| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 8/27/2005 3:40:57 PM | ^^ if hes hung up over the virginity thing, then you know he really wanted more, lets just say, he wanted to go the more used route | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 8/27/2005 3:44:15 PM | | I think if ur a vigin at 25 and not casue u wanna be they u sould handle it by getting a gun and shooting urself or try running acroos freeway at night | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 8/27/2005 3:57:14 PM | Wow, I drop a teency-tiny little reality bomb in here and people go into hysterics?
I simply cannot understand what would motivate a person to choose a path of such brutal self denial as abstinence if it wasn't for the oppression of religious dogma? As for the claim that your virginity is due to morals, I take offence to that and on behalf of the VAST majority of humanity I can tell you that you are woefully mistaken in your assumption that having sex or, God forbid - enjoying sex, makes a person an amoral or worthless human being.
You say you choose to remain a virgin, that's fine, it makes me sad to know that people let their lives slip away as they cling to a fading dream but that is entirely your choice and although I will not applaud you for it, I will defend your right to make choices for yourself.
You could say you have greater morals or values because you want to eat an airplane, one tiny piece of metal at a time but that doesn't make it so. You could choose do that but I won't applaud it. That would be your choice.
As for the "joining the human race" comment, I stand by it. As a human being, is it our biological imprerative to procreate and pass our genes on to future generations. Apparently in some animals, this drive seems to be lacking and in time, those who carry the genes that lead to a total and complete lack of sex drive will be bred out of existence...it's called evolution.
So before you go frothing at the mouth and filling a post with those lovely black stars, take a moment to breathe and then present your arguments in a rational and reasonable manner. The whiners in the peanut gallery with nothing to contribute are a waste of space.
Some have stated that the fear of God is not what comples them to deny themselves for decade after decade, others mention a FEAR of std's? Please ask your doctor for some educational material, phone a radio program during a sex therapist's show and find out some answers, some real answers to your questions. FEAR of diseases or pregnancy is not a very rational reason to spend the best years of your life in self-denial, for your own sake look into it. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 8/27/2005 4:07:33 PM | When I was younger I was saving myself for marriage. Believe me I had PLENTY of chances..... When I hit 25 I FREAKED out... I had thought I'd be married and having kids...
I had nightmares that I was going to DIE a virgin!
I decided the next relationship I was in I was gonna get me some! Whelp, the joke was on me.. it was like God said.. NO UR NOT! Cuz I didn't have any relationships after that! For a LOOONG time.
So I might be the OLDEST virgin.. I was 34.
It was hard to date people and always tell them NO...
I don't regret that I didn't do something when I was younger.. because if I had.. I probably would have been VERY slutty!  | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 8/27/2005 4:10:30 PM | Sorry you got stood up Kerry. I wouldn't necessarily assume it's because of your post though. Lots of people, guys especially, flake out when it's time to step up to the plate.
You should consider the possibility that your virginity may be a much bigger deal in YOUR mind than in someone else's.
Now...let's see if I can take my own advice. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 8/27/2005 4:20:48 PM | std&h - you're really not big on the reading thing are you? which explains quite a bit actually. if you had bothered actually reading people's messages instead of spouting off your ignorant stereotyped opinions you would would see that most of the people here are not virgins for religious or moral reasons...it's usually because they're shy.
as for suggesting that someone is not a member of the human race because they haven't had sex well...you know that's just too stupid to waste typing on. if you are an example of a higher evolutionary stage then i fret for humanity. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 8/27/2005 4:22:52 PM | Kerry~ He may have totally flaked because he was a flake!
A lot of guys would LOVE to be a girls first....
There are a ton of posts where people stood people up or blew people off. Which blows me away. That is just so rude!
Don't take it personal and .... losing your virginity is something that should be special for you. I'm very glad that I waited.. and it was with someone that I loved! :-) | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 8/27/2005 4:22:56 PM | coastergal was only a virgin because her stunning looks intimidated people, we were all scared of her, plus, direct contact with those eyes of hers can be deadly
OT:^^I agree | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 8/27/2005 4:59:04 PM | thank you every one (besided tdh...i'll get to u in a sec) you are great people here and coastergal I think I'm alittle like you I have a strong feeling that if I started earlier I would have been pretty slutty haha.
Now when I said I have morals...i did also say that they are NO better or worse than anyone elses...its just the way I choice...that i feel is in away best for me to live my life...simple things like making a difference in the world...I'm not perfect..so far from it but for me...sex well of course its supposed to be fun...god I hope it will be...but when in the last 3 years I've had some interesting experiences on dates...one guy knew up front that I wanted to wait a bit...I just want someone to care about me...no love..(well it would be nice) but some one who won't flake off after getting some. This man knew all this up front and on the second date he tried very very hard to get into my pants...hehe he certianly let me into his. That was difficult because he was a very good looking, interesting and I really really was attracted to him...but just in those actions he proved to me that all he wanted was to "deflower" me.. be the big man ..blah blah....not get to know me extra...And the sad thing is almost everydate I've had since has been fairly similar... | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 8/27/2005 5:55:59 PM | yeah i'm a virgin and i'm 22. I can't seem to catch any girls eyes.
