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| how many online dates have you had?
Posted: 8/22/2005 2:45:59 PM | | I've been on 4 or 5 from this site.All with the same person. Still seeing each other and taking time to really get to know one another. | |
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| how many online dates have you had?
Posted: 4/12/2006 8:59:32 PM | | ive had probably around a dozen dates , have tried the internet thing for a while but i believe i have gotten fairly good at sorting out the the nutbags from the decent ones , talk about trial and error. have made some top friends though and its great to share mine and their dating horror stories , lets face it you usually come away with some funny stories and maybe even a new place for coffee . | |
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| how many online dates have you had?
Posted: 4/12/2006 9:11:03 PM | | here at plenty of fish 7 guys the number are not right there only my friends here im still looking for my otherhalf im currently dating a men from honduras i meet him on a blind date so i dont have a boyfriend now im free and single no strings attached this computer stuff getting to burn me out a littlei will realxs for awhile.i hate the hookups i got i just realize to like to be single for awhile so im just not looking for serious stuff just freindship and hangingout the love of my life ricardo died last may of last years so i still in grief for him it hard to let go with a special men in yourlife . | |
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| how many online dates have you had?
Posted: 4/12/2006 9:24:08 PM | | 3 so far...I am still pretty good friends with one of them, and the other I still e-mail jokes and junk like that..the other was a freak..totally a freak..real piece of work. Oh, also have a stalker, luckily, she lives nowhere near me, nor have I met her in person. She keeps on asking me to marry her. What the hell? Scary. She says I am the only nice guy that she has ever talked to..and I am like 'you don't get out much, do you?'. That's like the second time this has happened to me. Oh well. | |
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| how many online dates have you had?
Posted: 4/12/2006 9:40:06 PM | I think about seven or eight, but don't quote me.
All from POF ( one from Yahoo personals) , out of about perhaps thirty requests for a coffee together. Only three woman have ever accepted my invitation, the others invited me.
All were nice people , far prettier than their pictures would have allowed me to believe initially. I never had a bad date, and I think they would say the same.
All also followed the same pattern, one date only. 
The last one, a woman I met from here and went out on a date with last week, is still an ongoing story. It remains to be seen where it leads, and I take each day as it comes. It may prove to be like all the others, or it may not.
What ever will be , will be. | |
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| how many online dates have you had?
Posted: 4/12/2006 9:44:16 PM | | I have come to the conclusion that online dating just isn't my venue. I am just too freaking old....and not easy enough. | |
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| how many online dates have you had?
Posted: 4/12/2006 9:51:55 PM | I don't think it's a question of age or anything else. I really am starting to realize that the entire online dating process is in fact not something that typically works well for anyone.
Look at the number of people that do it, and the few successes that occur. Compare that to the "real life" process, where it is typically much more rewarding.
If you are looking for just sex, or just friendship, the internet is a good thing. Combine both, and the wheels start falling off the silicon wagon.
Either we are all crazy, or the actual medium is the problem, in some mystical McLuhanesque way. Perhaps it's just the way we use this digital world to meet each other that causes all this, and I am trying to alter my use of it to see if that improves it any. | |
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| how many online dates have you had?
Posted: 4/12/2006 9:57:48 PM | The medium is flawed for sure....but its not like I am dating in the "real world" either. I am at the point where I am becoming resigned to being dateless, boyfriendless, relationshipless forever. I am past the societal "best before date".
Online dating is just a giant "wish book"....it isn't about real people, it is about statistics, how tall, how old, what kind of body....and a lot of the people here are just preying on the lonely for sex or money or whatever. | |
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| how many online dates have you had?
Posted: 4/12/2006 10:22:25 PM | | I've had about 6 or 7, a few I saw more than once, most are just friends now though. A couple of them I blocked and deleted from my cell and my MSN becasue they are CRAZY! But, oh well. This is the best way I've seen to meet people and date when life gets busy! I'm having fun! | |
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| how many online dates have you had?
Posted: 4/12/2006 10:28:10 PM | or the actual medium is the problem, in some mystical McLuhanesque way
Excellent thought, Montreal.
I've only dated 6 or 7 women from POF, two of them mutiple times, but I've been here a little over a year. I quit sending out mail after week two of being here, just responding to others. Sent out quite a few again, though, several weeks ago.
I've also felt, but for longer than MontrealGuy, that online dating, despite some success stories from some wonderful people here, is not a good medium for dating success. The whole process is much too cerebral and careful. Most of us look at email or profiles in a calculated manner, because, after all, there's no real chemistry or personality-- no LIFE, to be short about it-- coming across typewriiten words. And the longer the correspondence goes back and forth, whether it's by e-mail or through the forums, the worse it is, IMO, because the cerebral connection has been established, and you've settled in as friends or acquaintances already-- it's a hard transition to then somehow transcend to a romantic interest from there.
