mizbex
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Joined: 9/8/2006
Msg: 201 | |
| Why Is It Women Don't Seem To Know How To ROMANCE A Man?
Posted: 11/16/2006 3:54:02 AM | | I am a very romantic woman. When there is a special man I have him over for dinner, always make sure there are candles, fresh flowers, good wine and food and soft music. Also it is in my appearance and my actions, whether it be with a hint of lace, my perfume, the way I look at him or the suttle way I touch him. Men get into ambiance and they appreciate it, I think it is pretty easy to romance a man. All you really have to do listen to them and you can figure out what gets to their heart. | |
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| Why Is It Women Don't Seem To Know How To ROMANCE A Man?
Posted: 11/16/2006 4:34:52 AM | Romancing a man is a lot harder than romancing a woman. A whole new approach is needed. I do however have someone I romance. The do the small things for him that know would be romantic to him. I watch WWE and sometimes with him. He thinks this is romantic as he loves WWE and we get to spend quality time waching it. I know how his favorite band is so I buy him the CD's of that band that I know that he does not have. When he comes over, I even play them for him. I also sent him flowers in the mail, cards, littles, poems and small gifts that I know he will like. It might not sound like much but for him, this is what he likes and this is romantic. I do it because I am smitten for him. When he comes here and he is tired, I run a bath for him with the good smelling bubblebath and set up candles and such for him. I read him his favorite peotry as well.
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| Why Is It Women Don't Seem To Know How To ROMANCE A Man?
Posted: 11/16/2006 4:37:36 AM | That's a great post, Mizbex!
Both sexes make th emistake of doing things for their SO that they themselves would appreciate....rather than taking the time to think about the actual preferences of their partner.
A note left on his truck @ lunchtime may be sweet...but I'm betting he'll remember the basketball tix & 'boys night' much more fondly. & you'll get a more thoughtfull 'return'.
Personally...the first girl who changes the oil in my motorcycles is getting married before the sun sets..... | |
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| Why Is It Women Don't Seem To Know How To ROMANCE A Man?
Posted: 11/16/2006 6:23:14 AM | | Exactly, thats why I am here, I have never found a woman that knows anything about romance and that is very sad indeed. I have never married and will never settle for less romance than I am willing and able to give. I would do anything for love but i will not settle for less. | |
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| Why Is It Women Don't Seem To Know How To ROMANCE A Man?
Posted: 11/16/2006 9:38:08 AM | | Guys, I don't believe women can read our minds...well maybe they can sometimes... but, I think it would help if we actually told them how we want to be romanced, rather than waiting for them to read our minds. I have never actually tried this approach, but it could work in theory. | |
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| Why Is It Women Don't Seem To Know How To ROMANCE A Man?
Posted: 11/16/2006 9:42:31 AM | it was my boyfriends b-day last week and i picked him up after work, then i blind folded him and took him to my house where i had a romantic dinner ready for him, i also bought him a sstuffed teddy-bear and we ate supper, had a few drinks sitting by the fire, then i gave him his real present and then we well you can let you imagination go from there.. then he was rather upset and had a bad day a few weeks ago so i felt bad and bought him a flower.. he loved it absolutly loved it.... | |
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| Why Is It Women Don't Seem To Know How To ROMANCE A Man?
Posted: 11/16/2006 9:51:21 AM | I write love notes all the time or poems and cut them into hearts and put them up on the fridge.
or I text him and tell him how much I like the things he does.
or eventhough we are sitting right beside eachother on our puters I still send him love notes on msn.
My relationship is still new and I am not sure what all he would like but I am learning and there is more to come!
 luvbug | |
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| Why Is It Women Don't Seem To Know How To ROMANCE A Man?
Posted: 11/16/2006 12:55:34 PM | Now since Ive reached 50, lol, and Ive been a widow for 2yrs. after being married for 32yrs since the age 16 I have to add, I now know what I want in my next or any other relationship. Romance. I now know at my young teen yrs, I didnt have a clue how real sex was suppose to feel. Sure I thought I knew and enjoyed it all, and boy was i wrong. How many of you out there , when you were a teenager and in your sexual moments really enjoyed it compared to what you have learned over the years. Even you men out there. Compare your sexual exsp. to then to now. We or I thought I enjoyed it and knew it all, but though the years, looking back, knew nothing. Now I want romance with my partners, Romance can be anything you or your partner enjoy, from the first kiss to the last sexual climax, And I know my memory probably fades me, but my sexual climaxs from then to now are nothing compared to now. I even surprise myself sometimes in things I think and come up with. And it,s not the cheap sex games, not saying they also have there good points, but scarves, oils, bubble baths are just the simpler romantic things. What you wear, where your at, even time of day, can make sex a sensual exsperiance, which leads to romance and then becoming romantic. Forget the back seat, ( But that had it time , also) but as the saying goes, "Been there Done that" I,m older and know how really sex is suppose to feel, or at least can, and on the whole, does. Thats 1 thing that I enjoyed about getting older, probaly the only thing. LOL. Lisa | |
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| Why Is It Women Don't Seem To Know How To ROMANCE A Man?
