| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 8/24/2005 8:19:36 PM | | I have never cheated on a man...ever... and I never would. I think that is the biggest betrayal of all....and once that trust has been betrayed...it never comes back. I think that if you really and truly love someone, the very last thing you'd want to do to them is break that trust. | |
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 8/25/2005 12:26:47 AM | Talitha..you make sense, girl. All very easy to say..me cheat? never! But you might love someone and you are needs are not being met. I think sheer desperation makes you do stupid things sometimes. I am not condoning cheating just saying how it can happen. You have to be in a relationship like that to know.
But having said that, give the person not meeting your needs, the chance to set things right..again and again... before doing anything stupid. | |
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 8/25/2005 1:20:35 AM | | I think it's too simplistic to say that because you love someone it's impossible to cheat. Relationships have their own ebb and flow and when the chips are down and the opportunity is present, anything can happen. People sometimes inadvertently neglect their partners during times of stress or crisis which creates feelings of worthlessness or depression in their partners, making them vulnerable to others. It may not be right, but it happens. | |
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 8/25/2005 8:04:32 AM | When my soon to be ex-wife and I discussed her affair, she said she believes it's possible to love two people at once.
For me, I think that very statement contradicts the very meaning of the word love. Love for another is exclusive, devoted, and committed. I believe feeling you are in love with more than one person, then you are incapable of love for another. Or incapable of admitting that love for one has died for whatever reason.
I'm not sure why but I could never cheat on one with whom I did not love. The relationship had not ended but was essentially over, but because there was still a promise made that was not resolved yet I still saw it as wrong to go outside the relationship until it ended of natural causes. I guess that until I or we had ended our relationship, seeing another was still cheating and wrong. | |
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 8/25/2005 8:59:59 AM |
That's a question a co-worker asked me the other day. I never really had the answer. I would guess no....if you truly love one person you cannot cheat.
What's there to guess about? It's pretty clear to me - NO
and if you truly don't love them, are you implying you could cheat? If so, then you do both them and yourself a favour, and part ways. | |
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 8/25/2005 9:36:55 AM |
That's a question a co-worker asked me the other day. I never really had the answer.
I don't think cheating necessarily means you don't love your partner; but it definately. you don't trust her. Which diminishes whatever good things you might feel for him/her. | |
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 8/25/2005 9:54:03 AM | | some people on here just say no no way but you never know untill your in that sitution it is possible to love more then one person at a time and it is possible to get caught up in lust and the heat of the moment it does not mean you love the person any less it just means sometime poeple fck up but if u truly love them you will be eaten a live by guilt the real question is do you tell them or not if it was just one time and it will never happen again i say no why hurt them just to clear your mind | |
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 8/25/2005 12:25:29 PM | | I find it amazing that almost every single person on here had a resounding NO.. and yet do you know what the statistics are on cheating... male and female??? I don't know the exact numbers to be quite honest, but it was like 70 % of men cheat and 50% of women.... Ummmm somebody is sooo not being honest.... Gee imagine that..... Sorry I have been cheated on a time or two and it sucks.... | |
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 8/25/2005 12:58:21 PM | I don't know the exact numbers to be quite honest, but it was like 70 % of men cheat and 50% of women.
what you may not realize is that the laws of statistics don't have to necessarily apply to such a minuscule number of respondents. Add to the fact the venue here, who in their right mind (well, there may be a few) are going to advertise the fact they've cheated and not be perceived negatively. Given the minuscule proportion of people who actually use the forums is less that 1% of the total users, and then even less who are going to answer this thread, I'm not remotely surprised at the results. Quoting the response rate here wont lend any statistics credence at all ..... and makes your statement of someone here is sooooooo lying a statement that doesn't hold a flea in a windstorm. | |
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 8/25/2005 1:01:44 PM |
I think people cheat because their needs are not being met!!!
sorry talitha but that's just BS. plain and simple. cheating is a character flaw and character flaws can't be blamed on the partner.
yes i think you can be in love with someone and cheat. makes you a very weak person though | |
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 8/25/2005 1:21:56 PM |
some people on here just say no no way but you never know untill your in that sitution it is possible to love more then one person at a time and it is possible to get caught up in lust and the heat of the moment it does not mean you love the person any less it just means sometime poeple fck up but if u truly love them you will be eaten a live by guilt the real question is do you tell them or not if it was just one time and it will never happen again i say no why hurt them just to clear your mind
You can't get burnt if you don't play with fire. If you put yourself in a position to cheat all the time the temptation is much greater if you don't do that activity.
If you're married/seeing someone and go to singles bars, nightclubs or whatever you are only asking for trouble.
If you're married/seeing someone and frequenting boards such as this one you are only asking for trouble.
Things don't happen by mere coincidence. You have the choice to choose what you do.
Once a dog always a dog... now look what you made me do... now I'm quoting what women normally say. 
So I guess the male perspective would be once a ho always a ho.  | |
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 8/25/2005 5:09:47 PM | | ^ In a perfect world, this would be the proper and responsible thing to do. Humans are impulsive by nature and when there are problems in a relationship, it is only a matter of opportunity. Unfortunately, it happens. By the way, those statistics were a little on the low side - I believe that the actual percentage for women who have cheated was closer to 70%. | |
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