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| Public Affection? What is your take on it?
Posted: 8/25/2005 8:29:44 AM | Tender kisses and such are not what people give you dirty looks for, even grizzled old battle axes get a smile from seeing two young people in love, having some guy give you a tongue bath with his hand up your shirt just isn't cool.
well you must be ubiquitous T,d and h to make a blanket statement like that. Sure some people are scandalous in public and attract dirty looks but it's not always like that.
FYI people give you dirty looks for dressing well, for being put together nicely and having presense, people give dirty looks for looking better than they do and people ALSO give you dirty looks if you are laughing and having silly banter with your partner at a check out counter, simply because you are happy. So people give dirty looks for all sorts of reasons which have every little to do with what they are looking at and more so with their own personal demons.
As for the cutting your daughter's boyfriend's hand off if he as much as accidently brushes her breast at the dinner table, all I can say is some people should NOT have children. If that is the kind of controlling, opressive attitude you will have with your future daugter then don't be surpirsed if she takes her "sexual expression" elsewhere. If you show your child you don't trust or respect them, they will go off and do stuff behind your back! Simple as that. | |
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| Public Affection? What is your take on it?
Posted: 8/25/2005 8:39:45 AM | OK, the fast food story is an example of out of bounds for sure...
But in general, I agree with Babylonia at the start of this thread.
I enjoy PDAs...there a few things more perfect than being locked in an embrace with someone totally oblivious to the world around you. If thats in a store, a restaurant, on a street corner, whereever, i think its great.
When I was still married and things were at their worst, seeing that sort of thing just made me sadder. But it was one of the signs that I had healed that when I saw others embrace, it made me smile.
Fortunately for me since then, I have been able to experience a relationship with someone in which PDAs were common...they took the form of simply holding hands or some very passionate necking while sitting side by side in a restaurant. Mostly, the looks we got were of envy because it was obvious they were based in love and not lust, although I'm sure there were some who wouldn't have approved - their loss as far as I'm concerned.
And yes, we groped each other in public too, but that was always somewhat discreet...it certainly added to the excitement and heightened our attraction for each other.
Overall, i learned these are a big part of who I am - that I like to express myself in this way. I also learned how much I had put that part of me aside in my marriage as my ex was completely the opposite - she couldn't even hold hands on the table in a restaurant! I've experienced both extremes and am happy to report that without a doubt, PDAs add spice!
If you are someone who is uncomfortable with it, I would suggest giving it a try sometime...like everything else in life, stretching your boundaries a bit will uusually lead you to a new level of excitement...
Cheers Fishies! | |
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| Public Affection? What is your take on it?
Posted: 8/25/2005 9:21:25 AM | Actually Dutchie I couldn't agree with YOU more! 
in my last rel he was like you and without me having to do anything to force it out of him he on his own became very comfortable with PDA, he would tell me all the time that for him this was totally new and how much he enjoyed being free and not having a care in the world when it came to that. We were like two teenagers most the time and it was GREAT!!!
As someone who grew up in a family where parents kissed and showed affection freely I am very comfortable with that and to me NOT having that seems very weird and opressed. Almost like you are not living life to the fullest. It's a given that where there is love there will be affection so why hide it?
What you said about adding spice to the relationship is BANG ON. Nothing beats going home after doing some flirting on the street on a saturday afternoon of running errands! yummy! | |
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| Public Affection? What is your take on it?
Posted: 8/25/2005 9:37:42 AM | | It seems most hear are in agreement. PDA's are about the couple and not anyone else. Personally, I'm pretty conscious about making other people feel uncomfortable, but I'm not going to hold back if her heart and mine says GO! Life's way too short to put the brakes on when love in involved. ;) | |
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| Public Affection? What is your take on it?
Posted: 8/25/2005 11:37:41 AM | | For me, i don't think there is anything wrong with public affection, but to a certain point. its ok to hold hands, kiss, hug thats it. It also depends where you are at.there is a time and place for everything. | |
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| Public Affection? What is your take on it?
