| Why Is It Women Don't Seem To Know How To ROMANCE A Man?
Posted: 11/20/2006 7:26:38 PM | Funny to come upon this today. I have been speaking with a guy on here (great guy by the way) and I asked him what he thought of as romantic. After floundering for a moment in coming up with what was romantic to him, his answer showed that a man's heart longs for the subtleties and beauty in romance that are from the things that we give of ourselves in the deeper ways.. He said that it is in the way you touch each other, long for each other, see each other from across the room and smile. How you look at each other gazing.
I smiled and thought to myself.. "now here is a man that knows true romance.. that can make shopping in aisle four of Home Depot a romantic moment if he wanted to." | |
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| Why Is It Women Don't Seem To Know How To ROMANCE A Man?
Posted: 11/20/2006 8:40:53 PM | Hi Sandy;
Hm, I'd say a lot of us ladies know how to do romantic things for a man, but a lot of them just don't know romance when they see or experience it...No, really, I 'm serious, I have never encountered so many clueless men as I have the last several years....I bake and do other things and they act like it is nothing...Guess there are just too many mama's boys or spoiled men...I have platonic friends and neighbors who are more appreciative.... | |
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| Why Is It Women Don't Seem To Know How To ROMANCE A Man?
Posted: 11/20/2006 11:44:54 PM | Heya Floridian!
Don't give up ...... (smile) ...... I know that there are some very cool guys out there that definitely do appreciate romantic gestures and remembrances to let them know how VERY SPECIAL they are to us!! Scotty's post above ^^^ is living proof of that (grin ... THANK YOU Scotty!). It's just a matter of FINDING them, and then KEEPING THEM HAPPY with these small, fun, things we like to do. Isn't that why we're all here fishin' in this pond? To find someone who would enjoy sharing a little "romance"? Giving (to me anyway) grants me SO much more pleasure than receiving, no matter what type of "gift" it is (especially when it comes to romance) ...... and when I get that special look, sweet little smile, gentle kiss, tender touch or soft word in return, that's about as good as it gets ..... 'cause I know then that I've done something that has pleased him, and that one small gesture of "thanks" in return can put me on top of the world :)
For those of you who seem to think that romance is all "just about sex", I've gotta say that I think you're wrong ..... to me, it's about loving and giving and sharing and caring and consideration and respect and a whole bunch of other adjectives and nouns and verbs that I won't list here. But I do think sex is a big part of it, and one that should never be underestimated in the art of romance ...... so it seems to be a package deal, like a wonderful "gift", with the winner (hopefully both people) getting to undo the layers of wrappings and find the true treasure that resides inside each one of us! Now THAT is romantic! For the poster that said he thinks women only use sex and/or seduction as a means of control and manipulation, I feel sad, as he's obviously never been the recipient of an honestly intended, heartfelt romantic or sensual gesture given purely out of the desire to do so. I don't think 1000 books could begin to cover the many ways we gals could find to "romance our man" ..... all we have to do is want to do it, and to keep on trying.
It's all about give 'n take folks ...... relationships just don't work if one doesn't equal the other, and if romance doesn't work BOTH WAYS.
Sandy!
(Who's glad she started this thread ages ago ...... there sure area lot of opinions on this subject out there!) | |
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| Why Is It Women Don't Seem To Know How To ROMANCE A Man?
Posted: 11/21/2006 12:05:03 AM | I LOVE romancing a man... our society has some sort of crazy idea that women need to play hard to get. Frig that. I'm tired of stupid games.
I want it. I go after it. Some guys don't like that and prefer to chase, and that's fine too. But if I want you, you will know it. Period.
You will be inundated with letters, apple pies, throat punches, whispering sweet nothings, UFC wrestling, cute text messages, me holding your head in the proper position (when you are too drunk to not asphixiate on your own vomit), sandwhiches for your buddies (when you are all over playing poker), hugs, acknowledment of your interests and passions, playing catch in my backyard, spontaneous road trips and a genuine interest in you and who you are. I love seeing something that reminds me of you and being able to show it to you or get it for you because I know it will make your day... That is my idea of romance and how I reciprocate it. Don't give me flowers, give me a hug. And I'll do the same for you. | |
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| Why Is It Women Don't Seem To Know How To ROMANCE A Man?
