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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 8/17/2005 11:58:31 PM | I was a virgin until 27, and I can say that I did not like it, many nights alone with noone beside you, but if I could take back the only person I have been with, I would as I became divorced to her a month ago. Mine was part of circumstance, as the girls I liked the most I never had a chance with, and the ones I knew the best were with friends which made them off limits. And lastly money played a issue as when I had very little, the prospects seemed doubtless. Maybe I missed to many queues, but I doubt it as I am a analyst. But if I am wrong, maybe it was because I was already drunk at the time. 
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 8/18/2005 4:24:21 PM | | Your right I don't have alot of self-esteem. It could just be my environment or my friends and relatives having a constant negative impact on me. You also for got that I am a very bitter person. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 8/18/2005 4:40:11 PM | i know a couple virgin's over 25 and if ur not ready or want the right one then my best advice hun save it i wish i could be a virgin again but i wouldn't give my son back just my virginity cause it's not everything ppl make it out to be. i don't think it's a matter of anyone putting them down geez ppl have reason's wow and if u talk to alot of ppl most who have sex is cause they wanted something other it's get there stuff wet or love and think by giving it away they'll get it and some yes have low self esteem but who r some of you to laugh and joke about it what makes you better than them nothing  | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 8/18/2005 8:18:02 PM | Damn, so many people are saying just do it and get it over with, as if being a virgin at that age is such a terrible thing. Yeah, it's not very common, but we've already seen some fish on this forum admit they are also virgins. Seriously, it's ok. Maybe all of those who posted to go out and get a prostitute/escort had magnificient first times but that first experience can be rough. There is social pressure to not be a virgin, and I lost my virginity partially because of this. I was so embarrassed, (cause I sucked and wasn't ready!), that I couldn't even look the girl straight in the eye after the fact. As most of us aren't born experts in the sack, it's best to have someone who really cares about you to help you out and make the first time a good experience and help you learn how to be a good lover. I wish I had done it that way. To living life with conviction and not bowing down to social pressures  | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 8/18/2005 8:53:31 PM | I dated a guy for 3.5 years and he is a virgin. We fooled around but never ever pushed him towards intercourse. He doesn't want to have that until his wedding night, mind you I did offer to go to city hall a few times ;) I was a virgin until 21 and at the point I had been with my boyfriend for 4 years, he never pushed me either until I was ready.
A lot think sex is just sex and that is fine and a lot have their own personal morals when it comes to sex and that should be respected. Sex to me is a beautiful event two people share and I will only participate with someone I think is a beautiful person, and that doesn't mean only looks. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 8/18/2005 8:57:38 PM | I'm 24 and I'm a virgin. I don't really see what the big deal is in admitting it... I'm also one of those "wait until marriage" type of guys, and I don't mean to come off as overly offending but most women seem the same to me, and I haven't met someone yet that would make me believe that I should lose my virginity with them instead of girl x, y, or z. And I don't mean that in a physical way as my physical standards aren't really very high at all, just mentally most people are pretty similar---they're victims of their experiences and enviornment. When I was younger, fat women at the back of the school bus would yell and shriek and say how ugly I was, so I guess at high schoolish age I had a pretty low self esteem of myself and didn't really think that anyone would want to be with me, so naturally I became somewhat of a loner.. not seeing the point of giving someone the time if they might just insult me. It took me awhile to realize I'm not ugly at all (not saying I'm gods gift to beauty either...) and have enough confidence to approach women that I liked (granted, awkwardly). I think going through that, gave me a perspective that I wouldn't normally have and it's made me more aware of what I say and do to others... again, something I probably wouldn't be like if I was thought of as gods gift to manhood or something.
Women often say that I'm intimidating... I dunno exactly why but whatever. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 8/22/2005 2:25:11 PM | hmmm virginity. well im not a Virgin and I love sex too much to just not do it. but I dont mess around anymore. I do have respect for someone who wants to wait and can go without it. I just like it. so ya.  do the banana baby do the banana | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 8/22/2005 2:42:48 PM | | Wow! A lot of people on this thread are just ignorant and stupid! There's nothing wrong with being a virgin at any age just like there's nothing wrong with not being a virgin... and not everyone is a virgin for religous and other outdated reasons. You have to be able to respect people who are doing whats right for them whether that means being a virgin or that they're having sex | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 8/22/2005 2:47:35 PM | | do you think that calling people stupid and ignorant is an intellegent thing to say?????this thread was a question placed to a broad and diffrent base of people of corse there opinions will vary.That is the nature of the question though if the poster wasnt ready to take the good with the bad they shouldnt have posted the question.I agree with what your saying there isnt anything wrong with it but there is something wrong with calling people stupid for voicing themselves.dont think that you should ask for respect right after being disrespectfull | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 8/22/2005 3:46:00 PM | | O My God This brings back bad memories. I married a 25 year old virgin. I soon found out that she did not have a sex drive. Sorry end of marriage. Before you yale at me I stayed for 12 years. I think if you can go past 20 you need sex therpy. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 8/22/2005 4:11:04 PM | | fair enough shandogy.... probly shouldn't have said that..... was just really offended by a few of the postings.... will think then post next time lol | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 8/22/2005 11:43:57 PM | me: 23 and 15, but .. yeah.
I don't agree about needing sex therapy, though. I just think that everybody should acknowledge that whatever rationale was keeping you chaste isn't likely to magically disappear just because there's now a ring on your finger. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 8/23/2005 12:10:13 AM | The best advice that I've heard for "older" male virgins.....
Just learn how to make a woman feel as much pleasure as possible....don't feel like you're obligated to tell them before hand...if you feel the need to tell a person before hand...it's usually implied that you're insecure about it....
My brother lost his virginity at 20 and he's with his first and only woman for three years now...very respectable if you ask me...btw...apparently he told her AFTER their first time...she was rather surprised...not all virgins are terrible lovers....
The terrible lovers are just selfish...I'll bet some of the WORST lovers are very far from virgins....
I'm about to do a huge service for all them frustrated virgins out there:
www.davidshade.com
I thought I knew it all...before I read what this guy has to say...it'll blow yer mind!!!!!
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 8/23/2005 12:58:58 AM | I lost my virginity last November and up until then it took a lot of trial and error to actually hook up with a woman. The level of privacy in a dating setting counts a lot towards getting to a make out stage and beyond.
Looking back I can't say I handled myself very well in the years before then. It is a time that is past so my advice would be to develop interaction skills with the opposite sex. A lot of times on the journey to getting laid you will find your self doing things that seem to have nothing with getting laid, like talking about motorcycles, the things that scare a girl, little connections like that. These little connections... are key to reaching intimacy with a woman.
I hope this helps. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 8/23/2005 2:24:40 AM | | If you've stayed a virgin for this long why not wait until you meet someone special? I'm willing to bet most of us didn't think too much about our first experience. It just happened. As an older more mature guy you can make this once in a lifetime experience an experience to be had. Don't get laid because others think you should. Find a nice girl and make it night to remember. | |
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