Words are typed, or scanned, but you can't touch, smell, hear, or see the other person during this so-called "communication". And, especially from the man's vantage point, if he tries to quicken the pace to meet as soon as possible, he's often looked upon with apprehension, even fear, as being a "player" or "desperate".
As to this last point, 7 or 8 years ago I joined a phone-dating site for 2 months. I went on 32-37 dates in those two months. 80% of the women who initiated the messages left their phone #s. Conversation lasted, usually, no more than 15-20 minutes, long enough to establish a screening against egregious mismatches, and we met within the week.
The point is, there was no cerebral build-up, with a fussy shopping list mentality. The attitude on both sides was, "hey, let's get together and have fun, and see what happens."
After the two-week mark from when I joined last year, I've treated this site, gratefully I hasten to add, as a cool place to read and post poetry. The dates I've treated as a bonus. Most of my dating occurs, and is focussed, in the "real" world. | |
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| how many online dates have you had?
Posted: 4/12/2006 11:28:00 PM | Been dating online for about 3 years now, so in total I would guesstimate 30 or so (including 3 long-term relationships that came from that). From POF so far just 8 (I'm new in town).
When I first started dating online, it was a real blast and it was not unusual for me to go on more than one date per day, but soon, that became a lot of WORK! Phone calls, IM's, e-mails, hair, makeup, nails, accessorizing, trying to keep names straight, did I wear this outfit this week already, will the maitre'd at the restaurant remember I was here with someone else the day before and give me a knowing wink, why could I not recall my date's favorite color, interests, birthday, city of residence, occupation, dog's name, or whatever, etc. I needed a personal assistant!
Casual dating (down to a very managable once or twice a week now, especially since I have moved from California to Georgia recently and getting to know my way around). Just having fun and enjoying myself, not looking for my "soul mate" or long-term relationship stuff. Single and loving it! | |
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| how many online dates have you had?
Posted: 4/13/2006 4:36:11 AM | well i like most others am not having a great deal of success with the on-line dating. i have met perhaps 15 people in the 10 months i have been on and off the site. most of the actually meetings were quite enjoyable. i think there was really only one that i couldn't wait for it to end, ended up with a scalded mouth trying to gulp down the coffee... i tend not to meet someone unless i think we have enough in common to at least be able to sustain a conversation for an hour.
i think the longest i've seen someone from here is about 3 months, in a casual dating scenerio, i pulled my profile, he left his on. i've had 2 experiences that made it up to getting together/dating for 4 or 5 times,but again, not a committed or "exclusive" thing, can't really seem to make it over that "talk" thing. got a couple of great "pals" from it, in real-life, and another 3 or 4 "chat buddies", and really only got what i consider "burned" once, but live and learn.
what i find to be the biggest downfall in the whole procedure is the "multi-meet, multi-date" scenerio. i myself prefer, if someone interests me, to limit my attention while i am getting to know them. i have to do enough multi-tasking in my job and home life.....i really don't want to do it in my dating life. and while i realize that the whole idea is to meet and get to know people, personally i find it hard to relax and open up to someone, if i know that tommorrow they have another lady to meet. the development of a relationship is like everything else and is really an explorative type of thing, it takes time and effort.
i like to compare the whole thing to being a kid in a candy store and wanting to try one of everything, just cause its there, rather than just the type you really like. | |
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| how many online dates have you had?
Posted: 4/13/2006 5:52:12 AM | online dating... the ultimate oxymoron......
If you are online you are NOT dating...
If you are dating you DAMN sure ain't online...... | |
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| how many online dates have you had?
Posted: 12/18/2008 8:10:40 PM | Was bored a tad and dug this gem up... how many online dates have you had?
Below is a post by "Strawbwerryquicksand" that cracked me up!!!
Well, I've been on at least forty dates with people online in the last year and a half or so, possibly even up to about fifty, sixty, seventy....I've lost count!
That probably sounds like loads to most people, but i'm the type of person who, when she decideds to do something, do it. I paid money for member ship on a couple of sites so damned it, I was going to get my money's worth!
Priceless....
O well to the O,P where ever they are....For me 1. It was a nightmare...
Happy Holidays,
AM | |
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| how many online dates have you had?
Posted: 12/18/2008 8:22:12 PM | I have never even thought of keeping track. I have selective memory. LOL I delete the ones that were a no go and forget about it. But I would guestimate about 20-30. One lasted 2 years though.
I have the more success from real life meetings. | |
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| how many online dates have you had?
Posted: 12/18/2008 9:11:33 PM |
online dating... the ultimate oxymoron......
If you are online you are NOT dating...
If you are dating you DAMN sure ain't online......
Bah! You've never had a super fun date until you both have explored Feeder Co Uk together. It's like a gentler Goatse. | |
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