Posted: 11/16/2006 2:39:22 PM | Sandy
Not only is it an attitude that only the men do the romancing. It's actualy worse.
If men could do the romancing and the women could accept being romanced then that would still be enough for MOST men. Not all!
BUT
Look at the generations you were raised in. It was called feminism but it was largely manhating. Sexism wasn't the enemy. Men were.
Mens romantic genstures were treated, and policed, as harrassment, stalking, and even rape. Women were conditioned to see them that way.
Men themselves were protrayed as sub human neanderatals who only needed the occasional dose of begruding sex. Even tolerating that sex, without caling it rape in marriage, was often seen as a some sort of sell out to the sisterhood.
As for the idea of actively romanicng a man. Well! That was just about high treason.
My rants, in this day and age may be seen as ridiculous but take a look back through the press clippings of the last 20 years. The man hating was taken very seriously indeed, and not just by the few militant loonys that preached it. By the whole of society.
In the | |
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| Why Is It Women Don't Seem To Know How To ROMANCE A Man?
Posted: 11/16/2006 2:45:15 PM | Men have gone to war for romance -- think Helen of Troy who's face launched a thousand ships.
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Actually friend, you are mistaken. Helen is the stuff of romance novels. Most moden historinans agree that Troy wasn't the stuff of legend like Atlantis. It was destroyed. But they are prretty sure that the war was actually over control of the spice trade in the Eastern Meditiranian. | |
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Kee2
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Joined: 10/7/2006
Msg: 211 | |
| Why Is It Women Don't Seem To Know How To ROMANCE A Man?
Posted: 11/16/2006 4:27:35 PM | I think women are at a loss on how to romance a guy because of purely selfish reasons. I believe a lot of them believe it is some God given right to have a man pay for everything and make every romantic move there is to make and they should only have to say "yes" or "no". Some people call it "the chase", "the game", or even "courting". I call it selfishness. Men want to be desired just like women do. We want to feel like a woman has romantic interest in us and we hope that she shows it. As a matter of fact, as a rule, if a lady doesn't show any interest in me or want to do anything romantic for me, it's a lost cause because I believe that I am just as important to a relationship as she is. I do, do the romantic thing from the start because that's what I have observed and was told to do by the men before me. Just the same as I believe women were taught to sit back and let a man pursue you. After getting together in a relationship though, that attitude has to change and you have to show that you care for the other person or that person may seek that care somewhere else. | |
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Kee2
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Joined: 10/7/2006
Msg: 212 | |
| Why Is It Women Don't Seem To Know How To ROMANCE A Man?
Posted: 11/16/2006 4:35:28 PM | Ladies, listen to Carrie Bradshaw. She knows what she's doing. Well, not every guy would consider watching WWE romantic, but it's helluva cool that you kick back and watch it with him. I'd kill for a lady that was an Undertaker fan.   | |
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| Why Is It Women Don't Seem To Know How To ROMANCE A Man?
Posted: 11/16/2006 5:02:55 PM |
You mean serving him a cold in the buff and giving him complete control of the remote isn't romantic?
Don't ever try that during the play offs. It doesn't work. I have this knew strategy that I use now. When I want to surf the dating sites I make sure it’s during major sporting events on the tube. It’s fantastic for thinning out the herd. | |
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| Why Is It Women Don't Seem To Know How To ROMANCE A Man?
Posted: 11/16/2006 5:16:53 PM | ^^^ Yes but I love sports, sooooo..... doesn't apply to me. I still thought the  /buff/remote and some 1/2 time luvin was romantic.
*wanders away dejected and perplexed* (well not really, just like that word) | |
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| Why Is It Women Don't Seem To Know How To ROMANCE A Man?
Posted: 11/16/2006 5:44:15 PM | I think women are at a loss on how to romance a guy because of purely selfish reasons. I believe a lot of them believe it is some God given right to have a man pay for everything and make every romantic move there is to make and they should only have to say "yes" or "no". Some people call it "the chase", "the game", or even "courting". I call it selfishness. Men want to be desired just like women do. We want to feel like a woman has romantic interest in us and we hope that she shows it. As a matter of fact, as a rule, if a lady doesn't show any interest in me or want to do anything romantic for me, it's a lost cause because I believe that I am just as important to a relationship as she is. I do, do the romantic thing from the start because that's what I have observed and was told to do by the men before me. Just the same as I believe women were taught to sit back and let a man pursue you. After getting together in a relationship though, that attitude has to change and you have to show that you care for the other person or that person may seek that care somewhere else
Kee2 i see your a very enlightened man. :)
I was raised in a non-traditional-gender-role family. Actually i was raised by my grandparents. - dad died and mom had mental illness. Anyway thats not my point.
My grandma was the homemaker and my grandpa was worked in the garage. My siblings and cousin's and I were always encouraged to learn about cars and other 'male-role' things and at the same time encouraged to learn about cooking and sewing and other "female-role' things. They never once told us 'you can't/shouldn't do that cause your a boy/girl'. Anyway the point i'm trying to make is that i was never raised thinking boys and girls had different roles in society.
