| If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 6/9/2007 4:19:25 PM | Absolutely not I think a woman that has a few scars makes her even more beautiful and mysterious and i have a couple of my own back in my let's say younger and earlier years from when I moved from my home in KY and went to Chicago looking for my fortune I was mezmorized by all the night life and have tell tale signs that I feel still haunt me. So YES I would definately date a woman with scars and I would hope that bthat woman I am with would not be ashamed of them.
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| If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 6/11/2007 8:48:07 AM | What can i say,so sorry to hear about your story . your ex should have been shot!
My sister was badly burnt on her arm, it was with oil , after endless skin grafts over years it has improved a little but she is still very conscious of it.she had recieved the stares and comments in the past. She still rarely wears things that show it. But she has a wonderful man in her life who looks past it and loves her for the woman she is.
i have the odd scar , and yes sometimes it bothers me! if people see only see the outside of a person without knowing the inside then your best off without them .
On a different note, i also have a dear friend who has to have several operations on her joints , and can be in a wheelchair fromtime to time and can`t walk without the aid of crutches. a wonderful woman, all that know her see her for the person she is , and she has a wonderful man in her life also and is now the proud mother of 1!
theres 2 people who have blossomed, so will you.
Please don`t give up hope, there are many good people out there. Everyone has imperfections, might not be on show but they have them one way or another.
You know it doesn`t matter about how you are if hes genuine , how you look isn`t a issue , he will be with you for you and accept you for who you are.Hes out there. hang in there.It will happen.
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| If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 6/11/2007 5:38:53 PM | | I look at my honey as the most beautiful flawless creature that God could have possibly blessed me with. I have had about 500 stitches in my life and three children. And he sees nothing but pure beauty. That is love. We sadley enough are our own worst critics. No body looks as closely at us than ourselves.... love everything you have because we get older and the things we do love about our physical selves warp with time. there will come the day you will laugh at yourself and say what was I thinking. Wish I had known I was this beautiful and not wasted it. just my opinion. | |
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| If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 6/17/2007 8:13:44 PM | It absolutely makes no difference. Scars or no scars, what makes a person beautiful is who they are. Your personality is what matters. Besdies from your pictures you look like an extremely attractive woman. You should not be worried about your scars or what other people think about them. I have several scars form past accidents and a few things that I don't like to talk about. The worst scar that I have is on my face and it used to bother me until recently a freind that I have known for 2 years noticed it one day and asked what happened and that she had never noticed it before. That day I decided not to sweat the littlte things because my real freinds see me for who I am not my physical appearance. Hope this helps.
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| If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 6/17/2007 9:47:05 PM | Look, I don´t know how bad this scars are but I think that if you want people to overlook them, you are the one who has to do that first. Why not trying to wear a bathing suit or other kind of clothes you say you can´t use. Don´t pay attention the them and people won´t do it either. Some would stare of course, but once you´ve done that you would feel free and relieved. Why not trying?? You are a pretty girl, people won´t mind.
BTW: You can be sure that you ex will pay with just as much suffering as he caused you. | |
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| If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 6/18/2007 2:25:07 PM | Honestly, what's the most unattractive (at least to me) part of it all is being ashamed of it. I was dating a girl a while ago who I thought was cute and who I got along with quite well. I never saw her naked because she was ashamed of her stretch marks and her stomach. She was skinny (a little loose around the middle, but skinny nonetheless). I didn't care about that, what bothered me was even at home, alone, just the two of us, she was ashamed of herself in front of me. Now, I'm not perfect by any means and there are things I don't like about myself with my shirt off, but I won't beat myself up over it.
It's not easy to just get out there with yourself, but once you do, it'll get easier every time. To me, the imperfection didn't matter. It was how the person dealt with the imperfection that mattered the most. | |
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| If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 6/18/2007 2:49:44 PM | Yes and no.
No, for all the right reasons, most scars are battle scars and tell the story of life, hell I've got fifteen of them, they make great stories as this post proves. Now, one is sensitive and does effect the way I like to be touched but it's a knee so no biggy, but boy do I flinch when it gets approached.
So when does a scar bother me? When it self inflicted for the wrong reason, I'm talking implants for the purpose of enhancement (not reconstructive). I'm sorry but the pleasure of the visual is outweighed by the scar (even if it is small) and the thought of poor self-esteem. | |
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| If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 6/18/2007 6:17:13 PM | | Your not alone in feeling uneasy about the scars , Im a 40 man who actually has a decent body , hell still have a 6 pack stomach but do to scars and a skin issue I cant get rid off I am rarely seen without long sleeves and full pants . Not much you can do but be yourself and realize that a person that loves you loves all of you , scars included . | |
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| If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 6/18/2007 6:30:43 PM | HEY SHIMME!!!!!!
