| Do Single Fathers date Single Mothers?
Posted: 8/28/2005 4:30:43 AM | | Phew..... That means there is hope out there for me as well. I always thought that single girls don't EVER give a single guy with an offspring a chance. Good stuff. I feel better already. | |
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| Do Single Fathers date Single Mothers?
Posted: 12/23/2005 9:22:29 AM | I am a single father of a 2 1/2 year old. I am looking for single moms but can't find em' in Indiana. Looks like all the good ones are in Canada.
I've been on this site for about two weeks and haven't gotten one person to reply to an e-mail from me. I don't know if the dad thing scares them or if I am uglier than I thought.  | |
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| Do Single Fathers date Single Mothers?
Posted: 12/23/2005 1:03:23 PM | | Single female parent is definitly on the wish list, you can relate to alot of things right off the bat. Come on Santa!!!! I really have been good. | |
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| Do Single Fathers date Single Mothers?
Posted: 12/23/2005 8:56:37 PM | Well I have the same problem...jsut in reverse. Can't find the single moms that might wanna go out...lol. The ones I do find think I am too old. Probably part of the problem is that most guys my age who are custodial parents don't have a 4 yo and a 6 yo.
The only function that I know of in this burg for single parents is at 10 o'clock in the morning on a thursday...of course I am usually at work or in class then. Other than that I don't know. Seems to be rather hit and miss. More miss than hit too...least for me.
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| Do Single Fathers date Single Mothers?
Posted: 12/23/2005 9:51:14 PM |  Lets hear it for the single dads... but I still think they are few and far between... in the single parent group here there is 1. Seems all I meet are the under 30s who want no part of the kid thing or the marrieds looking to cheat!!! Is there any hope? | |
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| Do Single Fathers date Single Mothers?
Posted: 12/29/2005 5:01:56 PM | | I would have no problems dating/seeing a single mother....being a single dad myself, well she would know exactly what to expect. Not consider the child(ren) as baggage....that drives me nuts, but to each their own I guess. So any of you British Columbia single mothers care to chat? You know where to find me and you wont get a follow up message " I didnt realize you have children, Im not interested" blah blah blah | |
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Posted: 12/29/2005 6:08:03 PM | Well nice choice of questions.Yes we single Dads are out there and I personally would prefer a single mom.They tend to understand when I say no I cant drop everything and be there at a moments notice.The hard part it seems is some women I find.I have heard it all from our kids will split us up, I dont wanna raise another womens kids to just plain OMFG you raise 4 kids alone ummmmmmmmmmmmBYE!!!!! so if there is single moms out there that can stand up and realize that my children are 4 hearts instead of a huge responsibility then send em over.My kids are a responsibility MINE and yes any woman entering my life would take part in that it's only natural , but dont discount me until you get to know me and my kids.
The one LTR I had was rocky as I treat all kids the same but she didnt the order was her, her son, myself , and then my kids. This isnt gonna work it has to be a team as anything in life.There is time for all the kids and there is time for the two of you.As for different rules I am sure you can compromise and just remember its taking the best of you and him and making your life work topgether the ex has input but only as much as you and he left her. | |
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Posted: 12/29/2005 9:24:34 PM | There are some great single fathers out there......I'm sure. I guess you just need to keep looking and then pray his kids are as great as he is!! | |
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| Do Single Fathers date Single Mothers?
Posted: 1/24/2006 1:51:39 AM | Its just the math. The kids usually get to go with the Mom, so there just aren't a lot of dads with kids to draw from. (If you find one, it complicates the logistics for "your place or mine?" BTW)  I think most men expect most women to be single Mom's at a certain age. That's just the way it works.
There's a big pool of men whose kids are with Mom and they only have the support payments to make. Or every second weekend booked. That's my competition and I envy their freedom sometimes (but would fight like a tiger to keep those I have.)
There are long-term questions like whose house would we live in? Whose kids get to keep their room? Or sell both and find a five bedroom. (What do they cost?) Taking up with a single has that attraction. But it weighs against the belief in the willingness of someone to assume the burden of buying six tickets for a trip to Hawaii or Whistler or facing college expenses down the road after a lifetime of self-sufficient single life.
I've had a strip ripped off me earlier for that assumption. Love, when you find it, will make those practical concerns irrelevant, I was told. I'm skeptical. Kids or not, love will rule. We'll see. | |
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Posted: 1/24/2006 2:34:29 AM | vancouver37, good post!
I often wonder about the mechanics of the whole dating thing when you have kids. Thanks for sharing your experiences.
I care for my 3 children and although I am here I have decided not to "date" for a while until I get my life and situation fully under control. That just means I am content making and keep ing a great circle of friends to share fun times with.
However, even at that level, some of my friends have kids the same age. I am thinking that it be nice to "integrate" them at a play level so we can share time more freely as well as possibly some care giving time. I am just wondering if that is wise?
btw, my father was a single full time father of 5 in 1974! I am just following a model I know and understand. | |
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Posted: 1/24/2006 3:05:57 PM | I feel that I would rather date a man with a kid, it might make him more able to share with me the same interests such as things the kids like to do . swimming, walking in the park, going skating and such.