So when i got to the 'real' world and started dating i was in for a surprise. I expected the woman to be my equal. But for some reason they expect the man to ask them out first, pick them up in a car because women don't have cars, give them a gift(flowers) pay for the meal, pay for the entertainment, etc... Talk about selfish.
I am currently single because my last girlfriend wanted me to buy her things. I refused and she went out with my best friend who is now broke.
Women don't know how good they got it. Sometimes i wish i could be a women, sit back and have the man do everything for me. Talk about lazy.
P.S. If a women asked me out, picked me up in her car, took me out to dinner and paid for it, we would be married the next day. | |
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| Why Is It Women Don't Seem To Know How To ROMANCE A Man?
Posted: 11/16/2006 6:21:11 PM | Actully all credit to my ex
she suprised me for my 33rd Bday and no woman has every really done anything special for me like this EVER
She made sure I was home from work at a particular time
there on the table was a rose with a message to wait for the old classic jag limo to pick me up
Then the limo driver gave me another rose with a message attached about enjoy the ride etc till the destination - at the destination ask for so nd so
so the destination was a swank hotel and asked for so and so who worked at the front desk
this person gave me another rose with a message tellng me to go to the penthouse suite
inside was another rose and a message with the instructions to shower shave etc put on my best suit etc etc which was all there waiting for me. Then to go to the lobby at a particular time .
I did so - and there she was waiting dolled up to the 11's in a replica dress she had made especially for the occasion as I had seen it in a magazine and commented to her how great she would loook in it ( and all the guys in the hotel were drooling, believe me my ex is a 9 out of 10, tall blue eyes natural red long curly hair small waist narrow hipped large breasted etc etc etc perfect white teeth the works basically )
so I have biggest shit eating grin on my face - we go outside the limo is waiting takes us to a top restaraunt and yadda yadda yadda had a great night etc etc
This is one thing I will never forget in my life - and honestly I dont think that any woman will be able to beat that effort in romancing me --ever | |
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| Why Is It Women Don't Seem To Know How To ROMANCE A Man?
Posted: 11/16/2006 6:28:09 PM | I'd like to think that I know how to be romantic. I like to invite that special someone over...before he comes...prepare dinner...have romantic music playing in the background, light some candles... He comes in...We slow dance, and steal a few kisses...I have him sit down..I serve him his dinner...we talk intimately while eating...slow dance some more.
That's just one example.
I also enjoy writing little notes to say how much I care..or perhaps how sexy he is.
A bubble bath for two!
Make dinner reservations...ask him to show up in a suit and tie...me with my best classy black dinner dress.
There's lots of things women can do to make their man feel special. Those are just a few examples of what I would do if I had that someone special in my life.
Cheers! | |
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| Why Is It Women Don't Seem To Know How To ROMANCE A Man?
Posted: 11/16/2006 6:43:20 PM | I once "kidnapped" him, blindfolded him with his tie (he was happy, HAPPY, not to have to wear it, LOL) drove him across town to a fancy restaraunt we had both been wanting to try, drove him back across town (blindfolded again) to have his-n-hers professional massages, and then on (yep, blindfolded!) to the place where we first met, where I proceeded to smooch the daylights out of him........
I have done other things, but this was the most romantic, I think.
In my experience, it is the often MEN who arent overly romantic, some think that romance means, "Honey, lets go to bed". LOL........I dont think romance has a hold on either gender in particular, though, just that some of us are better at thinking up and expressing those things......
If a man brings me flowers,etc, because this is what he thinks guys "should" do (either in general, or to get out of "trouble" etc), then it is very sweet, and I am appreciative, but romantic?- nah.....But if a guy does not usually bring flowers, and then suddenly out of the blue gets me my favorite ones, just for because, THAT is romantic. If he goes out of his way to do something sweet for me, that is not something he would normally think of or do in his everyday existence, were it NOT for me-whether it is to pick me up a cappucino on the way over, rub my shoulders without expecting repayment, or buy me a dozen Peace roses, or whatEVER, then I am very moved and usually quite appreciative. | |
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| Why Is It Women Don't Seem To Know How To ROMANCE A Man?
Posted: 11/16/2006 6:59:42 PM | | grand gestures are nice, and some are even great (Yahh Roo's) - but for the most part, it doesn't take a fat wallet. just the emotion to do something sweet and spontaneous, then following it thru. the smallest thing can be romantic... | |
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| Why Is It Women Don't Seem To Know How To ROMANCE A Man?
Posted: 11/16/2006 8:02:36 PM | No, I wouldnt want flowers, but I would love to meet a woman who lights candles and makes herself pretty and gets a little agressive from time to time. A woman cooking dinner I think is romantic. Yea, feeding me, bringing me my slippers, lighting my pipe, (If ya know what I mean) LOL. HOw about giving me a rub down. Instead all the women I have ever been with just lay there and fart. Woman can be romantic in different ways, but I suppose that went out with womes lib.  | |
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