| Sensitive, compassionate and affectionate men, are we sought after?
Posted: 8/16/2005 4:31:10 PM | | This is exactly why I am so attracted so older women. You ladies are so understanding and you want someone who can truly express romance. I just wish more ladies my age would realize that romance is such a great a beautiful way to express yourself, to say with your body what words cannot. | |
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| Sensitive, compassionate and affectionate men, are we sought after?
Posted: 8/16/2005 4:35:53 PM | | Azerothx, They are out there. I have two daughters 20 and 25 and both appreicate men who are just like you, so I know it is out there. You just have to be patient. To bad you live in Canada, My youngest would just love to meet you. She says the same thing about men her age.. SO again it goes both ways!! | |
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woozoo
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Joined: 6/14/2005
Msg: 54 | |
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| Sensitive, compassionate and affectionate men, are we sought after?
Posted: 8/16/2005 5:47:00 PM | If we're not gay and consumed with self pity, you bet we are. Women the world over have been through the ringer with self absorbed mensa rejects. What you need to do is communicate your sensitivity with CONFIDENT actions, not negative PREOCCUPATIONS. | |
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| Sensitive, compassionate and affectionate men, are we sought after?
Posted: 8/16/2005 5:48:44 PM | | Being sensitive, compassionate, and affectionate isn`t enough...The whole package has to be there...the CHEMISTRY...You must first be physically attracted to a person...get to know them, then the rest comes into play...That may sound shallow, but it`s the truth...A guy can be the most loving man on earth, but if I`m NOT ATTRACTED to him...it ends there...I don`t believe you LEARN to love someone...That`s foolish...It`s either there or it isn`t..And if it isn`t, you have nothing to build on...That is just my humble opinion!!! | |
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BBdrgn
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Joined: 7/15/2005
Msg: 57 | |
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| Sensitive, compassionate and affectionate men, are we sought after?
Posted: 8/29/2005 1:25:04 AM | What a lack of self-understanding -- a crow trying to masquerade as a peacock and you can't understand why you don't attract women who want sensitive men? Plus you put in your profile that you are a ....
"good listener aswell as an empathizer. I have an open mind (meaning I am not easily offended if asked personal things)."
and poor litttle big bunny got squished by you for daring to offend your beliefs. Sorry BB. You look like an angry person in your pics -- or like a man/boy trying to do the tough or sexy image thing. You need to maybe talk to Shyla. She is fed up with shallow guys who are not serious enough. She is sure as by heck ready for sweet luvin arms darlin and that tender luvin that you promise to be all about. I am not convinced. I have met a few men and women who say that they are "laid back, easy going, don't have a temper" types. Well, they, just like you, are only human and you seems to be easily offended and reactive when your buttons are pushed. Maybe your profile is just a bit over the top and is obviously lacking self-awareness and, therefore, honesty. Honesty (oh, and happiness) is very sexy and attractive. Give that a shot. I would love to find a sensitive and affectionate man -- within limits. It's the walk beside me and be my friend concept. I don't want or need a man who will demand that I walk behind him nor do I want a man who will always walk behind me. I can't imagine anyone who is really looking for a long term relationship not wanting an equal partner -- different roles, but equal. You sound, in your profile, like you want to be subservient to the woman of your dreams -- a slave to her every whim. Is that what you really want or do you describe who you really are? | |
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| Sensitive, compassionate and affectionate men, are we sought after?
Posted: 8/29/2005 11:54:15 PM | | well of course women want that....it's like a wet dream for them...but honestly...there are just too few out there...in my area anyways...guys around here just like to sit around...drink beer...watch a few races...or ball games...while the woman is outside tuning up her own car... lol...sad but very very true...but we honestly think it is just too good to be true...like we wonder...what could possibly be wrong...there HAS to be something wrong b/c they sound TOO perfect...and that usually scares us away...our own thoughts...and a lot of that has to do with the fact that we have just been hurt so many times by men who act as if they are this way...and then a few months later...SURPRISE...it was a front...i have actually made a lot of men more open with their feelings though... i just have a nack with that...i make them feel as if they can trust me with anything...and i won't use it against them...which they can trust me so don't get the wrong idea...lol..but i think that also has a big affect on why some men are the way they are...that they opened up to the wrong person who used this against them...used it as a weakness...soo...yeah...society in general has things pretty messed up...but to answer your question...yes...there soooo many women who want that...but then again...there are women out there who actually need the "hardened" man..and who see your attributes as a weakness...it just differs from person to person... | |
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| Sensitive, compassionate and affectionate men, are we sought after?
Posted: 8/30/2005 4:29:20 PM | soooo, I didn't realize until now that men actually want insensitive, dishonest, heartless and cruel iceberg women. Ohhhh. K. I'll have to take my stileto heels and start puching holes in men instead of wasting them on killing spiders in corners. Grrrrr
I don't believe that men or women want needy & greedy. So, I supppose that we want the senstive. We just want a few other frills thrown in. It's what you have to offer besides being a nice human being. If all you have is a soft shoulder, you will never be more than just another girlfriend, boyfriend.
Great lover, similar physical activities, entertainment, dangerously explore different cuisines (or not), humanitarian, environmentalist, politics, religion (or not). If sensitive was the only component of a person that women looked for or avoided, matchmaking would be a snap. The women who have responded to this forum saying that we need more like you, don't know who you are. They know that you say that you might shed a tear along with them but they don't know how you get your kicks. They might pass you up along with the others who have apparently walked past you without pause for thought. Just food for thought. | |
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| Sensitive, compassionate and affectionate men, are we sought after?