Usually a single man who has no kids and never been married cannot relate to a woman who can't just take off at a moments notice and hang out at the bar every night. Also, seeing a man interact with his kids shows me a little about his personality.
this doesn't mean I would rather be with our kids all the time, because it's important to have a relationship between adults and do things alone too. | |
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Posted: 1/24/2006 3:08:17 PM | | Jon Paul, you are a good looking guy, and the pic with your kid is adorable, I am a single mom and I wouldn't hesitate to reply. Keep trying, I'm in West Virginia by the way... | |
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Posted: 1/24/2006 7:05:01 PM | I'm with ya buddy. I've been using this thing for a month and have a few responses. I even corresponded back and forth with a few. STILL SINGLE I'm either ugly or a dork, hell maybe both. It wasn't always like that.
Next try Male gigolo. Some older woman gotta want me  | |
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| Do Single Fathers date Single Mothers?
Posted: 1/24/2006 7:18:07 PM | We're out here, and yep - we date single mothers just as easily as single childless women. Just have to line up babysitters (or time it on weekends where both single parents don't have the child(ren) over, or a combination of both...)
'sides, hopefully I'll get to meet a certain person who happens to be a single mother this Saturday evening, so yes, I can say for certain that we certainly do. | |
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Joined: 12/28/2005
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| Do Single Fathers date Single Mothers?
Posted: 1/24/2006 7:38:54 PM | Wow Van, all I can say is "ditto" down to the 11 years too lol
Calgarian single father needed desperately!! 
Cheers and good luck hun... | |
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Posted: 1/24/2006 7:56:08 PM | | I am a single father and let me tell you how hard it is to find someone who doesn't mind that you have children regardless whether they live with you or not! I love my kids and would never sway them for anyone and that just kills the line right there! Any advice on how to meet people when this is the situation, anyone with or with out children???? help please!! | |
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Posted: 2/7/2006 6:40:28 PM | Hi ,it,s hard meeting gals,when you are busy with the kids,with sports and all lol but it,s fun.The hard part is finding time for yourself lol, but it,s not that easy lol,just have to keep plugging away,hopefully it will happen lol  | |
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Joined: 1/22/2006
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| Do Single Fathers date Single Mothers?
Posted: 2/7/2006 6:55:17 PM | | lol these forums are great...now if all you single dad's who live in Fredericton, NewBrunswick ,Canada can come crawling out of the woodwork...I'm Right here Waiting! | |
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| Do Single Fathers date Single Mothers?
Posted: 2/7/2006 9:19:06 PM | Hey you have a point here.
I am a single dad for six years or so. I can't say that I have had an overwhelming number of responses (but then I am new to this).
I will date a single mom. At least try to. Problem is everyone has to get along and these relationships are very hard to start because of it. Can we say Brady Bunch? Who asks for that prospect from the get go? Never know who we'll fall in love with though, and that's the name of the game.
By the way everyone, how much do you think the ex(es) needs to be there? This is more of a concern than the kids - for those of you who have dealt with this you know what I mean. Esp. the manipulating ones...kind of the same thread.
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Posted: 2/7/2006 9:46:39 PM | I had the same problem. I am a 27 year old mother of one little girl. I got divorced 2 months ago, and I started to wonder if I could find someone who knew how to raise a child. On the 9th of December, 2005 ( 3 days after my final divorce papers came in), I met a single Divorced father of an 8 year old girl. I met him online right here at Plentyoffish. He has been divorced 1 year. He was married for 11 years. To answer your question, no, single fathers don't hide. It's just that alot of times a woman looks for a man that has no children to take care of. In my case, it was just opposite. I wanted a man who knew how to take care of children and who would accept me and my child. We are still together after 2 months of dating, when we are not together, it makes us miss eachother more.
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Posted: 2/7/2006 9:51:21 PM | | Been single for over a year! So I haven't dated much (actually hardly at all). I know where I stand and know that I want to start hanging with someone again. I would love to date a single mom as I don't really desire to have more children...don't get me wrong if the right girl came along I would probably be into it. But ladies around my age who don't have children yet are ready to have children and I am not in that place right now. I was a young parent my daughter is already 10 i am 32. | |
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Posted: 2/8/2006 7:33:04 AM | Hey everyone, I was just reading everything that you'se have had to say and I would have to agree. My daughter is 4 and I am 23 her father and I seperated when she was only 6mths old. He has prroved time and time again that he is useless but she still loves him so much. And now he is using her as a pawn convincing her she should live there and going against all the rules. I dont want to complain as I love being a mom. But I live in a small town located in Midwestern Ontario, and I know no one.....so it is impossible to find a date anywhere. The last date I was on was 2 years ago. And that was a guy that had never even dated a women with a child let alone actually been around one so needless to say it didnt work out. So seriously, I was just wondering where all the good guys are?
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