I WILL TELL YOU A STORY WILL MAKE YOU LAUGH. I MET THIS HANDSOME GUY FOR MY LOOKS HE LOOKED BETTER. KNOWING SO LITTLE ABOUT HIM, I FELL FOR IT," YOU KNOW" LIKE NEVER NEVER IN MY LIFE! WE WENT TO HIS CLEAN PLACE. BEAUTIFUL PLACE. EVEN THOUGH HE LIKED ME, HE NEVER WOULD HAVE TOLD ME WHAT I SAW. THAT MOMENT FROZE ON ME FOR EVER. HE HAD A WOODEN LEG FROM HIS KNEE DOWN.
MY QUESTION TO YOU IS, WHAT WOUKD HAVE YOU DONE IN MY CASE........
PLEASE REPLY.........................LOVE YA
DON'T FORGET, HE NEVER MENTIONED IT BEFORE HAND!!!!!!!!!! | |
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| If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 6/18/2007 8:09:16 PM | | I have a huge scar where my appendix burst and about 16 on my arm from a cat when I was ten. I joke about being a pirate, I have the most scars ever but they don't bother me too much. I get pretty scared about my appendix on too though becuase its nasty, but in truthfulness no guy i met has said gross yet, more or less fasinated. I have alot of little scars, maybe brown people scar easier, oh and i got 4 lymph nodes cut out of my neck lol. Scared yet? | |
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| If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 6/18/2007 9:26:54 PM | People get hurt Shimmer. Don't sweat it, just do what you are wanting to and stop worrying about others.
And let me tell ya something...I worked a retail job a while back...I had a customer who came in after being horrifically burned, scarred, and never having had either a) proper medical care or b) reconstructive surgery. The damage was extensive and to his face.
I treated him totally normally and I know he appreciated it.
A few scars are nothing to sweat. | |
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| If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 6/18/2007 11:46:57 PM | ^^^ I had a regular customer at my last job like that as well, a 14 year old boy, who was severely scarred from a fire a few years prior. Cool kid, funny as all get-out, and he and I used to joke around all the time. He loved experimenting with different haircuts and colours, he'd come in and kid me on about asking an 'older lady' for my opinion on his latest 'do', and I'd tease him in response about his newest trend being too funky for 'this old lady's' tastes.
Shimmer, you are a beautiful girl, and I can't see any man even thinking twice about the scars you are worried about. Hell, I myself have 23 scars on my face from when I was 3 years old and fell off a horse, and split my face wide open from the bricks I landed on...I've had some people, usually strangers where I worked, comment about them...it's rude for sure, but it's never bothered any man I've dated in the past, and my husband gets a real kick out of being married to a 'feisty one', lol...so I can probably guarantee that your scars won't bother any man you are going to date.   | |
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| If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 6/24/2007 7:05:33 AM | From the movie the Replacements: "pain heels, Chicks dig scars, Glory.... Glory lasts forever"
Anyone that would not date you isn't worth your time! (I hope you had the **stard jailed, then drawn and quartered!) Scars like everyone else has said makes up who you are, they tell the story of our life! I would not trade one of the scars I have! They are lessons learned. I would not go "flaunting mine" but I am not ashamed about them, nor should you be ashamed about yours. The man you find to spend the rest of your life with.... well I'll tell you after asking about it (normal human curiosity) he won't ever see them again, to him they just won't exsist! You'll find someone! I wish you well. | |
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| If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 9/18/2007 9:54:47 PM | | i believe that scars just make you unique from others. i mean if the man loves you then he will see the scars as a unique qaulity about you something that makes you different from his past relationships. i myself have several scars and stretch marks from giving birth and a violent ex. i used to be insecure about these,but i have a great mum who talked me round to just accepting they were my unique qaulity, she said to me,"do you want to be like everyone else or would you prefer to have these qaulities that define you from the rest" | |
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| If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 9/18/2007 10:06:34 PM | OMG...if scars made a difference, I would never even get a woman to look at me. Under all my hair, my skull must look like a roadmap. I've had 320 stitches in my head over the years from accidents. I have a knife scar on my back about 4 inches long. I have a scar on my knee almost 10 inches long from having my kneecap repaired. I have scars on my hands from accidents. I have two on my face from going through a plate glass window.
Some of them have faded over the years, but most are visible. Thank god I have hair on my head! | |
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| If a woman has a few scars..does it make you look at them different
Posted: 9/20/2007 6:19:34 AM | I have scars and it's visible.
I agreed with chivo_diablo: scars are like a badge of honor and you earn them.
U know, scars affect how women/men think- no matter what size they are and where it is located. It's hard at first to accept the scars but gotta learn to love it since it'll overlook in time.
I considered scars as flaws. Scars isn't only that happened to your body but your mind and soul as well. Everyone has a scar or two- nobody is perfect! Remember that. | |
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