Posted: 8/30/2005 5:56:46 PM | Nah, it sounds all good, but in reality you're just looked at like you are gay. Women want a "strong" man, they want someone who can handle all their ... umm nevermind. =D
Anyways, from my experiences, the only girls who truly want to be with a sensitive guy are those already in a relationship with a "strong" guy who inadvertantly ignores the woman's feelings. But really, they don't want you, they are just filling a void that they think they are missing.
Oh, another type of female that may want you are the ones that are pregnant, or who have reared offspring. Girls tend to mature into loving understanding women after having kids. Have you ever owned a female dog before and after she bred pups? It's the same kind of thing, rearing children seems to mellow them out.
On a final note, there is a time in a woman's menstrual cycle where she will be more prone to being with a sensitive guy. I forget exactly when that is.
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| Sensitive, compassionate and affectionate men, are we sought after?
Posted: 8/30/2005 6:40:26 PM | | I would definatley put myself in the group labeled sensitive, compassionate and affectionate...In my 20's I always seem drawn to "rescue" relationships...In my late 20's I finally realized that I had no business trying to "fix people or situations." I learned, too, from this that I wasn't really happy with myself...That helping others was a way of getting me out of the blues....I took time off from dating....A career change provided me with a once missing self confidence....Once I worked on the "self" and was happy without a partner is when I returned to the dating scene....I stayed away from relationships for several years and decided to look for qualities in a women like myself...I wanted to find my equal...One who was likewise happy with herself, comfortable in her own skin, sensitive, and compassionate....The current relationship I am in began the old fashioned way...I showed up at my dates door with three roses/babies breath wrapped in tissue paper and renewed self confidence...Though this may seem outdated to some I believe in chivalry and am confident in expressing it!! We talked about chivalry in length prior to the date...I explained that it was my way of showing respect not that I was better than the other person...Our dinner date had a mixture of stimulating conversation and plenty of laughter...To me there is nothing more calming then making a person laugh on a first date ..In the past I had the chivalry part down, but, was stiff as a board on first dates...Laughter tends to take the edge off!!!.The date ended with me walking her to her door and a goodnight kiss...We have been going strong ever since.....The part that has attracted me to this women is the fact that she reciprocates and is very confident in her genuine ways......She took the lead on the second date and cooked me dinner.......To the nice guys on POF...Don't give up.....There are some wonderful women out there!! | |
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| Sensitive, compassionate and affectionate men, are we sought after?
Posted: 9/11/2005 4:03:09 PM | | Even if we looked like Johnny Depp or Brad Pitt I'm not sure it would help. Nice guys finish last in my experience, cause I'm one of them and I've given up. It's not just looks that women are attracted to but also money, prestige, power, and self confidence, the Donald Trump type for instance. | |
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| Sensitive, compassionate and affectionate men, are we sought after?
Posted: 9/11/2005 5:35:59 PM | If I hear " nice guys finish last" one more time I'm going to heave.
Advice from a woman: that's a load of BS
Instead of thinking about how nice you are, try for just a few minutes to figure out what else it might be about you that's turning women off.
And it has nothing to do with money, power yadda yadda.
In my experience, the guys who claim to be soooo nice and sooo used all the time are actually self absorbed and selfish. | |
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| Sensitive, compassionate and affectionate men, are we sought after?
Posted: 9/11/2005 5:42:46 PM | hmmm sorry .. women want excitement, fun they want everything ... which excludes pretty much all the nice guys out there. Then we try to be something were not to attract women. We see women with as*oles everywhere and think ... hmmmm maybe I should be more like the bad boy type. I don't know if I could do that .. I am what I am .... and if no woman likes me for that then i'd rather be alone .....  | |
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| Sensitive, compassionate and affectionate men, are we sought after?
Posted: 9/11/2005 5:49:54 PM | That's what girlfriends are for. J/k. I think it is okay and good even to have a sensitive side as long as it is balanced with some masculinity. That is not to say sensitivity is not masculine but you can't fall apart on your girl, either. There are times were a man has to be inaccessible and hard to understand. It adds to the mystery and women enjoy a challenge. Sounds counter-intuitive, but you sometimes have to give them what they need and not what they want, because often they don't know what they want. Conversely, neither do we much of the time.
I have lots of female friends and I am the kind of guy that can be the sensitive guy that they come to for advice and trust with deep secrets/thoughts/concerns and vice-versa. It doesn't always translate into a romantic relationship. | |
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| Sensitive, compassionate and affectionate men, are we sought after?
Posted: 9/11/2005 9:37:36 PM | Yeah, I have to think that Disco is rather attune to the relationship tango.
I often try to be mysterious, but I'm so sensitive and such that you can ask me anything and I'll spill! I've never felt you can know too much about your mate. And heck yeah, one of my favorite movies of all time (ok we're talking romantic types - not action or Sci-Fi, cause Star Wars rules!) is The Princess Bride. Now just who wouldn't want a love like that? Sappy? Yeah, a bit, but in the most sincere way... But the strength of that kind of love is like silk... no need for titanium, that's too rigid!
Sing it Phil --- We've got a groovy kind of love...  | |
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| Sensitive, compassionate and affectionate men, are we sought after?
Posted: 9/11/2005 9:42:10 PM | Zeus, you're right too, it needs to be balanced with masculinity. I think what happens is that oftentimes we try to show that side and it gets misinterpreted, or, we do it at the wrong time (timing) and it's perceived as needy, wimpy, etc.
I certainly know that you have to be the rock of Gibraltor at times too... | |
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| Sensitive, compassionate and affectionate men, are we sought after?
Posted: 9/11/2005 10:06:01 PM | There isn't anything wrong with "spilling everything" and being open.
I've never had a problem with someone being sensitive, compassionate and affectionate.
What turns me off is someone who smothers me, thinks I can't do anything on my own and follows me around like my pets. That is neither sensitive, compassionate or affectionate - it's just plain irritating. | |
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