| If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 8/21/2005 9:09:55 PM | trex "Women with extreme abuse histories can not interact with men on a possitive basis." And you know this because?? Well gosh darn. Maybe you should email this gem of wisdom to the 300 plus men who have written me in the last 3 weeks. I'm only single by MY choice, I've had several marriage proposals in the years that I've been widowed and I turned them all down. I have high standards and not every man who wants to date me or go out with me is necessarily right for me. I know what I want and I won't settle. I have no need for psychiatric help, never have, but if I did I wouldn't hesitate to seek it. What makes you think you're qualified or even knowledgeable enough to give me unsolicited advice or direction? If you want to PAY for me to go see a shrink and take all the tests I'll glady do so, just to satisfy you that you couldn't be more wrong. This is a public forum and anyone can post whatever they wish to within the established rules. You may want to read the forum rules and if you don't understand them I'm sure the mods will help explain them.
edit You know there was a former poster who quoted in the exact same manner. ladydi you got mail, baby!
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| If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 8/21/2005 9:38:48 PM | Don't sweat it sweetie. You are very attractive.
Most of the women on these online sites are overweight. You look much better than the overweight women, and than many of those who are in shape.
I'm not perfect, and none of us are.
I'm sorry you had to endure the pain that you did. I'll bet the scars aren't as bad as they seem.
I'm not that tolerant of obesity. Many obese people are their own worst enemy.
You can't help what happened to you. You've suffered. Here's hoping someone can make you forget about all the suffering.
You have a very nice shape. Don't let those "marks" make you lose your confidence. If a man enjoys your nice shape, and pleasant personality, you should just enjoy that man!
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| If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 8/21/2005 9:45:07 PM | Excuse me, Mr. TRexx....
Would you care to share what statistics, experience, education, or documentation you base this little gem upon, sir?
Women with extreme abuse histories can not interact with men on a possitive basis.
I ask because my own education, research, and personal experiences tell me the exact opposite.
Btw....here's a little suggestion....how's about taking your unsolicited/unprovoked personal attacks out of a forum that has nothing to do with your personal issues with someone else?
It's called showing a little decency....sir. | |
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| If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 8/21/2005 11:01:06 PM | Very interesting T-Rexx. I didn't start this thread for people to come in here and be negative. Just because a woman has been through alot with men doesn't mean they have complete hatred towards them. I still push ahead and date and look for someone to spend the rest of my life with. I know that all men aren't bad. You made some real derogatory statements and it sounds like you are unhappy with yourself and lashing out at other people. I think you are very uncaring and very hostile and I don't appreciate that. I don't think you should hold so much anger inside. I have been through alot and came in here to get some opinions and you turned it in to an all out war. How unbecoming of you. Thanks for being so caring and being such an adult about it.....not | |
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| If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 8/21/2005 11:17:28 PM | | Well Fred when you are dating it is an experience that I have to go through. And it will always be something I have to deal with as long as I am DATING!!!! So I think this is a good place for it. If you wanted to be negative about it then maybe you shouldn't of responded....But then again we do have freedom in the USA huh? Guess that means you have the freedom to be an A#* about it. Thank you to for being so caring.......When someone needs positive feedback there is always someone out there that has to be negative. I bet you have your own scars of your own. I am laughing at you because it is so childish of you to be negative. Where are your manners towards a woman? Come on now...... | |
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| If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 8/21/2005 11:26:00 PM | I agree with Fred as they should have a forum for abuse discussions.
Brett Sabre
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If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 8/21/2005 11 24 PM
Maybe the should have a special forum for women who have suffered violent crimes and abuse?
Rape,incest spousal abuse etc.
Seems like a better idea than dating experiences.
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| If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 8/21/2005 11:26:41 PM | Do you have any compassion Rexx? You are actually handsome and I can't believe your attitude is so ugly. I didn't come in here for a reality check. Believe me I know reality...It hits me in my face everyday. But if you think you were checking me about reality you must think again baby....I am a very confident woman in all aspects of life. The only hard time I have in life is living with these scars. You must not have any scars(inner or outer)...oh yeah!! Well since you are so****...you hold anger towards something. Don't take it out on be. For you to bash me is wrong because I have done nothing to you......  Peace to you irregardless!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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| If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 8/21/2005 11:32:49 PM | Mr Texx, if you did not like what was wrote in this thread,then you should have continues on to the next one. you are busting bucs chops about airing her stuff in public, well hun new flash, PUBLIC FORUM. means that you can air anything you want within the rules of the site. if you have recieved a degree in counselling abused women of any form then please produce it and then,and only then, will you have a slight chance of being taken seriously.
talk about catagorizing people! some of us women have been to hell and back and then some. and sharing that hell with others is not a crime. it is compassion. reaching out to your fellow man/woman. now if you have no such compunction then kindly keep your loud mouth off of these women.! especially bucs. she does not deserve your negativity. you know nothing of us as we know nothing of you and not likely wanting to either.
this is not JUST a dating site. it is a site for meeting people, wether it be for ftf's (friends that f*ck,in case you don't understand initials) friends, boyfriends,partners or whatever.
I don't know who died and made you think you were king of the posts,but you better get another reality check.
ecb
btw, i really don't care if you like what i have said or not. it's neither here nor there. i won't lose sleep over it.