Anyway why I want to "handle being a virgin past 25?" Sounded like I have AIDS or something and needed to cope and be at peace. There is nothing wrong with being a virgin and I don't see anything wrong with me. Sure I may be bad with girls but i'm still a nice guy who treats everybody good. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 8/27/2005 6:34:33 PM | | b/c i think it may be something to be proud off.....and I wouldn't have all those terrible memories in the morning...just kidding....just would be cool to offer that to a mate.... | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 8/27/2005 7:08:46 PM |
how do u handle the fact your a virgin past age 25
do u still get a feeling of helplessness when u see a hot women and wish u could "do" something with her
like u wish u did something when u were a younger age?
YES!!! I do... I am 37 and still a virgin, only 1 date in my life and it was just a couple months ago. It was a blind date that my sister set up for me, because I don't have enough guts to even ask out a girl. It gets extremely frustrating for me when I see a beautiful gal and I can't even muster up enough courage to even just say hi to her. I have been seeing shrinks about my behaviour, and I am taking antidepressants to help with my self esteem, but it doesn't seem to be working much. I have been going for therapy every month since January, and I am not making any progress with these people. I have seen over 5 psychologists and 2 psychiatrists and have tried about 5 different meds for depression, social anxiety, but nothing is helping at all. The only place I feel relaxed or at ease is at home. Being around people, causes me great stress and anxiety to the point where I panic and literally want to run away from people. It is kind of like a feeling of being boxed in tight close quarters, you can't breathe, so I run away and seek solitude in familiar surroundings like my vehicle where I can relax until I get home. All I can say, is that it is a very lonely existance, one that probably won't change for me. If I could change this I would, but I can't. I will remain a virgin until I die, not by choice, but because my head is messed up... | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 8/27/2005 7:15:14 PM | | I waited until I was 24 and I was glad I did. By that time I learned a lot about myself and how to treat a woman properly. As a guy I can say that sure, there are a lot of times when we just want sex....I'm bad for that too. I also now what it was like when I was still a virgin and couldn't get a date to save my life. Same goes for people with kids. It's hard to tell someone that you've got kids because they're scared they might run away. Just give me a happy person who cuddles, that's all I need. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 8/27/2005 7:29:18 PM | | well, interesting to see people responses to this thread. Not many people choose to be a virgin but different people have different takes on it. There are a few of us whom are uncomfortable of sleeping with someone unless we think that we are in a serious relationship. I don't date people so that I could just sleep with them. I don't categorize people being a slut for sleeping around but yet, here in this thread, many think theres something wrong with someone if they are still a virgin pass a certain age. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 8/27/2005 8:02:38 PM |
As a human being, is it our biological imprerative to procreate and pass our genes on to future generations. Apparently in some animals, this drive seems to be lacking and in time, those who carry the genes that lead to a total and complete lack of sex drive will be bred out of existence...
This is trivially false. There is more than one way to encourage the propogation of your genes without doing it yourself. You could line up dates for your sexy kid brother, for instance. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 9/2/2005 7:12:59 AM | Hi i read some not all of the previous messages and to be frank i am apauled at the amount of "shallow hal" wana be's there are out there!
i'm 20 years old and yes i'm a virgin as many of the people are who have posted in this thred and i to will wait untill i am ready i never have fell to social pressure and i have soke to many people on the issue as i am trained to listen and advise or help others out my points are:
1)society today is hell bent on putting people down at any cost
2)sex is pushed down peoples throats every day so it seems such a big issue when its NOT
3)many of the poeple i have spoke to are 30+ and all say to me they envy me for my choice
4) i am a virgin by choice and all of you guys/lady's out there who are also virgins hold your head up high and say to yourself you know you are happy with your choice and bare no grudge to thoses so misfortunate enough to put you down for they are the ones who are truly empty inside...
good day to you all and thank you for taking the time to read my post
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 9/2/2005 6:58:24 PM | @ New-Beginnings
Man get off the drugs and go pick up a program called "Vanquish Fear & Anxiety" it was put out by the Phobia Clinic....go look it up...pretty mindblowing techniques for taping into your unconcious mind...
I get mild episodes of social anxiety...it's not too fun...I can't even imagine your situation though...I've never felt a panic attack and needed to run...about three drinks cures my social anxiety
The program is great...takes a lot of drive to get going on some of the exercises...but well worth it.... | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 9/2/2005 7:12:06 PM | I'm an 18 year old virgin....it's not that bad......of course....there are those days.....
but i'm not in any rush....I think being a virgin, I have more respect for women, so, thats victory alone right there
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 9/2/2005 9:59:17 PM | Well, I was going to say something almost identical to DSXS ^^^^, but he beat me to it...
I'm too am a little bit disgusted at all the 'shallow hals' here.
I'm a virgin and go by that old fashioned beleif of no sex until I'm married. I think sex should at least be reserved for when there's mutual love between two people, but that's just me... Personally, I'd prefer dating ladies who are virgins, but it's not a deciding factor (since the topic doesn't come up until a relationship develops). | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 9/2/2005 10:26:20 PM | | There's nothing to "handle" about being a virgin at any age (at least in most cases) its a decision/choice for an indvidual to make for reasons of their own. It doesn't make anyone abnormal... in fact its respectable that someone would know enough about themselves to decide to do whats right for them even when its not as common just like its respectable for someone to be choosing to have sex. its not like we're in middle school anymore and should be pointing at someone for making a different choice than most people. | |
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| how do u handle being a virgin past 25
Posted: 9/3/2005 4:41:24 AM | losing a date because your still a virgin is no big loss really as it tells you from the start you are incompatable i would not let it get you down or let it stop you in your tracks
be alive be loud be proud | |
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