| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 11/10/2007 2:20:32 PM | I think it is two black and white o say that you cant love one operson and form whetever reason cheat. We always hear the term "once a cheater, always a cheater". Is this nessarally true. Cheating is at all levels and is concidered cheating by not one person but two people. some concider a kiss, my ex concidered it a lap dance. To each is own. it is an opinion.
The same can be said about love. Is it love, to be with a sex partner,or,a life partner? Is it love to be conciderate, or, be concidered of? it is both. You cant have one without the other. You can love someone, but if they do not love you. it is not love. Love is a two way street. We can not control who we fall in love with, but we can cotrol wether we are a doormat.
Depending on the degree of cheating, and what the relationship is like. You coul dlove someone and still cheat on them.
You are still ascum bag if you do.
I at least feel that a cheater can be reformed, just never get another chance to date me. | |
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 11/10/2007 3:56:52 PM | No No and NO
If you are truely in love....and wanna be with this person....you wouldn't be able to cheat...never mind if you really respect the person your with or care about them even a little you wouldn't cheat cause it hurts a lot of people...and has serious repercussions.... | |
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 11/10/2007 6:06:57 PM |
its impossible to cheat on someone you love. that love would stop u doing it every time
I have never cheated on someone I loved. When I love, I love unconditionally. When I'm in love with someone, the depth of my love keeps me from even thinking about lusting for anyone else.
Depending on the degree of cheating, and what the relationship is like. You could love someone and still cheat on them.
There is no "degree" of cheating. No such thing as a little cheating. Cheating isn't only having sex with someone other than your S.O. Cheating is when there is any interaction with someone outside of your relationship that you have to keep hidden from your S.O. | |
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 11/10/2007 6:27:30 PM | | NO, NO, NO! I am seeing someone, not sure that we qualify yet for "truly in love" (we are exclusive) but I have been asked out by several people and have said no. I think if you want a "real" relationship, you need to concentrate on that "one" person. I hope it works out, and if not.....I will move on. I am a widow but I would never have cheated on my husband....all I would have to think about is how hurt I would be if he did it to me.....if you aren't happy in a relationship....be a big person and move on! | |
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 11/10/2007 6:33:52 PM | I've been talking to a wonderful gentleman for the last month or so, who lives in a different state from me. We are planning to meet in mid-September, and, if things go as they have been going, we'll hopefully move on from there.
Even though we have made absolutely no commitment to each other, even though we both are well within our rights to see other people, even though we haven't even MET yet, I'm not dating anyone else, speaking with anyone else (other than as chat friends) and certainly not sleeping with anyone else. I think it's wrong, even, to pursue other interests if you're serious about embarking upon a potential relationship with someone else. He tells me the same, that he's not seeing anyone else, either. I believe him for two reasons: one, he is far too busy to be seeing anyone, and, two, I trust him. I can honestly say he is the first man in ages and ages that I instinctually felt I could trust. There is a reason for this: it's because nothing he's said can be disputed or contradicted and he's always done what he said he was going to do, when he said he was going to do it. Trust is a major, major issue in a relationship. NO room for cheating whatsoever"
I wouldn't be puttin my eggs all in one basket, especially for someone you haven't even met. Now - if you just don't want to date, then that is your choice. I am very leary about the "long distance relationship" thing! U just never know someone really, until you meet and are around them on a day-to day basis. And even then- do you really ever know anyone? | |
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 11/10/2007 6:36:16 PM | | I couldn't cheat on someone I loved, but I do think its possible.... Especially for men and this is not an insult to men and or I am not male bashing, it's just the truth. Men can detach themselves, alot easier than women......... Though women can do it too! | |
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 11/10/2007 6:43:19 PM | Just skimmed through the posts and this one caught my eye:
Just because we have never cheated on anyone, doesn't mean it won't, or can't happen, even by the most righteous.
Cheating has nothing to do with righteousness. It has everything to do with integrity.
Personally, I have never cheated and will never cheat. Ever. And it has nothing to do with loving the man I'm in a relationship with. Hell, I wouldn't even cheat if I was in a relationship with a man that I no longer was in love with. I'd leave him first.