Posted: 11/21/2006 3:01:11 AM |
(Msg 305) our society has some sort of crazy idea that women need to play hard to get. Frig that. I'm tired of stupid games.
WOW! Herselftheelf is one super lady! Women such as yourself should be writing relationship books instead of the garbage on the market today. | |
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| Why Is It Women Don't Seem To Know How To ROMANCE A Man?
Posted: 11/21/2006 3:11:06 AM | I agree WHOLEHEARTADLY with Dave1234 on this
Herselftheelf start a notebook - put all your thoughts experiences in it
if this is your way of thinking -- you really should write a book to combat the trash out there
and believe you me --- many men would buy the book as well | |
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| Why Is It Women Don't Seem To Know How To ROMANCE A Man?
Posted: 11/21/2006 4:06:50 AM | I LOVE romancing a man... our society has some sort of crazy idea that women need to play hard to get. Frig that. I'm tired of stupid games.
I want it. I go after it. Some guys don't like that and prefer to chase, and that's fine too. But if I want you, you will know it. Period.
You will be inundated with letters, apple pies, throat punches, whispering sweet nothings, UFC wrestling, cute text messages, me holding your head in the proper position (when you are too drunk to not asphixiate on your own vomit), sandwhiches for your buddies (when you are all over playing poker), hugs,
Wow! I love your attitude and your ideas, however, you are WAY into the "Above and beyond" region of being a GREAT woman. If there's a "purple Heart" for "Marriage Material" type ladies, you are my first nomination. Some feel that a relationship must be 50/50. I disagree completely and It seems you do too. You are DEFINITELY a 110% type lady.
I think that when both are only putting in 50% they have a tendency to look to hard to make sure their 50% is being MET with 50%. It is my contention however that, when both sides put in 110% they are far too busy to worry themselves about the other and less negativity is introduced into the relationship which keeps "doing for the other" much more fun and helps enable both to keep putting in 110% The ones who put in 110% instead of 50% tend to be the ones who wouldn't stop even if they DID happen to notice their partner was falling behind a bit and that is an important attitude. Obviously if it continues to be one-sided it will eventually cause problems, but that is another story.
As for poker with my buddies, my lady is my best buddy, ALWAYS, so I'd have to help with the sandwhiches while she is busy with her hand. :) Any place my lady isn't wanted or welcome, I have no need or business being.
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| Why Is It Women Don't Seem To Know How To ROMANCE A Man?
Posted: 11/21/2006 4:25:23 AM |
Romance i not just physical - in fact the phyical is a very small part of it all.
being respected appreciated and acknowledged means more to me then the physical
and all that takes is one sentence --- not to hard huh
soooo true!
It's the little things one does in the day to day realm of things... not labelled "this is my romantic moment for you". It's the "Hi Hun, come in and take off your boots, how was your day..."
It's nice to see that there ARE men out there who like to be romanced.
I have hope, because I like the little things in life!! Thanks guys! | |
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| Why Is It Women Don't Seem To Know How To ROMANCE A Man?
Posted: 11/21/2006 4:35:14 AM | I think many of women are afraid to put ourselves in vunerable situations.Some of us have experienced rejection by past relationships. My motto is to be your self and if that overwhelms someone well then he isn't the right guy. If a woman isn't being romantic enough for a guy, I think it is up to him to give her suggestions of what he likes or needs. She'll either take that to heart or maybe she isn't "that into you". Getting up when he does and give him a good morning phone call - short and sweet. Offering a back rub. Meeting him half way sometimes if there is distance involved. Sending him a sexy email card. It's the little things that add up in my estimation.  Sharon | |
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| Why Is It Women Don't Seem To Know How To ROMANCE A Man?
Posted: 11/21/2006 4:44:49 AM | Some sarcastic comments on romance either wanted to fuel this conversation into more rational edge but some might reflected an episode of their 'pear shaped' experience in their ex-relationship. Good point in this  turning corner is that denying or dismissing it means -- k n o w i n g -- it and surely, romance might be dormant at this stage as we speak for some but it can be revived if ignited at the right time and at the right place .
