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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 10/12/2008 10:17:54 PM | Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
NO. And if you have any morals what so ever, you wouldn't cheat on anyone. If you are no longer interested, walk.
If you want to screw around, tell your partner that you had sex with somone else just the other day/week/hour. Let that person decide if they want to still have sex with you, you shouldn't be making the decision for them.
WHY would anyone cheat on another person? It's just dirty, it's wrong, it's cowardly and it makes me sick! | |
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 10/13/2008 5:31:11 PM | From the Music Lass in post # 878:
Nope...dont even want another man if I'm in love....cant do it...doesnt feel right to be with another man. Wouldn't want to hurt my honey...
Fidelity is one thing, but how many Christian women do we know who cheat in other ways: and they are just as bad as the worst promiscuious wife or husband?
a) Husband has a budget we agreed to: but we violated it and burnt up too much of they joint money!
b) A bride decides she will use a soiled form of prostitution as she refuses sex to her husband if she doesn't get her agenda met!
C) Husband has a secret he shares with her; she is mad and devulges it to hurt him!
Aren't there greater forms of cheating than sexual loyalty?
And don't even tell me gals that you don't have any female relatives that have not played 'tramp behavior games' like that on thier husbands! | |
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 10/13/2008 5:53:15 PM | | If you're gonna cheat on your partner, then I don't even see the purpose of being in a relationship. There is never an excuse for cheating, no matter how people try to spin it. If you are going to cheat, then it's more than obvious that your supposed love for your partner isn't real. This is the way I see it. | |
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 10/15/2008 8:04:02 PM | I don't know how many of you have seen the Nativity Story about Christ's birth.
But have you ever thought about sleeping with someone prior to wedlock may be cheating your future spouse?
I mean everyone wants to wear a garment that they don't know who wore it beforehand and unwashed don't they? | |
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 10/15/2008 10:02:05 PM | I have some experience with this...
Personally my feeling is that, if you believe in "love" in the traditional, devoted, one lover sense, then no, you can't really say you "love" that person and then go cheat on them. Can you be tempted to cheat? Sure! The mind wanders, the eye roams... The "what if" creeps in. Love means you believe that what you have is far better in the long run than any fling you'd get in the short term. | |
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 10/15/2008 10:30:38 PM | | i dont believe in cheating.. when you truly love and care about the person, the last thing you want to do is hurt them, when im in love its like me and him against the world.. i dont seem to notice anyone at all.... that person becomes the sun of my day ...the moon and stars of my night... brightens up even the worst da of your life... i dont believe that people cheats because they're needs are not met, not true... they just dont know how to respect and appreciate what they got..... "dont make excuses, make adjustments..." | |
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 10/18/2008 8:25:22 PM | What is love without honesty? To cheat on someone you "supposedly" love is the ultimate betrayal. When a person is cheated on by someone that they trust, it devastates their life on so many levels. It inflicts pain that should never have been introduced.
To all the cheaters of the world. Be big enough, kind enough, honest enough, brave enough, unselfish enough to do what you need to do to keep your integrity and prevent the infliction of that kind of pain on another person.
To do anything less than that is wrong on every level for every one involved.
Kaylee | |
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 10/19/2008 12:15:33 AM | | If you've stopped caring enough NOT to cheat if given the opportunity, respect what the other may still hold as love and faithfulness to YOU.....and cut the ties respectfully! Before you trash a heart that actually valued you as a human. By doing so, you are not cheating. | |
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 10/19/2008 4:56:48 AM | Re post 881
When I read that I admit I got a bit annoyed at the targeting of women. IMO, men might use different tactics, but some of them are as capable as some women at controlling their spouses (witholding emotions is a huge one or controlling the money and not allowing the wife to have the ability to make purchases without prior approval).
However, it did raise a question in my mind. If someone is in a PERMANENT relationship where the other person is witholding emotions or sex on a continuous basis, would they be able to cheat? It seems to me that as the years wore on, it would become a lot more tempting....Note that I added in the word "permanent" for those cases where people don't feel the ability to get out of a relationship because of various reasons (e.g., deeply-seeded religious tradition, severe lack of money combined with large responsibilities like raising kids)
Most of the responses given in this thread seem to be responding to the functional relationships we all hope to have, where it is quite black and white, or to the relationships that are easily severed, but in reality a lot of relationships are far more complex. | |
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 10/19/2008 5:11:30 AM | Edit to my last post
The question in the situation I describe above isn't whether you can cheat on someone you love but whether you can continue to love someone who is abusing you in some respect. And does cheating on that person mean you no longer love them or the situatio? | |
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 10/19/2008 5:53:26 AM | When I am truly in love I don't even "see" other people. They just don't exist for me in a sexual sense. When I am truly in love my heart and soul and body belong completely and totally to that person.
So, the answer is no.
Could I cheat on someone that I wasn't in love with? Well now, that wasn't the question was it? | |
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 10/19/2008 9:43:51 AM | I've been asking myself this question a lot lately due to some infidelity in my relationship.
Here's what I think... yes.
Some cheating is purely physical, and in that way you get your physical needs met, and move on. You don't care about the person, you just are meeting a need. And while its horribly disrespectful to the person you love, and breaks their trust and faith.... it does not necessarily mean you don't love them. Only that in that moment you placed meeting a physical need above the emotional vow you have made-- which, after being in a relationship a long time is probably easier to do than most people would like to admit.
Or, you can emotionally cheat. You're intrigued by someone, they offer you a new perspective, something different and you can't help but be curious. Again, in that moment this shiny new thing demands your attention moreso than the tried and true comfort of your love.
Is it right? No. Should a mature adult be expected to control themselves despite these temptations? Absolutely. But, I'll never put myself on a pedastal, and I don't expect the people I care about to be perfect either. So, I am capable of understanding and forgiving these lapses in judgement. But, can I then continue a relationship with a person who would hurt me in that way? Well, I don't have that answer yet. | |
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 10/19/2008 11:41:36 AM | IMO: No, I will never cheat on someone I truly love. I wouldn't even cheat on someone I fell out of love with if I was in a committed relationship. I would either try to work on the relationship or get out. That is how my marriage ended but I would definately never cheat. It comes down to a person belief system and values.  | |
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 10/19/2008 12:28:48 PM |
Some cheating is purely physical, and in that way you get your physical needs met, and move on. You don't care about the person, you just are meeting a need. And while its horribly disrespectful to the person you love, and breaks their trust and faith.... it does not necessarily mean you don't love them.
Everyone is different, which is why the question was asked I suppose, but I couldn't cheat on someone I loved just because of a physical need. I would also add to the above comment that it can also be horribly disrespectful to the person you are cheating with if for you it's merely physical but for them it's also emotional. Apparently a book has been published recently to help out women who are seeing married men. I think that's why it was written; the guys who cheat but don't want to lose their wives are in it for the physical satisfaction but their "mistresses" are in it for the emotional security. So, then, 3 people get hurt. | |
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| Can you cheat on a person you are truly in love with?
Posted: 10/19/2008 5:21:31 PM | 'IF UR TRULY INLOVE?' its rong if u love them or not no1 deservez 2 be cheated on nothing good comes of it, if u not in2 the girl or guy 4 that matter, what da hell u doing with them. As for those homewreakers it is completly disgusting what they do they have obviously not no self respect or morals, cheaters should have it stampd on their heads no1 deservez 2 b cheated on. 2 no ur not good enuf for ur partner is the most hurtful thing that can happen in a real.ship, ne real.ship.  | |
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