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| Question for 30 to 40 year old men who go to clubs/bars.
Posted: 6/23/2007 8:55:15 AM | | I would say that if you are too pretty a lot of guys will be intimidated and won't approach you. I would just say to myself, she's out of your league, just forget it. I stick to girls where I think I might actually have a shot with. | |
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eman07
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Joined: 6/30/2006
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| Question for 30 to 40 year old men who go to clubs/bars.
Posted: 6/23/2007 10:19:31 AM | I was a bouncer at a club for three years..."a meat market" if you will...let me break this down to you.....
First a guy has to have the balls to even approach a girl....this is nerve racking enough...then he has to have the balls to actually start a conversation with her....Now, he has to say something that she hasnt heard before, lets be honest, if you approach a good looking female, how many times has she heard "damm your hot"...you have to say something original, or "different" to keep her attention. This is not to mention, while you are doing this, all of her friends are eying you and making snap judgments on the spot. Trust me on this, if her friends think your not good enough...then you are done...just the way it is. Now, if you have gotten this far and kept her attention, next big thing is asking her to dance...if your a good dancer, BIG bonus points...women love men who can dance.....hint to all you fellas...LEARN HOW TO DANCE....improves your chances big time......
now...on to the next hurdle....stepping away to go use the restroom...or anything else ....(dont laugh...its true)......if you do go away from her for any reason, be prepared for guys to try and get with her...its gonna happen. You just have to hope you have made a good enough impression for her not to want to go and grind on another guy on the dance floor.....
then there is asking for the phone number end of the night....asking her on a date...going on the date....not saying anything stupid on the date....asking for a second date......etc etc etc
so ....ladies...do you understand why sometimes we wont approach you?.....Yes its all confidence....i will aproach women and get rejected and let it fall off my back...but some guys dont like it...understand...and get timid...
just a lot of things to go thru when "approaching" women....I just dont think women understand the whole "process" of it...hence why they ask..."why dont guys approach me".... | |
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| Question for 30 to 40 year old men who go to clubs/bars.
Posted: 6/23/2007 1:33:30 PM | Here's another perspective:
Labies: put the shoe on the other foot. Next time you're out, look around and pick a few guys you'd like to chat with. But YOU have to approach THEM.
Shivers your timbers a little, huh?
That's EXACTLY what the guys have to go thru *every, single time*.
Play nice! ;-) | |
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