Subtleties don't have to be touchable, yet can warm heart i.e. just by a simple look that differs from mundane glances. Yes, it is a two way street as anything else in a nurtured relationship and doesn't evaporate as we turn grey-sh.
Where do the noses go? | |
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| Why Is It Women Don't Seem To Know How To ROMANCE A Man?
Posted: 11/21/2006 8:44:40 AM | From My Experience…
What keeps her form being romantic…???
Well probably because she is tired, for the most part , and I think she feels like she has been run-over by the stage coach called kids…at the end the day…I know she has it in her…but she is just tired.
Too many days and years of that and I also think it affects her self image…her ID is "mom" and she forgets that she is the epitome of God’s creation.
When she reveals her Romantic side, she has the power to make him “leap tall buildings” and he also feels a sense of protection, when he goes out there for the daily battles…in others words he can take a bunch of “arrows”…but at the end the day..he has a true beauty to come home too, too build him up for the next day.
Is it her fault…?? not at all…cause us guys can also turn things around and make sure she gets a break from being “mom” too. Don’t wait for her to be romantic…. | |
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| Why Is It Women Don't Seem To Know How To ROMANCE A Man?
Posted: 11/21/2006 8:59:16 AM |
dear fab:
No darlin, that's considered marriage material
as for romancing the male---
ladies--one word--seduction. No sappy movies, don't give us poems, seduce us. Give us a sly smile, a lingering touch, a sudden chest nibble, whisper to us what you sexually want, seduce me, seduce my mind and my body follows
I do all that before I show up in the thong,high heels and scarves  | |
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| Why Is It Women Don't Seem To Know How To ROMANCE A Man?
Posted: 11/21/2006 2:41:18 PM | Thanks guys... I'm flattered- I would write a book but then my competition would catch on and might start using my tactics. And screw that noise. It's already hard enough to find a man to appreciate me.
People are just too serious about romance... it should be fun, spontaneous and something you WANT to do- not forced - that just comes off as creepy... to me anyway... | |
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| Why Is It Women Don't Seem To Know How To ROMANCE A Man?
Posted: 11/22/2006 12:06:45 AM | ^^^^^
'lady-bugg65' - is it really so cold & white out there at yours as your last pic is showing? Brrrrrr ... but I'm pretty sure that even Eskimos tackle romance in their icy frosty living conditions ... nose to nose? | |
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Joined: 10/5/2005
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| Why Is It Women Don't Seem To Know How To ROMANCE A Man?
Posted: 11/22/2006 5:17:03 AM |
when a woman truly loves a man, every word that he utters... makes her wet her panties...
Let's hope he is not too talkative. Might be very difficult to walk around with a bucket between your legs. | |
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| Why Is It Women Don't Seem To Know How To ROMANCE A Man?
Posted: 11/22/2006 6:43:16 AM | You know what...reading through these posts it seems to me that most women DO know how to romance a guy but there is a common thread through all of this....
Men dont want it....theyre just as fickle as us women...they say they want it yet when you give them the laughter and good times, the hugs and kisses the show of appreciation with the space to enjoy their own pursuits, the 'own pursuits' turn into the 'walk all over the missus and pursue someone else'.
I'm sorry to sound negative but the amount of times I have done everything that you guys are saying here that you would love in a woman and the amount of times I've been accused of being too romantic, too....yes!...clingy!..(erm honey, i havent called u in a week...how is that clingy?!)...lets just say its a very close tally.
On the positive side....I carry on...i take my date out to the local bar, i buy him a drink, he buys me one...we chat casual, we have a laugh, he says 'you're cool, I like you, can I see you again'....i say 'yeh sure, just be sure to call me'....and...the circle of life carries on.
I know how to romance a guy....I'm just never given the chance to. | |
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| Why Is It Women Don't Seem To Know How To ROMANCE A Man?
Posted: 11/22/2006 4:41:20 PM |
Might be very difficult to walk around with a bucket between your legs
AND besides that, you look really silly when you get out of your vehicle....walking like you just got off a horse!!! ( then, indeed, some are hung like a horse hmmmm, was it the horse or the bucket ) dunno, but there's romance in there somewhere | |
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