| Questions to ask to get to know someone.
Posted: 8/22/2005 8:26:15 AM | cptcasual~ It's hard to know what you should ask someone!
Someone once found out after 15 years of marraige that their spouse had been in jail and actually still had warrants for their arrest. When they asked why they never told them..... they said "You never asked" !!! Wow!
There is a book you can get online called 1,000 questions for couples should know about eachother. There are great questions to start asking when you 1st meet someone.
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| Questions to ask to get to know someone.
Posted: 3/10/2006 9:48:42 PM | Thanks guys looks like a good thread that i started. Lets add a twist to it now and see what kind of comments are strewn about.
Ok so we got the questions to get to know someone. How about language! What is your favourite thing to do language wise (ie body language) When interested in a person (guys and gals can comment) and the complete opposite totally not interested but are stuck in the date til the end. Please no rude and lude conduct keep it fun and real.
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| Questions to ask to get to know someone.
Posted: 3/10/2006 10:14:03 PM | Body language is a science unto itself. People study it as closely as they would any other science. I went to a workshop once that talked about this, and, although I don't know that much about it, there are some things that are typical of good 'vibes' and bad 'vibes' -- like:
If the person you are talking to rubs her hair, pulls her fingers through her hair, rubs or touches her neck/throat, leans forward and/or adjusts her clothing, looks at your mouth when you speak, licks her lips and (obviously) smiles and laughs a lot, then she is definitely interested in what you are saying. (The hair is a biggie, as is opening up her body space.)
If she sits with her legs/arms crossed, turns her position away from you, glances her eyes away from you frequently, furrows her brow often, crosses and uncrosses her legs often and leans away, then she is sending a much different signal. She will also chew her bottom lip.
Another thing to watch for is breathing patterns. A person who is disinterested sighs a lot, takes a lot of deep breaths, especially when looking away from you.
But, everyone is different, and some people are very aware of their body language, and will purposely direct it so that you will not know what they are thinking! (What if they went to the same workshop I did?? You will never know what the hell they are thinking!!) | |
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| Questions to ask to get to know someone.
Posted: 3/10/2006 10:38:20 PM | well im not that up on body language but i can tell if some one is interested or not by the time i start to talk to them. lol
mdew22
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| Questions to ask to get to know someone.
Posted: 3/10/2006 10:40:16 PM | oh by the way coastargal. thats a lot of questions on the frist date or at any one time. couldnt we just skip them and find out as we go. lmao
mdew22
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| Questions to ask to get to know someone.
Posted: 10/16/2007 6:16:30 PM | Here are some of my favourite.
1.Tell me a secret – tell me something about yourself no one else knows?
2.What is the weirdest thing about you?
3.What is the most exciting thing you have done in your entire life?
4.If you were an ice cream what flavor would you be.
5.Would you like to perform a strip-tease number for me?
6.Do you have any tattoos? Can I see them?
7.If I asked every person that you've kissed, they'd say that your kisses are tentative, wild, intense, or sweet?
8.Do you like to travel? What place would you like to visit that you haven't been to yet?
9.What is the most embarrassing thing that you have done in the last few weeks?
10.If there were no consequences, would you rather eat and drink as much as you want, sleep with whomever you want, or yell and fight as much as you want?
11.Can you play a musical instrument? If so, which one?
12.Do you sing in the shower? If so, are you any good? | |
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| Questions to ask to get to know someone.
Posted: 10/16/2007 7:11:57 PM | | Geez, what is this...a job interview? Just ask questions that are natural and see where it goes. If you ask her what her lifelong dreams are, you're going to run her off (unless that is your intention. If so, what are you doing going out with her in the 1st place?) | |
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| Questions to ask to get to know someone.
Posted: 10/17/2007 11:40:06 AM | Kimiko ... I couldnt have said it better! lol
If some one hits with a line of questions like this on a first date, I think Im going to say,so do you liken your self to a) enjoying gestapo style interrogations or b) job interviews, adn why do you feel you a need to do that? not the questions but to make it feel like that?
and for the record .... I can play all musical instruments! just so badly that you'll probably want to hit me to make me stop! lol | |
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| Questions to ask to get to know someone.
Posted: 10/17/2007 11:48:45 AM | | I'd ask them to tell you what their fighting style is like...how have they handled past disagreements (with loved ones) in which both parties believed they were 100% right and wouldn't budge. Serious issues only, not "what's for dinner?" | |
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| Questions to ask to get to know someone.
Posted: 10/17/2007 6:55:33 PM | 1. Do you believe in God and continued life after death?
2. If you had to be stranded on a deserted island for the rest of your life, and you could only bring 3 things, what would they be?
3. If you could go back in time to meet any one person who ever lived, who would it be and why?
4. Do you speak any languages other than english?
5. Can you honestly say that you live your life so completely that you are prepared to die at any moment knowing that you wouldn't have done anything differently?
6. Whats your biggest regret, if any?
7. You can only live your life once. Is it more important to strive to accomplish as much as you can and become the best person you can be, or to enjoy life moment by moment?
8. Do you believe in absoulte truth? If so, what is the absolute truth?
9. Does the idea of dying make you uncomfortable? Or are you at peace with the inevitability of death?
10. Very few things are taboo these days. What is one subject or scenario do you find most disturbing? Are you disturbed by mortality? homosexuality? | |
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| Questions to ask to get to know someone.
Posted: 10/17/2007 11:20:50 PM | hey..how much does this job pay? benefits? healthplan? retirement??
gimme a break..treating someone as if they were at a job interview will leave you single and frustrated that much longer!!! | |
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| Questions to ask to get to know someone.
Posted: 11/11/2008 2:13:35 PM | Wish my x girlfriend would have asked me these questions about 3 years ago.
-Can you afford my lifestyle?
"nope, found out the hard way"
- How will you take care of me when you come home late from work?
"don't matter now huh? I have to take care of myself at night"
- What are the favourite meals you like to cook?
"I'm eating out now"
- Do you have any letters of recommendation?
"yes I do. I recommend other men stay away from this ****"
- So why do you want to marry me and why should I pick you?
"cause I done gave you everything I have. I need shit to live with also"
- Can I trust your motives?
"You can trust this, **** YOU ****"
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| Questions to ask to get to know someone.
Posted: 11/12/2008 11:22:54 AM | | An woman several years my senior with whom I worked many years ago gave me what I felt was good advice regarding what to ask a date/perspective partner -- "Have you ever scrubbed a toilet and would you do so again?" | |
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| Questions to ask to get to know someone.
Posted: 11/12/2008 11:36:44 AM | The show stopper question.
I see by your profile that you want x,y and z, and after talking to you for a bit, I see you have a list, so, what do you bring to a relationship? Who are you and why would it be you that I want to be with?
I don't use this in the begining, just after a few emails and the phone if I start to wonder why it is we're chatting. You would be amazed at the pause you get from it. | |
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