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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 8/25/2005 5:28:10 PM | it's not really the fact that they slept with someone else
it's that they were able lie to me
if you are lying to the person, then something is wrong
inyour relationship
that's a lot bigger than sleeping with someone else | |
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 8/25/2005 5:33:18 PM | fennelfish let me get this straight. i believe your saying if you and i were together and i cheated on you, as long as i told you the truth about it, it would be ok. so if i cheat and tell you, everything is ok, but if i cheat and lie to you , then something is wrong with the relationship. wow, di i miss something here? | |
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 8/25/2005 5:34:55 PM | | If you cheat on someone, than you're not truly in love with them........you cannot truly be in love with someone, if you don't love yourself enough to remain faithful to your commitments. Cheating is rarely ever about the 'other' person/people..... | |
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 8/25/2005 5:38:54 PM | | hottie you are so right. usually their partner is the best that they can be. people that cheat, it's usually all about them. if you look though, almost every person that has a serious problem always look to point the finger at someone else. they can never accept their own faults, even when they are pointed out to them. there is always a reason/excuse for everything that goes wrong in their life and it always starts with someone else's name. not their own. | |
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 8/25/2005 5:42:43 PM | | yes tick tock it is sad. if someone is caught cheating and the other was giving them all they had, then they believe there is no reason to continue. if i give you all i had and you still decided to cheat on me, then obviously what i have to offer wasn't good enough and that would hurt. | |
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 8/25/2005 7:31:15 PM |
and makes your statement of someone here is sooooooo lying a statement that doesn't hold a flea in a windstorm.
It would be nice to be quoted accurately.... The statement about somebody "sooo not being honest" was being said in jest, you know as in compared to when you look at the supposed statistics that are out there on cheaters.. it was supposed to be "bitter woman" humor.... Apparently men just don't get it... it wasn't that I didn't believe the PoFers... it was that it is amazing that we hear all about the cheaters and yet we seemed to have many like opinions on how wrong it is....
But thank you and the flea for your windstorm input.. it was ... enlightening... | |
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 8/25/2005 9:58:40 PM | If I was truly in love? no way. The idea of hurting someone I cared about would not be worth it. I can adjust my attitude enough that I don't need someone that badly to ruin someone else's life.
If I was NOT in love.. it would depend on whether I was respected him or not and if we had agreed to be monogamous. Right now?? I love my guy, and the idea of being with someone else doesn't appeal to me at all. | |
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 8/26/2005 12:20:37 AM | Bingo Countrylin...You win the prize!!
How can you love someone you don't trust? And trust must be mutual for it to mean anything.
I can't see how a person could justify messing around on their best friend and partner. Surely even if one was unaware that one's partner was cheating, the effect on the relationship would be devastating. And how could you destroy something you alledgedly love? Makes no sense. To cheat on one's partner is a complete betrayal, and in a word, utter Bulls**t | |
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 8/26/2005 1:43:43 AM | | the trouble with this question is some people get desperate hunni n not nec for the sex for attention n to feel special i had a flinf 5 months ago told my husband cos i tried everything else to get him to listen including councilling that our marriage made me feel dead , im a beliver in what ya dont get in the front door ya will go out the back door to get n when ya tell someone for more than a year to take some notice in ya so ya feel wanted and they still dont bother it gets hard , he forgave me but dont trust me anymore , but a relationship is like a plant water it or its eventually dies !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 8/26/2005 3:25:47 AM | I have had that tempttation and at the time I was deeply in love with my wife.Anyway I had this ONE thought.Why ride a chevette when I have a ferrari at home. The thought of cheating left.
At the time my wife back then kept me quite content at home. 2 to 3 times a day.So to everyone I say keep the love of your life content and he or she will be to content to stray.
Also another trick I have learned do not place myself in a situatation were I would be tempted.I would not allow myself to alone in a house or were ever with a member of the oppisite sex.So many times we tend to walk the border.And in a weak moment boom, your in trouble.I think safe gaurding ourselfs is a personal responsibility.A man or a woman that places her or his self in comptrimizing situations are subconciously wanting to cheat and it's a matter of time before they fall. If your mate is spending time with a member of the oppisite sex alone I would be wary. I believe work place romances ( or adultery) is caused by this spending countless hours alone.
When a partner cheats its ussually because they lack something at home. In the relationship and the two individuals TRULY love one another they would not cheat.
What is love this is my understanding of it
Love is kind
Love is gentle
love does not seek his or her own
Love is long suffering.
LOVE IS A DESICION
If i loved my mate how could I cheat?
But when the love is lost I am thinking of one person ME.
I went thru my first marriage with a cheating spouse.It was a blow.It was later learned she really never loved me.But I got the best from it.( My son)
Anyway those are some personal thoughts on this subject.I hope that anyone reading this will
get benifit from it. | |
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 8/26/2005 6:00:54 AM | i still say it's BS of course you can cheat on a partner and love them. cheating HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH THE OTHER PERSON
it's the cheater with the issues.
who ARE you people??? where do you come from?? | |
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 8/26/2005 7:34:04 AM | There are a lot of complicated factors that lead to an affair. In a relationship, there often is something wrong in the relationship but there doesn't really have to be. It is something wrong with the infidel... whether it is depression, neediness, narcissism... a lot of things. My STBXW feels that she still loves me but I believe that true love itself does not exist when you are able to lie and betray someone. I believe it does become a platonic love at that point.
Can you truly love someone who has to see a hotel receipt for a town in the opposite direction from the town she was supposed to be in? Can you truly love someone you tell you went on a trip that would total close to 200 miles round trip and there only be 79 miles on the car odometer? How could that be love? | |
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 8/26/2005 7:37:22 AM | | i don't think cheaters think about that. i think the guilt comes after. at least that was my experience of it. my ex husband sure didn't feel guilty when i was home alone recovering from surgery while he went on a float trip and cheated on me. he felt guilty when he came home and saw me | |
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 8/26/2005 10:13:58 AM | cheating has nothing to do with love!
it's all in your personallity.
are you a liar?
do you deceive people?
have you cheated on someone in the past?
chances are if you answered yes then you are also likely to cheat no matter who you're with.
It's about self respect! If you don't respect yourself enough to be loyal and honest to yourself then how can you expect to be that way to others!
kill the cheaters!
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 8/26/2005 10:18:11 AM | I think you can love more than one person, so in retro speck.....
......it would be the respect of the person you are being unfaithful to you would have to consider....The repect thing seems to come up very often, seems to be a lack of it going around.
Just my thought | |
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 8/26/2005 10:18:25 AM | | I could never cheat on someone I loved. In fact when I am in love it is like the rest of the world kind of fades away. I don't even notice people of the opposite sex the way I used to. Yes I can admire someone for their physical attributes but as far as wanting to sample them myself the urge just isn't there. | |
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