Having said that, to answer the OP, yes, it's possible to cheat even if someone is truly in love. To you and I it may seem impossible that they can love and still have sex with someone else, but who am I (or anyone else) to define what love is? There are as many different ways to love someone or be in love with someone, as there are ways to cheat on someone. | |
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 11/10/2007 6:54:12 PM | Yes, as long as you are just talking about sex. IMO sex is just sex, but pursuing a relationship with another person is a different story. That would be a complete betrayal of trust. So I guess it would all depend on the situation and people involved.
And to the whole "My needs aren't being met" crowd, that is a terrible excuse. You should not expect any one person to meet ALL of your needs. Putting that type of pressure on your significant is wrong, if your "needs aren't being met" then leave. Don't place the blame of your cheating on someone elses feet. GRRRR  | |
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 11/10/2007 7:01:33 PM | Hi,
No.
Long answer: if you cheat on someone you love - you LOVE YOURSELF not that person. Loving someone is to be happy to see them even if they come in 148 times through the door in one hour.
Friend. | |
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 11/10/2007 7:16:47 PM | | No, if both people are commited and both are working on the relationship then I would never and could never cheat on someone. I just want to give my heart to one man forever. If he would ever accept it then he would never have to worry about me cheating on him...ever. | |
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 11/10/2007 7:31:28 PM | I did it! Yes, I read the book "he's just not that into you." So not just based on the book, but my own experience, a guy that you go out with on a date and wants to still date other women is not into me. A man that says he loves me OMG and still is checking out the women on dating sites...ok, not just checking, but emailing, calling, tming, iming, etc. (or is there anything else... ), forget it.
Some day I will meet the right guy and ROCK HIS WORLD!
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 11/11/2007 4:04:09 AM | I f you have to cheat, what are the motivators. I can't think of a bigger betrayal in a relationship than that. Matter of fact it's just sick.
If a person has to "have" another "relationship" on the outside get rid of the one you're with. It's the only decent thing to do.
Don't make it into a hostage situation | |
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 11/11/2007 4:20:57 AM | | I have never lied or cheated on someone I loved. But in defense of what Iwrote earlier. There are many degrees of cheating. We can all agree that Sex is cheating...right. Some people think kissing is cheating ( I do) Some think a Lap dance is Cheating (I do not). It is a question of what you feel is right and wrong. | |
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 11/11/2007 4:27:43 AM | and you need lap dances because......
I got it! BECAUSE they are entertaining and you're helping the young lady get her degree in college.
Personally I can't go there. It's a distraction fromthe relationship. Truthfully, when you go home to your "significant other" after your lap dance, WHO are you thinking of? | |
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 11/11/2007 4:56:20 AM |
There is no "degree" of cheating. No such thing as a little cheating. Cheating isn't only having sex with someone other than your S.O. Cheating is when there is any interaction with someone outside of your relationship that you have to keep hidden from your S.O
You missed my point. I was stating that people have differing opinions on what is construed as cheating. I was not talking about a lesser degree of cheating. I was pointing out that to one person a seemingly inocuous act is cheating, but to another it is not. We can all agree that Sex is cheating though. | |
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 11/11/2007 7:01:29 AM | | Bottom line. If you cheat, you have insecurities that you need to work on within yourself to overcome those things. If you are truly in love with someone simply enough you don't have time to focus any of your attention on anyone else but that certain individual. All you time and efforts would be focused on how to strenghten that bond with your mate and not search outside that relationship because basically what you are doing is just a temporary fix. Communicative expression with each other is needed and should not be ignored or forgotten. | |
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 11/11/2007 7:27:49 AM | | Wow you are honest but I can't believe you said that. Why wouldn't you leave the person instead first and then have all the sex you want? If the relationship is that bad why are you still in it???? | |
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 11/11/2007 8:05:02 AM | To err is human, but you've got to know when to cut people off that are hitting on you if youre married or in a relationship. If they cheat once, forgive them, send them to a blood test, make them understand that that's their one get-outta-jail-free-card. If it happens again, walk on down the hall. be done with it. I guess people just dont have the ultimate discipline that i do | |
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