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| If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 8/21/2005 11:43:51 PM | | if a guy really likes u, it wont bother him if u h/ scars . . .or if say u act as if they do not bother u, or even if they r not there, then he will not see them either, im sure u h/ many other things to offer the ppl around you. i h/ my faults as well, very visble in certain places but i dont let it bring me down, not anymore, and i dont think u should either. . .besides what matters is how u r on the inside and if the ppl u choose to let into ur life cant see that, then they do not deserve to be a part of ur life! | |
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| If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 8/22/2005 12:04:27 AM | [Don't do the "***.." thing. /xander]
So, T REXX said:
"I am not here to cousel and console your pathetic issue laden life .
Unlike some others on here.
This is not anger.
Wait till you piss me off.
The fun starts then.
Oh and as for the other peanut gallery comments...take a hike.
Bring it on,I will bury your a s s."
Uhmmm, so, dude, why are you *here*?
There are lots of boards out there just for flame practice, so what gives?
If this particular thread doesn't interest you, what is your intent?
To poke some people where they hurt?
To pick on some women?
Come on Russ, tell us what you are thinking?
So, what do you do In Real Life for kicks?
Kick dogs?
Maybe smack your girl around (figuratively, or even actually, maybe)?
Light street bums on fire?
What?
I think Russ is really a lonely and scared little boy, hiding in a man's body.
Being a pretty man, he probably has had most of the good things in life handed to him, and some recent event (maybe his girl left him, perhaps a friend has betrayed him, maybe he was down-sized from a really cool job) has challenged the easy life for Russ.
I don't know what it was, but cheer up, Bucko, you will get through your current trials, and if you can retain a scrap of humanity while doing so, maybe you will actually like who you see in the mirror some day.
There must be some decency in your core, or you wouldn't be here in this forum--you could be down at the bars, picking up chicks... | |
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| If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 8/22/2005 12:04:53 AM | | ecb---you are awesome thanks!!!! And Sir Baby Ms. Rexx...Oh I am sorry was that supposed to be Mr. Rexx...when you become a man I will call you Mr. You have no respect from me so you are not Mr. anything. Nice of you to be so shallow minded though. I will comment on you no further because i am not stooping to your very low level. You will not threaten me. I will turn that in if you make any more atempts to threaten me on the internet. You are very wrong and this is a sight for debates. No threats no matter if you get angry or not. | |
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| If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 8/22/2005 12:21:26 AM | | ecb I haven't read your profile...are you a man hater? lol lol Hey listen this isn't cool all this bs. We are all adults here so let's act it please. There are tons of posts to reply to and this one shouldn't have negative comments. I can't believe the comments from some people. God made all kinds and we have to live in the world with them, but that doesn't mean we have to deal with them. Thanks again all of you for the positive feedback. We can continue on with the hardships we go through and continue to be positive in here and lift each other up..... | |
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| If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 8/22/2005 10:01:26 AM | shimmer: nope i am not a man hateer lol i just hate little boys TRYING to be men.
russ, i'll have you know that i did have my pic on there, but took it off because of my kids' father.
tsk tsk tsk. name calling lol now who has the low iq?????
i am alot of things but skanky loser i am not. i am a mother,a daughter,a sister,a niece,a best friend but most of all i am a woman.
too bad you don't kow what one is.
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| If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 8/22/2005 12:29:59 PM | Just thought I would give my two cents in this thread because I have dated women with scars that have expressed their insecurities to me at some point in the relashionship. This is what I tell them and sometimes it does make them feel a bit better and sometimes I can't tell; If you look really close, under my nose, there is a line there that looks like there was a straight edge razor taken to it. I have been told a couple diffrent stories of how I got it when I was a child, but I don't remember anyhow, so I don't sweat it! But the thing of it is, I have gone through my whole life since I was two or three years old with that scar. MAybe you can't see it clear now because of the goatee but it's there. Another one you can see is above my right eye from a bar brawl. Others I have on my arm from it going through glass and my knee from a moped accident. The point is, we all have had scars at some point in our life. Noone needs to be with anyone that judges them for their looks anyhow. These tools that make comments on how others should act and feel have never had to deal with the same situation as you Shimmer. Hypocrites..whatever you wanna title them are not worth your feedback. When you see them starring at you, the best thing to do is  | |
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| If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 8/22/2005 1:52:03 PM | "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder" they say. Scars are a testament to what we've endured and survived. I have a few scars of my own, I'm not quite happy with them, but they're there, and they're mine. If anyone doesn't like yours, then they need to change, not you.
And to all others who have shared personal stories of scarring due to health challenges and disease, kudos to you. It's nice to see so many strong survivors on PoF!  | |
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| If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 8/22/2005 3:58:58 PM | well i have 2 scars..
one is a 9 inch scar across the bottom of my throat from complete removal of both thyroid glands 1 year ago on aug. 3rd, now you really have to look hard to see it..
then i have a 7 inch scar on my lower spine from removal of ruptured disks in
l-3
l-4
and l-5
done 4 years ago...
my ex wife was a beauty queen 2 years in a row with a skin graft scar on her right tight and left hand.. the one on her tight was probley 5 inches around
for me after i got used to seeing it , i never paid any more attention to it..
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| If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 8/23/2005 8:35:13 AM | | Good for you Shimmer!!! - and way to go for the guy you have been seeing!!! Sounds like he is a keeper. Never be afraid to be yourself (which includes the scars) and stand up when some jerk in the future makes you feel bad about them. Be proud of yourself and take care. Best of luck with your new self-confidence and your relationship. Glad we were all able to help. We are out here whenever you need us. | |
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