), but a guy who looks at a woman as a live f***toy creeps most women out. Women love sex, but for them it has consequences. That's why they're so picky. They want a guy who'll stick around in case she gets pregnant. However, what happens a great deal of the time is that they'll fall for smooth-talking players who project fun and confidence and thus disarm their intended female targets. Next thing you know, she winds up pregnant and that guy has gone on to new conquests in the making. So, nice guys, you're really doing women a favor by projecting a fun and confident attitude and taking care to make sure she gets her pleasure and wearing a condom so she doesn't get pregnant. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 9/18/2009 12:48:09 PM | I don't know why people make such a big deal about losing their virginity...
then again when I lost mine it took me a couple minutes to figure out who's place I was at and who I was with. So if you're still a virgin, think about the liquor consumption if you choose so to remember. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 9/19/2009 3:25:29 AM | | Yeah us Men have to put ourselves in Women's shoes, Women do kinda have a right to be more picky and be more hesitant about having sex, because all us Men gotta do is have fun in Bed and a kid comes, while Women hold them for 9 months and endure childbirth. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 9/19/2009 9:33:23 AM | For men, sex is a chore (seduction and the act itself). For women, it's a choice (whether to do it or not).
However, when the child is born, then a man has a financial responsibility called child support if he chooses not to remain with the mother. On the other hand, a lot of players lie about their true identity and have one-night stands, so it's harder to even find them to get them to pay child support. At the same time, a lot of women sleep around with different guys in a given time period and that's why paternity issues are always the main topic on Maury Povich!  It takes two to tango, right? | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 9/19/2009 6:21:51 PM | Stay strong.
When you fall in love and your love interest falls in love with you, and you both decide to have sex, you will be glad you waited. Sex is temporary pleasure when you arent sharing it with someone you truly care about and who cares about you, regardless of what age. The feeling of sharing orgasm with this person will be over the top!
You can both be patient with each other, learn each others bodies, etc.
Most women I know say that the men they have been with who are experienced
are STILL terrible lovers. A man can sleep around and STILL be a poor lover.
What have you avoided by waiting?
*possible std's
*unwanted pregnancies
and much more
Yes, you havent experienced the purest form of pleasure yet, but again, stay strong and when you are ready you will be glad you waited. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 9/20/2009 2:21:59 AM | | Exactly, for women to get laid it is by choice, to do it or not, for men to get laid it is a chore, he has to play his cards right, metaphorically speaking. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 9/20/2009 9:06:34 AM | | "When you seek it, you cannot find it." That's a Zen saying. Applying my personal interpretation of that to finding a girlfriend or whatever, that doesn't mean you shouldn't put yourself in situations where it's much more likely (than in your dorm room or apartment) to find girls. I take it to mean to let go of expectations either way. The worst thing that can happen is she'll say no. Back to expectations, if you approach a girl with the expectation of getting her to be your girlfriend, then you're going to be nervous and make mistakes. And a lot of guys are nervous around beautiful women. On the other hand, when a guy ignores a girl, then she'll do whatever it takes to get him interested in her. If you haven't seen "Fast Times at Ridgemont High", rent or buy it and watch the scenes where the 'ladies' man' is giving advice to his shy friend. There's some good stuff in there. And you may have screwed up with girls before. The best thing to do is analyze what may have gone wrong and then fix and forget about it. Past mistakes only reoccur in the present when we dwell upon them. When you think thoughts like "I hope I don't screw this up," then invariably you will screw it up. When samurai of former times in Japan would get into a sword fight, they didn't think of winning or losing, of living or dying. They concentrated all of their attention to the moment and situation at hand. That's basically the idea of Zen, living in the here and now. At the moment I don't have a girlfriend because I'm looking for one without kids and one who doesn't want to drag me to church with her. I like sleeping in on weekend mornings! Actually, I like sleeping in on ALL mornings, but that's another story. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 11/4/2009 8:14:02 PM | | Well, 27 and still a virgin :-)! I was raise strict growing up and after i hit my 20's i just didn't know how to act around men because my mom protected me too much . Now that i am on my own, I'm thinking that i should just wait for the right guy to take my virginity, someone I'll trust like a friend and feel comfortable with . But I do feel horny sometimes when I see a hot guy and imagine what it would be like if he were to touch me. LOL! | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 11/4/2009 8:37:29 PM | | I was past 25 when I lost mine and altho I am not gorgeous, I'm not repulsive either. I chose to remain a virgin that long because I wanted to lose it to someone I loved and not just the first guy I was attracted to. | |
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