Posted: 9/6/2005 10:36:14 PM | I like it, if I'm with someone I really care about I could care less what other people think of me showing my affection to her, besides , if they don't like it they can simply not look.  | |
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| Public Affection? What is your take on it?
Posted: 9/7/2005 12:09:52 AM | | Depends on what you mean by public affection. If you are talking about holding hands, a hug or a quick kiss, then no problem. But if you are talking about a full blown make out session, that is another thing entirely. What parent wants to explain to their kid why that guy is putting his tongue down that womans thoart or why he's mashing her breasts? LOL | |
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| Public Affection? What is your take on it?
Posted: 9/7/2005 12:13:58 AM | I say pda's anytime and anywhere....who cares! I don't like to stifle my affection for someone I care about in public...if people don't like it they can take a hike  | |
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| Public Affection? What is your take on it?
Posted: 9/7/2005 1:00:13 AM | Personally I dont see anything wrong with PDOA, although I agree I dont want to have to witness sex on the park bench lol.. Steelsoul has been known to "stand extra close" or grab my ass for a 10 second feel.. kiss my neck while standing in line, I appreciate those things.. its the little things that keep the relationship fresh and exciting and alive.. in and out of the bedroom.
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| Public Affection? What is your take on it?
Posted: 9/7/2005 5:26:31 AM | I think there is nothing wrong with public affection, as long as it's not taken to the extreme.
I see nothing wrong with holding hands with or walking with your arms around the person that you are with. I don't see anything wrong with hugging or the occasional kiss in public. I think it's really nice to see people that are so much in love with each other that they just can't help the ocassional kiss in public. I'm not against a nice romantic kiss in public if the mood just seems right. I've been known to do that. And I love to walk hand in hand or with my arm around my guys waist. 
What I don't like with public affection are the people who take it to the extreme. The ones that have full blown make out sessions with hands going everywhere and you almost expect to see the clothes start flying off. Those are the people that I just want to tell to get a room somewhere. | |
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| Public Affection? What is your take on it?
Posted: 9/22/2005 10:32:45 AM | | There isn't anything more beautiful than being in the presence of two people in love...reaching out ones hand and having the other reach out there hand, without even having to look. Watching them communicate, and smile...and then kiss, a slow lingering passionate kiss. Yep I'm all for public displays of affection. | |
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| Public Affection? What is your take on it?
Posted: 9/23/2005 8:11:38 PM | | I definitely love to hold hands, kiss, and hug in public. I agree if you're in love then there's nothing wrong with it. If you don't like it, then don't look! | |
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| Public Affection? What is your take on it?
Posted: 9/23/2005 8:18:37 PM | You mean pubic affliction, right???
In public is ok, to an extent. I'd want to show some courtesy to the older people who may feel dismayed by it, as well as to onlooking singles who might feel sad from seeing what they aren't doing.
I prefer doing that stuff in public lands, as in the mountains, where no one is around except just you and a loved one, now that's what I really love! | |
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Joined: 5/29/2005
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| Public Affection? What is your take on it?
Posted: 9/24/2005 12:25:56 AM | | Dang i thought the whole world was against it and i was the last of a dieing breed!!:) I am always proud of the woman i am with and if i get a hug and kiss in public that is a plus. I think holding hands is great!! and my arm around a woman is wonderful.Especially certain woman with great smiles ;) Hi baby:):) | |
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Joined: 7/10/2005
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| Public Affection? What is your take on it?
Posted: 9/24/2005 1:35:26 AM | Hey Jac...good to see you!
Public displays...definately a "yes!" Sweet gestures of affection are always nice...getting down and dirty an added bonus, but never around the eyes of children. | |
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| Public Affection? What is your take on it?
Posted: 9/24/2005 1:44:55 AM | As long as you don't get off on a captive audience. There was this couple
on the plane that were lip sucking for a good portion of my flight. It was
unbelievable. I wanted to accidentally-on-purpose spill my drink on the guy
but....whew...that was close. But I promise everyone on POF the next time
that happens, the couple will be wearing my in flight meal - I'll ensure
i 'apologize' profusly. | |
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